What Would You Do in my Case???

[+ Axiom2001]

A few weeks back, I spent a very hot hour with a San Francisco escort, a man who I had been wanting to see for a long, long time. I desire to see him for seconds once he returns from a month's holiday in some European cities, but this is where my dilemma begins.

 

When I went to his place, he opened the door but did not shake hands or embrace or kiss. He offered me his sofa then went off and showered. After returning to where I was, the play began and was magnificent. Upon my leaving he opened the door, did not say that he'd like to see me again or that he, too, had enjoyed himself, and that was that. After basking in the after glow for a day or so, I emailed him and expressed an interest in seeing him again; I also asked him to relay his take on our session. Did he do it? No! I thought the reason being his making and finalizing arrangements for his month's sojourn. But, perhaps he chose not to respond because he, himself really did not view our time together as I had.

 

I did not write a review because I did not want to give anyone the wrong impression of him based on the hour which I had spent with him, but the more that I thought about this hour's meeting and the way in which I was greeted, perhaps that, in itself, told me the tale: gave me the answer that I sought!

 

When he returns and resettles, I am highly tempted in trying to make the "second round."

If you were in my shoes, would you attempt to reconnect, or would you forget about this one and move on? I'd appreciate your advice!

[+ WilliamM]

No, I would not hire him again. If you are looking to pay for a relatively unfriendly fuck buddy, yes. Your post indicates you want something more, a much more socially interactive experience. Me, too. You might excuse the shower, but he should have responded to your email. I am sure you will receive other responses. I shall be interested in reading them.

[+ Robster]

He may not be checking his e-mail while he's out of the country, but based on everything else you described, I certainly wouldn't hire him again.

 

Rob

[bigvalboy]

No, I would not hire him again. If you are looking to pay for a relatively unfriendly fuck buddy, yes. Your post indicates you want something more, a much more socially interactive experience. Me, too. You might excuse the shower, but he should have responded to your email. I am sure you will receive other responses. I shall be interested in reading them.

 

 

Chemistry is everything....might be best to move on Ax.

[BabyBoomer]

+4 Move on.

 

~ Boomer ~

[MiamiLooker]

Well, even after his behavior of your initial meeting, in your first paragraph, you state: “I desire to see him for seconds…” You go on to say the play was magnificent. That’s what you hired him for, correct? If you can get beyond his detached coolness, I’d say go for it. Maybe you can get him to loosen up a bit on your next meeting. If not, and if this is important to you, then you don’t hire him for a third time.

[marylander1940]

He may not be checking his e-mail while he's out of the country, but based on everything else you described, I certainly wouldn't hire him again.

 

Rob

 

True, but it doesn't take a lot of time to check emails and type: "I'm out of the country till... please contact me when I'm back".

I wouldn't hire him either, he are people, we ain't number besides c'mon good manners are for free and they pay back all the time.

[+ sf westcoaster]

I would move on! However, if you are willing to simply settle for "magnificent play" then go for it.

[+ WilliamM]

I did not write a review because I did not want to give anyone the wrong impression of him based on the hour which I had spent with him, but the more that I thought about this hour's meeting and the way in which I was greeted, perhaps that, in itself, told me the tale: gave me the answer that I sought!

 

Ax, Does he other reviews? If so, would you characterize them as positive? Your first paragraph suggests that he is well known, but I may have not understood.

[+ purplekow]

Axiomatically, he provides hot sex. You feel he is good at hot sex. You had hot sex. You thought warmly about the hot sex you had for several days after the hot sex. You still feel an electrical charge in the dick when you think about the hot sex you had though it is weeks later.

I say do not call him, because I feel it is wrong for people other than me to pay and receive hot sex.

[+ purplekow]

By the way. you want hot lunch, call a caterer, you want hot sex, call this guy.

[+ purplekow]

By the way, by the way, where is the fucking dilemma? It was hot sex. That was what you paid for and that is what you got. As for the the other posters who said not to call him, they are just jealous of someone else having hot sex and are lying about it, I am being totally honest about it, stop having hot sex with this guy you freak of nature and do no go smearing it in our face and pretend that you are not going to hop right back into the sack with this steaming pile of hot man meat as soon as he has finished ravaging Portugal, Estonia, Lichtenstein, Moldavia, Andorra, Vatican City and any other states in Europe which are trying to import guys for hot sex.

