Asking about repeat business?

[newguychicago]

Hey, I'm fairly new to the industry. I'm curious about building up a regular client base. I've had a few sessions end with "Let's do it again sometime" or something similar. Should I take the first step in contacting the client? Wait for them to contact me?

 

I know the line "I had fun, let's do it again" is often said at the end of dates when the speaker doesn't really mean it and is just being nice. Does that also apply to escorts and clients? Thanks for any help I get.

[josephga]

imo you shouldn't contact the client again unless they contact you first with one exception. If you have their email address I see nothing wrong with a nice thank you type of note a day or two later..

[robberbaron4u]

My preference is for a familiar "sailor" in every port I frequent; a "steady date" with whom I am comfortable, and, whose dependability can be taken for granted. I had a ten year run with "my man" at New Orleans, a young man who was savvy enough in his business acumen to recognize that attentiveness brought a premium with me: a courteous telephone call placed to me after our first encounter closed the deal on my booking him in the future, and, I daresay we both did very well by each other in the course of our "association". However, never cross the threshold of the private or public life of a client without an invitation; before parting, make inquiry as to whether or not you may contact him.

[bigvalboy]

Hey, I'm fairly new to the industry. I'm curious about building up a regular client base. I've had a few sessions end with "Let's do it again sometime" or something similar. Should I take the first step in contacting the client? Wait for them to contact me?

 

I know the line "I had fun, let's do it again" is often said at the end of dates when the speaker doesn't really mean it and is just being nice. Does that also apply to escorts and clients? Thanks for any help I get.

 

First of all welcome to the M-F. Interesting question, there are a lot of seasoned escorts that post here, so a wealth of information about this can be had as to how they handle this topic. For me however, I rarely hear from an escort after I hire them, and I don't really expect to. I do receive from time to time emails from past escorts asking how I am doing, and that is nice and appreciated. By and large I think that most wait to hear from me and see if I want to repeat. I personally would not want to hear from an escort repeatedly on a steady basis after the hire. Once and awhile is nice, but for me an occasional contact is more than enough.

 

The only frustrating thing that I find is when I contact an escort and ask them to contact me when they are back from traveling, and then they don't, then I lose interest almost immediately. If you want my business, then be professional enough to follow through. I am not going to beg someone to hire them, that is absurd.

 

I do probably say at the end of a hire that I would like to repeat, and rarely say it unless I mean it. I almost always will follow through on that verbal commitment. Only once that I can remember that I actually decided not to, but that is rare. Again welcome and I hope this little bit of information helped...

[seeker630]

imo you shouldn't contact the client again unless they contact you first with one exception. If you have their email address I see nothing wrong with a nice thank you type of note a day or two later..

 

As a client, i agree with this. I also think it's ok to email previous clients if you are planning to travel to their cities - but also ask them if they want to be notifed in the future.

[rvwnsd]

Speaking from a client's perspective, I think the answer depends on the client. I am comfortable with an escort contacting me regarding a repeat session. In fact, a guy I hire on a pretty regular basis picked up on the fact that I am generally very busy and often forget to contact him until the last minute. He texts me every couple of weeks to check in and ask how I am doing. If I have the time and the inclination, I initiate the session. Works beautifully for both of us. Another guy emails me when he will be in town. Both guys mentioned they sensed I was OK with being contacted. They also started initiating contact after the second or third time we got together. I've informed a couple of guys that it was OK to contact me first, and they do so occasionally. However, every client is not me. There are probably many guys who do not want to be contacted. I like the concept of the thank you email. If you start doing that, you could ask whether it is OK to follow up about future meetings.

 

Hope this helps.

[Bosguy]

I've had the privilege of spending time with a small group of well known working guys. On a professional level, they have all sent some type of thank you/look forward to meeting you again notes plus do email or text if they're going to be in my area. This is proper and sufficient. Endless communication is a turn off to me.

These professional gentlemen have, however, supported me through a number of personal incidents, and that type of communication is much more frequent and appreciated. Thanks guys

 

Boston Bill

[nate_sf]

imo you shouldn't contact the client again unless they contact you first with one exception. If you have their email address I see nothing wrong with a nice thank you type of note a day or two later..

 

I agree with this and what the others say. A thank you is good, using the same means of contact as you had for setting up the appointment. However if the appointment was made over the phone with no written communication (very rare these days) it's more murky. You can try sending a text thank you but even then I feel like I might be intruding if we hadn't texted already.

