The regular who never books in advance:

[Mocha]

Does anyone happen to have a regular client like that? I've been blessed with 2, one of which I had to stop taking appointments from because it was getting ridiculous. Even after suggesting he call me ahead.

 

It usually goes like this: The call comes around the same times, but the day can be random. Often times it is weeks or months apart. And it seems to be that if you can't meet within an hour, or try to schedule for a time beyond that, they respond with something like, I'll try you back later. Or "another day". No alternative time, even if offered. Then, they call again in the future, but in the same fashion. Last minute, expecting availability right then.

 

I probably shouldn't take it personal, but I just find it disrespectful to a degree. Yet these guys are very respectful otherwise, but how they book comes off otherwise. Also, if their time is very constrained, I'd think planning ahead would be better. I also realize clients may have 101 reasons for having to do it that way. But, the clients in particular I know are not having extra-marital affairs, so it seems to be more out of habit or being in the moment versus some 3rd party force.

 

I'm questioning, if its worth bringing it up or should I just roll with it, or not? For me, I don't mind same day calls, but something about, "I'll call back another day", or some other blank date response when you can't meet within a spontaneous, narrow offer of time comes off unappreciative and taking me for granted. Again, not to get personal, but Im referring to clients I've seen for awhile. They know me. One of my younger friends says, "well I'm the same way, I don't know if I'll be horny at Wednesday at 3 pm". Not that his reason speaks for all last minute clients reasoning, but it seems like too much of a head fuck. I think what it really boils down to, is some men don't want to be obligated...which is sweet, they want to be sure and not cancel. But in reality they probably already know ahead of time that they'll be ringing.

[+ Gar1eth]

I'm not sure if you want a client's opinion. But yes often when I was horny, I was horny. Now I understood that since it was last minute the escort might not be able to meet with me, and I wouldn't get upset. But if an escort couldn't meet, I might have to 'relieve' myself, and then at my age who knows when I would be horny again. Also back when I was working, my schedule was very constrained. And the next time I was off might be days later, and I might either be tired or have to do normal every day living stuff. Just as a client can't predict your schedule, unless you know the client intimately, you may not know the demands on his time or when and how frequently he is 'in the mood'. Oftentimes the spirit can be willing. But the flesh can be weak-or at least that's what I'm finding out the older I get.

 

Gman

[Nvr2Thick]

I've found that escorts have varying policies regarding scheduling. At one extreme are the guys who don't plan more than a few hours out. Others have very organized schedules, and can be so popular that clients have to plan a day or two in advance. When I started hiring in the late 80's almost all the escorts I hired expected you to call within an hour or so of when you were ready to meet. I believe that professional escorts scheduling days in advance have become more common in the last 10-20 years.

 

There have been many times when I've booked an escort a day or two in advance and then found I wasn't really in the same frame of mind. I'm passive by nature, and so I'd follow through on the commitment and end of having an unspectacular time in most cases.

 

A lot for me depends on my ability to be clean for a long bottoming session with a hung top. Sometimes preparation just does not work out. Typically I'll find myself in the mood and I'll check out the ads. Then I'll try to douche clean. If it doesn't work out I don't call anyone. If it does, I'll start calling escorts starting at the top of my list until I find someone who will be available within the next couple hours.

 

If it's a head fuck it's probably not intentional. I don't think it's that a client doesn't want to be obligated; some people don't associate planning and scheduling with passion and intimacy. If my ultimate fantasy man was advertising in my town I'd still honestly have no idea whether I'd want him to fuck me tomorrow afternoon. Should you roll with it? I think that anyone who deals with such a diverse assortment of people as you do in your profession should roll with anything you're capable of rolling with.

[Guest Starbuck]

Should you roll with it? I think that anyone who deals with such a diverse assortment of people as you do in your profession should roll with anything you're capable of rolling with.

 

+1

 

I doubt the clients intend the way they want to schedule as a "head fuck," or even mean to be disrespectful toward you. (You mention that they are otherwise "very respectful.") It's just their way. I understand that it's not your preference, but if you can accommodate them (and want to), you should. If you can't or don't, you shouldn't. Pretty simple.

[Guest countryboywny]

It would be good to remember that some clients have limited and random times that they are available to enjoy your services. Some people are so busy that the stars truly have to align for them to have the opportunity to see you. I'd take it as a compliment that these guys call you when their "stars align".

[sincitymix]

It would be good to remember that some clients have limited and random times that they are available to enjoy your services. Some people are so busy that the stars truly have to align for them to have the opportunity to see you. I'd take it as a compliment that these guys call you when their "stars align".

That pretty much describes my schedule.

