Please put the city in the title

[DFdub]

Definitely in the “the city in the title is not ideal” camp.

putting “currently in French Lick” inside the first comment will cause the thread to come up when searching for “French Lick” the same as in the title. Too many provs travel too often for it to be value add.

[Walt]

On 1/5/2026 at 10:00 PM, DFdub said:

Definitely in the “the city in the title is not ideal” camp.

putting “currently in French Lick” inside the first comment will cause the thread to come up when searching for “French Lick” the same as in the title. Too many provs travel too often for it to be value add.

Also in “the city in the title is not ideal” camp.

But I also think a more helpful note inside the first comment would be “currently in French Lick, but based in Loogootee, although often visits family in St. Meinrad, and is planning to spend an extended spring break in Cumback."

[Peter Eater]

On 1/5/2026 at 7:00 PM, DFdub said:

Too many provs travel too often for it to be value add.

Really? Perhaps you can explain why RM ads put “Location” at the top, if it’s not a value add.

Edited January 7 by Peter Eater

[DFdub]

6 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

Really? Perhaps you can explain why RM ads put “Location” at the top, if it’s not a value add.

Simple - RM location has a completely different purpose / value proposition - point in time reference to hire now.

RM location is at the top because its purpose is forward looking. It shows where the provider is TODAY and where the provider’s home base is set TODAY and where the provider plans to be TOMORROW (i.e., always current status). Surely you’ve noticed the huge portion of providers that simply change their location completely vs using the travel dates function also. I want to hire. Who is/will be where I want to hire?

CoM on the other hand is providing reviews for a provider period unrelated to where they slept last.  Locations for reviews are always based on where they were YESTERDAY (i.e., backward looking). I want to hire HotTwinkDaddySlaveMasterBear. Is he any good? Oh yeah… maybe he was in French Lick 2 yrs ago when he was first reviewed; so what.

Ask yourself:  does the review of services change somehow if this traveler was based in Schenectady last year but is now based in French Lick? I mean, why would we make the OP responsible for keeping the title up-to-date? That’s a lot of overhead.

[Peter Eater]

17 hours ago, DFdub said:

Surely you’ve noticed the huge portion of providers that simply change their location completely

Surely you’ve noticed the huge portion of providers that simply don’t change their location completely, but add “travels” with a list.

[DFdub]

59 minutes ago, Peter Eater said:

Surely you’ve noticed the huge portion of providers that simply don’t change their location completely, but add “travels” with a list.

My choosing the word “portion” suggests I have. I don’t see that your comment demonstrates any flaws in my reasoning though.

I shared my opinion, and then answered your follow-up question. I’m not asking you to validate my opinion. Nor did I indicate your opinion is invalid; adults can disagree on things that do not have a right answer.

[Walt]

So delete Palm Springs and add Miami and NYC to the title of this post

 

 

[MikeBiDude]

39 minutes ago, Walt said:

So delete Palm Springs and add Miami and NYC to the title of this post

 

 

You can report the thread or ask OP to change topic title.

[Walt]

2 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

You can report the thread or ask OP to change topic title.

I think it's a bad idea to put the city in the title, so maybe I should have been more explicit!

I was offering an example to members here of one of the many times the city in the title doesn't work -- in order that if any followers of this specific post are so committed to keeping the city in the title, that THEY "can report the thread or ask OP to change topic title."

[pleasureseeker]

The percentage of times when the city does match vs when the city no longer does because of provider's travel is far greater, so it really is much better to put city in the title.

[Eric91]

I find it really helpful to put the city in the title.  I like to browse the forum and when I see a thread with my city's name in it, I will click on it.  

Even if the provider is not in my city currently, the information is still helpful because then I know that he will occasionally travel to my city and I can be on the lookout for him.

 

[DMonDude]

7 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

You can report the thread or ask OP to change topic title.

People definitely can, but I'd be curious if anyone actually is doing it in any meaningful numbers. Unless a dedicated group of mods or users are actually committed to doing this consistently, it's not really a solution. Those of us who don't need the title to show city aren't going to be the ones doing the reporting/asking OP to change the title and it doesn't seem like the people who do want that are doing it either.

