Advice-Fiancé is an Escort

[nate_sf]

On 12/17/2025 at 2:51 PM, jmkblnd1 said:

not knowing where or who is with may make me crazy.

I have a husband, and we're able to make it work - with boundaries. One of the things is I always tell him who I'm seeing and where, and when I come home I tell him how it went. A number of my clients know about my husband too.

One of our agreements is I do not take overnights here in town. He's OK with me doing overnights when I'm away traveling, but says it bugs him knowing I'm in town with someone else. I get it, and stick to our agreement.

I also have to be careful not to take too many appointments, because it takes away from our time with each other. If it feels like I'm spending too much time out of the house, I'll decline some appointments. I like spending time with him, so it's not just him having me at home, but also me being able to be at home with him (and the dogs) too.

Ordinarily I'd say don't rush to get married, and instead try living together and see how it goes. But you mentioned your guy is an immigrant, so I'm guessing there is a practical side to the marriage proposition.

You'd mentioned that you should have known better, and wonder whether your enjoyment of massages makes you a hypocrite. Don't think like that... you're either being gaslit, or taking on blame that is not deserved.

Happy to talk further in PM.

[+ PhileasFogg]

@jmkblnd1, unless you have a reason to doubt what he says, I think your heart will tell you whether you can accept his words at face value or not.  There’s hook up, there’s sex, there’s connection, and then there’s commitment.  I come back to who he comes home to at night.

But, this might be a good time to be thinking about a pre-nup in case your heart leads you the wrong way.   If he doesn’t want to be supported, there’s not a good objection.  But the trade off is that he gets to choose how he makes money.

[Peter Eater]

14 hours ago, jmkblnd1 said:

He is an immigrant with only experience in Construction and it slows down over the Winter. 

Please share his contact info. I’m interested in booking him.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

4 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

18 hours ago, jmkblnd1 said:

He is an immigrant with only experience in Construction and it slows down over the Winter. 

Please share his contact info. I’m interested in booking him.

He may not be licensed to work construction in your state

[DunwoodyGuy]

Make sure you have a pre-nup before the big day--and sign up for some couples therapy ASAP. (Some individual would be a good idea too!) Good luck!

Edited Sunday at 02:33 PM by DunwoodyGuy