Do escorts look forward to certain clients...

[biguy]

Do escorts look forward to seeing certain clients as much as clients look forward to seeing the escorts? I don't mean for the financial

end of the business but more the social or even sexual experience.

 

I know when I make an appointment with an escort whom I have seen before, I find that I am actually excited, not just because I know I'm going to have an incredible sexual experience, but because I genuinely enjoy spending time with the person and I know that when the time is up I am not just going to be kicked out with a "slam, bam, thank you...."

 

Do escorts feel the same way?

[big-n-tall]

Yes, I believe some escorts look forward to seeing some of their clients just as much as the client looks forward to seeing them.

 

I've been privileged in meeting some incredible people who just happen to escort. A decent number of them have become friends. Of those I've seen multiple times, we have definitely enjoyed other aspects of the encounter beyond just sex. With some we do things of the clock (dinner, movie, etc.) or we might talk for extended periods just to catch up before or after the fun in the bedroom. I have even meet some for lunch or dinner alone, because they were in the area and I didn't have time to see them for a sexual session.

 

Some people just click... even though there is a business aspect to the relationship.

[+ purplekow]

i know all of the escorts I hire look forward to seeing me and who could blame them. Well maybe not all of them but i bet a few of them do. Well maybe not so much look forward to seeing me as tolerating the idea. So there you have it i think one escort i hire doesnt mind the thought of seeing me, briefly....and from a distance.

[biguy]

LOL...Maybe from the "rear" view mirror, instead of from a distance.

Thanks for the sentiment...now I can't get the image of the rear of a purplekow in my mirror out of my head.

[briancalihc]

My experience is that the escorts who do look forward to seeing me are the ones I don't treat as "Escorts," but actually as 'Friends' with an obvious cash benefit. Only one escort has become real friend and mainly because he was able to create a financial existence outside of escorting.

[unsub2O17]

Yes, I think so. I've had one or two insist on taking me out a number of times. And a couple of others that say how much they miss me or look forward to seeing me. And, oh yes!, the feeling is mutual.

[jackhammer91406]

Time and place.....

 

Perhaps you might get more of an insight into the thinking of an escort by asking this question in the Ask an Escort Forum a few forums down the list. I know it is not as active, but I think the purpose of that forum is to address questions of this nature.

[Guest verymarried]

I think it is mostly wishful thinking to believe that most encounters are welcomed by the escort for much more than a business arrangement.

[cany10011]

There are some escorts who seem truly genuine and will sometimes extend the encounter or see one 'off the clock' but I tend to agree that they are being genial and are smart business men. Words are easy to say (and cost nothing).

 

I think it is mostly wishful thinking to believe that most encounters are welcomed by the escort for much more than a business arrangement.

[down_to_business]

This is another one of those questions. Would you expect an escort to actually answer it no?

 

This would be just like any other profession. There are some clients you look forward to seeing and some clients not so much but in either case all of the clients are important. I am sure many escorts look forward to meting most of their clients. I would also imagine some don't (i.e. the gay for pay guys).

[leigh.bess.toad]

I think it is mostly wishful thinking to believe that most encounters are welcomed by the escort for much more than a business arrangement.

 

Not true, at least in my case. Last year I had one my escorts fly across the country to see me and spend a couple of days with me prior to surgery. No hire. Just because he cared and wanted to make sure I was ready and ok.

 

And yesterday, I was arranging a dinner with another escort friend. He's touring on the east coast but no where near me. He's arranged to take the time out of his tour to come down and meet me just for dinner and then go back to his tour city. Six hours by bus each way (hey, we love MegaBus, it's faster than mutliple connectors on planes). And because he's coming, another guy who lives a coupe of hours away is also joining us. All just for dinner.

 

Don't tell me it is only just a business arrangement. Maybe for some escorts it is. Maybe for clients who don't treat them as more than escorts, they can't see past that relationship. But for me, I know it is far more than that. And my life is proof of that.

[bigvalboy]

Not true, at least in my case. Last year I had one my escorts fly across the country to see me and spend a couple of days with me prior to surgery. No hire. Just because he cared and wanted to make sure I was ready and ok.

 

And yesterday, I was arranging a dinner with another escort friend. He's touring on the east coast but no where near me. He's arranged to take the time out of his tour to come down and meet me just for dinner and then go back to his tour city. Six hours by bus each way (hey, we love MegaBus, it's faster than mutliple connectors on planes). And because he's coming, another guy who lives a coupe of hours away is also joining us. All just for dinner.

