Being Asked to Pick a Third

[Jock123]

My last post on the subject as I am not trying to be argumentative at all, only expressing my humble an obviously lone opinion.

 

I think you should be allowed to post as anonymously as you should ever want to, just as most of us can and do. The only part of it that I don't like is the passive/aggressive games you play.. the " I'm so good-looking but you will never know what I look like", the "I'm an escort but you will never know who I am". Ok, great for you, I get it, you know something, we are all in the dark about it, you enjoy constantly rubbing our noses in it. I just don't enjoy playing those games, but hey, as I have said before, what the fuck does my opinion matter about anything. I guess if that's what makes you happy- keep up the good work!

 

Happy Holidays to you too.

 

"The games You're playing". I'm not playing any Games sir. Check back on my Threads. Sure I'm Confident...far from Stuck up. Huge Difference

 

 

....However this is also coming from the same guy who In a Previous thread: http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/the-theif-and-i-act-iii.109968/

 

 

Admits he likes to have an Escort steal from him. Those to me sound like "Games"

 

 

Sidenote: It goes both ways. Everyone pays the Same...Dont think just because You're paying someone means You're Entitled. I also Pick and Choose whom I'd like to meet. I'm not some guy who is "Desperate" or on Meth.

 

 

Cheers!

[BtmBearDad]

As a client, I've only ever engaged a third when I know the one gent has worked/does work with another as a duo -- only did it the once too. It all sounded good and looked good in my mind's eye, but for whatever reason, didn't quite turn out as I thought. I did ask a gent I saw regularly if he would be down to play with a buddy and myself -- I was younger, weighed less and was more muscle bear than bear at the time as was my buddy and given this gent's preference for hairy guys who bottomed, he was up for it. That was a very good time and I'd def be down to do a similar scenario again

 

Cheers,

BBD

[Juan Vancouver]

Are you aware of situations where an escort who is asked by a regular client to find a third feels slighted because he feels that he is in some way not providing everything to his client?

 

Can't speak for everyone but I would be a fool if I thought I could fulfill ALL of my client's fantasies and needs. Furthermore, I would be an idiot thinking I could do the same for my partner.

 

I am not everything, and it is obvious that even if there will be clients with whom I will have a really strong connection and compatibility, there will be things that I will not be able to provide for him, to name the most obvious one, the need for variety. It would be childish and immature to take offence because my client wants to be double fucked, or wants a tag team or wants to have a blond, muscular furry ass sitting on his face. If anything I would feel honoured and excited that he is choosing me to share his adventures.

 

I think that if you are worried about your escort thinking you are his property, then the boundaries of your relationship are not very healthy.

[+ buddy12]

My last post on the subject as I am not trying to be argumentative at all, only expressing my humble an obviously lone opinion.

 

I think you should be allowed to post as anonymously as you should ever want to, just as most of us can and do. The only part of it that I don't like is the passive/aggressive games you play.. the " I'm so good-looking but you will never know what I look like", the "I'm an escort but you will never know who I am". Ok, great for you, I get it, you know something, we are all in the dark about it, you enjoy constantly rubbing our noses in it. I just don't enjoy playing those games, but hey, as I have said before, what the fuck does my opinion matter about anything. I guess if that's what makes you happy- keep up the good work!

 

And after reading your vicious reply, I totally get why you'd want to remain anonymous. Good call!

 

Happy Holidays to you too.

My last post on the subject as I am not trying to be argumentative at all, only expressing my humble an obviously lone opinion.

 

I think you should be allowed to post as anonymously as you should ever want to, just as most of us can and do. The only part of it that I don't like is the passive/aggressive games you play.. the " I'm so good-looking but you will never know what I look like", the "I'm an escort but you will never know who I am". Ok, great for you, I get it, you know something, we are all in the dark about it, you enjoy constantly rubbing our noses in it. I just don't enjoy playing those games, but hey, as I have said before, what the fuck does my opinion matter about anything. I guess if that's what makes you happy- keep up the good work!

 

And after reading your vicious reply, I totally get why you'd want to remain anonymous. Good call!

 

Happy Holidays to you too.

 

No...I don't think the passive/aggressive game is what you don't like...I think it's the fact that the guy who is posting is not posting any photos, ad or whatever. WHO CARES??!! Is he who he says he is...shit...I don't know. But seriously, on an anonymous message board do we actually expect people to "reveal themselves"...especially when they don't want to be revealed? How many times on this board do we talk about people with fake pics, ads, etc., etc,. He's not trying to take any business whatsoever...he's just posting and getting you teased to the point you want to hire him. But you take this as someone posting who is a complete liar unless he posts his ads, photos...god knows everything about his life.,, It's a message board dude. He has listed reasons he doesn't want to be known...respect that. He's got a right to privacy...he can post his pics and ad...or he doesn't have too. If he's lying, it'll come full circle, if he's not...then I'm sure a lot of people will be happy. In any event...just let it go.

