Have you ever felt very physically frightened by an escort?

[Man Crush Morris]

Hello,

 

I tend to like muscular, athletic smooth guys around 6' and 190-200 lbs. It's pretty much my only taste in men and I'm very particular - I probably encounter less than one guy a year (or longer) that rings my bell, though admittedly I encounter one woman every ten minutes that I find attractive. This makes finding a guy that turns me on fairly difficult.

 

The problem is that most of the guys I am attracted to are physically very strong and potentially intimidating. All of them could physically make mince meat out of me quickly and it's always in the back of my mind since when I hire I feel very vulnerable - nude, exposed, laying beneath the guy and him pretty much in a very dominant position.

 

On top of that, while I do have that base concern, at the same time I find that fear to be part of my turn on. Not that I deliberately seek dangerous looking guys, but the fear based on the physical disparity gets me excited.

 

All that being said, I have been lucky in that I've never been in a truly frightening situation where I was genuinely afraid for my safety.

 

Anyone else walk this line and otherwise dealt with it? Or has anyone been in a genuinelyffrightening situation in this scene?

 

Thanks,

 

Morris

[bigvalboy]

Twice. Probably 30+ years ago. I stood my ground on both occasions, but should not have. Age and hindsight affords me that conclusion. I could easily have been featured on the Eleven o'clock news.

[rguer]

A retired escort of my acquaintance told me he retired because he had been frightened by a client - like bigvalboy, he thought he might end up on the 11 O'Clock News, and that was the end of the business for him.

[rvwnsd]

I can truthfully say I have never been frightened or physically intimidated by an escort. However, I am well over 6 feet tall and despite having long/thin muscles I have a very large bone structure that makes me look much more physically imposing than I actually am. (Although one friend joked that by tripping and falling onto someone I could accidentally cause them major harm, which I suppose is true)

 

My advice to you, ManCrush, is to use this forum as a way to vet escorts that turn you on. In previous threads I have mentioned that in my experience the best hires have been guys who had not been reviewed. Given your safety concerns, don't follow my hiring method. You should only hire guys that have been hired by trusted posters who will provide you with honest feedback.

 

A great way to get feedback is to post an information request to The Deli and invite guys to private message (or "PM") you if they have information to share. When I've done that other members have always been willing to help.

 

I hope this helps you. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions or would like information about a specific escort.

[gallahadesquire]

Hello,

 

I tend to like muscular, athletic smooth guys around 6' and 190-200 lbs. It's pretty much my only taste in men and I'm very particular - I probably encounter less than one guy a year (or longer) that rings my bell, though admittedly I encounter one woman every ten minutes that I find attractive. This makes finding a guy that turns me on fairly difficult.

 

The problem is that most of the guys I am attracted to are physically very strong and potentially intimidating. All of them could physically make mince meat out of me quickly and it's always in the back of my mind since when I hire I feel very vulnerable - nude, exposed, laying beneath the guy and him pretty much in a very dominant position.

 

On top of that, while I do have that base concern, at the same time I find that fear to be part of my turn on. Not that I deliberately seek dangerous looking guys, but the fear based on the physical disparity gets me excited.

 

All that being said, I have been lucky in that I've never been in a truly frightening situation where I was genuinely afraid for my safety.

 

Anyone else walk this line and otherwise dealt with it? Or has anyone been in a genuinelyffrightening situation in this scene?

 

Thanks,

 

Morris

 

I commiserate with your taste in men. My two [sequential] Personal Trainers haven't helped. I've never felt threatened, even with Bryan Knight, who's 6'6" and 330#. He's still a sweetie with me,

although he writes that he likes to be rough.

 

I echo what rvmnsd says. Do your homework and, above all, listen to your gut feeling! It helped me out professional so many times - "I wouldn't do that if I were you!" -

that our big Head says to the little one.

 

Lie back kand, most of all, enjoy! Also have a friend who knows where you are and with whom you have to check in.

