Hoping to get f-cked for the first time on Friday... Any advice?

[Decatur Guy]

So very glad this went well for you!

 

I got nailed tonight as well by a good visiting top. Two weeks in row by two different new escorts to me. Gonna take April off. LOL.

[RadioRob]

Congrats!! I'm so glad you had fun!

[TruHart1]

This is Yankee--reporting back to all my coaches. I can't thank you all enough for bringing me over to the other side. I had my two hour appointment earlier today, and I'm still in this amazing, almost intoxicating fog of ecstasy. Thanks guys!!

 

...I can say that today I was transformed from an uptight nerd who was uneasy/guilty talking about sex into a complete whore, and now I can't wait to get back in bed with this guy and some others.

 

...Thanks boys. Hope I can return the favor sometime soon. ~~Yankee

 

Way to go Yankee!!! The guys here, both clients AND escorts, are the most helpful people you can find on this internet thingy!!! Now that you've been "where no man's gone before" (or rather, your escort has!) you can enjoy that major g-spot called the prostate, hopefully again and again!!!

 

TruHart1

[gregkidman]

Yankee, I am curious, who was your escort? Is there a reason that you could not mention your escort's name?

[+ Gar1eth]

Glad everything worked out in the (your) end!!!

 

 

Gman

[mike carey]

Yankee, I have to say I'm elated that it all worked out for you. I'll be watching the reviews for yours to pop up!

[Guest Starbuck]

...As odd as it sounds, I spend my whole life telling everyone else what to do--co-workers, assistants, household staff, my kids (to a lesser extent, my wife)--but for some reason I wanted to be dominated and broken in by a really dominant and verbal guy (who still knew how to be gentle when going into me).

 

Something sounds odd about that?

 

(Congratulations, Yankee!)

[mike carey]

Something sounds odd about that?

 

Not odd at all, Yankee found that his traditional way of approaching others didn't work in this sexual context. Kudos to him for realising this.

[bobchitown]

This is Yankee--reporting back to all my coaches. I can't thank you all enough for bringing me over to the other side. I had my two hour appointment earlier today, and I'm still in this amazing, almost intoxicating fog of ecstasy. Thanks guys!!

 

...As odd as it sounds, I spend my whole life telling everyone else what to do--coworkers, assistants, household staff, my kids (to a lesser extent, my wife)--but for some reason I wanted to be dominated and broken in by a really dominant and verbal guy (who still knew how to be gentle when going into me). ... ~~Yankee

 

This. I understand the feeling. I also spend my entire life in a very high profile stress-filled position. While I give my people lots of space to do their jobs, I'm the type of person who at the end of the day takes ownership of everything my team does. When they win they get the glory, when something goes wrong I take the fall. Escort time is play time. I don't need to show off, I don't need to try to pick up someone, I can walk in the door and just be Bob and let someone else take over for awhile. Heaven.

[+ Charlie]

Lots of escorts have told me that it is the control freaks who want/need this type of giving up control during sex in order to really enjoy themselves. Makes sense to me.

 

What I wonder about is this: You have successfully achieved one goal; now what happens? Does simply repeating the experience again and again become a new routine, or is this a gateway to other changes in your life?

[+ Just Sayin]

I have the same question as Charlie's; it sounds like you've found something that you have wanted and needed, but now what happens? Do you go back to being the same person you've been, or does this lead to other changes? This is something many of us here have experienced, and I for one am so curious about how this changes the rest of your life.

[+ purplekow]

Lots of escorts have told me that it is the control freaks who want/need this type of giving up control during sex in order to really enjoy themselves. Makes sense to me.

 

What I wonder about is this: You have successfully achieved one goal; now what happens? Does simply repeating the experience again and again become a new routine, or is this a gateway to other changes in your life?

 

 

I find that when I feel out of control of some aspects of my life, I prefer to have a sexual encounter in which I am very much in control. I particularly enjoy the final moments of these encounters, when, after I feel as though I have regained some perspective, I can then surrender to being cuddled and kept warm by my partner's body heat.

When my life is going well, I am much more flexible in my encounters, more amenable to my partner leading and driving the action (though not the act). The end point is the same, a contented, loving embrace for several minutes of sustained, blissful peace and then back to reality.

