*Will no one rid me of this turbulent provider?

[Austin Lewis]

My extortionist is in rare form today. I am so grateful for the encouragement I've received from this forum, from the one provider (who's now a friend in an uncoventional sort of way) who has supported me, and local law enforcement.

If anyone is receiving threats, let me say the thing that is obvious when you're calm, but not at all obvious when you're being threatened: do not, under any circumstances, give in to the threats. It is not easy to say no to the first one, but it gets harder and harder the more times you've said yes. They'll keep coming back until you stop, so it's best just never to get started.

[+ Twinkluvr]

So sorry you are experiencing this.  When you fight back, they tend to back down pretty quick, too.  Keep calling them out so the guys who make up this community can support you.  It works.

[+ PhileasFogg]

I was careless last week and put myself in a position to receive “the” blackmail/extortion threat to be outed.

He gave me 10 minutes and I told him to save himself the trouble and go ahead and not wait.   Then I told him to go f himself and that I’m not concerned with rewarding the dregs of the cesspool with unjust enrichment.  I may have even used some words he had to look up.  But then, I’m willing and to be outed.  Only two people in the world matter to me and one knows. 

[JayCeeKy]

I'm not sure what type of threats or extortion you're referring to (or if you mean it figuratively), but if it's the threat of exposure regarding sexual activity I would encourage you (or anyone in similar circumstances) to refer your extortionist to a case in 2003 in which the head basketball coach at Louisville, Rick Pitino, after a brief ("15 seconds" - which made Pitino the butt of numerous jokes), consensual sexual encounter with a woman at a local restaurant. This female extortionist was convicted of blackmail and spent SEVEN YEARS in a federal prison - and two years probation afterwards. I would remind any wannabe extortionist that most cases are easy to convict (save ALL communications!) and often carry lengthy prison time. And, you are correct that extortionists never go away - Rick gave this woman money for six years before he finally went to the authorities.  An extortionist who has been paid cannot be trusted to hold up his end of the bargain - they'll just keep coming back. NEVER, EVER PAY A BLACKMAILER or EXTORTIONIST A NICKEL !!!

[+ PhileasFogg]

The extortionist preys on fear and the best defense is a more aggressive attack.

If you know the person, act before they do.  Better to “embarrass” yourself before law enforcement to quash the threat.  They have considerably more to lose

Edited Tuesday at 02:17 AM by PhileasFogg

[Thelatin]

4 hours ago, Austin Lewis said:

one provider (who's now a friend in an uncoventional sort of way)

Oh - god stop.  No he isn’t.  Just stop.

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I went through this for two years with a twink couple I met on Mintboys. I haven't visited Mintboys since then.

Desperate people do desperate things.

I'm glad they never knew where I lived. If I host, I do it in a hotel room.

[Austin Lewis]

11 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

The extortionist preys on fear and the best defense is a more aggressive attack.

If you know the person, act before they do.  Better to “embarrass” yourself before law enforcement to quash the threat.  They have considerably more to lose

The biggest surprise for me in all this has been how chill law enforcement has been. The deputy who took my statement was completely unfazed and very compassionate. The detective assigned to the case did check with a state's attorney to make sure she could pursue a case that arose from illegal activity (prostitution), but she got the go-ahead and took the case very seriously.

[BaronArtz]

I don't understand why people just don't block all contact via phone, text or any social media at the first sign of trouble.  That way, a situation like this would not be able to develop into a black mail scheme.

[TJMS]

Is that extortionist still advertising on RM? It would be good to know who that is

[Austin Lewis]

24 minutes ago, TJMS said:

Is that extortionist still advertising on RM? It would be good to know who that is

No, he removed his ad a few weeks ago. 

[Austin Lewis]

1 hour ago, BaronArtz said:

I don't understand why people just don't block all contact via phone, text or any social media at the first sign of trouble.  That way, a situation like this would not be able to develop into a black mail scheme.

You'd be surprised how quickly they're able to generate new numbers. 

[+ MikeThomas]

If it is the same provider that was discussed in the original thread, his ad is still up and is active.  In case I am wrong, or confused, I am not going to post a link here.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

17 minutes ago, Austin Lewis said:

You'd be surprised how quickly they're able to generate new numbers. 

For the future, you may want to download the "Burner" app. It creates a second anonymous phone number that you can use for calls and texting from your existing phone. If your Burner number is compromised, you can delete it and get a new one. I use it in all my initial outreach to providers. 

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[Asterisk]

58 minutes ago, Austin Lewis said:

No, he removed his ad a few weeks ago. 

Nonetheless, please identify.  Scammers return, and identifying the scammer could help prevent others who might consider contacting him from being extorted.

[Austin Lewis]

41 minutes ago, MikeThomas said:

If it is the same provider that was discussed in the original thread, his ad is still up and is active.  In case I am wrong, or confused, I am not going to post a link here.

You're right. The ad is back. Santosyoung. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

7 hours ago, Austin Lewis said:

The biggest surprise for me in all this has been how chill law enforcement has been. The deputy who took my statement was completely unfazed and very compassionate. The detective assigned to the case did check with a state's attorney to make sure she could pursue a case that arose from illegal activity (prostitution), but she got the go-ahead and took the case very seriously.

I’m not a lawyer.  But if you ever paid him electronically, the it might be a federal case.  If you communicated across state lines and/or on the RM pm platform, it may be as well

[StarQualityLuke]

What is this all about? 

[builder boy]

This all seems very cryptic.  If  we are being warned pls share contact 

[+ PhileasFogg]

2 hours ago, builder boy said:

This all seems very cryptic.  If  we are being warned pls share contact 

He did

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RENTMEN.EU

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Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Miami, FL - Santosyoung: Santos

 

[+ Gar1eth]

On 8/25/2025 at 4:08 PM, Austin Lewis said:

My extortionist is in rare form today. I am so grateful for the encouragement I've received from this forum, from the one provider (who's now a friend in an uncoventional sort of way) who has supported me, and local law enforcement.

If anyone is receiving threats, let me say the thing that is obvious when you're calm, but not at all obvious when you're being threatened: do not, under any circumstances, give in to the threats. It is not easy to say no to the first one, but it gets harder and harder the more times you've said yes. They'll keep coming back until you stop, so it's best just never to get started.

I'm glad you are feeling better about things. Was there a previous thread about this as I couldn't find it?

Edited yesterday at 12:14 AM by Gar1eth

[MikeBiDude]

2 minutes ago, Gar1eth said:

I'm glad you are feeling better about things. Was there a previous thread about this as I couldn't find it?

There was at least one previous post, that was deleted by the OP.

[+ 7829V]

44 minutes ago, PhileasFogg said:

He did

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RENTMEN.EU

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Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Miami, FL - Santosyoung: Santos

 

Rentmasseur to cross reference

https://rentmasseur.com/Santosyoung

[+ 7829V]

A closed thread about this provider

Another thread

 

Edited yesterday at 12:47 AM by 7829V

[TJMS]

This is getting curiouser and curiouser