[+ purplekow]

Early in my hiring career, I was in Vegas and I hired a man from a chat room. He was physically very attractive but, as it turns out, gay for pay. I met him in the bar of my hotel and inadvertently added to the danger by buying a few drinks for us both. He coulde not handle his liquor and soon after he got to my room he was slurring his words and was generally aggressive in pursuing activities I was not interested in performing. i felt very uneasy but no so much so that I asked him to leave, but I have to say, my goal was to make him come and make him go. I was glad when he was gone.

I agree with you that the danger adds to the pleasure, but in this case, the danger added to the pleasure of my pleasuring myself after he was gone. In my masturbatory fantasy, I fucked him long and hard and had him begging for more.

[armadillo]

Great question!

This happened recently to me after I asked a masseur if I could cuddle with him. He said yes, but after about 7 seconds of 'spooning' him, I thought he was going to turn around a punch me.

Will not be repeated, and I might not see him for a massage any more.

[rvwnsd]

...I've never felt threatened, even with Bryan Knight, who's 6'6" and 330#. He's still a sweetie with me,

although he writes that he likes to be rough...

 

In my mind, there is a difference between an escort who can play rough and can be gentle, based on his client's desires, and an escort who intimidates, threatens, or imposes upon his client. Based on what you have said, Bryan Knight falls into the first category.

 

...above all, listen to your gut feeling! ...

 

Amen!! If you are uneasy, uncomfortable, or just doubtful about the situation then STOP. Regardless how many forum members endorse an escort, it is YOUR experience and if it is not going the way you want it to then it is time to pause and determine whether the scene can continue or needs to end. Likewise, if you are chatting or emailing with an escort and you don't like what you are hearing you should politely decline to hire.

 

Great question!

This happened recently to me after I asked a masseur if I could cuddle with him. He said yes, but after about 7 seconds of 'spooning' him, I thought he was going to turn around a punch me.

Will not be repeated, and I might not see him for a massage any more.

 

If I may offer some advice, replace "might not" with "will not." There's no call for that kind of behavior. He could easily have said " hey, I'm not comfortable with this, let's cool things down."

[jakeleyman]

Morris it can definitely happen...and it has little to do perhaps with your size or the other guy's strength. I have been physically threatened three times over the years and was pretty lucky I was not injured. It resulted from my similar sexual interest in guys on the edge, picked up from mostly rough bars in the French Quarter and taken to expensive hotels. Two of them returned at a later date asking for more financial assistance. I think it also results from the unconscious display of advantage which contrasts extremely with the lives of guys down on their luck. Obviously the solution to this is to follow the addage of hiring well-reviewed guys off this site, but as you know, sexual desire is hard to shake even when you know you are off course..

[jawjateck]

Had a weird one many years ago. He mistook me for another client who had requested a rough scene. Slapped me in the face twice. Concerned about the deteriorating situation, I punched him in the nose. He was apologetic about his error. We called it a night, and obviously, I never hired him again.

[+ poolboy48220]

Not really. I tend to prefer a scene where the guy is taking charge, but if they get too dominant for my tastes, and I say so, they've always been good about taking it back a notch.

[Man Crush Morris]

Bigvalboy,

 

Thank you for replying. No way I'd stand my ground, especially to a physically stronger man than I am. Just not my nature. I'm very glad you weren't featured on the news, though.

[Man Crush Morris]

A retired escort of my acquaintance told me he retired because he had been frightened by a client - like bigvalboy, he thought he might end up on the 11 O'Clock News, and that was the end of the business for him.

 

I see how the problem works both ways. Interesting. Thanks so much for replying.

[Man Crush Morris]

I can truthfully say I have never been frightened or physically intimidated by an escort. However, I am well over 6 feet tall and despite having long/thin muscles I have a very large bone structure that makes me look much more physically imposing than I actually am. (Although one friend joked that by tripping and falling onto someone I could accidentally cause them major harm, which I suppose is true)

 

My advice to you, ManCrush, is to use this forum as a way to vet escorts that turn you on. In previous threads I have mentioned that in my experience the best hires have been guys who had not been reviewed. Given your safety concerns, don't follow my hiring method. You should only hire guys that have been hired by trusted posters who will provide you with honest feedback.

