Best parent in the world or just violent? Dad's unusual punishment.

[marylander1940]

A YouTube video that shows a father forcing his son to smash his Xbox after he came home with bad grades has some observers hailing the punishment as “great parenting” — while others call it “horrible.”

 

The video, which was posted on Wednesday and has received more than 42,000 page views, shows a student named Jason taking a sledgehammer to his Xbox console. The video is titled, “Good Parenting: Father Makes His Son Destroy One of His Xbox Consoles For Failing In School!” and features the voice of the father telling Jason “he’s had three weeks.” Presumably he’s referring to how long Jason had to turn his grades around.

 

https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/psychopath-or-best-parent-in-the-world-dads-119043392822.html

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RbiTNggPzHs

[+ purplekow]

"It's not my fault it's my teacher's fault." There are probably other better alternatives, but at least this dad is trying to wake his son up the consequences of his actions. The parents probably bought him the X-box to begin and it seems the X-box has gotten plenty of attention and the school work not so much. Still, this kid appears to be a pathetic soul, so it was difficult to watch, even though I thought it was probably for his betterment.

[maninsoma]

The good: emphasizing the importance of education.

The bad: that destroying one's property is a reasonable way to express one's anger/disappointment/etc.

 

I would have given him the thumbs up had he simply locked the Xbox away until the son's grades improved.

[+ sync]

The good: emphasizing the importance of education.

The bad: that destroying one's property is a reasonable way to express one's anger/disappointment/etc.

 

I would have given him the thumbs up had he simply locked the Xbox away until the son's grades improved.

 

+1

[+ purplekow]

The good: emphasizing the importance of education.

The bad: that destroying one's property is a reasonable way to express one's anger/disappointment/etc.

 

I would have given him the thumbs up had he simply locked the Xbox away until the son's grades improved.

I think Dad had probably taken away the X-box and the dad needed a big gesture to insure that the message was received. Ideally, he could have given the X-box away or locked it away. That would not have communicated the level of commitment the dad wanted to express. Ideally, it would never have gotten to this point but it did. The dad thought a big gesture was needed. He made one.

[marylander1940]

The good: emphasizing the importance of education.

The bad: that destroying one's property is a reasonable way to express one's anger/disappointment/etc.

 

I would have given him the thumbs up had he simply locked the Xbox away until the son's grades improved.

 

Besides he could reward his son in the future with time on the X-box only if he has good grades.

 

Carrots and sticks, carrots are better for motivation.

 

[rvwnsd]

That's assuming the father made the son destroy the XBox due to bringing home poor grades. This might be a father wanting himself and his son to become an Internet sensation.

[+ FreshFluff]

I think Dad had probably taken away the X-box and the dad needed a big gesture to insure that the message was received. Ideally, he could have given the X-box away or locked it away. That would not have communicated the level of commitment the dad wanted to express. Ideally, it would never have gotten to this point but it did. The dad thought a big gesture was needed. He made one.

 

But that won't teach the kid the study skills he needs, nor will it teach him how to delay gratification. These qualities cannot be instilled with a sledgehammer.

[+ purplekow]

But that won't teach the kid the study skills he needs, nor will it teach him how to delay gratification. These qualities cannot be instilled with a sledgehammer.

I would agree with you if the father was hitting the child with a sledgehammer. Otherwise, the father punished the boy by forcing him to realize that his poor grades had a consequence. Could this be staged? Sure. Could it be that these parents have taught this boy how to blame other people for his shortcomings? Sure. It is clear that a big step was made. It was a giant step for a family. It hopefully was the first in many.

[wisconsinguy]

"It's not my fault it's my teacher's fault." There are probably other better alternatives, but at least this dad is trying to wake his son up the consequences of his actions. The parents probably bought him the X-box to begin and it seems the X-box has gotten plenty of attention and the school work not so much. Still, this kid appears to be a pathetic soul, so it was difficult to watch, even though I thought it was probably for his betterment.

I didn't even have to watch the video. About 12 or so years ago, when my youngest son 13 or so, video systems were exploding. He and other friends had to have latest and best. We did not just go out and buy one. The marketing companies were always clever, and put them out there usually before xmas.

And, that he would get it as a gift. Usually brothers sisters, aunts and uncles would give money as gifts to offset the cost a little. They were pricey. He became obsessed with them. Grades were becoming an issue. I am a really lite sleeper. I would be awaked in our bedroom with the "Hum" of the system below. Of course, there were many verbal altercations, "discussions" between the three of us on how to fix the problem, then limitations on time, bla,bla,bla. Nothing worked. I came home one day, entered the entry way to my then wife, with the video unit on the floor with a hammer beating the hell out of it!!! My son in back of her with a sad face. I almost laughed. Bad father. I am sure the father in the video and myself are not the only one who have come across this issue in the WORLD!

[gallahadesquire]

The student sat down with his Zen master at tea time. The Zen master has a stick. "If you drink the tea," the Zen master said, "I will hit you with the stick. If you do not drink the tea, I will hit you with the stick."

The student took the stick, and was enlightened.

 

Well, it seemed relevant at the time.

[Boink]

I didn't even have to watch the video. About 12 or so years ago, when my youngest son 13 or so, video systems were exploding. He and other friends had to have latest and best. We did not just go out and buy one. The marketing companies were always clever, and put them out there usually before xmas.

And, that he would get it as a gift. Usually brothers sisters, aunts and uncles would give money as gifts to offset the cost a little. They were pricey. He became obsessed with them. Grades were becoming an issue. I am a really lite sleeper. I would be awaked in our bedroom with the "Hum" of the system below. Of course, there were many verbal altercations, "discussions" between the three of us on how to fix the problem, then limitations on time, bla,bla,bla. Nothing worked. I came home one day, entered the entry way to my then wife, with the video unit on the floor with a hammer beating the hell out of it!!! My son in back of her with a sad face. I almost laughed. Bad father. I am sure the father in the video and myself are not the only one who have come across this issue in the WORLD!

 

Wisconsinguy, If this had been a more recent occurance, do you think you would have had the urge to videotape the scene and then post it on the internet for all the world to see? Just curious.

[wisconsinguy]

Wisconsinguy, If this had been a more recent occurance, do you think you would have had the urge to videotape the scene and then post it on the internet for all the world to see? Just curious.

No I would not. Even if I had a camera in my hand, then and now, for the family to laugh over a few years later, I would not. Trying to understand the relevance?

[+ purplekow]

Wisconsinguy, If this had been a more recent occurance, do you think you would have had the urge to videotape the scene and then post it on the internet for all the world to see? Just curious.

That is the thing with tapes on the internet. Is it clear the father posted for everyone to see? Did he post it all? The father did videotape it but that is as far as I know. These things go viral and suddenly we are looking at smashed X boxes or Kim Kardashian's big fat ass. But with or without the world knowing about it, the actions are still the same. The consequences, are indeed a bit different. If a tree falls in the forest without someone to hear it, does it make a noise or perhaps does it get hit with a stick?

[Boink]

No I would not. Even if I had a camera in my hand, then and now, for the family to laugh over a few years later, I would not. Trying to understand the relevance?

 

I really was just curious. I'm kinda fascinated by the phenom in today's world of everyone wanting to film and then display everything to everyone all the time via 'social media'. Fascinated because I am totally lacking in that gene and sometimes I feel like I am a freak for not participating. (Kinda glad to know you wouldn't have gone that route either, if it had been available then.)

 

And in a case like this, I think the point was made to the kid strongly enough without magnifying the punishment 1000 times by filming it and posting it on the internet.