Fetishes

[nycguy]

What, if any, is the most prevalent fetish that is requested of you? That which is beyond the standard fucking and sucking - WS, role play, FF, S&M, B&D, nipple play, public play, etc?

 

Do fetish requests make it more interesting for you or something you avoid?

[Jake_Raleigh]

I do tend to offer bondage play, with gear I bring to my appointments. I do get into nipple play, cbt, ropes, hot wax, hoods, paddle play, to name a few. But, that is not my main focus. I also work with another escort locally, as it seems a DUO scenario seems to favor better than a solo with Bondage. Hope that feedback helps.

[Guest ChrisW]

Fetish requests generally lead to some of the most interesting sessions.

 

I had a client that hired me about a year ago that said he wanted to do a spanking scene. He called me up and described this elaborate encounter he wanted that sounded like good fun to me so I had him come over to my place the next day. After 5 minutes of spanking he looked out of sorts so I stopped and asked what was wrong. He said, "I have been jerking off to this fantasy for 30 years and I never expected it to hurt". A spanking scene hurting who would have thought!

 

The thing about fetish scenes is that what you see in porn is VERY different than the reality. Often times people bite off more than they can chew because they are so excited to try something new. If your going to engage in kink make sure the person your playing with knows what they are doing especially if its an extreme kink like fisting or impact play

[m4hotness]

Fetish requests generally lead to some of the most interesting sessions.

 

I had a client that hired me about a year ago that said he wanted to do a spanking scene. He called me up and described this elaborate encounter he wanted that sounded like good fun to me so I had him come over to my place the next day. After 5 minutes of spanking he looked out of sorts so I stopped and asked what was wrong. He said, "I have been jerking off to this fantasy for 30 years and I never expected it to hurt". A spanking scene hurting who would have thought!

 

The thing about fetish scenes is that what you see in porn is VERY different than the reality. Often times people bite off more than they can chew because they are so excited to try something new. If your going to engage in kink make sure the person your playing with knows what they are doing especially if its an extreme kink like fisting or impact play

 

 

What is impact play?

[Guest ChrisW]

Using an implement such as a paddle, riding crop, flogger, or whip

[+ purplekow]

Fetish requests generally lead to some of the most interesting sessions.

 

I had a client that hired me about a year ago that said he wanted to do a spanking scene. He called me up and described this elaborate encounter he wanted that sounded like good fun to me so I had him come over to my place the next day. After 5 minutes of spanking he looked out of sorts so I stopped and asked what was wrong. He said, "I have been jerking off to this fantasy for 30 years and I never expected it to hurt". A spanking scene hurting who would have thought!

 

The thing about fetish scenes is that what you see in porn is VERY different than the reality. Often times people bite off more than they can chew because they are so excited to try something new. If your going to engage in kink make sure the person your playing with knows what they are doing especially if its an extreme kink like fisting or impact play

Amusing story Chris. Fantasies are just that and reality is usually a whole lot more real. The sexy man with thick kissable lips and also with cigarette breath, the muscle man whose muscles are hard as steel but his penis is not, the innocent twink with the swastika tattoo across his back, the hot assed, tight panted sex on stick with bleeding hemorrhoids are real beyond the pale. Yeah, reality can be a bitch.

[Zman]

Fetish requests generally lead to some of the most interesting sessions.

After 5 minutes of spanking he looked out of sorts so I stopped and asked what was wrong. He said, "I have been jerking off to this fantasy for 30 years and I never expected it to hurt". A spanking scene hurting who would have thought!

 

LOL this is so similar to some of my early experiments being spanked. It's tricky making a fantasy into reality sometimes. It took many tries but I did finallyfigure out how to make it into a super hot experience.

 

You look like a capable spanker, Chris. I hope you come to LA sometime.

[whipped guy]

Funny going back to what an S&M scene in porn consisted of the the last century experiencing it in reality was much better, more satisfying, and more involving with much more action. Things were much tamer back then... as in those Daddy Zeus produced films.

 

Today it is a different story. Bound Gods previews are so "over the top" and the equipment used so sophisticated that it is virtually impossible to replicate unless one has access to a full service dungeon facility... even a play space such as Paddles in NYC pales in comparison to what Bound Gods is producing.

[Zman]

I don't really find BG videos erotic. It's not my scene. But the elaborate equipment and crazy inventiveness of it all is sometimes worth watching on its own.

[whipped guy]

I don't really find BG videos erotic. It's not my scene. But the elaborate equipment and crazy inventiveness of it all is sometimes worth watching on its own.

Exactly... Not exactly reality in my book and gives the wrong impression of how such fetishes are played out in reality.