 

A great way to get feedback is to post an information request to The Deli and invite guys to private message (or "PM") you if they have information to share. When I've done that other members have always been willing to help.

 

I hope this helps you. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions or would like information about a specific escort.

Thanks for your reply and advice,I really appreciate it.

 

I have asked the folks on the forum for advice on some guys that match my taste. The community here is very good and very supportive. The downside is that almost all of the guys I have asked about have been fakes, but that's just part of the process. The posters have been generous with info and I have reciprocated too, as I think it's not right to just take and not give advice and specific insights.

 

Thanks again, friend.

[Man Crush Morris]

I commiserate with your taste in men. My two [sequential] Personal Trainers haven't helped. I've never felt threatened, even with Bryan Knight, who's 6'6" and 330#. He's still a sweetie with me,

although he writes that he likes to be rough.

 

I echo what rvmnsd says. Do your homework and, above all, listen to your gut feeling! It helped me out professional so many times - "I wouldn't do that if I were you!" -

that our big Head says to the little one.

 

Lie back kand, most of all, enjoy! Also have a friend who knows where you are and with whom you have to check in.

Thanks for replying and the advice. I really go for guys withthat look, iit's pretty much the only kind of guy that gets my attention. It's a very specific taste but when I find a guy that hits the sweet spot, I just want to lay down for him. Powerful instinct of mine.

[Man Crush Morris]

Early in my hiring career, I was in Vegas and I hired a man from a chat room. He was physically very attractive but, as it turns out, gay for pay. I met him in the bar of my hotel and inadvertently added to the danger by buying a few drinks for us both. He coulde not handle his liquor and soon after he got to my room he was slurring his words and was generally aggressive in pursuing activities I was not interested in performing. i felt very uneasy but no so much so that I asked him to leave, but I have to say, my goal was to make him come and make him go. I was glad when he was gone.

I agree with you that the danger adds to the pleasure, but in this case, the danger added to the pleasure of my pleasuring myself after he was gone. In my masturbatory fantasy, I fucked him long and hard and had him begging for more.

Thanks for replying purplekow. Yes, I can see how introducing booze to the scene may not be a bad idea.

[Man Crush Morris]

Great question!

This happened recently to me after I asked a masseur if I could cuddle with him. He said yes, but after about 7 seconds of 'spooning' him, I thought he was going to turn around a punch me.

Will not be repeated, and I might not see him for a massage any more.

Thanks for replying. Seven seconds is a total disappointment. I hope that the massage was good at leas!

[Man Crush Morris]

In my mind, there is a difference between an escort who can play rough and can be gentle, based on his client's desires, and an escort who intimidates, threatens, or imposes upon his client. Based on what you have said, Bryan Knight falls into the first category.

 

 

 

Amen!! If you are uneasy, uncomfortable, or just doubtful about the situation then STOP. Regardless how many forum members endorse an escort, it is YOUR experience and if it is not going the way you want it to then it is time to pause and determine whether the scene can continue or needs to end. Likewise, if you are chatting or emailing with an escort and you don't like what you are hearing you should politely decline to hire.

 

 

 

If I may offer some advice, replace "might not" with "will not." There's no call for that kind of behavior. He could easily have said " hey, I'm not comfortable with this, let's cool things down."

Thanks for replying and for the good advice. I agree with you. I don't particularly like being roughed up, that doesn't excite me. I prefer a young muscular and masculine guy to be aggressive with me, though. I am just speaking to general risks of the scene, and not so much his manner but a concern about the physical disparity. In other words, if he just decides that he's had enough and changes the terms of the deal, and not deliver or is a mugger, or otherwise takes advantage of me in a vulnerable position.

