What are your 'fatal flaws' that providers do...

[+ glutes]

That you wouldn't re-hire?

I had a long term massage therapist that I saw abuse his cat.

After I saw that, I will no longer return.

[big-n-tall]

There are 4 things that a provider can do that won’t have me return.

In no particular order:

- seeming personality switch. I had a well known provider (I’d known for years and saw frequently) break off contact with me after I wouldn’t join his onlyfans account. I was having major car issues and told him I’d have to wait to it was resolved before I’d add any extra expense. He kept asking and I told him the same thing. He eventually stopped all contact and wouldn’t respond to me. There were other things leading up to that where he went from being sweet to being rather accusatory.

- overtly aggressive trying to get me to rehire. I have a crazy work schedule sometimes. Also I only book when I have the spare funds to do so. One local provider would constantly ask to meet up even though I told him I’d contact him when I could. Yet he would still contact me asking. It got old real fast. It turned me off and I stopped seeing him.

- saying you do something and then don’t do it. I saw a guy for massage. I later found out he also escorted. He listed kissing in his escort ad and I asked him to verify that he did… to which he said, yes. I made an appointment. During the session we seemed to be having a good time. I go in for kiss and he turns his head. I try again and same result. I finished the session, had a good time even, but I won’t hire him again (at least not as an escort) even though I find him hella attractive.

- lack of enthusiasm. I don’t expect to be treated like I’m a godsend, but if a guy just sits there and doesn’t respond or interact in some way no matter what I do. I definitely won’t try for a second meeting.

- honorable mention. Trying to upsell me during the middle of the action. It really depends on their approach whether I get turned off or not. There was a masseur in Florida who was very engaged in our session and hot as hell. He waited to the end of the erotic massage and asked if I wanted to continue and go further. I had the funds, so I did.

Another example, (which has a few from my list) a very attractive new hire turned me off. He had kissing in his ad and I asked to verify. I also told him I wanted to top him. When we met, early on, I felt maybe this wasn’t going to be a match. He was very nice though so I pressed on. He had an incredible body and when I went to touch him he said, “I just got back from the gym. So my body is sore.” I thought ok, then why did you not tell me beforehand and we could have reschedule. Anyway, I pressed on being careful not to grab him very hard. He made no attempts to do anything. I had to initiate everything. When I asked him to kiss me he reluctantly did so and only light pecks. While i was playing with him body as delicately as I could, he remarks that penetration would be extra. At the moment, I lost my excitement. Shortly afterwards he asked me if he did anything wrong. I just said no, got dressed, paid him and left. I definitely won’t see him ever again.

Edited 8 hours ago by big-n-tall

[la_connor]

Instant buzz kills. We're done.

• he's on drugs
• he's been eating garlic and I haven't
• his place is dirty

[mike carey]

3 hours ago, la_connor said:

Instant buzz kills. We're done.

• he's on drugs
• he's been eating garlic and I haven't
• his place is dirty

Isn't it your responsibility to eat garlic to ensure the second item doesn't occur? 😀

[BuffaloKyle]

A provider I recently hired was amazing and we had a ton of fun but he sweated so much you'd think he had just stepped out of the shower by the end of it.

[nomad]

There's 

3 hours ago, la_connor said:

• his place is dirty

Another reason why I prefer to host at a hotel.  I care not how messed up the room gets from the playdate.  

I remember going to a guy's hotel room once.  Piles of dirty clothes, empty food take away containers, and a pile of cum wiped toilet paper and towels.  The near freak in me couldn't relax from the get go.  After that, I have them come to me instead so I know the room is clean and any mess I make is mine and not someone else's.  Ick.

[nomad]

If they are glued to their phone and insist on using it for videos during the meeting, it's an immediate kindly get out now please.  Just say no!

[Wings246]

He couldn’t get his little brother up.  He tried.  I could tell he tried for dear life.  And you can bet your ass I tried with all my might.  It nearly drove me to the brink of an existential crisis.  He felt so bad afterwards and explained that he was exhausted from an all-day hiking trip earlier.  Whatever the reason, he unequivocally plummeted to the rock bottom of my preference list and skyrocketed to the very top of my do-not-repeat list.