Learning Curve-Message Board style

[Chuck50]

I love it Jack very well put. HUGS chuck:P

[LovesYng]

Don't worry Jack, it was not long in reading. I really enjoyed reading it. Keep up the good work:+

[+ Lucky]

That was pretty good, jack! It does take a thick-skin sometimes. Last January it was a vicious board to be on, but some of those guys left and others (like me?) have tried to think twice before they post something nasty. It's a lot more fun when the differences are about ideas and not personalities.

I have sent a nasty email to someone who criticized me and really regretted it afterwards, not the least because the guy didn't deserve it. I have posted a couple of things that I later felt stupid about. It can be embarrassing to see your mistakes live on in internet infinity. But it is a learning process, so join the adventure!

[Cooper]

Jack, You've come a long way baby! Welcome to the board, I guess your initiation period is over. Be yourself and post your feelings to the good guys around here, we make up the silent majority and we'll watch over you...Feb. is closer than you think, so buy some winter woolies, the kind you're not alergic to. Plus, extend a warm invitation to f-marine to join you in NYC. The 2 of you will make wonderful room-mates and you'll be able to help each other out with your problems...Great post buddy, consider yourself part of the family. Coop

[+ Lucky]

Cooper do you really think you are in the "silent" majority?

[Cooper]

>Cooper do you really think you are in the "silent"

>majority?

...LUCKY, haven't you learned anything for Jack's post??? YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO USE "CAMP HUMOR" while posting a reply...Jack, there is also a rule about hi"jack"ing one's threads. So let the discussion continue without any further interrputions. C.

[+ Lucky]

RE: Curve-Message Board style

 

Well, I said I was still learning!

[Rick Munroe]

Jack,

 

A couple of months before you joined the site, things were getting out of hand here as far as the nastiness, and members were leaving in droves (I hate that word...what's a drove?) until the rest of us decided to take charge & weed out the negativity (without censorship). Check this out from last June:

 

http://www.male4malescorts.com/dc/dcboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=4&topic_id=31172&mesg_id=31172

 

You're right when you say, "You have to have a thick skin if you are going to express yourself," but honestly, things are pretty tame now compared to a year ago. You picked a good time to join the discussion. "You are supposed to post only opinions, not feelings." You're supposed to post whatever you want to post. Feelings are valid: for example, right now, I'm feeling extremely horny (as usual). There, that felt good to post. "You are not supposed to use camp humor." No, you're supposed to use camp humor; you're just not supposed to sing camp songs like "99 Bottles of Beer" (it wastes bandwidth). "Never be yourself." If that's true, then I really do have to change my avatar, because I am a total smartass.

[+ nycman]

>(I hate that word...what's a drove?)

 

drove

 

Function: noun

 

Etymology: Middle English, from Old English draf, from drifan to drive

 

Date: before 12th century

 

1 : a group of animals driven or moving in a body

 

2 : a large number : CROWD -- usually used in plural especially with "in".

 

<tourists arriving in droves> <stayed away in droves>

 

http://www.m-w.com/images/mwlogo_new.gif

[Rick Munroe]

OK, I think I get it now. Let me try to use it in a sentence: "We drove to New Jersey to see Derek's family." Is that right? Or would we have had to be driving with a large group of animals? Do my in-laws count?

[VaHawk]

JH this was a great post - well written, humorous in all the right places, informative and insightful. I believe that sometimes the vitriol on this board drives people away and shies others away from signing in and posting. I especially don't understand why there is so much animosity from older posters towards newbies to the board who ask questions that have been asked before, as most new posters are not going to search the archives or even know about them. A warm welcome would be much better than sarcasm as new posters with new ideas and perspectives would only add to the value and enjoyment of Hooville.

 

It would be nice if somehow there was a FAQ folder where prior threads about the most repeatedly asked topics by newbies could be stored for easy access. Perhaps when posters are in a cold hearted nasty bitchy mood, they should just sharpen their claws and go to one of the gay chat rooms where scratch your eyes out, queeny bitch fights are more than prevalent.

 

I agree with Rick that you should feel free to post how you're feeling. I hope under your program to toughen up that you don't change your basic personality as I, for one, have always enjoyed your posts and witty comments and would rather read a humourous post that some others may consider campy, than some post that serves no purpose other than a personal attack against another poster. After all if gays can't be campy, then who can?

 

I hope you clicked on the link on Rick's first reply and read the posts. I found them informative, as I was unaware of the prior problem since I've been coming to this board only since October myself. There are a lot of good suggestions there which I intend to follow, especially my very favorite one which was the one by Derek:

just post a smiley face with no words - I loved that suggestion!

[KY_TOP]

I believe this is "Camp Humor" and I personally enjoy Camp Humor,or Bedroom Humor, Message Board Humor... I don't care what kind of humor I just enjoy a good belly laugh sometimes. My favorite post are those that make me Laugh, too much serious crap going on all the time and some good "Camp humor" is needed more often than less. Maybe that's why if I watch TV I'd rather watch Lucy reruns... she always made me laugh.

[+ Lucky]

As one of the people who has been accused of hostility to newbies, I realized that a warmer welcome might help. BUT, some of the newbies are people who come on here without a profile and immediately want to know where the young-uns are.(My opinion.) Personally, I don't like that. (My feeling.) The last thing we want (my opinion) is for this site to be a chicken hawk heaven. By that I mean people who are looking for underage persons, disguising their search as wanting skinny-looking, very young looking or similar things.