 

Beyond the initial thank you, you should wait for the client to contact you again, with the exception of checking in for travel as others have mentioned here.

 

The exception I have is with clients from the forum, I will send the occasional social email or text to say hello or check in with them and they do the same with me. These contacts are more friendly and fun then anything, and not directed at hiring necessarily. Some of these guys may have another appointment with me at some point in the future, but others won't because of other stuff going on in their lives, so it's just social and friendly. But even with this kind of thing, you don't want to be a pest and need to gauge whether the guy really wants to hear from you or not.

 

Welcome to the forum btw!

[maxwellissmart]

I have several regular clients with whom I maintain an almost-daily interaction via email. They are—in effect—friends of mine, and they are fun to talk to and are completely open to me saying something along the lines of "come down and see me soon" or "I'll have free time on _____ if you want to get together."

 

With regular clients I always send a thank you note and sometimes a message during the holidays like: "Have a good one, and I'm glad we got to see each other this year!" I don't solicit appointments from clients (unless they have specifically asked me to tell them about upcoming avaiability), and I don't send out emails about sales, "specials" or what have you. I think this actually has a tendency to work against the escort's favor and should be avoided. Somehow I got on a particular escort's mailing list (who posts on here every so often) and he sends out these "fliers" which would seem to attract the kind of clients you don't want.

[maxwellissmart]

I agree with this and what the others say. A thank you is good, using the same means of contact as you had for setting up the appointment. However if the appointment was made over the phone with no written communication (very rare these days) it's more murky. You can try sending a text thank you but even then I feel like I might be intruding if we hadn't texted already.

 

I've encountered this a couple of times in the past two weeks with clients who called me to set something up. I had no way to tell them "thanks" and I tried calling one to let him know I appreciated the time we spent. Naturally it was the wrong time to call. But he did call me back and said he thoroughly enjoyed spending time with me and appreciated the sentiment. The general consensus from most clients I see is that a thank you note is more rare than common.

[+ poolboy48220]

welcome back Maxwell! I've missed you on the forums very much.

[maxwellissmart]

welcome back Maxwell! I've missed you on the forums very much.

 

I'm supposed to be doing homework.

[tyro]

I have been lucky enough to receive thank-you communication from all the guys I've hired. Granted, it hasn't been many and I also research them beforehand, but I always like to hear my boyzes had a wonderful time. (Now if it's actually true, well, I'll leave that tidbit to them!)

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[SteveEscort]

I never ever contact clients after the appointment has ended. Not even an email !!

 

Some clients do invite you to contact them "whenever" but I like to keep my private life private. The only contact I have with clients is when they contact me.

 

Regular clients come in all sorts of cycles. I've seen two clients every week for the past 2 years. They both miss the odd week when they've got family stuff to attend to or a holiday abroad. I have another client who visits once a month on a Sunday around 6pm and many others that I may see once or twice a year. They're still regular clients but with a much wider frequency cycle than others. It takes 3-4 appointments before you can work out their cycle. Most of my clients are regulars but I see at least 2 or 3 new guys every week and only about 1 in every 10 will become regular. Most clients you never see again no matter how well it went. It might have been a one off thing they needed to get out of their system, they may be happy with one encounter a year and like to see a new escort each time, they might have just been in the area for 24 hours. There are all sorts of possibilities why someone may not ring back, even when they say they will. One of my very regular clients (weekly for a year) disappeared and I only recently found out that his wife died. I would never have known that and would have felt awful had I contacted him to drum up another liaison to find out he's just buried his partner of 40 years and really should be left alone.

 

If a client lets it be known to you that it's ok to contact him then by all means contact him but if no express permission has been given then I would refrain from contacting a client.

 

I recently visited a supermarket and bumped into a client (and his wife). He said hello and introduced us both. Obviously not as an escort but as a friend that he said he used to work with. He spoke first, not me and it was awkward. I didn't let that show, of course, but can see how awkward a text or call to a client could be if his wife was about. A high proportion of any gay/bi escorts clientele are married men. I feel that they need discretion and to be left to their own devices until they need to contact you.

[Decatur Guy]

I'm in the camp of clients who do appreciate post-session contact. I've only had one escort who I felt like came on too strong with follow-up solicitations, and I think I finally got across to him I'd be hiring on my timetable and not his. (And I'd still like to hire him again).