The main reason I enjoy it when my partner comes is, that it seems a man who has just come is much better at lying back and really appreciating his partner and he more readily shares his contentment through his body motions, sexual heat, masculine scent and the total relaxation of his muscles which were seconds before straining to contract so as to allow the sweaty orgasm to dominate them. A man who has just come, is a much more relaxed and loving partner, bringing inexplicable quietude to the mind and the body for a memorably peaceful, post coital embrace which usually lasts several minutes, but when I am with the right person, may last hours.

[Indigo]

This is Yankee--reporting back to all my coaches. I can't thank you all enough for bringing me over to the other side. I had my two hour appointment earlier today, and I'm still in this amazing, almost intoxicating fog of ecstasy. Thanks guys!!

 

I'm glad I picked this well-reviewed guy, and I'm glad I booked two hours because it was such a wild, exciting, scary and fun two hours that I called my secretary and told her that I was not coming back to the office. I just left my car where it was, started walking in a daze toward my office, and finally got in a cab and headed instead to go my apartment. As I revealed earlier, I'm in my late 40s and I've only had sex with my wife and two prior girlfriends. In my personal life, I'm an uptight ivy league control freak of a lawyer, and I've never had fun in bed because the women I've been with have never enjoyed it or worked hard at it. Hence my fantasies about guys over the last few years. Well, now I get it! As odd as it sounds, I spend my whole life telling everyone else what to do--coworkers, assistants, household staff, my kids (to a lesser extent, my wife)--but for some reason I wanted to be dominated and broken in by a really dominant and verbal guy (who still knew how to be gentle when going into me). It worked. I listened to all your advice about breathing, about pushing out even when it felt like I was going to the bathroom, about lube and the prostate being my friend, and about telling him exactly what I wanted and didn't want. He listened to everything, and I even warned him that I have a team of coaches (YOU) and we can't let'em down! Without going on too long here (cuz I am writing his review), I can say that today I was transformed from an uptight nerd who was uneasy/guilty talking about sex into a complete whore, and now I can't wait to get back in bed with this guy and some others.

 

I've got to go back downtown now to pick up the car I was too mentally fogged over to drive earlier today after my session, but I think I may have just gotten a new swagger in my step. Thanks boys. Hope I can return the favor sometime soon. ~~Yankee

 

This is the most fascinating and helpful thread that I have read in a very long time. Yankee, could you PM me the escort's name? I am in a similar predicament and I would like to get in touch with this escort when I am in NYC. I am not a virgin but I have bottomed only twice with the same escort many years ago. Since then I have not been able to find the right one to bottom with. Any help from you on this would be most welcome

[loverboy95]

Yankee, congratulations and I am glad to hear everything went well!

[+ Gar1eth]

Guys- it sounds like it was great sex and that he really enjoyed it. But let's not put too much of a burden on Yankee. I mean maybe it will be a life altering experience. But maybe it was just great sex.

 

And maybe I'm just weird but for me-the main thing it changed was that I wasn't a virgin anymore. I could no longer tear myself up over the fact that I wasn't able to have/do what teenagers in 3rd world countries could/were doing. And while I liked the sex and wanted to have more-it still didn't change my feelings on being gay-well maybe it did-but it took 10 more years of hiring before there was a noticeable difference. And I'm still not copacetic with being gay. I'm better than I was.

 

So all I'm trying to say is let Yankee have his good time in peace. Let him find out for himself what this experience means without any expectations. If it turns out to just be good sex-that's all it needs to be.

 

Gman

[+ newatthis]

Lots of escorts have told me that it is the control freaks who want/need this type of giving up control during sex in order to really enjoy themselves. Makes sense to me....

I've experienced the same thing with straight dancers I've taken home from strip clubs who want to bottom. Blew my mind the first time (on the way to my hotel, when I found out he had a girlfriend, I suggested it would be better if I just turned around and took him home -- he replied "why are you so narrow-minded?") When I shared this experience with an escort, he told me that most of his married clients prefer to bottom.

[gallahadesquire]

I've experienced the same thing with straight dancers I've taken home from strip clubs who want to bottom. Blew my mind the first time (on the way to my hotel, when I found out he had a girlfriend, I suggested it would be better if I just turned around and took him home -- he replied "why are you so narrow-minded?") When I shared this experience with an escort, he told me that most of his married clients prefer to bottom.

 

Well, makes sense. Short a strap on or something equally inanimate, it's about the only reasonable alternative:

 

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