Seeking arrangements success!

[fedssocr1]

I think it's a very different sort of thing. With RM guys it much more down to the point. With these guys it's more about getting to know each other. So there are more things like meals/dates thrown in there. Although one guy I was chatting with today sounds like he pretty much just wants to get together to fuck. I offered an amount similar to but slightly less than what I expect an RM would ask for and he seemed happy with that number. But we'll see if we actually meet or not.

[+ Keith30309]

I met a new SA guy at his apartment today... he’s been a little flaky with availability for a few weeks and doesn’t communicate very much but really down to earth and quiet... sweetly sexy. He’s the first guy I’ve ever met privately without having met at a Starbucks, restaurant or something first.

 

Wednesday I met his polar opposite at a restaurant for lunch and he talked nonstop about the Gucci, Prada, Hermès, etc., clothing he wanted. And he ordered lobster and wine.

There’s all types on the spectrum.

[gallahadesquire]

It's not Seeking Arrangement anymore. It's just Seeking.

 

https://www.seeking.com

[Guest europeanman]

Wednesday I met his polar opposite at a restaurant for lunch and he talked nonstop about the Gucci, Prada, Hermès, etc., clothing he wanted. And he ordered lobster and wine.

There’s all types on the spectrum.

 

It can be fun to be with a flamboyant type of guy, dressed in Hermes, have lunch with Dom Perignon in the place to be seen. Down to earth types are pretty boring

[gallahadesquire]

I'm currently negotiating with a young fellow. Trombonist; hispanic; loves classical music; introvert. But he told me intimacy was off the table because sex for money is just wrong, in his book.

 

I wonder if I can convince him he's intimate because he wants to be. And the arrangement doesn't change.

[MikeBiDude]

Do daddies even give allowances in most instances

Like a lot of things on Seeking (and in life) it varies.

 

I always give the interesting young men that I meet there some sort of allowance (after a no-obligation coffee/lunch meet - never before). I am not in a position in my life to offer someone to live in with me in exchange for room and board. I have had a couple rare instances where the sugarbaby has indicated an allowance was no longer necessary. Some local travel, dinners out, local hotels for the night, were enough. But that’s rare and often doesn’t last.

 

I will admit to sometimes using seeking arrangements as a place to find a friend who is a bit more value oriented than an RM advertising escort. No I’m not cheap I’m quite fair. Yes, it’s a lot more work… And many here don’t have the time or inclination to invest in that kind of work.

[gallahadesquire]

I'm currently negotiating with a young fellow. Trombonist; hispanic; loves classical music; introvert. But he told me intimacy was off the table because sex for money is just wrong, in his book.

 

I wonder if I can convince him he's intimate because he wants to be. And the arrangement doesn't change.

He told me, originally, that he didn't think it would work; that he'd had a bad experience.

 

I told him I basically wanted social interaction: Dinners, concerts, hugs.

He agreed. Now I just have to lure him into having sex. But time will tell.

[MscleLovr]

He told me, originally, that he didn't think it would work; that he'd had a bad experience.

 

I told him I basically wanted social interaction: Dinners, concerts, hugs.

 

He agreed. Now I just have to lure him into having sex. But time will tell.

 

Don't be faint-hearted. Enjoy the times you will spend together and have fun in his company. It may develop to be more than you currently imagine.

[fedssocr1]

but don't expect it either. If he told you he's not interested in having sex, then charming (or pressuring) him into it doesn't seem likely to work in my opinion. I've decided that being up front about my expectations/wants is the best idea. Then the guys can decide if that's what they are also interested in pursuing. And if they're not, I move on and they move on. But I suppose if you live in an area without a lot of available guys that might change the calculus or you might have to be a bit more flexible. And you can decide if it's worth your time, money, emotional energy to invest with no likelihood of a physical relationship.

 

In the old days I used to mentor a number of young straight (mostly) guys who I was very attracted to. But who I had no expectation of a physical relationship with. I enjoyed spending time with them so I didn't mind picking up the tab. But I wasn't giving them cash on top of expenses.

[caliguy]

I just have to lure him into having sex. But time will tell.

Yikes.

[LivingnLA]

Now I just have to lure him into having sex.

 

I'm hoping you're just using the word in a fun forum way and not in a creepy sexual harassment/assault kind of way. Date rape is a very real thing. Getting him drunk and having sex is sexual assault.

[gallahadesquire]

I'm hoping you're just using the word in a fun forum way and not in a creepy sexual harassment/assault kind of way. Date rape is a very real thing. Getting him drunk and having sex is sexual assault.

No no no. I hope he’ll convert on his own. It’s ridiculous, I know.

[rguer]

maybe its time to settle down with a fun silver daddy who lets me escort on the side, he can see his other boys, i can see my other daddies and ill be a househusband and everything will be alright in my life:D;)

 

If I had the money, that's what I'd want. I wouldn't have to exhaust myself trying to singlehandedly satisfy your undoubtedly HUGE sexual appetite, and you wouldn't have to disappoint your legions of fans.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I am not sure whether I should open another thread, but perhaps it is a good idea to keep here everything related to SA.

 

Have you guys noticed they are fasing to a new name, I am sure another sign of post-SESTA/FOSTA times. They still have pages, like the home page, with their former name, but they are switching now to just "Seeking". The new address is seeking.com.

[+ Keith30309]

I am not sure whether I should open another thread, but perhaps it is a good idea to keep here everything related to SA.

 

Have you guys noticed they are fasing to a new name, I am sure another sign of post-SESTA/FOSTA times. They still have pages, like the home page, with their former name, but they are switching now to just "Seeking". The new address is seeking.com.