 

One thing to think about: My ego took a bit of a bruising when I first started hiring, and I imagine I'm not alone in that. I really enjoying hearing from an escort that he liked the encounter, as long as he's being genuine about it. Just that alone makes it much more likely I will hire someone again if I also enjoyed it.

 

My two go-to guys don't ever initiate contact, and sometimes I wish they did. But I also know they do like it when I hire them, so I don't worry about it too much.

 

I also have several online "relationships" with out-of-town escorts from Daddy's that I intend to hire as time and money present themselves, and that's because they've been friendly about contacting me every so often.

[TruHart1]

Hi all. I'm brand new on the forum and finally got the courage to post an opinion.

 

I find that in the year or so since I've been hiring that I tend to find an escort I really like and continue hiring them instead of trying new guys that may or may not be good for me. I tend to hire guys I've met when they travel through my town each time they come through if I connected with them on our first meeting. I also have favorites in NYC and Chicago when I take trips for Opera and/or shows. Better to go with a guaranteed great time...just IMO.

[TruHart1]

Also, I meant to post that my favorite guys that come through my city are all different. Some will text me that they enjoyed our time. One in particular always texts me a few days ahead when he is planning to be in my town. Others I need to contact whenever I see their ad up for my area so as to set up a session. To me, these are all worth the effort if I enjoyed our connection the first time we met.

[JoeyBryant]

I never ever contact clients after the appointment has ended. Not even an email !!

 

Some clients do invite you to contact them "whenever" but I like to keep my private life private. The only contact I have with clients is when they contact me.

 

Regular clients come in all sorts of cycles. I've seen two clients every week for the past 2 years. They both miss the odd week when they've got family stuff to attend to or a holiday abroad. I have another client who visits once a month on a Sunday around 6pm and many others that I may see once or twice a year. They're still regular clients but with a much wider frequency cycle than others. It takes 3-4 appointments before you can work out their cycle. Most of my clients are regulars but I see at least 2 or 3 new guys every week and only about 1 in every 10 will become regular. Most clients you never see again no matter how well it went. It might have been a one off thing they needed to get out of their system, they may be happy with one encounter a year and like to see a new escort each time, they might have just been in the area for 24 hours. There are all sorts of possibilities why someone may not ring back, even when they say they will. One of my very regular clients (weekly for a year) disappeared and I only recently found out that his wife died. I would never have known that and would have felt awful had I contacted him to drum up another liaison to find out he's just buried his partner of 40 years and really should be left alone.

 

If a client lets it be known to you that it's ok to contact him then by all means contact him but if no express permission has been given then I would refrain from contacting a client.

 

I recently visited a supermarket and bumped into a client (and his wife). He said hello and introduced us both. Obviously not as an escort but as a friend that he said he used to work with. He spoke first, not me and it was awkward. I didn't let that show, of course, but can see how awkward a text or call to a client could be if his wife was about. A high proportion of any gay/bi escorts clientele are married men. I feel that they need discretion and to be left to their own devices until they need to contact you.

 

I agree with your point the most, because it makes sense (not that others didn't make sense)

 

Especially the part about the 1 time experience. One doesn't really know if the client plans to see the person again. This tends to hold more true for someone who calls at the last minute for something or same-day/late night appts. Hell, I know clients who have 2 or 3 fuck buddies in addition to hiring escorts. For all we know, the client calling us just had a date that night who flaked and wanted to hire someone...but not again anytime soon.

 

As for me, I used to be REAL strict about never contacting clients back but I've eased up a bit. There was one client I'd text everytime I was in town and everytime he'd come see me. In many cases, clients have been adamant about wanting me to contact them back...Which is why I now jot these things now for future reference. But the catch is, I never contact clients back locally. Traveling is different because you're there for a short period of time, and the week you're in town the client may not be looking at the websites.

 

Of course, always proceed with caution. There may be a client out there, somewhere...who hired in remorse and will be happy to accept your invitation, only to pull some out of this world bullshit the day of the proposed appointment. So, make sure they REALLY mean contact them back before you actually do so. And make sure they're discussing business in addition to pleasure. Otherwise you might simply be providing them a little wanking fodder.

[maxwellissmart]

Of course, always proceed with caution. There may be a client out there, somewhere...who hired in remorse and will be happy to accept your invitation, only to pull some out of this world bullshit the day of the proposed appointment. So, make sure they REALLY mean contact them back before you actually do so. And make sure they're discussing business in addition to pleasure. Otherwise you might simply be providing them a little wanking fodder.