And in general, would it not be more useful then to just make it a forum rule that the city has to be in the post title or it will be removed? If it's this useful for some, why have it be optional at all? Long as it's optional and this thread isn't pinned to the top of the Deli, there will be people who don't know or forget to put the city in the title. So it just seems like something grander is required if people want the city in titles this badly.

Trying to get past whether or not it's a good idea, and to an actual solve here.

Edited January 9 by DMonDude

[Peter Eater]

8 hours ago, Eric91 said:

I find it really helpful to put the city in the title.  I like to browse the forum and when I see a thread with my city's name in it, I will click on it.  

Even if the provider is not in my city currently, the information is still helpful because then I know that he will occasionally travel to my city and I can be on the lookout for him.

 

You’ve identified an important point, which concerns how COM is used.

If one usually scans RM for a provider and identifies a possible hire, then goes to COM to check feedback on him, there’s no need to have location in the COM subject line.

But if one usually scans COM for a provider and identifies a possible hire, then goes to RM to check details, then having location in the COM subject line has been hugely helpful (while making no difference to a RM scanner). 

[GTMike]

3 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

You’ve identified an important point, which concerns how COM is used.

If one usually scans RM for a provider and identifies a possible hire, then goes to COM to check feedback on him, there’s no need to have location in the COM subject line.

But if one usually scans COM for a provider and identifies a possible hire, then goes to RM to check details, then having location in the COM subject line has been hugely helpful (while making no difference to a RM scanner). 

Hahaha. Yes you are correct. But have feeling that a large percentage of folks typically end up doing both.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

6 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

You’ve identified an important point, which concerns how COM is used.

If one usually scans RM for a provider and identifies a possible hire, then goes to COM to check feedback on him, there’s no need to have location in the COM subject line.

But if one usually scans COM for a provider and identifies a possible hire, then goes to RM to check details, then having location in the COM subject line has been hugely helpful (while making no difference to a RM scanner). 

Yes!  I mostly use the latter method.

Including the home city in the subject title is immensely helpful for those who use the latter... And it neither helps nor hurts those who use the former.  So, including the city in the title seems to be a win/win for both camps (or at least a no-loss/win).

Edited Friday at 09:05 PM by Vegas_Millennial

[DMonDude]

3 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Yes!  I mostly use the latter method.

Including the home city in the subject title is immensely helpful for those who use the latter... And it neither helps nor hurts those who use the former.  So, including the city in the title seems to be a win/win for both camps (or at least a no-loss/win).

Going to redirect again. Have we not already rehashed the two different ways people are browsing RM/CoM multiple times throughout the thread?

What ideas does any one have for ensuring people put the city in the title and that those stay accurate/updated? Is anyone volunteering to be the "report an inaccurate city in title to the mods" crew? Is having city in title going to be an actual rule for posts here and posts without it be removed? Will this post be pinned to the top of the Deli as a constant reminder for people who are new or forgot before they make a post?

There's already new posts without city in title as of today. So what is the actual next step here?

Edited Saturday at 12:29 AM by DMonDude

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

19 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

Will this post be pinned to the top of the Deli as a constant reminder for people who are new or forgot before they make a post?

I like this suggestion ☝️

 

[Peter Eater]

14 hours ago, DMonDude said:

What ideas does any one have for ensuring people put the city in the title and that those stay accurate/updated? Is anyone volunteering to be the "report an inaccurate city in title to the mods" crew?

If any COM member is an ICE officer, perhaps he could patrol the site. Posting police.  Surveillance might even kill two birds with one stone.

Or, folks could just be thoughtful. I know, I know - that’s asking a lot

[DMonDude]

6 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

Or, folks could just be thoughtful. I know, I know - that’s asking a lot

It's not really about being thoughtful and even if it was, banking on people's thoughtfulness isn't a solution. People forget. Sometimes new people join and just don't know. Sometimes people make a post without doing a scan of what's already here. Many who use RM/CoM in the way where the city in the title doesn't benefit them will generally make posts without it in the title because the thought literally doesn't even occur to them to put it. You can't really be thoughtful about something that never crossed your mind as a thought to begin with if it has no logical relation to what you're doing.

