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Did anyone/everyone else’s Seeking app go defunct?? I knew a change was coming but didn’t expect the app to collapse. Have been thinking of making a new profile there anyway *sigh*

Which platform? Apple App is discontinued I believe. From seeking FAQ:

 

KNOWN ISSUES:

  • Unfortunately, SeekingArrangement is not currently available on the AppStore. Please check us out on GooglePlay!

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I access the site using the Chrome browser on my iPhone and it works just fine. I’ll add I’ve recently noticed an enormous influx of what I’ll call ‘not exactly attractive’ younger members. Unfortunately a lot of young people are hurting right now.

Oh dear lol...

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I just completed my first three months on SA. I will not renew. For the most part, I found it a complete waste of time. Tons of messages from guys that were not even close to what I was looking for. My impression is that if you are into skinny/femboys you might do ok. If, like me, you seek uber masculine college jock or fratboy types, the pickings are pretty slim.

 

Also, so many messages from India/Colombia/Philippines/Eastern Europe. What exactly is the point of that?

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I just completed my first three months on SA. I will not renew. For the most part, I found it a complete waste of time. Tons of messages from guys that were not even close to what I was looking for. My impression is that if you are into skinny/femboys you might do ok. If, like me, you seek uber masculine college jock or fratboy types, the pickings are pretty slim.

 

Also, so many messages from India/Colombia/Philippines/Eastern Europe. What exactly is the point of that?

You can filter messages out by geographic boundaries.

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I appreciate what you say @marylander1940 and I understand the frustration of @EZEtoGRU but Seeking does take work. And if you want someone fitting a precise type or of a certain physical desirability, it can work.

 

Of course, other people will message you and try to get your attention - you’re an older man who’s financially secure and they are seeking support. So using the filters, as @MikeBiDude suggests, Is sensible.

 

After all, the alternatives may take much more time and prove fruitless. It’s not as if you can just pick up your phone and order in an ‘uber masculine college jock’

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The auditioning must be the fun part :)

 

I have a pretty standard process that I enjoy and it works for me. I feel them out through seeking. If I like what I hear and see, I invite them to some public place for a platonic coffee or lunch that I pay for, and I thank them for their time with $100.00. I won’t talk to someone online longer than two weeks without meeting because I don’t enjoy the chase, or the guys that are too nervous or “never did this before.”

 

Some guys think it’s an easy way to make $100. I get some interesting stories and an opportunity to meet up without the expectation of anything sexual on the table. I’d say I’ve made the offer to at least 100 guys, 40 have taken it, and arrangements evolved with 6 that I enjoy. Covid has kept me from seeing them which has been a bummer.

 

It’s very different from a rentmen transaction. Those I like to get down to business and keep it short and sweet. Seeking has a very different pace, at least from my experience.

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If you thought younger guys are in trouble, just wait until the last week in July. In Chicago at least, both the unemployment "coivd" workmen's comp and the rent deferral is going to end. That is going to suck big time.

 

I'm using my SA membership to just look, and am not talking with anyone unless they send a message first. But users might want to make sure their "sugar babies" aren't wearing a backpack and need a shower....

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I use a few filters, but evidently there are some young waif types in foreign countries that are search as well! This site works, but you have to work harder the RM. I did find one outstanding guy...with a RM profile as well. So they aren't all "I've never done anything like this before" types

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I’ve messaged a few seeking guys who’ve I’ve been actively conversing with and moved them to another messaging platform. This handful is being covid-careful like me...so we continue to chat and wait. My Seeking subscription is on hiatus right now...I’m going to try and not even look ?

If you thought younger guys are in trouble, just wait until the last week in July. In Chicago at least, both the unemployment "coivd" workmen's comp and the rent deferral is going to end. That is going to suck big time.

 

I'm using my SA membership to just look, and am not talking with anyone unless they send a message first. But users might want to make sure their "sugar babies" aren't wearing a backpack and need a shower....

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Guys can fake their locations and fool the filter ? So some get through. I’ve just gotten really skilled at using my sixth sense and running through messages and just deleting quite a few without replying.

For me, it’s been worth the extra effort it takes...

I use a few filters, but evidently there are some young waif types in foreign countries that are search as well! This site works, but you have to work harder the RM. I did find one outstanding guy...with a RM profile as well. So they aren't all "I've never done anything like this before" types

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  • 3 weeks later...

Latest in this Folly of ours:

 

An Instructor in one of the Boston colleges favorited me. 33. Same field as my undergrad degree. We text A lot.

 

We had dinner which was great. Don’t know where this will go, but he’s fun, intelligent, and nerdy. A good combination!

 

Oh, and cute. He got carded at dinner. At 33.

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While it was sociologically amusing, I'm letting my SA membership expire.

 

- 75 percent of responses are from other countries.

- 20 percent of responses are "hi," but ghost you and don't respond to any attempts at conversation or questions after that "hi"

- the 5 percent who do communicate are wishy washy or looking for money only

 

Only 1 respondent got to the texting point, agreed to a initial visit with compensation, then ghosted.

 

I think I'll stick to escort boards. At least they know what they're looking for. SA is full of confused kids who don't know what they want, and who get scared if anyone shows interest. I’ll let someone else corrupt them. I have neither the time nor patience to myself.

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