 

And just out of curious, where is this vicious reply you talk about?

[Jock123]

No...I don't think the passive/aggressive game is what you don't like...I think it's the fact that the guy who is posting is not posting any photos, ad or whatever. WHO CARES??!! Is he who he says he is...shit...I don't know. But seriously, on an anonymous message board do we actually expect people to "reveal themselves"...especially when they don't want to be revealed? How many times on this board do we talk about people with fake pics, ads, etc., etc,. He's not trying to take any business whatsoever...he's just posting and getting you teased to the point you want to hire him. But you take this as someone posting who is a complete liar unless he posts his ads, photos...god knows everything about his life.,, It's a message board dude. He has listed reasons he doesn't want to be known...respect that. He's got a right to privacy...he can post his pics and ad...or he doesn't have too. If he's lying, it'll come full circle, if he's not...then I'm sure a lot of people will be happy. In any event...just let it go.

 

And just out of curious, where is this vicious reply you talk about?

 

 

 

 

This message meant EVERYTHING to me. I'm sitting here like...Its Christmas...I tell the guy I'm In the Military...and I'm STILL Disrespected? Did I mention Its Christmas? My thing is if someone cant find a heart on this day I can only Imagine how they are any other day of the week. Its good to know I'm not alone In this.

 

 

I'm not on here to be a "Tease". Being a Tease doesnt get me Paid. I have MULTIPLE messages of people wanting my ad Info to meet...and Yet again I respect my Uniform. Why? 80% of the posts discuss Escorts names/locations etc etc etc. And a simple search BOOM I'm all over the Internet. Thank You for understanding.Merry Christmas!

[big-n-tall]

This message meant EVERYTHING to me. I'm sitting here like...Its Christmas...I tell the guy I'm In the Military...and I'm STILL Disrespected? Did I mention Its Christmas? My thing is if someone cant find a heart on this day I can only Imagine how they are any other day of the week. Its good to know I'm not alone In this.

 

 

I'm not on here to be a "Tease". Being a Tease doesnt get me Paid. I have MULTIPLE messages of people wanting my ad Info to meet...and Yet again I respect my Uniform. Why? 80% of the posts discuss Escorts names/locations etc etc etc. And a simple search BOOM I'm all over the Internet. Thank You for understanding.Merry Christmas!

 

...me being one of those people I guess. You can't knock a dude for trying... you tease.

 

Don't sweat it man. You can't please everyone. I've said it privately, but even if we never meet... you still seem like a good level headed guy. If we all just tease you and have witty banter back and forth, so be it. Lucky bastards to those who do get to meet you though.

 

Merry Christmas to you as well jock. Go spread some cheer or something.

[rvwnsd]

I often have clients inquire about arranging a 3-way with me and another escort ...I will often spend a significant amount of time to select the right guy, just to have the prospective client say they don't like them...

My question to fellow escorts is, how long will you spend trying to arrange such things, and what do you look for in other escorts.

 

I don't think it is fair for a client to expect an escort to arrange a three-way, unless the escort is arranging it with someone he regularly works with.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

This message meant EVERYTHING to me. I'm sitting here like...Its Christmas...I tell the guy I'm In the Military...and I'm STILL Disrespected? Did I mention Its Christmas? My thing is if someone cant find a heart on this day I can only Imagine how they are any other day of the week. Its good to know I'm not alone In this.

 

 

I'm not on here to be a "Tease". Being a Tease doesnt get me Paid. I have MULTIPLE messages of people wanting my ad Info to meet...and Yet again I respect my Uniform. Why? 80% of the posts discuss Escorts names/locations etc etc etc. And a simple search BOOM I'm all over the Internet. Thank You for understanding.Merry Christmas!

 

Just out of curiosity Jock, where do you advertise? Can we get a link to your ad?