Yeah... but I’ve not seen any other substantive change.

I have seen a steady number of somewhat overt profiles (“tight hole”, “thick, un-cut”, etc) and full nude private pics (though these still disappear after a day or two.).

[+ José Soplanucas]

Yeah... but I’ve not seen any other substantive change.

I have seen a steady number of somewhat overt profiles (“tight hole”, “thick, un-cut”, etc) and full nude private pics (though these still disappear after a day or two.).

 

I have not paid in a long time, so I can only assess what I can access for free. I noticed the change for the first time this week, when I received one of their messages letting me know someone sent me an email.

[fedssocr1]

the location thing is certainly odd. I explicitly state in my profile that I am looking for someone local to meet in person. Yet I get favorites and messages from all over the place.

 

The good news is that the DC area seems to have had an increase in the number of babies. Trying to sift through them and figure out who I want to meet is the issue now. I am traveling at the moment but had plans to meet a couple of guys the week before I left that I had to postpone. Some real hotties (based on their photo) but many are not very consistent communicators.

[+ goosh69]

the location thing is certainly odd. I explicitly state in my profile that I am looking for someone local to meet in person. Yet I get favorites and messages from all over the place.

 

The good news is that the DC area seems to have had an increase in the number of babies. Trying to sift through them and figure out who I want to meet is the issue now. I am traveling at the moment but had plans to meet a couple of guys the week before I left that I had to postpone. Some real hotties (based on their photo) but many are not very consistent communicators.

 

Similar complaint. Not just favoriting, but guys who CLAIM to be local but then aren’t really and want me to buy air tickets and then lament that REAL daddies would fly them out. Real fools maybe.

[MscleLovr]

the location thing is certainly odd. I explicitly state in my profile that I am looking for someone local to meet in person. Yet I get favorites and messages from all over the place.

 

The good news is that the DC area seems to have had an increase in the number of babies. Trying to sift through them and figure out who I want to meet is the issue now. I am traveling at the moment but had plans to meet a couple of guys the week before I left that I had to postpone. Some real hotties (based on their photo) but many are not very consistent communicators.

 

Similar complaint. Not just favoriting, but guys who CLAIM to be local but then aren’t really and want me to buy air tickets and then lament that REAL daddies would fly them out. Real fools maybe.

 

Yes, I had that happen too. Sending a message costs nothing so I feel some guys think it’s worth doing anyway, just in case.... In a similar vein (of “well, you never know...”) I always respond politely even if they are out of range.

 

As it happens, I also always responded politely if the guys were promising and local but said they were unsure about gay sex. I had several encounters where such guys turned out to be nice young men who on a first date didn’t hesitate to get naked and suck me off without spilling a drop.

[MikeBiDude]

Has anyone noticed Seeking has added some sort of photo self-verification on profiles? I’m not sure how useful they are....note a few new icons to click on, example here of Facebook and “independently verified”

 

 

 

[fedssocr1]

I finally met someone from this site today. Nice enough kid. Not the cutest guy in the world, but nice enough. I think we're fairly compatible in a lot of ways but I didn't really experience much of a spark. Mainly I think my issue was that he doesn't have a great face and he has bad teeth. I feel sort of bad about that actually, but need to be honest with myself. I did tell him that I am essentially interviewing several candidates. I have tentative plans later in the week with another gay who doesn't seem like the brightest bulb from our short interaction online, but maybe it's just the medium.

[MikeBiDude]

I finally met someone from this site today. Nice enough kid. Not the cutest guy in the world, but nice enough. I think we're fairly compatible in a lot of ways but I didn't really experience much of a spark. Mainly I think my issue was that he doesn't have a great face and he has bad teeth. I feel sort of bad about that actually, but need to be honest with myself. I did tell him that I am essentially interviewing several candidates. I have tentative plans later in the week with another gay who doesn't seem like the brightest bulb from our short interaction online, but maybe it's just the medium.

As mentioned in prior posts....it take a bit of work, patience. I’ve been rewarded by taking my time...building a small group of regulars...no one single “arrangement” per se. Came close twice to arranging something long term.

 

My experience also has been these guys (depending on age range you’re interested in) will disappear in a heartbeat, ghost you, never to be heard from again. So I’m always hunting, chatting, and coffee date meeting.

[+ Keith30309]

Is it just me or has the language on SA changed from SugarBaby/SugarDaddy to Attractive member and Successful member ?

 

The first thing that struck me was a brief crisis of self-identity and anxiety-spike... which was I? Who’s going to judge me? What if I was neither ?

 

I popped a couple of Xanax like sweet tarts then noticed in the Help that these seemed to be mutually exclusive. “If I’m attractive how do I...”, “Do successful members see my...”, etc.

 

Why the change ? (Not that I mind... I always hated the SB/SD terms.)

[MikeBiDude]

Is it just me or has the language on SA changed from SugarBaby/SugarDaddy to Attractive member and Successful member ?

 

The first thing that struck me was a brief crisis of self-identity and anxiety-spike... which was I? Who’s going to judge me? What if I was neither ?

 

I popped a couple of Xanax like sweet tarts then noticed in the Help that these seemed to be mutually exclusive. “If I’m attractive how do I...”, “Do successful members see my...”, etc.

 

Why the change ? (Not that I mind... I always hated the SB/SD terms.)

The designation of me as “successful” by Seeking Arrangements has boosted my self esteem immeasurably

[MscleLovr]

Why the "brief crisis of self-identity", @Keith30309 ? In this particular context, Successful men are highly alluring to Attractive men. And who is to say they are wrong? ;-)