[Alec Andrews]

Accept people as that are.... some are I'm in the mood now, I want it now guys... some are planners... some a combo of all the above. We can't change people, we can only change how WE react to them. If you want the work and it happens to work out last minute with your client... go for it... if the way he communicates rubs you the wrong way.... then let him know and lose a potential client. I personally would never burn a bridge with a client, or anyone that matter, unless there was a really good reason. "Really good" is subjective of course. Good luck!

[RockyHardon]

Seen it from both sides...as a client I often would have a break in my work/life schedule, be horned up, and wanted to play. I would always call my first choice provider first, knowing they might be busy or unavailable. Then, I would call my second choice, then third, etc. As a client, I felt no obligation to the provider beyond being civil, nice, and paying what they asked (no negotiating), and respectful of their boundaries, but providers are not called "call-girls/boys" for nothing. You call when you want sex.

 

On the other side, I have been close friends with providers and seen two types. The first type when a need it/want it now call came from a regular, dropped everything and hustled to make the appointment (a good regular will not flake after the time is set), and the second that simply didn't answer the phone/text, or responded with a "busy", and left it alone.

 

The bottom line is that the "O.k. I'll call you later" response to "I can't meet now" is not a "headfuck", but just a busy/random regular client admitting his life is such that he can't make a firm date right now. No big deal. If you really need to set appointments, have a firm/consistent policy that you don't do same hour/same day appintments, and you will get clients that accept your terms.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

...providers are not called "call-girls/boys" for nothing. You call when you want sex.

 

That's fine and good and I have to admit that my ad usually has all the times checked for my availability. But when you live in a city that takes 30 minutes to pretty much get anywhere and parking is a nightmare or you have to take public transport to get to someone which usually involves a wait on the front end, during transit and then actually getting to the person's place (if they can meet there)—calling someone and saying "I can meet NOW for an hour" is unrealistic. It has nothing to do with whether the provider styles himself as a "callboy" or "available now" or whatever. We can't teleport, and IMHO people generally have at least a 10-15 minute window at a minimum where they could send an escort a text so that person could begin to head their way.

 

I don't take these things personally and don't look at them as a sign or not of respect as much as poor planning. I do however, stop responding or taking seriously people who call me repeatedly and tell me they want to get together "RIGHT NOW" and never give me a heads up, or clients who DO call or email and I respond and then hours or even days later I get "Oh, I'm just now getting your message, sorry it's too late" or "I don't ever check that email."

[RockyHardon]

@Chris Eisenhower.

 

There is a BIG difference between in call and out call. I don't need to say more.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

@Chris Eisenhower.

 

There is a BIG difference between in call and out call. I don't need to say more.

 

Actually I'm not quite sure what the big difference is.

[RockyHardon]

Well...seems easier to do last minute incall (assuming you aren't busy and in your studio), than to do a last minute out-call where, as you described, you have to drive/commute to client. But maybe there is no difference.

[Mocha]

Well...seems easier to do last minute incall (assuming you aren't busy and in your studio), than to do a last minute out-call where, as you described, you have to drive/commute to client. But maybe there is no difference.

 

Sometimes out calls can be easier. If I'm downtown and the client is downtown, very easy. But, about once a month I'll do a cleaning of 2 aquariums totaling 84 gallons. It usually takes about 3 hours, assuming everything goes well and nothing comes loose or leaks. I wouldn't be able to take a client during that time.

[Mocha]

Accept people as that are.... some are I'm in the mood now, I want it now guys... some are planners... some a combo of all the above. We can't change people, we can only change how WE react to them. If you want the work and it happens to work out last minute with your client... go for it... if the way he communicates rubs you the wrong way.... then let him know and lose a potential client. I personally would never burn a bridge with a client, or anyone that matter, unless there was a really good reason. "Really good" is subjective of course. Good luck!

 

But to add, the clients who do this aren't paying me $500. They're giving me just enough to get thru the day, but I feel like they're expecting me to be there, waiting on them...when I may not have seen them for a few weeks. There was a time few weeks ago that I ditched a friend downtown (it was supposed to just be a 2 hour appointment) because it turned to an overnight. I had to tell him to just take a cab home. I don't like to do that, but it goes to show even though I can play the role of being the spontaneous, last minute sex God on command, how many esxorts end up breaking other obligations? And how many clients would break their obligations for us? Next to none.

 

By the way, in many cases, when we "accept how they are" once, they do it again and again. It ends up becoming a pattern of subtle disregard. In the case of overnight client, again, great client. But our first session he called last minute after 930 on SNOW DAY to be there in AN HOUR. He ended up calling me again later that week, but even later. 3:30 am. That time I didn't bother answering. I'm not going to be pushed around. He was a visitor though so we probably won't cross paths again.

