Truth said about our "all embracing community"

[caliguy]

23 minutes ago, Monarchy79 said:

Most guys are ageist, until they get old. lol.

once they are on the receiving end of ageism, they are suddenly insulted and appalled. 😂

Did I hear him right? I must have missed the point he was making about how unfair it was that a 20 yo doesn't want to fuck you anymore. 

[Nue2thegame]

3 hours ago, Monarchy79 said:

Life (regardless of sexual orientation) happens in phases. 
 

The key to succeeding in each phase is to prepare, and adjust expectations.

Youth is temporary and is a fleeting phase that has many forks in the road to choose from. 

For any man or woman to expect to be lusted after and “paid attention to”  over the age of 40, in the same way that they were at 20, is delusional and unrealistic. 

I’m 46 and could care less about attracting younger men, or being a sex symbol. I took care of all of that during the time I was supposed to. 

In the cases where people do flirt with me, and show me attraction, I’m pleasantly flattered, take it as that, and move on. 
 

People need to grow up. 
 

 

 

All that is true but each phase has its own challenges and benefits. I have a few decades (mid 70s) on you and what I value the most now is being unburdened by most of the things that concerned me when I was younger - jobs, appearance, family etc. Ageing offers a perspective that I didn’t imagine when I was younger. Enough people still find me reasonably attractive enough. I enjoy good health with necessary equipment still in working order, so I’m still in the game. I don’t envy the lifestyle of most 20 - 35 year olds and don’t regret that I can’t do some of the things that I did when I was their age. Life for me is very good right now but I know that the quality of life that I’m enjoying is probably only good for a few more years. I’ll deal with that when I get there. 

[soloyo215]

On 3/27/2026 at 10:57 PM, sniper said:

The older men complaining now are more than likely guilty of the same offense when they were younger. Because if they had been less attractive they'd have been gettimg ignored all along and this wouldn't be such a surprise to them now. "A lot of men are visually stimulated, ageist, and shallow! And water is wet, news at 11."

Fuck no!

First, who the fuck are you to say that, and what proof do you have? Did we have bad apples? Yes, but some seem to forget that we were actually forced to unite against the AIDS threat because nobody cared, including the government.

Also, it'll help to put things in context. Think about all the rights that we didn't have, the way society and the media portrayed us, the way our families treated us, the way we had to hide who we are so we could do basic things like getting a job.

People see to have this convenient amnesia about how things really were back then and judge us through the lens of how things are now.

Furthermore, even if what you say is true, what's your point? Does that make it ok to be mistreated now? Is that supposed to entitle or justify what they are doing to the "community"? How does that make things look any better?