Legit practice

[Cliff]

I booked a fairly well known and well reviewed escort for this weekend and he said I would have to host. I agreed and gave the name of the hotel. He said because of the wild goose chase games that some clients play, he'd need to know my last name and the room

number so he could verify it was for real. I agreed but now this seems odd to me. Am I looking into this too much?

[+ Just Sayin]

maybe he felt he would need to have this information in the event he was questioned by hotel security; this has happened to me in the past (both in Europe and the US) and I gave the guy the information, which was not misused in any manner

[LouieD]

maybe he felt he would need to have this information in the event he was questioned by hotel security; this has happened to me in the past (both in Europe and the US) and I gave the guy the information, which was not misused in any manner

I agree. This is not unusual. I give it out, without hesitation, all the time and have never had a problem.

[bigvalboy]

All clients operate with different perimeters, but I would never give someone I have yet to meet my last name, regardless of reputation. If trust is an issue, agree to meet in the lobby, or at a Starbucks or similar location, and then go to the hotel. We all feel differently, but I am more protective of my private life. A room number I understand, but a last name is completely unnecessary. IMHO

[+ Keith30309]

I guess if I had a level of trust that would enable me to feel comfortable booking an entire weekend with someone then I'd also likely feel comfortable giving this info out as well. (That said, I'd never book a weekend with someone I hadn't gotten to know pretty well. If I'm going to fall asleep next to someone then their knowing my last name would be the least of my worries.)

I seem to recall reading here that most guys request a deposit for a period that long with someone they don't know well. Wouldn't making a deposit likewise expose some elements of personal info?

[Cliff]

Note: I did not book him for the weekend. Only for an hour.

[Tigger]

Note: I did not book him for the weekend. Only for an hour.

 

Many escorts have known my name. It's not really that preventable on an overnight or weekend. But for a one hour visit, especially, when you haven't met the guy before, I think he is asking too much.

[+ Keith30309]

Note: I did not book him for the weekend. Only for an hour.

 

My misunderstanding. For an hour that does seem a little unusual.

[+ purplekow]

If you were in the hotel room some time before the encounter, I would tell the escort to call the room after call the main desk at the hotel. I would give him the room number and my first name but my last name can wait until after we have met.

[down_to_business]

Cliff-

 

When you check into a hotel, add a second name to your room that only you know. Give this alias out to the nosy escort that demands your personal information. When he calls the hotel to verify your credentials, yes there will be a Mr. X registered to that hotel and you preserve your privacy. For an hour appointment you don't need to exchange real identities, unless you mutually agree to do so.

[Cliff]

DownToBusiness, you are a genius. Thank you.

[jawjateck]

I also caution against giving away your name for a quickie.

[MikeyGMin]

I also caution against giving away your name for a quickie.

 

Then I guess hosting at your home the first time is totally out. Or how do you handle that?

[jimboivyo]

I booked a fairly well known and well reviewed escort for this weekend and he said I would have to host. I agreed and gave the name of the hotel. He said because of the wild goose chase games that some clients play, he'd need to know my last name and the room

number so he could verify it was for real. I agreed but now this seems odd to me. Am I looking into this too much?

 

if hes someone who's legit, there's little fear in giving him this piece of mind

 

you can be frank and say you don't want to give out your name, but if you play games as suggested and he finds out, that would be worse

[jawjateck]

Then I guess hosting at your home the first time is totally out. Or how do you handle that?

 

Yep. My primary residence is a hobby-free zone.

[Kevin Slater]

Cliff-

 

When you check into a hotel, add a second name to your room that only you know. Give this alias out to the nosy escort that demands your personal information. When he calls the hotel to verify your credentials, yes there will be a Mr. X registered to that hotel and you preserve your privacy. For an hour appointment you don't need to exchange real identities, unless you mutually agree to do so.

 

I like your suggestion, but disagree with the characterization of the escort. He's nosy simply because he needs a name in order for the hotel to patch his call through to the room?

 

Kevin Slater

[+ Truereview]

Cliff-

 

When you check into a hotel, add a second name to your room that only you know. Give this alias out to the nosy escort that demands your personal information. When he calls the hotel to verify your credentials, yes there will be a Mr. X registered to that hotel and you preserve your privacy. For an hour appointment you don't need to exchange real identities, unless you mutually agree to do so.

Although I agree it is a smart move, in my opinion, that to me just feels disingenuous. Must we make up names and lie to make an appointment? I think just telling the escort you don't feel comfortable providing your last name is sufficient rationale. If he insists...it is time to move on to someone else.

[Kevin Slater]

Although I agree it is a smart move, in my opinion, that to me just feels disingenuous. Must we make up names and lie to make an appointment? I think just telling the escort you don't feel comfortable providing your last name is sufficient rationale. If he insists...it is time to move on to someone else.

 

It's probably just that he wants to confirm you're in the room-- actually a sign of a professional escort. About the made up name: do you think his mother named him Rock Starwood?

 

"Kevin Slater"

[ncc1701d]

Love the add second name trick....will have to remember that. I would never give out name in the first hire. I agree there are multiple ways to avoid this, and also there are house phones in most hotels where you can dial direct the room number.

