in calls - a clients perspective

[NYTomcat]

OK so while I may be taughted as a lord. We all know im still a neophyte for hiring. So its back to needing advice from the more experienced on the forum. In all my hires its always been in hotels but I am considering an in call to an escorts home. As always it will be a long hire. King of the overnights and weekends as you know. So any suggestions as to what is different. I would think the experience would be more comfortable and even a but more personal. Any recommendations on if this is better or worse. From clients and escorts alike would be appreciated.

[+ purplekow]

Well first of all don't throw the towels on the floor. When I have done incalls, I try to be as circumspect as possible. I don't ask about the art work. I don't ogle the photos. I don't thumb my way through the medicine cabinet. I pretty much act as much the perfect guest as I can, albeit one who is going to leave well fucked. I complement the host on something about the home to show that I appreciate his having me there. I bring a gift.

[instudiocity]

First, don't be messy.

Second, don't throw your usd towels on the floor.

Third, make up the bed when you get up, you don't know who's coming over before your host has a chance to do it.

Fourth, bring a bottle of wine and offer to help with groceries.

 

I guess if you do those things, you van come stay with me.

[BaronArtz]

I have seen some pretty horrible apartments of escorts, but that could just be a NYC thing. While those apartments maybe OK for a quickie, I don't think I'd want to spend the weekend there. My advice: check out the escort AND their apartment before you commit to an overnighter or a weekend.

 

If you want a change of venue, why not try a boutique hotel such as Night Hotel here in the city? And you got the maid to clean it up ...

[NYTomcat]

I have seen some pretty horrible apartments of escorts, but that could just be a NYC thing. While those apartments maybe OK for a quickie, I don't think I'd want to spend the weekend there. My advice: check out the escort AND their apartment before you commit to an overnighter or a weekend.

 

If you want a change of venue, why not try a boutique hotel such as Night Hotel here in the city? And you got the maid to clean it up ...

 

LOL my last Weekender was at the night hotel. Love the headboards LOL. What a great neogoth hotel. No this time looking for something different

[BaronArtz]

LOL my last Weekender was at the night hotel. Love the headboards LOL. What a great neogoth hotel. No this time looking for something different

 

Excellent choice TomCat! That hotel is sleek, sexy and neogoth. If these headboards could talk ....

 

By the way - and sorry to stray from the subject - are you affiliated with 'TomCat Bakery' in NYC? I see their trucks in front of Zabar's all the time.

[NYTomcat]

Excellent choice TomCat! That hotel is sleek, sexy and neogoth. If these headboards could talk ....

 

By the way - and sorry to stray from the subject - are you affiliated with 'TomCat Bakery' in NYC? I see their trucks in front of Zabar's all the time.

 

No such luck other than being a regular patron of their wears LOL.

[whipped guy]

Good Housekeeping Seal of Disapproval

 

I have seen some pretty horrible apartments of escorts, but that could just be a NYC thing. While those apartments maybe OK for a quickie, I don't think I'd want to spend the weekend there. My advice: check out the escort AND their apartment before you commit to an overnighter or a weekend.

I could write a book on this one... I recall one apartment that was is a total state of filth and disarray. In addition, it had the most hideous light fixture/chandelier hanging from the ceiling. Well, the guy moved to a different apartment and to my dismay the "new" dwelling was even more repulsive than his previous place… so much so that he even failed to flush his toilet! Of course the finishing touch was the presence of that unsightly and beyond ugly chandelier. Now I would never consider staying the night in such conditions, but for a couple of hours of S&M it does seem somewhat apt even though squeaky clean would definitely be my preference.

[NYTomcat]

OK you guys are making the hotel seem better and better. Are there no positives to the im call experience. I would think access to an escorts full regalia of. .. would at least make up for any shortfall.

[whipped guy]

More considerations

 

I would think access to an escorts full regalia of. .. would at least make up for any shortfall.