[Floyd_Taylor]

As a veteran of many 3 way hires, who to bring in for a 3rd is something that I would never expect or even want the escort to handle. In almost every case where I've hired 2 escorts (and there have been many), it is where I know both guys really well, where I think they would be a great fit together with me and with each other. And I do also try take into consideration that it would be good professionally for them to network with other escorts in other cities because normally the guys are from different places and I bring them together. I learned not to hire 2 guys from the same city in case of professional conflicts that either have or may arise. And often I hear later that the guys I have put together have worked together later (even toured together) or have referred clients to each other. The only times I have hired an escort I didn't know for a 3 way hire involved bringing in a new escort with a trusted escort, but only after I had thoroughly vetted the new guy with other escorts I knew and trusted who had worked with the new guy before. In all the 3 way hires of I've done over the years, the chemistry has been wrong only once so that isn't a bad batting average. From the escorts point of view, if it's a new client, unless you know and have worked with the other escort before (like Juan and Thor), I don't know if I'd go near that either. A lot of potential work with landmines galore.

[Floyd_Taylor]

But let me turn the question around on Lance and other escorts. You are travelling and a new client asks you to bring in a 3rd escort. You don't know the other escorts in the city but you do have a client in that city (or who knows that city well) that you know and trust (and will probably see while you are there). Would you seek them out and ask their advice and recommendation? Would you look at their reviews on Daddy's? Maybe even reach out to Daddy himself and ask?

[+ Truereview]

As a veteran of many 3 way hires, who to bring in for a 3rd is something that I would never expect or even want the escort to handle. In almost every case where I've hired 2 escorts (and there have been many), it is where I know both guys really well, where I think they would be a great fit together with me and with each other. And I do also try take into consideration that it would be good professionally for them to network with other escorts in other cities because normally the guys are from different places and I bring them together. I learned not to hire 2 guys from the same city in case of professional conflicts that either have or may arise. And often I hear later that the guys I have put together have worked together later (even toured together) or have referred clients to each other. The only times I have hired an escort I didn't know for a 3 way hire involved bringing in a new escort with a trusted escort, but only after I had thoroughly vetted the new guy with other escorts I knew and trusted who had worked with the new guy before. In all the 3 way hires of I've done over the years, the chemistry has been wrong only once so that isn't a bad batting average. From the escorts point of view, if it's a new client, unless you know and have worked with the other escort before (like Juan and Thor), I don't know if I'd go near that either. A lot of potential work with landmines galore.

LOVE this post, Floyd! I'm exploring the possibility of bringing together two of my trusted companions together for a 3-way, my concern is that I don't want them to feel like they no longer satisfy me individually. They are pretty centered guys, but I worry about unintended impact. The very reason I want us together is bc I think we would really enjoy each other, but I'm a bit fearful. As the client, How have you brought it up before to them ?

[Floyd_Taylor]

LOVE this post, Floyd! I'm exploring the possibility of bringing together two of my trusted companions together for a 3-way, my concern is that I don't want them to be offended. The very reason I want us together is bc I think we would really enjoy each other, but I'm a bit fearful. As the client, How have you brought it up before to them ?

 

Like I said, I'm always bringing guys together I know. Juan is right (as Juan usually is). If they get offended, they should probably examine their relationship with you. I would guess that the chances that they would get offended would be minute and if they did they needed examination anyway. But your gut that they would enjoy each other more is probably right. And in a way, aren't you depriving them of that joy too? The guys I've brought together have become friends, fuckbuddies, referral sources. They've come to know and trust my judgment as well. I had good enough taste to hire them in the first place, right? And frequently with two pros, the sex is usually mind-blowing. Talk with them but I'll lay you odds that their response will be "what the fuck have you been waiting for?"

[+ Truereview]

Like I said, I'm always bringing guys together I know. Juan is right (as Juan usually is). If they get offended, they should probably examine their relationship with you. I would guess that the chances that they would get offended would be minute and if they did they needed examination anyway. But your gut that they would enjoy each other more is probably right. And in a way, aren't you depriving them of that joy too? The guys I've brought together have become friends, fuckbuddies, referral sources. They've come to know and trust my judgment as well. I had good enough taste to hire them in the first place, right? And frequently with two pros, the sex is usually mind-blowing. Talk with them but I'll lay you odds that their response will be "what the fuck have you been waiting for?"

Thanks, you are helping me distill my feelings about this. I think I now have a more concrete question : how do you open the dialogue? " hey buddy, I have a fantasy and I want to have you join me in bed with..." Is it as simple as that?

 

PS. - maybe my fear for unintended impact is more about me than they. Weird how easy it is to project! Lord, I need to avoid morning musings!

[Floyd_Taylor]

Thanks, you are helping me distill my feelings about this. I think I now have a more concrete question : how do you open the dialogue? " hey buddy, I have a fantasy and I want to have you join me in bed with..." Is it as simple as that?