Before this thread popped back up, i never thought to make posts with the city in the title because with the way i use these sites it wasn't needed because i always already knew the city the provider was in from RM, and i and others who use the forum that way thought that's what everyone else was also doing too. Now that we know that's not the case from this thread, i would put the city in title moving forward for you all, but others still may not for the reasons I've said.

Even with this thread still being on the front page of the Deli, new threads have popped up that don't have the city in the title. Which is why i suggested the possible solutions i have, they are what would actually work (other than people just changing how they use the forum so they come here already knowing a provider of interests location) knowing that the honor system and thoughtfulness isn't enough. Albeit not being very efficient because like you pointed out, no one here actually wants or has the time to be the post title police. And mods understandably don't seem to want to make city in title be a true requirement because that puts extra work of removing posts without it on their plate.

Not really sure what other options there are.

Edited Saturday at 09:10 PM by DMonDude
clarity

[DFdub]

23 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Including the home city in the subject title is immensely helpful for those who use the latter... And it neither helps nor hurts those who use the former.  So, including the city in the title seems to be a win/win for both camps (or at least a no-loss/win).

I guess my experience is cities in the title are far less reliable than others experience.

Not calling @Peter Eater out, just using him as example since he’s OP here. 3 of the first 5-6 threads he OPed show a different home city now. That’s high inaccuracy for me, and it seems unnecessary to ask him or a mod to update the title. Plus if we all know they’re wrong half the time, we know city is hit/miss even when there so unreliable by my standard.

City could be put in a tag or in the text and still show up in a search. So, searching for my home city still gets the same list of guys that are there / have been there.

I guess a key difference for me is that I like certain types so looking for anyone in Dallas first and then checking the link often gets me looking at guys that are just straight up not my type.

[Walt]

On 1/9/2026 at 7:26 PM, DMonDude said:

What ideas does any one have for ensuring people put the city in the title and that those stay accurate/updated?

Visit people at their place of business and beat them with a wet noodle?

On 1/9/2026 at 7:26 PM, DMonDude said:

So what is the actual next step here?

Ignore this whole chain of posts.

Edited Sunday at 03:06 AM by Walt

[mike carey]

Gentlemen, this is always been something of an interesting if sometimes contentious topic, and as is always the case when it's discussed this has been and remains an interesting thread. It's also illustrated that there are reasons why posting the city is useful but that the practicalities of maintaining accuracy are not simple.

Escorts move between cities, some relocating, some travelling. Their RM ads show as 'current location' what they set it as, not a permanent home base (and they change it, for example, to optimise search results). In an ideal world, references to cities would be kept up to date, but we're not in an ideal world. Moderators will tend not to update titles proactively, but will make some, but infrequent changes. For example, if we combine two or more threads about an escort we will make a judgment call about which title to retain or whether to update it to something more appropriate.

Pinning this thread would imply that it represented a forum policy, and while posting a city is useful, it's not a policy to require it. OPs can change a title at any time, the moderators will change them when we see it as necessary, but sparingly. If you think it's necessary, post it in threads you create. Revisiting this thread periodically sparks the discussion afresh and may convince some members anew of the benefits of the practice.

 

[Peter Eater]

18 hours ago, DFdub said:

3 of the first 5-6 threads he OPed show a different home city now.

I doubt that (and haven’t looked), but even if true it is irrelevant. I mean, so what?

[Walt]

3 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

it is irrelevant. I mean, so what?

It's the MOST relevant issue!  Why name cities if they are going to often be completely and utterly wrong?

[DMonDude]

7 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

I doubt that (and haven’t looked), but even if true it is irrelevant. I mean, so what?

Weren't you the one who suggested people could just be thoughtful 🤔. That goes both ways, and now is not coming from your way. It's absolutely relevant. You just are being obtuse because @DFdub pointed out that even some of your own Deli posts have, what is now, the incorrect city in the title. Having an incorrect city in the title makes the post title just as useless to CoM browsers with your use case for browsing as the city not being there in the title at all is.

You're ignoring the fact that even other people who use the forum the way you do may be annoyed by finding a provider post that even if only a few days or weeks old but is still on the front page of the Deli would show what would now be an incorrect location for that provider. Causing them the same annoyance that posts that have no city title cause you.

Edited Sunday at 10:34 PM by DMonDude