 

I was going to say that this had never happened to me, but I have two instances. One is a client who was perfectly delightful the first time, and then contacted me nine additional times—and canceled nine additional times as I was walking out the door. The second contacted me and started up with the whole "are we meeting up as client/escort or as friends?" routine, which finally got stopped by me.

[down_to_business]

I would welcome a thank you email, but they have been very rare. I think a thank you text is a bit more intrusive than an email, but a lot more common. I wouldn't NOT hire someone again for sending a thank you email but I have NOT rehired someone because they never sent one (after multiple weekend and even a week long hire). I just took it as he was taking me for granted although this may or may not have been the case.

 

I think you would be better served getting advanced permission before initiating further conatct with a client. If it was someone I wanted to see again or might want to see again I would definitely say yes. It would also be good to get what types of contact would be permissible (i.e. knocking at my front door and/or cold calling me are rather intrusive and yes both have happened to me) but I would not be offended by an email and I would prefer NOT to be texted. We are all going to be different in these matters so that is why it would be best to get permission from the client first.

 

As to the friend/client thing I never assume anything so if the escort wants to be friends they have to make it clear to me. One escort I met from Canada, actually refused his fee from me and told me he would rather be friends (this is NOT common!) and this was after we played together. I also recently had one escort confuse me on this point as he asked to come on a trip with me and I actually had to ask in what capacity this would be. His response was "as friends but you get to suck me". I will not be paying any fee but I will be picking up his travel costs-- so like I said-- this one does confuse me!

[jawjateck]

Thank you emails are welcome after an appointment, but solicitations for more paid encounters are not, unless he is a traveling escort from another city passing through my neck of the woods and I have given him the ok to save my email and let me know if he heads this way. I generally appreciate the advance notice from visiting favorites because without it, I could miss their visit. I have asked only one traveling escort to remove me from his email distribution since I decided I would never hire him again. I never want a local escort to contact me drumming up biz. Even if we had a good time on the first meeting, that would ensure that I never hire him again.

 

I have had numerous escorts with whom I became friends, and we would get together off the clock to hang out or dine together. None of these friendships ever involved sex, although many years ago, one guy was open to it. I just didn't want to go there. Bottom line: if one my "friendly" escorts contacts me to get together for some hang out time, it is always off the clock, and no intimacy is involved.

[jawjateck]

oh yeah....one more thing.....welcome to the forum newguychicago!

[SteveEscort]

Thank you emails are welcome after an appointment, but solicitations for more paid encounters are not, unless he is a traveling escort from another city passing through my neck of the woods and I have given him the ok to save my email and let me know if he heads this way. I generally appreciate the advance notice from visiting favorites because without it, I could miss their visit. I have asked only one traveling escort to remove me from his email distribution since I decided I would never hire him again. I never want a local escort to contact me drumming up biz. Even if we had a good time on the first meeting, that would ensure that I never hire him again.

 

Your experience is very much how I feel my clients would like to be treated. They like to contact me when a liaison suits them and escorts contacting local clients to drum up business are abusing the information given to them in the strictest confidence.

 

I once did a 3 days trip to Glastonbury, two years ago and stayed at a lovely private guest house with my own entrance and facilities. I had stayed there once before and advertised myself there for 3 days and to my astonishment I got 7 appointments. Luckily I was staying there with a female friend and she was very happy I got all that work and it paid for the whole trip for both of us including meals (we were not expecting that but she was sharing the double room with me so it was only fair she got her holiday paid too because she sat around for over 8 hours in 3 days whilst i entertained). Anyway.... from this trip, three of the seven clients gave me an email address to contact them on should I ever decide to visit again. I never have done as it was a birthday long weekend and there's only so much you can see and do in Glastonbury and Bath but should I ever decide to go again I will look them up as I still have the email addresses. I would never say never about contacting clients but would only do so because they asked.

[maxwellissmart]

It surprises me to hear how many people don't get a "thank you" email from their escort post-meeting. I mean, what the fuck?

[SteveEscort]

It surprises me to hear how many people don't get a "thank you" email from their escort post-meeting. I mean, what the fuck?

 

Well that would be me being guilty there too. I have never sent a thank you email and probably never will. I am not being ungrateful for the money the client has spent but I feel that they have their lives and I have mine and they'll contact me when they want to see me. I don't think it's ever put a client off booking me again and I must have done something right with it, I have been around as an escort for a long time.