 

Don't tell me it is only just a business arrangement. Maybe for some escorts it is. Maybe for clients who don't treat them as more than escorts, they can't see past that relationship. But for me, I know it is far more than that. And my life is proof of that.

 

+1......

[cany10011]

Wow..six hours by bus each way. You are very lucky indeed. I don't think even my friends would do that!

 

+1......

[leigh.bess.toad]

Wow..six hours by bus each way. You are very lucky indeed. I don't think even my friends would do that!

 

They are my friends. No different than any other friend I have. Don't you see? That's what I am saying. Sure I hire them. But our relationship is so much more than that. And that friendship, that relationship, that intimacy of the friendship when I do hire makes that time together all the more remarkable. Because there is no questioning about "is he acting, is he faking, does he really like me". No mind games going on. You are together in ways a quickie hire could never be. Connected on so many levels. More than just physical. But it enhances the physical immensely. You are concerned with each other in ways far more than simply getting your rocks off. Which heightens the relationship again. It is a self-feeding cycle, one growing the other. And other times you might simply meet for dinner. Or text or email to see how you are doing. Because you are friends. Just like any other friend. No difference at all.

[big-n-tall]

Not true, at least in my case. Last year I had one my escorts fly across the country to see me and spend a couple of days with me prior to surgery. No hire. Just because he cared and wanted to make sure I was ready and ok.

 

And yesterday, I was arranging a dinner with another escort friend. He's touring on the east coast but no where near me. He's arranged to take the time out of his tour to come down and meet me just for dinner and then go back to his tour city. Six hours by bus each way (hey, we love MegaBus, it's faster than mutliple connectors on planes). And because he's coming, another guy who lives a coupe of hours away is also joining us. All just for dinner.

 

Don't tell me it is only just a business arrangement. Maybe for some escorts it is. Maybe for clients who don't treat them as more than escorts, they can't see past that relationship. But for me, I know it is far more than that. And my life is proof of that.

 

Exactly, my point.

 

There is definitely the occasion where an escort becomes more. Case in point, while on vacation, I decided to see an escort I've seen before. I paid him once, yet he come to see me multiple times (free of charge) thereafter... and not just for sex. He even wanted me to come visit him at his (non-sex related) day job. :-P

 

Sure, its strictly business for some escorts. However to the OP's original question, I'm certain even the strictest business oriented escort gets excited about seeing a particular client.

[Keenan]

Do escorts look forward to seeing certain clients as much as clients look forward to seeing the escorts? I don't mean for the financial

end of the business but more the social or even sexual experience.

 

I know when I make an appointment with an escort whom I have seen before, I find that I am actually excited, not just because I know I'm going to have an incredible sexual experience, but because I genuinely enjoy spending time with the person and I know that when the time is up I am not just going to be kicked out with a "slam, bam, thank you...."

 

Do escorts feel the same way?

 

In a job where those you meet can "become a blur" there are definitely those clients that I do look forward to seeing.

 

Keenan

[bigvalboy]

Wow..six hours by bus each way. You are very lucky indeed. I don't think even my friends would do that!

 

Don't get bogged down in the details....lol....I have been privileged to see how LBT interacts with escorts he has "hired" over the course of a long weekend, and I can say with certainty that his relationship with them goes above and beyond any definition of a "Hire", and many escorts on this site would attest to that.

[Bart]

First VM, your attitude is safest and most logical and unfortunately for some of us the most vacant, but if that works for you good, it does not for me and some may argue an old fool, I would rather look at it as living.

 

While I can't argue the financial perspective, I go into most outings hoping for a connection. Not love or life long friendship but a sharing of life that sex although a major component, certainly not the only part.

 

I can name at least 10 gentlemen who I have the privilege of sharing companionship with beyond the payment for sex. This is not for everyone for sure. Plenty of clients like gentlemen are just into getting their freak for pay. I have heard some say the sex becomes comfortable, not me. The conversation and companionship become comfortable, the sex is still extremely invigorating. I really think this part of it goes as far as you are willing to invest into it. I very surprised at times how much some guys are genuinely excited to see me, their is such warmth in the smile and hug, I blush.