[+ quoththeraven]

Impact play is an extreme kink? Ahaha, and here I thought I was swimming in the shallow(er) end of the pool.

 

I've always thought of open-handed spanking as impact play even though no implement is used. In my case, flogging hurt more than spanking but left fewer marks and healed faster.

[whipped guy]

Impact play is an extreme kink? Ahaha, and here I thought I was swimming in the shallow(er) end of the pool.

 

I've always thought of open-handed spanking as impact play even though no implement is used. In my case, flogging hurt more than spanking but left fewer marks and healed faster.

Well there's flogging and there's flogging... and lots of factors are involved... If you do a search in the Fetish Forum you will find postings on the subject... I did extensive posting on purchasing a flogger.

 

Still something talks me that Ravens are tough old birds to be "swimming in the shallow end of the pool". But ONLY in the metaphorical sense!!! Really!!!!

[Zman]

Yes another thing I don't really connect with watching Bound Gods is that I just can't see anyone really enjoy themselves. Porn works best (for me) if I can believe the models are really into it. I don't get that feeling with BG.

 

I've seen some in person flogging before. I loved it. I wouldn't ever want to give or receive myself so it was a treat to be in a setting (that is, a gay bar) where it was a spectator sport for the evening.

[Guest ChrisW]

Yes another thing I don't really connect with watching Bound Gods is that I just can't see anyone really enjoy themselves. Porn works best (for me) if I can believe the models are really into it. I don't get that feeling with BG.

 

I've seen some in person flogging before. I loved it. I wouldn't ever want to give or receive myself so it was a treat to be in a setting (that is, a gay bar) where it was a spectator sport for the evening.

I hate to pull back the curtain but porn is generally not fun or sexy to film. The stress positions that the actors are put in to get a good shot are out of the CIA's "enhanced interrogation" handbook.

 

As for BG and most of the gay porn put out by kink.com its so over the top its not even sexy to watch. When I watch BG I don't want to stroke my dick, I want to give the actor an ice pack and tell them everything is going to be okay.

[whipped guy]

I hate to pull back the curtain but porn is generally not fun or sexy to film. The stress positions that the actors are put in to get a good shot are out of the CIA's "enhanced interrogation" handbook.

 

As for BG and most of the gay porn put out by kink.com its so over the top its not even sexy to watch. When I watch BG I don't want to stroke my dick, I want to give the actor an ice pack and tell them everything is going to be okay.

EXACTLY!!! A lot of it gives the wrong impression... They give the sub a safe word at the beginning of the shoots that I have seen, but may the gods curse him if he uses it... and if he does use it I'm quite sure that portion of the scene falls on the cutting room floor!

 

Heaven knows those guys are tough, and I have seen similar things and even tried to replicate some scenes... BUT WITHIN REASON!!! It's WAAAAAAY over the top at times.

 

Years ago, back in the early 1980's I ordered a S&M toy from a place in California... It looked lethal in the ad copy... It was very tame when I received it... So tame as to cause minimal discomfort, but would give the impression of discomfort. I was a bit disappointed, but was told that the toy was designed for reality... How BDSM was practiced in real life... Not a bad thing for safely and sanity as it was a CBT toy.

 

All things being relative... as things are indeed more adventurous today... I think that the same concept applies.

 

As for porn stars getting stressed, I had one guy cancel on me a few years ago, because they could not get the scene they wanted and we're going into triple overtime... He knew that he would be totally spent... and said it would not be fair to me. I appreciated that.

[m4hotness]

Using an implement such as a paddle, riding crop, flogger, or whip

Thanks Chris!

[BaronArtz]

What, if any, is the most prevalent fetish that is requested of you? That which is beyond the standard fucking and sucking - WS, role play, FF, S&M, B&D, nipple play, public play, etc?

 

Do fetish requests make it more interesting for you or something you avoid?

 

What my friend (a retired escort) told me is the following: some fetish requests are actually very easy to accomplish and require minimal effort - for a potentially higher financial reward than a 'regular' appointment.

 

One example was a client, living in a swanky Central Park West apartment, who would ask him to come over, undress, squat down and poop on a newspaper spread out on top of rug. No other activity required. No touching, no nothing. The client would keep his clothes on, sit on a couch and watch. For that, he received $300. Done in 10 minutes.

 

The other example involved a fist fucking client. Prior to his arrival, the client did get naked and had spent considerable time stretching his love hole with dildos and other toys. My friend had to show up, put a rubber glove on and just fist fuck him - if you think about it, it requires no effort other than small arm movements. Far less physical effort than a regular top scene. For that, he was very well compensated, above and beyond the fee for a 'regular' session.