 

Like, I see it like this. I understand the situation. Or maybe I don't. But all the time? Not even a nights before heads up or any attempt to come up with a mutually agreeable/convenient time? Come on. Especially when I travel and my other regulars tend to be able to plan stuff out. I know this is business, but just like any other business and any other relationship, you almost have to demand respect or you won't get it. If asking for it means losing a client, then that's not burning bridges, that's water under the bridge.

 

Just because we're escorts and its business doesn't mean normal courtesy should go out the window. I wouldn't accept a guy I'm dating to do me like that, my barber wouldn't accept that type of response (let's not even talk about what a barber/doctor/salon would say in that response). So, I don't really feel I should have to accept that from a client ALL the time. If the guy is new, it's his first time....that's understandable. And perfectly fine. But not a regular.

 

Now, with this particular client I probably won't make an issue out of it because our appointments are basic, short and easy. But, I might bring up the fact that in the future....I might have aquarium cleaning duty the day he calls...and I don't want to smell like fish when he shows up. So maybe a little heads up?

[+ purplekow]

I usually plan for a meeting. I wish that I led the kind of life in which I could suddenly decide, I am horny, let me make a booty call to a hot escort.

I am confused however, if he is horny and he wants some right now, should he not call you? I think what I would do, if I were in this situation, time and money and a hard on rarin' to go, I would start at A (i see you there under A Alec Andrews) and work my way to Z in order to get laid and if you are not the guy for me right then, thanks and a no thanks it is from you, so I am going elsewhere to bust this particular nut.

[Mocha]

I am confused however, if he is horny and he wants some right now, should he not call you? I think what I would do, if I were in this situation, time and money and a hard on rarin' to go, I would start at A (i see you there under A Alec Andrews) and work my way to Z in order to get laid and if you are not the guy for me right then, thanks and a no thanks it is from you, so I am going elsewhere to bust this particular nut.

 

Wait a second. Stop. Everyone lets rewind.

 

Notice how the title includes regular and never. Im not saying a client can't call right now. In fact, I'd say a good majority of clients want it yesterday. I'd also say that I often like right now because it's no fluff, straight to the point, and I myself may either need the money or be equally horned up. I also understand new clients may be more nervous, and may finally work up to book when they find the courage. In that case, I have to be there in the moment to catch them.

 

But, it's the ones who've been seeing me for a year or 2, and just can't seem to ever say, "hey, I want to see you this Tuesday, will you be available?" But then, I'm also just boggled about the response when you can't meet right away.

 

Think about it. You call your barber, auto repair shop or whatever appointment/walk-in type place. You ask if you can come right away. They say, "I can see you at 4 (but that's too late for client). Then client says, "I'll call back another day or later". And THEN, do it all the time for months and years. I doubt the reaction would be as shoulder-brushing as mine. They wouldn't (or, maybe they would and suck at scheduling) play with a business like that, why play me like that?

 

That's why I'm starting to feel I have to start addressing it. Face to face. Because maybe they don't realize they are being offensive. It comes off as impatient, pushy, and like your services don't really mean shit. But of course, they come back so obviously it does.

[+ poolboy48220]

I think a restaurant may be a better analogy. If they're too busy, I'll find another restaurant. I can wait a day or two for a haircut or have my oil changed.

[MiamiLooker]

Why whine about something you can’t change? Adapt to it, or if it annoys you so much, find a different career.

[LouieD]

I think a restaurant may be a better analogy. If they're too busy, I'll find another restaurant. I can wait a day or two for a haircut or have my oil changed.

I have read this thread through from the beginning and I think escorts and clients alike have given you excellent responses on how to handle this "problem".

 

Yet, you still seem annoyed. For your own peace of mind, I suggest you ask these clients to look elsewhere for "last minute" services as it is too much of a distraction from your private life. Then, I would seriously evaluate whether this is the right job for you.

[+ Keith30309]

One approach is the "advance booking fee" that a gentleman in Austin has been using. It totally turned me off and made what would have been a "likely" into a "definitely not" for me but apparently it works for some people.

 

I concur with Louie and would limit your clients to those who don't drive you bonkers. I know of a couple of dentists who decline to accept appointments from patients who are chronic problems - it's just not worth the hassle.

I try to be courteous, respectful and professional in every interaction and my experience is that works well for those I click with and likely doesn't matter for those with whom I do not. I think it is reasonable to expect this and reasonable to decline when it's not forthcoming from either party.

