To Review or Not To Review: That's My Query!!!

[+ Axiom2001]

I find myself in a dilemma. Last Saturday I was with a somewhat hot Latino in San Francisco [NAME REMOVED]. He seemed cordial and accommodating while we walked to and into his apartment; he and I conversed and apparently began to connect, but before we began "to play," I, more than he; he requested his fee upfront! Ah, a friggin' "red flag," and in spite of my having written specifics in two emails that I'd sent to him on [RENTBOY LINK REMOVED], he asked me about my sexual interests,etc. This bothered me because he'd eagerly responded that he was "up" and "game" to devour my needy cock! Well, to cut to the chase, he was not active at all during our supposed hour; he never touched me much except for some inept nip play and some moderately wet kissing, and I think after 45 mins. he got up and went to count the 20s which I'd laid on top of a plate. He made some comment about not accepting all of the dinero, but I told him to forget it! [Guess I heard him correctly!]

 

Well, I guess I want to ask, should I review him? He's been escorting for four months and is doing it apparently to pay for rent: his words. If I were to write a detailed, negative review, would this impede his getting other clients. I do know that I was immensely disappointed and definitely unsatisfied! I was also hurt because he did not want to open the door for me or show me out courteously.

 

I'm ready to be steered in "the right direction!"

 

ADMIN NOTE: No reviews in the MC.

[Frankly Rich]

Did he use his phone during the encounter? Any checking of messages, texting, sexting, game playing, chatting with Mary, his best friend? If not, well, what's your complaint?

Oh, the sex. Well, then, of course you should review!

[+ nycman]

Please write a review.

 

I wouldn't want to hire this dud.

 

Without your review...I and many others might fall into the same trap that you did.

[Guest Starbuck]

Please write a review. I wouldn't want to hire this dud. Without your review...I and many others might fall into the same trap that you did.

 

I don't know what other details a review would provide, but isn't the post enough to dissuade you? Although the link didn't work for me, the OP mentions the guy's name and it's easy enough to find him on Rentboy.

[bigvalboy]

I think a review might reach more people, so I'm with FR and nycman. Axiom, I didn't understand the part about him "not accepting more dinero"...are you saying he would accept less because he knew your weren't happy, or was he saying it wasn't enough?

[Okliehomo]

Sure,for Forum members that post should definitely be enough. But rumor has it that a review is way more widely read than these individual posts and that the majority of guys that come to this site just read the reviews and have no idea about the MC.

 

Never easy to knowingly hurt someone's business, but...... it is kind of the point of the site, right? Not to hurt someone's business but to warn other clients about escorts that promise one thing and then don't deliver. And just maybe that kind of bad business shouldn't be ignored. Perhaps it's better that the escort gets hurt (in his wallet)rather than another client gets ripped off.

[jackboy48]

I would definitely write a review. Comments on the forums are easily overlooked and often forgotten. A review will stand on it's own for current and future reference. If this escort needs to pay his rent, then he needs to improve his service. The review might encourage him to either change his approach to escorting, or give him the impetus to find another line of work. The review doesn't have to be nasty. Instead, it could provide a few concrete examples of what needs to be improved, as well as what was OK.

[tanman4u]

Please write a review. He'll either learn from it, write a great response and move on, or continue disappointing good intentioned potential hire'ers like us.

[Diverdan]

I agree... write a good and thorough factual review... it will help others who may be on the fence about this guy.

[+ purplekow]

You put up a warning sign, at least if anyone drives off the cliff it is not because you failed to try to warn them.

I need satisfaction to give a satisfactory review. Bad effort, bad review. Simple stuff here.

[+ Axiom2001]

I think a review might reach more people, so I'm with FR and nycman. Axiom, I didn't understand the part about him "not accepting more dinero"...are you saying he would accept less because he knew your weren't happy, or was he saying it wasn't enough?

 

If I heard him correctly [...have slight hearing problems now], it was the former, accepting less.

[maninsoma]

I don't think you have to feel bad about any potential negative impact to his future business as long as you stick to the basic facts in your review, just like you did here.

 

And the benefit of you writing a review for prospective customers is we will have more information to help us decide whether we want to hire him. Particularly since his name and link have now been removed from your initial post, submitting a review to which this guy could respond, if he chose, might not only help prospective clients but also let the guy know how he disappointed at least one client.

