I do not like the Daddy/Son thing!

[Decatur Guy]

I was having hot sex last night when the guy said something like: "Oh Daddy! That feels good." Or something like that.

 

It was a turn-off. I didn't say anything, and he made several more Daddy references. Otherwise, it was a great time.

 

Do you like it? I think an older man / younger man combo can be very hot, but I just don't like the terms.

 

To me, hot is hot. When I was in my 20s, I thought there were hot guys in their 30s and 40s. But I didn't think of them as "Daddies." And now, I see guys in their 20s and 30s who are hot, but I don't think of them as "Sons." It begins to hint at incest and that's not a turn-on for me. What do the rest of y'all think of the whole Daddy/Son thing?

[bigvalboy]

I was having hot sex last night when the guy said something like: "Oh Daddy! That feels good." Or something like that.

 

It was a turn-off. I didn't say anything, and he made several more Daddy references. Otherwise, it was a great time.

 

I don't like that either. Had a Latin kid once, so hot and passionate, who kept calling me pappi (correct spelling?)...when I asked him why is was saying that, after we were finished of course, he just kind of smiled, like I was suppose to know the reference...well I didn't and I don't..Help?

[+ purplekow]

I don't like that either. Had a Latin kid once, so hot and passionate, who kept calling me pappi (correct spelling?)...when I asked him why is was saying that, after we were finished of course, he just kind of smiled, like I was suppose to know the reference...well I didn't and I don't..Help?

 

I believe it is Papi with an accent on the i Kind of a sexy romantic daddy

[+ purplekow]

I call many of my lovers baby without thinking of pedophilia. I think baby and daddy are emotionally charged words that get some people sexually excited. If you dont like it you can be coy about it: (as a top) "I am not your Daddy cause your Daddy don't fuck this good" (bad grammar makes it hotter for some reason) or (as a bottom) "I am not your Daddy but I am going to make you see the Father, the son and the Holy Ghost."

If he still doesn't get the message, a simple: "When you call me Daddy it turns down the heat for me." Should end it.

[Lookin]

I know what you mean. It calls explicit attention to the age difference and, although that can be a good thing depending on the circumstances, the first time I heard it was kind of a buzzkill.

 

These days, any endearment that doesn't include the word 'geezer' is a big plus. http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

 

http://www4.slikomat.com/09/0128/edl-heidis.jpg

[bigvalboy]

I believe it is Papi with an accent on the i Kind of a sexy romantic daddy

 

A sexy romantic daddy? I kinda like that, think I will have to get used to this. LOL

[bigvalboy]

LOL... lovin it!!

[adriano46]

Lookin' that was WILD and funny -- this geezer laughed so hard I spilled my Manhatten cocktail down my front (but the teeth stayed in)

 

On a serious note for me, I sort of like the daddy/son thing but not to the point of using the terminology. I once was seeing a really cute Venezuelan dancer from Stella's and he would call me Papi occasionally, but usually when I was really pinning him to the mattress, and it only made me harder... Go figure. But if a guy now calls me "daddy" damn it shrivels right up and closes shop on me. I agree with Purplekow - politely but firmly tell the guy, "don't call me your daddy!"

 

On the other hand, what about two daddy-aged guys going at it? I am very much attracted to escorts still plying their wares in their late 40's and 50's (and not afraid to admit their age doing it), and since I am the same age -- what would WE call each other?? Gramps and Gramps? For those who like the titles, I suppose this is what we term "role play" and you tell the escort right up front when you set up the encounter what you want (eg. like when I have had guys for 3- or 4-somes and want a locker room scene and I play the randy coach and they are my bad athletes hee hee).

[nate_sf]

For those who like the titles, I suppose this is what we term "role play" and you tell the escort right up front when you set up the encounter what you want (eg. like when I have had guys for 3- or 4-somes and want a locker room scene and I play the randy coach and they are my bad athletes hee hee).

 

I think you're getting at it here. Although there is an age component to being called "Daddy" it also refers to the role as dominant, and/or being a masculine, non-twink guy. I'd say it could apply to any butch guy who is over 30. When my friends and I are out we'll sometimes see a hot guy and whisper "Oh Daddy" to each other as a way to show we think he's hot. It's on par with "woof."

 

I first got called Daddy when I was just a bit older than 30, and it kinda freaked me out. "Oh god, am I turning into a Daddy? Noooooo!" NOT that there is anything wrong with being a Daddy - it was just one of those moments like the first time you are addressed as "sir" and realize you aren't a spring chicken anymore.