[Rudynate]

That pretty much describes my schedule.

 

Me too. It's either plan it two weeks in advance and put it on my schedule like any other appointment, or on the spur of the moment because I have some unexpected free time.

[tanman4u]

When I'm hiring it's when I'm traveling on business. Only twice have I ever scheduled a session well in advance, both with well reviewed escorts one of whom is the OP to this thread. They were both guys I had been lusting over for years and I wanted to make sure I didn't miss the opportunity.

 

Normally however I try to avoid advance bookings because I never know when something with work might suddenly change (dinner with a biz associate, etc.) and I don't want to ever have to cancel with little notice unless I was deathly ill. For the most part once I see that I'm going to be free for an evening or a couple of hours I'll jump online to A4A and see who's also online. And that works not only for escorts but also for non-professional hookups. When I know I'll be visiting a city I start cruising guys there and doing some chatting with them. I keep the emails from ones I find compatible and once I see I'm going to be free for the evening I start down the list to see who's available then. Do I occasionally discover that no one is available and I'm left alone and horny? Sure. But I can take care of the horniness myself pretty quickly. But I hate to cancel on someone with whom I've arranged a hookup ESPECIALLY if it's an escort. I would feel terrible about it even if I found a way to send compensation to make up for it.

[Mocha]

Why whine about something you can’t change? Adapt to it, or if it annoys you so much, find a different career.

 

Why write a review for a guy you already met and/or won't plan to again?

 

That said...I would actually have to find a different career if I did only take last minute bookings. The big bucks, my favorite clients, the nicest, fanciest resturaunts I've been to, the seeing 50 states....comes from stuff planned out, not the "horny right now" brigade. So again, like I told someone else, like dr. Phil likes to say it....sit your ass down.

 

That being said, I think I presented my solution, and read other possible alternatives as well, and I'll address and offer alternatives with the client at hand. I highly doubt your failure-oriented solution/frame of thought (aka loser mentality) would even be remotely close to my clients response. Nobody wants to get punched in the face....but this is the internet. Have a great weekend everyone!

[recency]

In business, I learned that if I could fit in a "rush assignment" I'd do it. If I couldn't or it looked dubious, I reluctantly said no and apologized. I didn't stop to consider the motives of the client. Sometimes the same clients asked for a "rush" quite often. But, business is business, and my goal to was to make money, so if I could do it I did. It occurred to me that some were a bit, shall we say, disorganized, and that others seemed to think that I sat by the phone waiting for them. Everybody paid. I ate and kept a roof over my head. I put it down to "That's life." As to escorts, I always arrange for "in calls" and do not give a lot of notice: usually a day or two, sometimes longer if by e-mail. My schedule isn't too flexible, and it changes outside of my control, although thankfully I have never had to cancel on an escort. So there it is.

[tsgarp]

Does anyone happen to have a regular client like that? I've been blessed with 2, one of which I had to stop taking appointments from because it was getting ridiculous. Even after suggesting he call me ahead.

 

It usually goes like this: The call comes around the same times, but the day can be random. Often times it is weeks or months apart. And it seems to be that if you can't meet within an hour, or try to schedule for a time beyond that, they respond with something like, I'll try you back later. Or "another day". No alternative time, even if offered. Then, they call again in the future, but in the same fashion. Last minute, expecting availability right then.

 

I probably shouldn't take it personal, but I just find it disrespectful to a degree. Yet these guys are very respectful otherwise, but how they book comes off otherwise. Also, if their time is very constrained, I'd think planning ahead would be better. I also realize clients may have 101 reasons for having to do it that way. But, the clients in particular I know are not having extra-marital affairs, so it seems to be more out of habit or being in the moment versus some 3rd party force.

 

I'm questioning, if its worth bringing it up or should I just roll with it, or not? For me, I don't mind same day calls, but something about, "I'll call back another day", or some other blank date response when you can't meet within a spontaneous, narrow offer of time comes off unappreciative and taking me for granted. Again, not to get personal, but Im referring to clients I've seen for awhile. They know me. One of my younger friends says, "well I'm the same way, I don't know if I'll be horny at Wednesday at 3 pm". Not that his reason speaks for all last minute clients reasoning, but it seems like too much of a head fuck. I think what it really boils down to, is some men don't want to be obligated...which is sweet, they want to be sure and not cancel. But in reality they probably already know ahead of time that they'll be ringing.

 

You've got to roll with it. The nature of hiring for many of us is about finding moments when we're actually free and able to do so. If you're available, great - if you're not, so be it. As long as the client isn't expecting you to be available at the drop of a hat, what's the harm in being asked?