This is not a judgment about people who like those hovering over the age of 18. It is not something I understand (my opinion) but I will shut my mouth (learning lessons) unless I suspect that the poster's motives are questionable. Then I feel free to question them. The person is always welcome to respond.

[Spida]

Hey Jack,

 

Thanks for the info, I have been lingering around for a while but just recently started to post, at least post more often.. I am going to "learn from others mistakes" so I don't have to go through the rough time you did.

 

However, I must say that I have been around for about 3 months reading and posting regularly the nasty posts are in the minority and sometimes they are even warranted.. (not always though)..

 

Now the only problem is I don't know what Camp Humor is so you will have to repremand me harshly if I do use this on a post.. I will tell you exactly who can dish out the punishment

[VaHawk]

I agree with you, as the last thing we want is to turn this site into people looking for underage guys, which is not only illegal but disgusting as well. These types should be discouraged and rousted out (I can remember this happening very recently). However, it seems that many newbies are attacked just for asking basic questions that have been discussed many times before because it "so obvious" to those who participated in the prior threads.

 

As far as preference, I believe everyone is entitled to enjoy what they like, especially when hiring an escort, as long as they are not trying to hire underage. I personally could never see the great attraction that some people have for "muscular hunks only" (my opinion). I've always been thankful that I find all types attractive. :-)

[Rick Munroe]

>I've always been thankful

>that I find all types attractive.

 

[h1]Me, too.[/h1]

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[VaHawk]

Thanks, I needed that. I've always felt blessed that I find all types attractive. What the hell I even thought Sonny Bono was hot! I could never understand why someone would reject another guy because he wasn't blond, or muscular, or had a big cock or whatever! I wish Derek would post like you do, as the few posts by him that I've seen were always good.

[jackhammer91406]

Check this out from last

>June:

>

>http://www.male4malescorts.com/dc/dcboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=4&topic_id=31172&mesg_id=31172

 

Thanks Rick, i read all the way through this thread. Glad you posted it here. I learned from it.

 

"You are supposed to

>post only opinions, not feelings." You're supposed to

>post whatever you want to post. Feelings are valid: for

>example, right now, I'm feeling extremely horny (as usual).

>There, that felt good to post.

 

I really want to reply to this, but I am holding back..I think you get the idea tho.

 

"You are not supposed to

>use camp humor." No, you're supposed to use camp

>humor; you're just not supposed to sing camp songs like

>"99 Bottles of Beer" (it wastes bandwidth).

 

Really loved this one. Had to go change my underwear after I read that.

 

 

"Never be

>yourself." If that's true, then I really do have to

>change my avatar, because I am a total smartass.

 

Brilliant is more like it. Don't ever change that avatar.

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[jackhammer91406]

>I believe this is "Camp Humor" and I personally enjoy Camp

>Humor,or Bedroom Humor, Message Board Humor... I don't care

>what kind of humor I just enjoy a good belly laugh sometimes.

>My favorite post are those that make me Laugh,

 

 

Me Too!

:7

[jackhammer91406]

>As one of the people who has been accused of hostility to

>newbies, I realized that a warmer welcome might help. BUT,

>some of the newbies are people who come on here without a

>profile and immediately want to know where the young-uns

>are.(My opinion.) Personally, I don't like that. (My feeling.)

>The last thing we want (my opinion) is for this site to be a

>chicken hawk heaven. By that I mean people who are looking for

>underage persons, disguising their search as wanting

>skinny-looking, very young looking or similar things.

>This is not a judgment about people who like those hovering

>over the age of 18. It is not something I understand (my

>opinion) but I will shut my mouth (learning lessons) unless I

>suspect that the poster's motives are questionable. Then I

>feel free to question them. The person is always welcome to

>respond.

 

Lucky, You have shown me the way to move from feeling to opinion in the same post. Great!. I agree about the predators. No place for them here.

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[jackhammer91406]

>However, I must say that I have been around for about 3

>months reading and posting regularly the nasty posts are in

>the minority and sometimes they are even warranted.. (not

>always though)..

 

I will agree that sometimes correction is called for, but i don't think it ever has to be nasty.

 

>Now the only problem is I don't know what Camp Humor is so

>you will have to repremand me harshly if I do use this on a

>post.. I will tell you exactly who can dish out the punishment

>

 

Spida, I am not sure I am the expert on what is camp, having just recently "tried the beginning swimmers class" but there are others who could instruct you in that area. As for the harsh reprimands and dishing out the punishment, it would be a new "scene" for me, but if you come to the gathering in FEB, we could try it out and practice a little.

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[jackhammer91406]

>As far as preference..... I've always been thankful

>that I find all types attractive. :-)

 

Thanks VaHawk, then there's hope for even someone like me.

 

[jackhammer91406]

Thanks to all who replied. Great laughs...big belly type...Encouraging words...words of wisdom...all great and appreciated.

 

:D :D :D

[SFViking]

How true. All of this should be in a FAQ.

 

I tried early on expressing my feelings about myself and my relations with escorts and received a lashing from HooBoy I'll never forget.

 

'Tis sad these are the realities of this "community" since there are men here whom I can recognize as having wisdom and experience from which I can benefit. But the real me seems not to be a person that even the "silent majority" will support. So I keep a low profile and tiptoe into the water only every once in a while.

 

Still, thanks to all the rest of you for keeping this merry-go-round running.

 

Trying not to be "poor pitiful me",

SF Viking

[Flower]

> ...LUCKY, haven't you learned anything for Jack's post???

>YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO USE "CAMP HUMOR" while posting a

>reply

 

Hmmm, what is "camp" humor? :+