[Juan Vancouver]

He said because of the wild goose chase games that some clients play, he'd need to know my last name and the room number so he could verify it was for real. I agreed but now this seems odd to me. Am I looking into this too much?

 

I would never go to a hotel without having called the hotel and spoken to the person IN the room. Most hotels will need me to tell the the room number and last name to connect me, so in order to confirm a hotel session I will ask for both.

 

It has happened that escorts are sent as a prank to someone else's room, just for kicks. If you speak with the person in the room and that person confirms, then there's no chance of this happening.

 

Right after I leave the hotel I erase that information. I don't have any use for it..

 

All clients operate with different perimeters, but I would never give someone I have yet to meet my last name, regardless of reputation. If trust is an issue, agree to meet in the lobby, or at a Starbucks or similar location, and then go to the hotel. We all feel differently, but I am more protective of my private life. A room number I understand, but a last name is completely unnecessary. IMHO

 

We would sadly never be able to meet. There's absolutely no way I am risking my physical safety and meet you somewhere else to protect your fear of exposure.

 

I would give him the room number and my first name but my last name can wait until after we have met.

 

Clearly you haven't called people at hotels ever. They will ask for the last name. A first name is not enough in most cases.

 

 

I believe if you are so paranoid that you can't even understand and respect the most basic safety practices of your escort, then maybe you shouldn't be hiring but dealing with those issues first. Intimacy and paranoia are not a really good match. If hiring someone with a reputation of trustworthiness is not enough for you to relax, then I assure you your sessions will feel uncomfortable and unfulfilling.

 

Do your homework. Find someone trustworthy. Know that they are just doing their job and will give you a special session.

[+ Truereview]

...I believe if you are so paranoid that you can't even understand and respect the most basic safety practices of your escort, then maybe you shouldn't be hiring but dealing with those issues first. Intimacy and paranoia are not a really good match. If hiring someone with a reputation of trustworthiness is not enough for you to relax, then I assure you your sessions will feel uncomfortable and unfulfilling...

This is a perfect example of polarizing language. Enuff said.

[down_to_business]

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Do your homework. Find someone trustworthy. Know that they are just doing their job and will give you a special session.

 

I understand what you are saying, but believe me, the first time you get blackmailed by an escort reviewed and talked about here, you will see things in a whole different light. That trusting soul you once were is gone forever, maybe you do become a jaded bitch, but you learn to keep your personal information private.

 

Giving a hiring name hurts no one. You keep your privacy and the escort is able to verify that you are a guest in the hotel by speaking with you. Its a win/win for all.

 

I have escort relationships that they have been guests in my home, we have travelled extensively together, we know each others addresses and birthdays. This trust is now earned over time, not because of a reputation gained from an anonymous message board where every single recommendation and post could be from that escort, a proxy of that escort, etc. Again, I learned my lesson the hard way. So we can get to that level of trust, it just takes a bit longer to get there. It is definitely not going to happen on our very first meeting, for 1 hour.

[Juan Vancouver]

Down to business,

 

I am sorry to hear you went through all that. I cannot imagine it. I only know that it must have been horrible knowing you were not in control of your well being.

 

An escort routinely meeting anonymous clients at street corners or cafes lives in that state of having one's well being in someone else's hands. You never know when you will meet the psycho, which you will inevitably meet..

 

No need for anyone, client or not, to live with that fear.

 

I hope you are coping a bit better. Big hug!

[marylander1940]

I booked a fairly well known and well reviewed escort for this weekend and he said I would have to host. I agreed and gave the name of the hotel. He said because of the wild goose chase games that some clients play, he'd need to know my last name and the room

number so he could verify it was for real. I agreed but now this seems odd to me. Am I looking into this too much?

 

I understand an escort not trusting a google voice number but once he has the would-be-client's cellphone why ask so much info? In your place I would have called him using the hotel's phone number to let him know I'm at that hotel.

[+ purplekow]

I would never go to a hotel without having called the hotel and spoken to the person IN the room. Most hotels will need me to tell the the room number and last name to connect me, so in order to confirm a hotel session I will ask for both.

 

It has happened that escorts are sent as a prank to someone else's room, just for kicks. If you speak with the person in the room and that person confirms, then there's no chance of this happening.

 

Right after I leave the hotel I erase that information. I don't have any use for it..

 

 

 

We would sadly never be able to meet. There's absolutely no way I am risking my physical safety and meet you somewhere else to protect your fear of exposure.

 

 

 

Clearly you haven't called people at hotels ever. They will ask for the last name. A first name is not enough in most cases.

 

 

I believe if you are so paranoid that you can't even understand and respect the most basic safety practices of your escort, then maybe you shouldn't be hiring but dealing with those issues first. Intimacy and paranoia are not a really good match. If hiring someone with a reputation of trustworthiness is not enough for you to relax, then I assure you your sessions will feel uncomfortable and unfulfilling.

 

Do your homework. Find someone trustworthy. Know that they are just doing their job and will give you a special session.

 

I feel that I am very trusting but if an escort needs my last name, then I need to know why. I have gone to hotels to meet escorts with a name and room number and they have called the room for me. Perhaps not all hotels will do this and you likely have a lot more experience with hotels, but tell me, do you ask for your clients last name before meeting them?