Group Scenes

[Boaxxx]

I'm planning for a small group experience, me and three other providers, and would appreciate some provider feedback.  I have already had one-on-one sessions with two of the providers and those two providers also know one another and are fine with working with one another. The third guy has been recommended by one of the two, someone that he has worked with before. Two hours are being set aside for the session.  I will be the center of attention, a small gangbang/cumdump.

I have several different scenarios/roleplay ideas. Question, should I offer up the different scenarios and let the providers choose one or should I simply let things simply evolve organically (greet one another, exchange pleasantries and   My preference is to provide different scenarios and let them choose one and surprise me (anticipating what I am going to walk into would be very exciting) but I also don't want to complicate things for the guys. Thoughts?

[+ JamesB]

I don’t have much experience setting up group sessions, but one thing I’ve learned is that it’s crucial to lay out clear ground rules for both, what you want to happen and what you don’t. At the end of the day, you’re the client, so it’s in your best interest to make your expectations crystal clear from the start.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

It depends on how specific these scenarios are. If it’s simple mechanics: you want to get DP’d while getting face fucked, that’s simple enough. If you’re looking for more of a role play situation, you probably need to articulate them fairly well. 

[CuriousByNature]

Too bad DW Griffith isn't alive to chime in - he knew how to pull off group scenes like nobody else.  LOL

[Boaxxx]

3 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Too bad DW Griffith isn't alive to chime in - he knew how to pull off group scenes like nobody else.  LOL

LOL, too bad indeed.

[+ Jamie21]

Make sure the 3 guys can work well together, sounds like you’ve done that. Then let them know what you definitely don’t want (hate your toes being sucked? Tell them about it). Avoid setting out too prescriptive a list of what you do want because that can make it too choreographed. Tell them how you want to feel rather than what you want done. As in I want to feel like I’m your plaything, I want to feel slutty or whatever. They know how to make that happen because it’s their job. If you say I want to be DP’d while having my throat used then that becomes the fixation and it’s likely to make your session too focused on that activity. Let it happen naturally, it’s so much better. 

[Simon Suraci]

I’m excited for you, @Boaxxx. Sounds like you’re going to have a great time! You already have providers that know and work with one another, are comfortable with one another. That’s 75% of the effort right there. As far as scripting and choreographing, I find it’s best to leave a loose structure with general direction and let the guys take it from there, unless you have any specific roleplay fantasies or specific fetish things you want to make sure they include.

Speaking from experience, one of my clients has a long and very specific list of things he wants me and the other 2-5 guys to do to one another and to him. He’s hired me many times for these groups so I know how they go down. He gets hung up on the details ahead of the meeting, micromanaging me asking me to make sure everyone knows exactly what they are doing. I do.

Then, in the moment, he throws most of it out the window because the energy is such that he wants to proceed with how things are naturally going. And he also asks for various things in the moment, like being in a director’s chair. All the effort I put in to choreograph things (per his request) is wasted because in the moment he just wants to go with the flow, or changes his mind from what he said he wanted.

Some general direction is good. Telling your providers how you want to feel is a good start, because they can get creative with how to execute the prompt. I advise against giving them several different scenarios because they become focused on which one to do rather than how to do the one well.

If you want to be “surprised” in some way, maybe give them some room to do things you aren’t expecting. Choosing from a list, you won’t really be surprised by much. “Oh, ok, I see they are doing scenario #2…” and then your expectations kick in for #2. If the surprise aspect is truly important, maybe give them the wheel and ask to be surprised. That way you lack the expectations and leaves more room for genuine surprise.

It sounds like you basically know what you want though. Some general direction for one scene is good. In the moment you can always ask for a shift, for them to do something. “Hand gag me”, “Suck on his ______”, “Spank me harder”, etc. Moans, groans, saying yes, oh yeah, I like that, are all good ways to gently push the session in the direction you want it to go without having to be extremely specific or interrupt the pace.

You will feel things in the moment. You will be surprised by one thing or another. You want the wiggle room to let your feelings lead the way. It’s a feedback loop. If these guys are good, they will pick up on your cues, respond to your body, and listen when you make a request. Then it gratifies you, and your positive feedback encourages them to push further, and so on and so forth.

Don’t be afraid to ask for things in the moment, and communicate positive feedback, even in the most basic ways with a grunt or groan. You will feel things and you can’t always anticipate ahead of time how you will feel in the moment. You want to make the most of the experience in the moment, so minimal choreographing is best. Just my opinion.

Please let us know how it goes!

P.S. if it works out well, you can always do a repeat with some or all of the same guys, but ask for a different scenario on your wishlist the next time. That way, they are focused on creatively fulfilling one prompt, rather than focusing on which prompt to choose in the first place.

[GentJ]

Can I volunteer? 😁 I love groups.

In my experience with groups it does matter if you have the right ratio of tops to bottoms. 3:2 tops to bottoms is optimal, in my opinion, so the tops get to take a rest every now and then! But in your case, maybe you'd like to be the only top or the only bottom? I don't think you'll have much of an issue with the providers being able to work together--as professionals, they should be able to make it work. And they should make sure you get plenty of attention as patron.

I do think making the rules clear in advance is a must, but it's probably fun if there aren't too many so you can see what possibilities arise naturally. There are so many fun combinations of dicks and holes!

[Boaxxx]

Thanks guys for your feedback.  I definitely like the idea of letting them know how I want to feel rather than spelling out specifics (unless there is really something specific that I want).