[Man Crush Morris]

Morris it can definitely happen...and it has little to do perhaps with your size or the other guy's strength. I have been physically threatened three times over the years and was pretty lucky I was not injured. It resulted from my similar sexual interest in guys on the edge, picked up from mostly rough bars in the French Quarter and taken to expensive hotels. Two of them returned at a later date asking for more financial assistance. I think it also results from the unconscious display of advantage which contrasts extremely with the lives of guys down on their luck. Obviously the solution to this is to follow the addage of hiring well-reviewed guys off this site, but as you know, sexual desire is hard to shake even when you know you are off course..

 

Thanks for replying, and like I said above, I'm not really excited by dangerous looking or acting guys on the edge. I prefer Caucasian or Latin guys, mid 20s, personal trainer types with smooth muscled and athletic bodies, 190-200lbs, masculine, dark haired and featured. Just my taste. If anyone has a good recommendation in the nyc metro area, please send me a direct message. :-)

[Man Crush Morris]

Had a weird one many years ago. He mistook me for another client who had requested a rough scene. Slapped me in the face twice. Concerned about the deteriorating situation, I punched him in the nose. He was apologetic about his error. We called it a night, and obviously, I never hired him again.

Thanks for replying, and that sure is a weird situation. Glad you settled it down quick.

[Man Crush Morris]

Not really. I tend to prefer a scene where the guy is taking charge, but if they get too dominant for my tastes, and I say so, they've always been good about taking it back a notch.

 

Friend, I agree. Thanks for replying.

[Decatur Guy]

I never been frightened or misused or anything like that. I've had a couple of instances where I asked for rough sex and got it rougher than I expected. That's about it.

[down_to_business]

On two different occasions with 2 different escorts I thought I was going to be assaulted. I never hired either again although neither actually did take a swing at me. One of the two was a first time hire and the other was one I had seen several times before without ever feeling threatened (alcohol was involved in this one).

 

One other escort got a little rough with me during sex but I felt more surprised than threatened in that instant. Now when I recall it, it registers as somewhere between uncomfortable and hot. I never hired this guy again either, but it wasn't because of that and I guess I didn't really feel threatened in that instant.

[imrthr]

Hello,

 

I tend to like muscular, athletic smooth guys around 6' and 190-200 lbs. It's pretty much my only taste in men and I'm very particular - I probably encounter less than one guy a year (or longer) that rings my bell, though admittedly I encounter one woman every ten minutes that I find attractive. This makes finding a guy that turns me on fairly difficult.

 

The problem is that most of the guys I am attracted to are physically very strong and potentially intimidating. All of them could physically make mince meat out of me quickly and it's always in the back of my mind since when I hire I feel very vulnerable - nude, exposed, laying beneath the guy and him pretty much in a very dominant position.

 

On top of that, while I do have that base concern, at the same time I find that fear to be part of my turn on. Not that I deliberately seek dangerous looking guys, but the fear based on the physical disparity gets me excited.

 

All that being said, I have been lucky in that I've never been in a truly frightening situation where I was genuinely afraid for my safety.

 

Anyone else walk this line and otherwise dealt with it? Or has anyone been in a genuinelyffrightening situation in this scene?

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There is a well-reviewed escort that I saw many times. Initially, I met with this escort in a local hotel. After some time passed, I began feeling comfortable with the escort and gave the escort my real name and home address where we met many times.

 

After about a year, the escort brought up the fact of my many absences from the U.S. and my many trips I take to various parts of the world. When the escort brought up the subject of my travels, his attitude was hostile. What bothered me most is when the escort stated, in a rude and demanding manner, “You should take me with you on one of your trips.”

 

The escort’s statement was not a request. It came across as a hostile demand, based on the tone of his voice and his subsequent behavior.

 

I was taken aback, and said to him that if I took him with me some day, we would have to discuss, in advance, details of where we would go and what he would expect in return for his company.

 

Instead of agreeing to discuss details of a possible trip together, the escort got an angry look on his face then left my house without saying a word.

 

After he left, I had a feeling that the escort could have become violent considering the way he made the demand, the look on his face, and the fact that he left my house the way he left.

 

I have not seen the escort since this event. He has called my telephone since but, since I travel so often, I have not taken or returned his calls.

 

I would not feel comfortable having the escort return to my house.