That is the clincher... especially if the guy has certain setups, toys, etc. for various scenes etc. That's why such situations are tolerated, but as I said I could not even begin to want to stay the night. Also, there is the issue of pets... One guy had a dog and a cat and it was de rigueur to make love (or at least nice) to them as well... As one fellow poster told me regarding such a situation... "I had to stop seeing him due to allergies." Another said, "The feline is not my favorite species." Now I am not a "pet person", but if you are the presence of pets might be considered a plus...

 

So research all aspects...

[rvwnsd]

How would you like an escort to behave in your home? That's how you should behave in his. Aside from filth and squalor, try not to dwell on decorating, furnishings, and location. If the sex is great, does the 1990's throw rug really matter? Definitely ask about pets, smoking, drinking, etc. I would also ask about the entry system, parking, and neighborhood noise. Purplekow said is very well...be the very best guest you can be.

[whipped guy]

Great sex probably trumps all...

 

How would you like an escort to behave in your home? That's how you should behave in his. Aside from filth and squalor, try not to dwell on decorating, furnishings, and location. If the sex is great, does the 1990's throw rug really matter?

Depending on the situation and access to the escort’s place I would be concerned about the location and especially if the a late night arrival or departure is involved. Plus, there would be issues regarding parking if you would be driving to him. Also, as implied, he might not live in the safest neighborhood. Fortunately most do, and with any luck that would not be an issue. However, I did cancel an appointment several years ago due to safety issues regarding the neighborhood in which one guy was located.

 

Still, as rvwnsd states... "If the sex is good" and the guy is hotter than hell, one will tolerate squalor, risk exposure to unsavory elements, chance harm to body and limb, imperil one’s wellbeing, and gamble that one will survive unscathed… but hopefully taking such a chance will be within reason.

 

All kidding aside, many guys do know how to “do it the right way” regarding having guests in their home and will offer you something to drink from a clean glass, a place to hang your clothing so it will not get soiled or trampled on, etc. Others have no clue. Seeing stacks of dirty dishes certainly is not good advertisement for a potential overnight stay. Also, it is amazing how many don’t even offer clean towels for a post session shower… on more than one occasion I have gone the “air dry” route… again not a good advertisement for an overnighter. I should also note that there is often no correlation to competency concerning these matters as regards the characteristics of the escort’s abode. I have been treated like a king in a fifth floor walk up and seen squalor in a luxury high rise. Still, there is an element of excitement meeting a guy at his place… a bit of the unknown the first time ads to the experience. Also, one usually feels that they can relax and not be worried about being discovered at an escort’s place… as opposed to being “caught doing it” by security at a hotel… but then again taking such a chance at a hotel… and “risking it all” can be a turn on in itself at times!

[+ newatthis]

… Also, one usually feels that they can relax and not be worried about being discovered at an escort’s place… as opposed to being “caught doing it” by security at a hotel…

Ah, but what about being caught by an early-returning boyfriend or another client who shows up early?

[+ Lucky]

Sro

 

I once went to an in-call at what I believe are called SROs- those public housing places where you get a room and the bath is down the hallway.

Well, the experience of walking the halls to the room was quite intimidating, as many unsavory characters were hanging out. I won't forget that, but the sex sure was forgettable!.

[NYTomcat]

OK. I love the in call horror stories so keep them coming.

 

In the interim let me refocus the question a bit:

 

In this instance I know the neighborhood and I've seen pictures of the apartment and all is perfectly perfect. I would say clean beyond belief. There may be pets but that's generally a plus for me remember pet lover here. There is no worry I will be on best guest manners bringing a gift and all. So my question is does the long term hire have a more relaxed feel in someones personal space usually or is it more awkward. I would guess it would vary nythe people involved but I was wondering what others experience has been?

[+ Charlie]

Above all, do not look through the photo albums on the coffee table. I did once, and saw an old friend in a most indelicate situation.