 

So, does it make it more interesting? Some requests offer a great payout for what in fact is a minimal effort. Provided you can get yourself to actually DO it.

[+ quoththeraven]

Well there's flogging and there's flogging... and lots of factors are involved... If you do a search in the Fetish Forum you will find postings on the subject... I did extensive posting on purchasing a flogger.

 

Still something talks me that Ravens are tough old birds to be "swimming in the shallow end of the pool". But ONLY in the metaphorical sense!!! Really!!!!

 

So which was the metaphor: "tough old bird[]" or "swimming in the shallow end of the pool"?

 

I read your post on purchasing a flogger awhile ago, though I'm not in the market for one; bad shoulders and aim mean I'm staying far away from being the top or Dom in most painplay situations. Simple bondage/knots are more my speed. But if it weren't for my physical limitations, I'd be a switch.

[Zman]

Porn with multiple guys 3,4,5,more also falls prey to becoming boring. It almost becomes an exercise in geometry. "Lets see we have 30 different parts here. How many permutations and combinations can we get on camera."

 

For me though, the porn maker and models have to present something where I can fantasize the guys are enjoying themselves and into each other. How they get there and how much stress there is is not my problem.

[Rudynate]

Years ago, there was a monthly S&M party in San Francisco called "Leathernecks." I would occasionally go. There was a good-looking, hunky top with a big moustache who was there all the time, who seemed completely oblivious to me. His thing was whipping and flogging. He always wore a heavy leather belt that he used on people. I decided that it was up to me to make it happen if it was going to, so I walked up to him and said," How would like to work me over with that big belt of yours?" He was surprised because, as a top, he was used to being the initiator. But he warmed up to the idea and he stripped his belt off and started whaling on me with it.

 

It wasn't play acting, he was hitting me hard. Every lash of the belt brought tears to my eyes. But it was HOT. The next day my butt was black and blue and I had trouble sitting. I've never had the urge to do it again, but I'm glad I did it that once.

[whipped guy]

So which was the metaphor: "tough old bird[]" or "swimming in the shallow end of the pool"?

 

I read your post on purchasing a flogger awhile ago, though I'm not in the market for one; bad shoulders and aim mean I'm staying far away from being the top or Dom in most painplay situations. Simple bondage/knots are more my speed. But if it weren't for my physical limitations, I'd be a switch.

Well I'm working on a bum shoulder that is playing havoc with my attempts at Florentine flogging... Fortunately the shoulder is not on my dominant side.

 

Unfortunately I never paid attention when a Boy Scout so I'm not exactly swift when it comes to knots and tying etc.

[jimboivyo]

most of what folks here are talking about are S&M fetish. there's a ton of other sex fetish out there

[Guest ChrisW]

The other example involved a fist fucking client. Prior to his arrival, the client did get naked and had spent considerable time stretching his love hole with dildos and other toys. My friend had to show up, put a rubber glove on and just fist fuck him - if you think about it, it requires no effort other than small arm movements. Far less physical effort than a regular top scene. For that, he was very well compensated, above and beyond the fee for a 'regular' session.

 

I am going to have to disagree on this. While fisting may not be cardio like fucking it does require skill. I have known several people who have had there colon punctured because they had someone who pushed them to far. You need to be able to read your bottom muscles as well as know how to navigate someones intestines. Fisting can create an amazing connection between top and bottom that leaves a lasting bond like but like any other kink safety comes first. If your going to hire someone for a specific kink your interested be it fisting, bondage, or something else make sure they are knowledge about what they are doing.

[BaronArtz]

I am going to have to disagree on this. While fisting may not be cardio like fucking it does require skill. I have known several people who have had there colon punctured because they had someone who pushed them to far. You need to be able to read your bottom muscles as well as know how to navigate someones intestines. Fisting can create an amazing connection between top and bottom that leaves a lasting bond like but like any other kink safety comes first. If your going to hire someone for a specific kink your interested be it fisting, bondage, or something else make sure they are knowledge about what they are doing.

 

You make a very good point. I am not disagreeing. What I was referring to, was the difference in cardio effort spent between topping and fisting. But you are right, I am not saying that just about anybody should go out there and start fisting people. If you can, though, the financial rewards are there - fisting appointments pay more than regular appointments, no?

[Guest ChrisW]

From what I know most escorts charge the same. Like I said before what you see in porn is very different than the reality and the same goes for fisting. Its a lot of fun and more than anything is like a massage for your ass, its not about punching a hole out.

 

While fisting may not be cardio it is tiring because your muscles are engaged for hours at a time.

 

This is great article from the handball academy titled, "The Sacred Art of Fisting"

http://handballacademy.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/SAOF_Final_web.pdf