Race play - the basics

[pubic_assistance]

6 minutes ago, Obsidian said:

You say you hire because you're 50+. Seems like that would be the bottom of the dating pool to me, instead of Asians and Blacks as you claimed earlier. 

Well...fortunately I married at 35 so I am not IN the dating pool. 

I get a lot of younger Asian women and Latino guys hitting on me all the time...so I could probably be pretty busy if I were single.

[Obsidian]

7 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Well...fortunately I married at 35 so I am not IN the dating pool. 

I get a lot of younger Asian women and Latino guys hitting on me all the time...so I could probably be pretty busy if I were single.

You're already busy, busy here disparaging entire demographics of gay men with your unfounded data based solely on your insecurities. You should be proud.

Edited June 18 by Obsidian

[pubic_assistance]

Was I "disparaging" or was I sharing my observations ? 

Prove my observations wrong and then perhaps they are disparaging. But if they are factual..they are merely facts.

[Obsidian]

What else you got "Mr. they idolize me and everyone wants me", yet i have to pay?

[Obsidian]

9 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Was I "disparaging" or was I sharing my observations ? 

Prove my observations wrong and then perhaps they are disparaging. But if they are factual..they are merely facts.

The only fact is, you are what you're insulting others as being. "The bottom of the pool", the last one someone would want. Hence why you have to pay, and most of your free time is spent here in an alternate reality. At the end of the day, you're the one that has to pay, not me. The guys you pay in pretend world wont call you on your BS, in the real world we do.

Edited June 18 by Obsidian

[Obsidian]

You should get some sleep, you'll have a long day here tomorrow.

[pubic_assistance]

10 minutes ago, Obsidian said:

The only fact is, you are what you're insulting others as being. "The bottom of the pool", the last one someone would want. Hence why you have to pay, and most of your free time is spent here in an alternate reality. At the end of the day, you're the one that has to pay, not me. The guys you pay in pretend world wont call you on your BS, in the real world we do.

OK Karen.

Feel better now ?

🤣🤣🤣

Back to the subject.

Blacks and Asians sometimes like to face their inferiority by having sex with a superior white person. It simultaneously makes them confront their shame and excites their senses to know a good looking white person had an orgasm in their company. That momentary reward makes them question their inferior status and makes them feel valuable. 

It's a fetish that isnt for everyone and it makes a lot of emotionally triggered white people uncomfortable in confronting these harsh realities. 

[+ sync]

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

OK Karen.

Feel better now ?

🤣🤣🤣

Back to the subject.

Blacks and Asians sometimes like to face their inferiority by having sex with a superior white person. It simultaneously makes them confront their shame and excites their senses to know a good looking white person had an orgasm in their company. That momentary reward makes them question their inferior status and makes them feel valuable. 

It's a fetish that isnt for everyone and it makes a lot of emotionally triggered white people uncomfortable in confronting these harsh realities. 

"Blacks and Asians sometimes like to face their inferiority by having sex with a superior white person" reads like a humungous Freudian slip.

Bad form.

[Boaxxx]

Is it race play if a white guy wants or desires Asian and Black guys to make him feel inferior and subservient? How is this different from Dom/sub roles where the race of each is diverse?

I personally love the idea of a Dom Asian or black man taking on a superior/dominating role, humiliating me and using me for sex. Is that race play? Or is it only race play when the white guy is taking on the dom/superior role?

[pubic_assistance]

3 hours ago, Boaxxx said:

I personally love the idea of a Dom Asian or black man taking on a superior/dominating role, humiliating me and using me for sex. Is that race play? Or is it only race play when the white guy is taking on the dom/superior role?

sub/DOM fetish is "race play" when you wrap stereotypes into the encounter for emotional pain and suffering. Think of it like riding a roller coaster. The more frightened you are...the more intense the fun.

Yes, a black man "using you" COULD be orchestrated in such a way. The stereotype of black men being sexually aggressive and dangerous is a common theme in race play. Particularly when combined with cuckholding. A white couple encounters a muscular/masculine black man. He attacks the husband - restrains him and forces himnto watch while he has his way with the white woman. This was a popular theme at the swinger clubs when I was younger. 

In your case, he attacks you, holds you down and uses your body to pleasure himself while denying you any. Punishes you for having a hard-on and humiliated you for being gay. (Claiming that he is not). 

Edited June 18 by pubic_assistance
grammar

[pubic_assistance]

4 hours ago, sync said:

"Blacks and Asians sometimes like to face their inferiority by having sex with a superior white person" reads like a humungous Freudian slip.

Bad form.

The subject is "race play". Did you not understand what race play is ? 🤔

[Obsidian]

5 hours ago, sync said:

"Blacks and Asians sometimes like to face their inferiority by having sex with a superior white person" reads like a humungous Freudian slip.

Bad form.

Ok David Duke,

The only one clearly inferior in this conversation is you. You have "race play" confused with being a raging racist. You've also shown how unintelligent you are with your weak arguements to support your points. I've never debated with someone so bad at it. You'd be an awful lawyer. Living in this alternate reality the past decade and it being the most important thing in your life appears to have you delusional.