 

Are there hard moments? Yes and I am currently going through one with gentleman I have known for some time. I know he is struggling with life and he has not asked a thing of me monetarily and none offered. I have offered my time but even there he is trying to go it alone. Anyway the friendship goes both ways and when called upon I will try to be there. Painful, yes but that's the good and bad about opening your heart and living. I want to be a part of life, not just take from it.

[tyro]

Two men whom I have hired have become very, very important to me. I'll never know exactly how or what they think of me...but we never really DO know, do we? On the other hand, I have hired a (very) few who will never think of me as anything other than a client, and that's OK too. The dear ones have seen me through a divorce and helped me create a much better life for myself.

Last time I checked, that's what friends do.

T

[biguy]

Thank you all for your wonderful and, at times, diametrically opposed, answers. The ultimate purpose of the thread was to help me decide whether or not to ask a certain escort to dinner after our time together. We have always "clicked" and whenever I hire/visit him he greets me with a smile a mile wide and warmth that other hires do not seem to have and there seems to be as much laughter as moans and groans.

 

So I think I'll just go ahead and invite him....

[tyro]

Sounds like a plan to me.

T

[+ WilliamM]

i know all of the escorts I hire look forward to seeing me and who could blame them. Well maybe not all of them but i bet a few of them do. Well maybe not so much look forward to seeing me as tolerating the idea. So there you have it i think one escort i hire doesnt mind the thought of seeing me' date=' briefly....and from a distance.[/quote']

 

In a thread of sometimes very odd, diametrically opposed opinions, you came closest to capturing both same truth and a great deal of humor. And you did it at the beginning of the thread before things got crazy on page two. It was great, easily the best post of 2013 so far. Much congratulations!!

[rvwnsd]

Not true, at least in my case....Don't tell me it is only just a business arrangement. Maybe for some escorts it is. Maybe for clients who don't treat them as more than escorts, they can't see past that relationship. But for me, I know it is far more than that. And my life is proof of that.

 

I agree with leigh's sentiments. However, I want to add a few things to what he said.

 

First, I think the answer to this question depends in large part on how the client sees himself. I assume that people most people like me, want to spend time with me, and are sincere when they say so. Hence, when an escort says "that was fuckin' hot, thanks" (or something to that effect) I interpret that as meaning he had a good time, regardless of the presence of a financial transaction. Likewise, when I contact an escort a year after an appointment with a message reminding him who I am and he replies "of course I remember you, I had a wonderful time doing [fill in the activities here to indicate he does, indeed, remember me]" I again interpret that as meaning he had a good time. If I assumed that most people dislike me and that I am "less than" others, I suppose my feelings would be different.

 

Second, I treat escorts the same way as I treat everyone I know: as people who have thoughts, feelings, life commitments, likes and dislikes, and issues that crop up from time to time. Sadly, based on some of the comments I read on this forum, it seems like many clients do not treat escorts in that manner. As the saying goes, you reap what you sow.

[+ purplekow]

In a thread of sometimes very odd, diametrically opposed opinions, you came closest to capturing both same truth and a great deal of humor. And you did it at the beginning of the thread before things got crazy on page two. It was great, easily the best post of 2013 so far. Much congratulations!!

Thanks for the compliment. Agyrt nearly 5000 posts. it is nice to know someone is reading and at least once and again appreciating my posts. So WilliamM wanna fuck?

[tom1980]

I agree with those who say that some escorts do look forward to seeing certain clients, and I think those are the escorts who stay in the business for a while. It is rare for any person (especially a young man in this age of "millennials") to stay at a job he hates for very long, either because he can't stand doing the job and quits or because his employer realizes the truth and fires him. There are also few guys who can act well enough to deceive a large number of clients. That's not to say that every successful escort looks forward to every client, but I'm sure some escorts smile when they get a message from certain clients seeking to schedule an appointment.

 

I also have anecdotal evidence that certain escorts enjoy seeing me. One of the few escorts I see regularly has been known to rearrange his plans to make our schedules work out. He has also emailed or texted me to offer a free session when we haven't seen each other in a while. That isn't to say he doesn't have other motivations (like getting paid for a session when he rearranges his schedule or getting more future business from me by giving a free session from time to time), but I can't imagine him acting like this if he didn't enjoy spending time with me. We'll never be best friends, but we like "doing business" with one another.