[+ pdxleo]

I guess I've had a change of heart about this subject myself- I've posted only positive reviews in the past, but when I've been somewhat disappointed with an escort, I used to just chalk it up to bad chemistry. However, if a client is feeling victimized or cheated, maybe it's best to get the info out there, at least the escort will know there is a consequence for his choice of attitude. I would pay a lot of attention to any negative review, if a fellow traveler gave a fair warning.

[rvwnsd]

...Well, I guess I want to ask, should I review him?...

 

Yes, you should write a factual review. I think you should include details such as his request to be paid up front, his asking you what you were into despite having previously discussing it, and his abruptly getting up and counting the money. I think you should also mention that he offered to accept a reduced fee but you declined.

 

I guess I've had a change of heart about this subject myself- I've posted only positive reviews in the past, but when I've been somewhat disappointed with an escort, I used to just chalk it up to bad chemistry. However, if a client is feeling victimized or cheated, maybe it's best to get the info out there, at least the escort will know there is a consequence for his choice of attitude. I would pay a lot of attention to any negative review, if a fellow traveler gave a fair warning.

 

There's a difference between a lack of chemistry and an escort who simply fails to perform and/or cheats a client. My personal guideline is to refrain from giving a bad review if it appears there was a lack of chemistry or an extenuating circumstance that prevented the escort from delivering more than a so-so session. However, in Axiom's case, I think there was more than a lack of chemistry and a negative review is warranted.

[instudiocity]

Review, review, review.

 

Your review is not determinative as to the hire ability of any guy. It's merely a contribution to the body of knowledge.

[Frankly Rich]

I see on the menu that this thread has a "thumbs down" rating. Does Daddy do those? I don't see any place to vote thumbs up or down...

[+ deej]

I see on the menu that this thread has a "thumbs down" rating. Does Daddy do those? I don't see any place to vote thumbs up or down...

 

Those are created by the originator of the thread.

 

To Axiom: write the damn review.

 

We've said it for years: write the damn review. Threads here come and go, but reviews live on. Good reviews are followed by other good reviews, or not. Bad reviews are followed by other bad reviews, or not. The progression over time reveals the real pattern over time. Good escorts survive the occasional bad review. Bad escorts never do. Write the damn review.

 

For the statistics-inclined, fewer than 10% of visitors to daddysreviews.com visit the message center. A review is far more reaching. And that's one (of many) reason(s) we don't want reviews in the MC.

 

Write the damn review. Always. Let the reader judge based on the accumulated history.

 

Just remember Hooboy's original motto: "Honest in our judgement and truthful in our reporting". That includes being honest with yourself and truthful about the situation.

 

You can never be wrong (although you can be pilloried) if you are honest in your judgement and truthful in your reporting. Someone will come along behind you and back you up, or not.

[jimboivyo]

I don't get folks here who hum and haw over writing reviews

 

you don't need a straw poll kid. write the review. that's why this whole thing exists. do daddy a favor and give him content

[tom1980]

There's a difference between a lack of chemistry and an escort who simply fails to perform and/or cheats a client. My personal guideline is to refrain from giving a bad review if it appears there was a lack of chemistry or an extenuating circumstance that prevented the escort from delivering more than a so-so session. However, in Axiom's case, I think there was more than a lack of chemistry and a negative review is warranted.

 

I follow the same rule. If I had an okay experience that seemed like it was my fault or purely a lack of chemistry, I don't write a review. I also do not write a review if I had a good (but not exceptional) experience and the guy has several other positive reviews (especially if they are recent). In that case, I don't feel like saying the same thing others have said adds much. If I have a really outstanding or bad experience or if they guy is unknown, I generally write a review. Having said that, I've only ever submitted one negative review, and it's still in the queue waiting to be posted.

[+ Axiom2001]

I agree... write a good and thorough factual review... it will help others who may be on the fence about this guy.

 

After reading all of the posts yesterday and giving each one considerable thought, I went to the area of "Submit" and wrote a detailed account of my time with the escort

whose time and actions baffled and disappointed me tremendously! Thanks to all who gave me guidance, for it was the first time that I have found myself in this type of

dilemma although NOT all of my encounters with escorts have been stellar. From the guys I've seen over the years, only about five did not turn out as I'd desired/hoped!

 

Again, thanks men! Now we can all wait for the review to appear here!

[jawjateck]

I look forward to your review. I'm tired of all these "recommended" reviews; it will be refreshing to read a little honesty for a change.

[Phil_musc]

Yes, by all means, put pen to paper (I'm speaking figuratively here) and write the review. I took a few days off here and missed the original post and now as has been noted, the name and link are gone. Reviews are forever (or at least until they are consigned to the old review pile and seem to disappear).