To recap and close. This started when you went way out of bounds by stating "Asian and Blacks are inferior". The is not a "raceplay session" with someone you're paying. Your sick, twisted, bias and and unfounded views make you the scum of the earth in the real world. You're a cowardly and ignorant man coming here to spew all the words you'd never say to someone in-person. You say you're 55 and men idolize you like a God, the funniest of all you've said. In actuality, you true "bottom of the dating pool".The self proclaimed 55 yr Godly Adonis, the one who has to pay the very ones he claims to be superior to.

[pubic_assistance]

38 minutes ago, Obsidian said:

You have "race play" confused with being a raging racist.

No I dont.

You are interfering with a conversation about race play and trying to apply social justice ideologies that ignore the very core principles of race play. 

Stop being a Karen and move on.

You keep taking the conversation off the subject to attack me personally. If you find race play morally repugnant, than this conversation is not for you. 

[Obsidian]

48 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

No I dont.

You are interfering with a conversation about race play and trying to apply social justice ideologies that ignore the very core principles of race play. 

Stop being a Karen and move on.

You keep taking the conversation off the subject to attack me personally. If you find race play morally repugnant, than this conversation is not for you. 

Dont be a coward by throwing a rock and hiding your hand. You were destroyed in this debate because you stated Asians and Blacks are inferior and the bottom of the dating pool. You didnt say it during a RP session, you said it in public .Thats an insult and why i "read your book from page 1 to the end". At the end of the day, you have to pay to be with the very ones you claim to be better than. You're a parisite hiding behind the cloke of this anon forum 

Edited June 18 by Obsidian

[pubic_assistance]

1 minute ago, Obsidian said:

You were destroyed in this debate

I am not debating you. 

Let it go.

You have no reason to be here if you arent into race play and cant share any experiences. 

[Obsidian]

The first thing you're right about.."not debating me". You're clearly not able to debate because your ignorance has you unable to support your points. All you can produce is rhetoric and insults. You proved that each time you try to respond and save face. You've been trying to win this since yesterday, YOU let it go. If you dont want to get destroyed in debates, save your 1950's views for the guys you have to pay money to get off.

[Cooper]

Administrator’s Message

Gentlemen,

You know our rules. No personal attacks: attack the issue, not the person. 

Ignoring a warning from a moderator is a violation of our rules. 

[Obsidian]

Understood. This started from the comments: "Asians and Blacks are inferior to Whites, and the bottom of the dating pool. The comments came from a member that's been here a decade.

[caramelsub]

Pubic assistance said Asian Americans and blacks are told they are inferior to whites to varying degrees, or something along those lines. Which I disagree with. But he did say Asians and blacks are at the bottom of the gay dating pool, which I don’t think is completely accurate either. Some white men love Asian men, some love Black men. That’s the beauty of gay love. I truly believe gay men are less likely to have racial hang ups, and more open to interracial relationships, than their straight male counterparts.

Edited June 18 by caramelsub

[SirBillybob]

The idea that paid sex surrogacy defines clients as being low on the dateable continuum is one that clients may harbour and work at resolving. That the escort constituency may directly or indirectly manifest that view is of manipulative value to them; yet it isn’t uniform within that group. Simplistically, if you are old, paid intimacy is easily conflated with ageism on the one the one hand, or on the other hand objectification of paid others, depending on collective membership and bias regarding commercial sex work. If non-role prescribed denigration spills out, the easiest and laziest slur relates to paying; the only potential being loss, a loser. Ideal psychological  resolution is zero sum, in which the idea of the dating pool analogy for objective worth has no real relevance. 

Money as appealingly compensatory stands in for other attributes that conventionally increase dateability. As a collective, some clients’ identity representation is bound up in personal sexual agency and it’s apparent lacking, the aforementioned grade of appeal aspect, while other clients may have conventional game capable of attracting non-transactional sexual experiences. Or circumstances unrelated to the trend of devaluing others based on age and stereotypes of sexiness may dictate hiring. The slur is tangential and essentially absurd. Who knew that dining out solo when invited to home-cooked dinner is preferred cloaks one as pathetic? 

Paid intimacy is also accompanied by the fantasy/reality dichotomy,  no need to elaborate here. Race play (assuming BDSM elements, as opposed to non-BDSM sex partner race preference in which conceptual overlap may occur) conflates racism with a fantasy/reality dichotomy wherein some aspect of race is eroticized, arguably fused with the concept of power. This forum is oriented to commercial sex but I’m not sure how the notion of tran$actional sex advances a discussion of race play, particularly if attitudes that devalue punters seep in, but notwithstanding that cash cannot be decoupled from power. It’s already so complex and controversial. 

Edited June 18 by SirBillybob

[Boaxxx]

On 4/22/2025 at 7:05 AM, White Daddy Top said:

Does anyone have any experience engaging in raceplay with an escort? I've never indulged in raceplay but I have to admit my curiosity.

Is it a taboo subject among escorts? Should I feel comfortable mentioning it as something I'm into, or would it scare too many escorts away?

Note: I am talking about a raceplay fetish, not actual racism

Guys, remember the original question? Let's stick to that.

[Obsidian]

29 minutes ago, Boaxxx said:

Guys, remember the original question? Let's stick to that.

Yes, and while sticking to the original question don't hurl insults towards entire demograpics of people. I know this sounds crazy but, when insulted most do the same in return.