[+ Robster]

LOL @ Vatican City

[+ purplekow]

One last reply and I will not reply again, Stop thinking with the big head and start thinking with the little head. The big head only gets you fucked up, the little head gets you fucked. You choose.

[rvwnsd]

One last reply and I will not reply again, Stop thinking with the big head and start thinking with the little head. The big head only gets you fucked up, the little head gets you fucked. You choose.

 

No, no...keep replying. Your replies are funny! And I agree with them, which is really the most important thing.

[+ sync]

If this escort advertises the boyfriend experience, your disappointment is valid. If you feel inspired to hire him again and you want more intimacy, you should specify that you would like the boyfriend experience included (which could be an extra charge). Since he was "magnificent", I would not write him off without a clear understanding.

[+ poolboy48220]

Purplekow said it all. Hire him again.

[+ WilliamM]

as soon as he has finished ravaging Portugal, Estonia, Lichtenstein, Moldavia, Andorra, Vatican City and any other states in Europe which are trying to import guys for hot sex.

 

Guys have been lined up for weeks waiting for this guy in Moldova, if partly to prove they are gay & and avoid military service. The country is nestled next to Ukraine and Crimea, all cool vacation spots.

[Rudynate]

I would move on! However, if you are willing to simply settle for "magnificent play" then go for it.

 

 

Magnificent play is pretty important. It's what I hire for - men that are uncommonly good at sex. No encounter is perfect. In my book, this one comes close. I don't ask hires to evaluate me or the time we spent together. It was what it was. I do agree though that a man who provides a complete experience helps you to feel attractive and desired.

[+ Gar1eth]

I do agree though that a man who provides a complete experience helps you to feel attractive and desired.

 

I'll agree that might be nice. But when you know, as in my case, that there is absolutely no way they could be actually be attracted to you, I'd prefer them not to make an attempt at a futile lie.

 

Gman

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

I believe we once had a thread on here about possibly hiring an escort a second time who stole from the client. I don't remember what the prevailing opinion was from the Greek chorus, but I believe he was hired again.

 

Here's some perspective. This guy didn't shake your hand and write you a recap—yet you had a "magnificent" time and are seriously considering another. You're seeing him for an hour. The first time may have been distant because—well, it was the first time. It appears you're presuming a number of things about his feelings and behavior based off insecurity rather than real facts. It may be true that he's busy and getting ready for his trip.

 

But you do have a known quantity here, namely he's good in bed. Weigh the importance of shaking hands versus getting what you really came for, which was delivered, yes? Consider also that if you are looking for a BFE, an hour is not the best time in which to try to experience one. And you could always hire someone else who gives you that greeting you're looking for and ups the warmth factor but isn't as good.

 

Ultimately, if you want to get together with the guy again, just call him first and say: "I'm thinking about getting together again. Do you have a few minutes to talk? I just want to make sure you had a good time with me, because that's important when I hire."

[rvwnsd]

In addition to Chris's comments, I would like to suggest you do what I do: have more than one escort in your repertoire. Feel like having fantastic sex? Hire this guy with the understanding he won't shake your hand. (Personally, I would prefer a kiss, but that's just me) Feel like having a passionate, warm, experience? Hire a guy who is delivers that.

 

One other note: In addition to being busy packing for his trip, he might not send a follow-up email because some clients do not want a follow-up. There have been several threads regarding post-appointment follow up. At the time, many clients did not want a follow-up because they want to be discrete.

[Phil_musc]

Really, what is the dilemma here? Magnificent sex is just that - magnificent. No less, no more (and that's plenty in my book). If a handshake is so important to you, get out there and press the flesh - run for public office. Or go to church, or volunteer to be a greeter at McDonald's. There are lots of opportunities for shaking hands, but magnificent sex only comes around once in a while. Me myself, I get all the handshakes I need, but magnificent sex - well it's been a while.

[curiousnomore]

What would I do? Call him and fuck like rabbits!

[+ Gar1eth]

I'll go in a different direction than the last few remarks because while I don't expect the escort to fall in love with me I hope that the majority of the guys I've met think I'm at the very least an ok guy. If I had the feeling that someone truly didn't like me or was indifferent to me, I don't think I'd go back even if the sex was great especially if his interactions made me question myself afterward. As we all know sex is partially mental. For some of us how we feel after the act might be an important part to the entire experience.

 

But in the end only Axiom can decide whether the sexual act(s) itself is the most important part of the experience or whether for him the totality of the experience is most important.

 

Gman