Provider allergic to cats

[dcguy20]

Today I set out to make an appointment with someone I've had my eye on. In my introductory text I always mention that I have 2 cats. From past experience, it has been an issue with both in and out calls based on one's sensitivities. 

The guy in question said he's allergic to cats, but mentioned he would wear a mask during our appointment. I kindly refused and said that wouldn't work for me. He responded saying he feels he's being penalized for being honest. Not my intention at all.

Was I out of line?

[Oakman]

No. Are you into having intimate experiences with men who wear masks? It doesn’t sound like this provider understands what the word “penalized“ means. He isn’t entitled to your business. Good for you for knowing what you want, being polite, and not giving into somebody else’s silly manipulation.

[BrooklynIrish]

Nope. I always tell guys I have a dog, primarily in case they're allergic. If I was given the same option you were, I'd move on. 

[Nightowl]

He’s not being penalized.  You’ve just opted not to hire him because he lacks one of your hiring criteria, an available mouth.  The mask would be a non-starter for me too.  (dcguy20 :  If you’re actually in the DC area, could you DM me with who this guy is?  I might have the same situation since I’m in that area too)

[rvwnsd]

No, you weren't out of line. Like you, I have two cats. Were a guy to suggest wearing a mask because of his cat allergies, I'd decline, too. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

Penalized for being honest?   If he didn’t inform you, was he going to show up anyway?  It sounds like his other options were to show up anyway either with a mask or without.  With a mask would have been a waste of time for both of you, and without would likely have been as well if he had a sneezing fit.   It seems to me that you both did the right thing sorting it out before any time was wasted.  A win/win is never a penalty 

[jackcali]

Suggest to the escort that he load up on Benedryl or another antihistamine.  I used to see a provider who had two cats (I'm very allergic) and that was my strategy, but it also meant that I kept our sessions to less than two hours. 

[BonVivant]

Antihistamine is the solution. Benadryl. Not masks. 

[+ Pensant]

Ailurophobia?

[BrickBuilder]

This is a little off topic.  Providers with Cats/Dogs where they host.

I have been to a couple of providers apartments and they have cats/dogs.   I am not allergic at all and I happen to love both types.....except when they are up and in my business while with the provider or if the place has the smell of a pet hotel.  

What do you do/say in this situation?  Crate them?  Can't deal with the odor?  Just leave?

Pets are like kids to most gay guys and they all think their's are the best behaved/cutest/you pick the superlative....so I am trying not to offend but in the end I am not there to spend time with the pet.

[FrancisCA]

As a provider who is slightly allergic to cats sometimes it is a risk im willing to take. I pop an antihistamine an hour before the meet and change clothes/shower right after.

Its just an hour or two right? Not going to ruin the fun honestly

Also thank you for being forward about having cats. I usually ask if its an in home visit so im not left sniffily mid-session eek

[+ ApexNomad]

On 2/1/2025 at 9:36 AM, AtlTopGuy said:

This is a little off topic.  Providers with Cats/Dogs where they host.

I have been to a couple of providers apartments and they have cats/dogs.   I am not allergic at all and I happen to love both types.....except when they are up and in my business while with the provider or if the place has the smell of a pet hotel.  

What do you do/say in this situation?  Crate them?  Can't deal with the odor?  Just leave?

Pets are like kids to most gay guys and they all think their's are the best behaved/cutest/you pick the superlative....so I am trying not to offend but in the end I am not there to spend time with the pet.

You could say something like:

“Hey, I love animals, but I prefer a pet-free experience during our time together. Would it be possible to have them in another room? Also, I’m a bit sensitive to strong pet odors, so I just wanted to check in about that upfront. Thank you.”

This keeps it respectful while making your needs clear. This is YOUR time. Most will and should understand, but if they get defensive, that’s a sign they’re probably not the right fit.