 

But since then I've realized it's more of a role thing. I've even been with a guy younger than me who wanted me to call him Daddy because he was playing that role in our play, and he wanted to call me "boy." But if it's a turn-off, I think best would be to say "uh, please don't call me that" or better yet if you have an alternative, tell him to call you that instead.

 

Last time I was in San Diego I rented a car and the car lot attendant at the gate called me "pelon." I had to Google that one, I wasn't sure if I was being insulted or cruised!

[best hotel]

I want my man to be the daddy, not me...and I would hate being a sugar daddy..There are very few young escorts that can be a daddy...that is why, for me, the older escorts are the most precious

[Decatur Guy]

Thanks for all the replies so far ... interesting discussion. BTW, this was not with an escort. If I had been with an escort, I probably would have had some discussion beforehand. And it didn't ruin the sex, but it did take it down a notch or two for me.

 

Similarly, I am attracted to black men (I'm white) and other ethnic types: Hispanics/Arabs etc. Once, a very hot black guy kept asking me if I liked his black dick, etc. I just don't like that, even if one reason I'm attracted is because the sex partner is a contrast to myself.

 

One time, a black guy wanted me to go totally racist on him and call him the n word and stuff while I was face fucking him. Now I totally lost my mojo with that. I very quickly but politely put an end to the fun 'n' games and told him I remembered the last days of segregation and going back to that -- even in sex play -- was something I could never do and that I hoped he'd re-examine that himself.

 

Anyway, back to the Daddy/Son thing. Would look to hear more comments, but yeah, I could almost get over the age part of it, but it just takes me to an incest place that I can't go.

[bigvalboy]

Last time I was in San Diego I rented a car and the car lot attendant at the gate called me "pelon." I had to Google that one, I wasn't sure if I was being insulted or cruised

 

Nate you are breaking my heart here!!! I have to run off for awhile..but what on earth does "pelon" mean..?

[Bosguy]

I really do not like the daddy/son terminology but have no problem with spending time with a MATURE young MAN and it has always been an enjoyable experience. Personally, my preference with working guys is from early 30's to early 50's. They have their total acts together and their social and sexual skills are beyond belief. Have never understood hiring guys thinking that working guys beyond 30 are over the hill. Guys. You are missing out on the cream of the crop!!!!

 

Boston Bill

[Decatur Guy]

I really do not like the daddy/son terminology but have no problem with spending time with a MATURE young MAN and it has always been an enjoyable experience. Personally, my preference with working guys is from early 30's to early 50's. They have their total acts together and their social and sexual skills are beyond belief. Have never understood hiring guys thinking that working guys beyond 30 are over the hill. Guys. You are missing out on the cream of the crop!!!!

 

Boston Bill

 

One of my favorite go-to guys is 40. And I met with an escort this year (Paul from Fort Lauderdale) who is my age (late 40s) and he put one awesome fuck on my ass. I'd hire him again.

 

My most disappointing escort experiences have been with guys in their 20s.

[gallahadesquire]

Nate you are breaking my heart here!!! I have to run off for awhile..but what on earth does "pelon" mean..?

 

From the urbandictionary.com

 

thesaurus for pelon:

bald baldy cholo bald-headed baldie gangster sexy turtle waxer more...

 

 

1. pelon

 

A bald headed hispanic.

Aye pelon..

 

2. pelon

 

a man who is sexy and bald

 

jose is sexy because he is pelon.

 

3. pelon

In Spanish, literally a small loaf or breadstick with a rounded end. Often used as slang for either a bald hispanic or one's penis.

Quieres mamar mi pelon?

 

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pelon

[jjkrkwood]

I was having hot sex last night when the guy said something like: "Oh Daddy! That feels good." Or something like that.

 

It was a turn-off. I didn't say anything, and he made several more Daddy references. Otherwise, it was a great time.

 

Do you like it? I think an older man / younger man combo can be very hot, but I just don't like the terms.

 

To me, hot is hot. When I was in my 20s, I thought there were hot guys in their 30s and 40s. But I didn't think of them as "Daddies." And now, I see guys in their 20s and 30s who are hot, but I don't think of them as "Sons." It begins to hint at incest and that's not a turn-on for me. What do the rest of y'all think of the whole Daddy/Son thing?

 

I HATE it. It has certain implications I dont wanna play into. I was recently dating a much younger latino guy who referred to me as "daddy" all the time, especially during sex. I finally had to break it off with him because I realized that his use of the term had more to do with how he actually wanted to see me in the relationship rather than being used as a Hot, sexual term.

I dont mind dirty talk during sex, call me a cocksucker, etc, but DADDY, NO !

