Question for providers

[Redbook]

 

Still fairly new to this hobby and need some advice. I really love to worship, serve, and please a guy. So, when I hire a provider, I do it to suck his cock, worship his feet, eat his ass, watch him jerk off, and have him cum on me. I communicate my desires pretty clearly, and every provider I’ve been with has been down to accommodate that.

Here’s my question:  how much am I expected to direct the action? Am I supposed to dictate things play-by-play?

When I have been with guys I have hooked up with, when I am sucking their dick, they pretty much dictate whether they are standing up, or lying down, or face fucking me etc. I am pretty orally talented, so I always make them cum, but  they are in charge and I am more or less submissive.

But with the providers I have been with, they tend to stay in the same position unless I say, “let’s try it with you lying down on the bed “or “do you want to fuck my face”? It feels like they are waiting for my direction. I’d like them to tell me if they want me to change position, go slower or faster, or lick their balls, etc.

I might be answering my own question here, but should I just say at the beginning of the appointment “by the end of the hour I want to have had, X, Y, and Z, but I’d like you to be the dominant one and decide how and when we get there. What turns me on is making you cum, so tell me what you need me what you want or need me to do to make that happen.

 

 

[+ Pensant]

As has been said many times over the years here, gently communicate your desires. It has always worked incredibly well for me.

[+ Jamie21]

Yes tell him you’d like him to decide the pace and positions etc but try to avoid being over prescriptive. A good guy should be able to work out what you like and even show you things you never knew you liked. 

[maninsoma]

4 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Yes tell him you’d like him to decide the pace and positions etc but try to avoid being over prescriptive. A good guy should be able to work out what you like and even show you things you never knew you liked. 

My best provider experiences were with guys who figured out what I wanted based on body language and, sometimes, took things in a new direction for me that I ended up enjoying.  Then again, as an almost 100% bottom it's pretty easy to read the body language of a guy lifting his ass up in the air. 

I remember having to train one guy who became a somewhat regular, though the training didn't take long, that I in fact did want him to squat over my face while I ate his ass and he jerked off and then came in my mouth.  I did want that every time with him, at least; my desire to rim does vary with the guy.  Once he understood this, he stopped asking and just provided my mouth what it wanted.

[soloyo215]

As others have said, in a settled way or directly, you can communicate what/how you want. I doubt that the provider will be offended, annoyed or hurt by you telling them what/how you expect things.

Best.

[+ Jamie21]

6 hours ago, maninsoma said:

I remember having to train one guy who became a somewhat regular, though the training didn't take long, that I in fact did want him to squat over my face while I ate his ass and he jerked off and then came in my mouth. 

Interesting! I feel like some of my clients have trained me. One particular client I can think of: we’ve never discussed it, nor commented afterwards but the arrangement is that at the start of the massage about 10 minutes in (always) when I’m standing the head end, he lifts his head up from the cradle, takes my cock in his mouth and sucks me to completion. He then swallows the load and we carry on with his massage to an ultimate happy ending for him.

I make sure that when he books I’ve a nice load ready, and of course that I haven’t eaten asparagus in the preceding day. I can’t remember how we got to this understanding but it must have involved some training of me, especially because I’m never that bothered about client blow jobs (few can do it well), but this guy is an expert. It’s unusual for me to cum from oral alone but he manages it. 

[Scott Carroll]

23 hours ago, Redbook said:

 

 

Still fairly new to this hobby and need some advice. I really love to worship, serve, and please a guy. So, when I hire a provider, I do it to suck his cock, worship his feet, eat his ass, watch him jerk off, and have him cum on me. I communicate my desires pretty clearly, and every provider I’ve been with has been down to accommodate that.

Here’s my question:  how much am I expected to direct the action? Am I supposed to dictate things play-by-play?

When I have been with guys I have hooked up with, when I am sucking their dick, they pretty much dictate whether they are standing up, or lying down, or face fucking me etc. I am pretty orally talented, so I always make them cum, but  they are in charge and I am more or less submissive.

But with the providers I have been with, they tend to stay in the same position unless I say, “let’s try it with you lying down on the bed “or “do you want to fuck my face”? It feels like they are waiting for my direction. I’d like them to tell me if they want me to change position, go slower or faster, or lick their balls, etc.

I might be answering my own question here, but should I just say at the beginning of the appointment “by the end of the hour I want to have had, X, Y, and Z, but I’d like you to be the dominant one and decide how and when we get there. What turns me on is making you cum, so tell me what you need me what you want or need me to do to make that happen.

 

 

That is exactly my jam and while I do not have a lot of experience with many providers, the ones I have had were directed by me (in the form of a question) LOL.  It is so fantastic servicing a man completely (and to completion)!!!

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I'm like Scott and Redbook.

I'm always mindful of their comfort level, so if they're standing too long, I'll ask, "Do you want to sit or lie down?"

Most of them will sit or lie down.

(Also, it sometimes gets hard on my knees if I kneel too long.)

[Scott Carroll]

12 minutes ago, Whoisyourdaddy said:

I'm like Scott and Redbook.

I'm always mindful of their comfort level, so if they're standing too long, I'll ask, "Do you want to sit or lie down?"

Most of them will sit or lie down.

(Also, it sometimes gets hard on my knees if I kneel too long.)

I have to use pillows.  LOL!

[Whoisyourdaddy]

That's a great idea. I don't know why I've never thought of that. I guess I get wrapped up in the heat of the moment.