[KMEM]

You mean, with a girl?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ Charlie]

No, but in frilly underwear.

[Romann]

There is an escort here in Dallas whom I see quite often and hang out at his place which I have found to be very comforting, relaxing and decorated with a contemporary style with specific art work and blown glass pieces of sentimental value accented with soft lighting. His oh so cute cute dog whom has a lot of personality adds a lot of charm and a cat that hangs out in the hamper and doesn't care to be around people so no worries about seeing her much if any. This escort's apartment is always clean and without dishes in the sink or piles of this, that and the other scattered around. Thirsty? He certainly offers refreshments as well - before and after.

 

Oh wait, that escort is me.

[+ azdr0710]

oh Romann.....yoooooou....

[jawjateck]

That Dallas-based escort has a hot, inviting shower in his apartment too. I remember that awesome back scrub well. You don't get that level of customer service in a Hyatt or Loews or W or.....

[NYTomcat]

There is an escort here in Dallas whom I see quite often and hang out at his place which I have found to be very comforting, relaxing and decorated with a contemporary style with specific art work and blown glass pieces of sentimental value accented with soft lighting. His oh so cute cute dog whom has a lot of personality adds a lot of charm and a cat that hangs out in the hamper and doesn't care to be around people so no worries about seeing her much if any. This escort's apartment is always clean and without dishes in the sink or piles of this, that and the other scattered around. Thirsty? He certainly offers refreshments as well - before and after.

 

Oh wait, that escort is me.

 

And its a damn good thing given your my in-call. So as you all now know the location is not an issue. My question to the fellow posters stands. How have you found those weekends at an escorts home. All stories good and bad are appreciated. As is what you felt was different from the hotel experience.

 

Thank you j for the heads up on the shower. Now you see how educational this can be.

[Epigonos]

I would NEVER even consider doing an overnight, let alone an extended visit, at the home of an escort, or anywhere else for that matter, if I had not already spent time with him. The very idea of being trapped with someone I don’t know well for an overnight, or worse yet a longer period of time, literally puts the fear of god into me. The location is irrelevant – his place, my place, a hotel. I visit only one escort in his home and that came about only after we had known each other for a couple of years first. I have had escorts in my home for an afternoon or evening but I am fortunate in that I live alone and my condo neighbors mind their own business.

[Guest DrBeaverboy]

I'm admittedly somewhat of a messy person -- certainly not a complete slob, but not neat and tidy either.

 

I wouldn't want to expose a client to my messes; if I were doing an incall I feel that it's part of my responsibility to provide a clean, non-distracting environment in which to play/get to know one another.

 

I'll be moving in the next couple of months, and I want to move somewhere where I can dedicate a room and bathroom to in-calls -- where the sheets and towels are always clean and everything is always tidy.

 

If a client wants to spend the weekend with me then he may have to bear the mess that might be left in the kitchen or den by my roommate and I, and if he really wants to see or fuck in the room I usually reside in, then so be it; but I think the gesture of having a clean, dedicated room shows a lot of respect for the client. Unfortunately I know this isn't financially feasible for escort, either.

[NYTomcat]

I would NEVER even consider doing an overnight, let alone an extended visit, at the home of an escort, or anywhere else for that matter, if I had not already spent time with him. The very idea of being trapped with someone I don’t know well for an overnight, or worse yet a longer period of time, literally puts the fear of god into me. The location is irrelevant – his place, my place, a hotel. I visit only one escort in his home and that came about only after we had known each other for a couple of years first. I have had escorts in my home for an afternoon or evening but I am fortunate in that I live alone and my condo neighbors mind their own business.

 

Well I totally agree on that point if I had not gotten to meet the escort many times before I would not even consider a long in call. While a short one might be appropriate. The idea of an extended stay with a total stranger in their home would seem far to strange and would put the fear of God in me as well. So how have you found these in calls with this known entity in hie abode?