[bigvalboy]

From the urbandictionary.com

 

 

 

 

2. pelon

 

a man who is sexy and bald

 

jose is sexy because he is pelon.

 

Wow! now I like that definition...Yes sir I like #2....that is me alright, well, minus the sexy part of course. Hey 1 out of 2 ain't bad.

[adriano46]

Recently pulled my car up to an hotel entrance, and the valet parking guy said "Hey big guy!" -- I may have a few extra pounds, but "BIG GUY"??? Did he ever lose a tip.

[Guest Spanky]

...Yes sir I like #2....

 

Daddy/Son...not so much for me. SIR, on the other hand, is something that I can definitely get into.

[seeker630]

I was having hot sex last night when the guy said something like: "Oh Daddy! That feels good." Or something like that.

 

That happened to me last year and sort of went 'hmpph!' but I had a lot of momentum going and it didn;t slow me down But I did think about it later, and it bothered me a bit, because I tend to forget my age.

 

Siince then, I've been chatting with a 30-something who occasionally gets into calling me 'daddy' and it's obviously about a more dominant man, so I'm getting used to it.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Thankfully, I have never had this happen to me. I'm not really quite sure how I'd react. Fortunately, I'm off the dating/hook-up scene now, so I won't find out. I do like the "daddy" look and in some ways I'd almost consider an honor to think that I had that sort of look. But it does call attention to the age. I've always said there are two sure signs you are getting older. The first is when you get that first invitation to join AARP. But the second, and far worse, is when some whippersnapper of a store clerk gives you the senior citizen discount without even asking. And you know you are well below the age it is supposed to be given. I appreciate the discount, but the cost of my self-esteem is certainly worth more than the buck or two I save.

 

As others have said, I certainly prefer the more mature escort. I have hired twice as many guys over 40 as I have guys who are under 30.

 

I do admit that I do like to tease my bf by calling him my old man. He is quite a bit older than I am -- 22 months. He's damned near ancient.

[Epigonos]

Listen guys, at my age I wouldn’t complain too much at being called daddy. What I expecting any day and NOT looking forward to is being called granddaddy.

[+ glutes]

guess he wasn't a 'lesbian girl', hey JJ?

 

ATTN. Daddy Jerk Wood:

 

I HATE it. It has certain implications I dont wanna play into. I was recently dating a much younger latino guy who referred to me as "daddy" all the time, especially during sex. I finally had to break it off with him because I realized that his use of the term had more to do with how he actually wanted to see me in the relationship rather than being used as a Hot, sexual term.

I dont mind dirty talk during sex, call me a cocksucker, etc, but DADDY, NO !

 

What a judgemental group... Some of you are attracted to extremely young looking guys that resemble lesbian girls, some of you like bearish-guys covered in hair, some of you want to play Daddy to guys that look like they are in pre-school, some are chubby-chasers. Some just want to pay big bucks to get rubbed down and jerked off by a masseur with no skill, but who turns them on.

[+ nycman]

Ahhh…the “Daddy” conundrum.

 

First a confession….I love being called Daddy.

 

My favorite escort calls me Daddy and it turns me on like mad.

My current boyfriend however HATES the term. So, I understand

that you either love it or hate it. There’s not a lot of in between.

 

To me “Daddy” is not a biological term. I don’t think the escort

views me as his father, or even a father figure. It’s an acknowledgement

that I’m a little older than he is, and that I take care of him. I am barely

old enough to be his big brother, much less his father.

 

The boyfriend attaches all kind of fucked up father issues to the term,

so you can imagine it’s not a real turn on for him…or me…in that scenario.

 

And I think that’s where the heart of the matter is. Like most things sexual

it’s 99% in your head (the one on your shoulders). Also, terminology is a funny

thing. I love “daddy/boy”…not “father/son”. The “father/son” term just isn’t my

thing, but I know lots of guys who are the exact opposite.

 

Btw, the first person ever to call me Daddy….years ago…was Lady Bunny one

night at Stella’s. I was all of about 30 years old at the time. I almost fell off my

barstool, but once I recovered….it stuck.

[orbital sander]

I have never been called "daddy" but I guess it would depend upon who/and how I was being called before I could say it would upset me. I do not like to be called "honey" by most strangers, however, there are some older ladies (waitresses in coffee shops) that are obviously trying to be sweet, and so that does not bother me. Curiously, I have noticed lately that some waiters (often Hispanic) call me "boss". The service was great, the waiters were friendly, but for some reason they called me "boss". I guess I have just chalked it up to the blue-collared nature of these places. I suppose I would not be OK with it in a fine dining establishment, but these places were just you non fast-food type burger sandwich places.