 

Just that simple. "I've always wanted to have a 3 way. There's another escort I see. Can I put the 3 of us together?" You coordinate the date/time. Give them each other's contact info. My guys will frequently talk to each other beforehand, sometimes to plan what they are going to do to me. (thanks guys). . At least if it involves gear and who is bringing what. And here's a real kicker for you: what if they've already worked together before with another client? What if they are already fuckbuddies and you don't even know it. Of course they could be mortal enemies and they'll say no, but you ask.

And it won't hurt your relationship with either. Trust me on that.

[+ Truereview]

Just that simple. "I've always wanted to have a 3 way. There's another escort I see. Can I put the 3 of us together?" You coordinate the date/time. Give them each other's contact info. My guys will frequently talk to each other beforehand, sometimes to plan what they are going to do to me. (thanks guys). . At least if it involves gear and who is bringing what. And here's a real kicker for you: what if they've already worked together before with another client? What if they are already fuckbuddies and you don't even know it. Of course they could be mortal enemies and they'll say no, but you ask.

And it won't hurt your relationship with either. Trust me on that.

Damn, that is simple! I need to stop overthinking Ty!

[Floyd_Taylor]

Just remember, at the end of the day, even though being an escort is their job (and for many profession), these guys love sex. And even more they love good sex. They are good at it. So why the hell wouldn't they want to be included in sex with someone else they know who should be, by profession, good at sex just like they are? And if you are a frequent client, no doubt there is that relationship that they would also want to help you fulfill your fantasies too. Remember that is part of their job too: helping you fulfill your fantasies as best they can.

[LADoug1]

Let's not be so quick to cast judgement. It's highly plausible that LADoug has never had anyone explain before why using that term in such a way could be offensive. I've had to explain to many good and wonderful people why that term isn't appropriate. I don't think he's trying to be malicious, he just hasnt thought about the reverse implication of "clean" and that's why he asked.

Hey Lance, Thanks for the support here. I was only asking a (uneducated/naive) question and am surprised that Rudynate found it so offensive. Now feel more educated about the subject. That's why I asked in the first place.

[Rudynate]

Hey Lance, Thanks for the support here. I was only asking a (uneducated/naive) question and am surprised that Rudynate found it so offensive. Now feel more educated about the subject. That's why I asked in the first place.

 

 

My reaction was a little over the top, and I apologize for that.

[geminibear]

Hey Lance, Thanks for the support here. I was only asking a (uneducated/naive) question and am surprised that Rudynate found it so offensive. Now feel more educated about the subject. That's why I asked in the first place.

 

My reaction was a little over the top, and I apologize for that.

 

Rub some dirt on it and hug it out guys

[Rudynate]

.Yet again I respect my Uniform. Why? 80% of the posts discuss Escorts names/locations etc etc etc. And a simple search BOOM I'm all over the Internet. Thank You for understanding.Merry Christmas!

 

If respecting your uniform and being an escort are incompatible, you may have conflicting values. Congruent values are more conducive to sanity.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Just remember, at the end of the day, even though being an escort is their job (and for many profession), these guys love sex. And even more they love good sex. They are good at it. So why the hell wouldn't they want to be included in sex with someone else they know who should be, by profession, good at sex just like they are? And if you are a frequent client, no doubt there is that relationship that they would also want to help you fulfill your fantasies too. Remember that is part of their job too: helping you fulfill your fantasies as best they can.

 

And no doubt, ours was an absolute delight! Merry Christmas hun!

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Are you aware of situations where an escort who is asked by a regular client to find a third feels slighted because he feels that he is in some way not providing everything to his client? What about where a client finds a separate escort and suggests to a regular escort that the found escort join them?

 

I would hope that an escort wouldn't feel that insecure. If the client is still seeing them, then obviously they are satisfied with the connection, but sometime we all want something different, and bringing in a third can make that happen. I would never take it as an offense if I was asked to bring in a third. Being hurt by that would be like getting upset that a client is seeing other escorts.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

But let me turn the question around on Lance and other escorts. You are travelling and a new client asks you to bring in a 3rd escort. You don't know the other escorts in the city but you do have a client in that city (or who knows that city well) that you know and trust (and will probably see while you are there). Would you seek them out and ask their advice and recommendation? Would you look at their reviews on Daddy's? Maybe even reach out to Daddy himself and ask?

 

Yeah, I would definitely reach out to a client as ask them who they know that is good. I love it when clients openly share with me who they've seen and which experiences were great and which ones were difficult. Also, I usually start on here to see who is well reviewed.

[BtmBearDad]

I'm exploring the possibility of bringing together two of my trusted companions together for a 3-way

 

Will you be "live blogging" this undertaking, @Truereview?

 

 

Cheers,

BBD

[geminibear]

One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do.....