Does a Good BFE Mean the Provider Is Just A Good Actor?

[DGHou]

19 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I think for most the need for discretion comes because of the sex. They don’t want people to know they’re buying sexual services, because of the stigma that might bring, or the embarrassment. It’s a shame but that’s the case with society. And yes I also think some like the element of subterfuge that goes along with buying sexual services. It can be exciting if you’re normally very conventional. 

Almost all of my close gay male friends know I hire for sex. It has really never bothered me that they know and none of them seem to have a problem with it. It also helps that they know this when I've had a provider over as a guest at a pool party. They know why a cute twink in his 20's or 30's is there with a man in his mid-60's, although I have a lot of friends in that age group that are not providers. It's also nice to show them off, whether they are providers or just friends.  I have a reputation to keep up!😉

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

19 hours ago, Archangel said:

I once had a regular provider who gave me a “break” for our overnights if I booked an extra night at the hotel for him to use for subsequent appointments. He ended up calling me a lot during the day even when we weren’t together to deal with his personal issues. When I ran into some issues, he blew up and felt violated. I pointed out that he called me sometimes five or six times a day to listen to his issues, which is an element of my actual employment, and he never “compensated” me for my time. He told me I was delusional if I believed my time was worth what his was. We had a nasty falling out but I’m not upset about it. It wasn’t pleasant in the end. Once when we were together he even got angry with me for wanting him to fuck me because he was tired. He said I was being selfish. I later learned from another escort that this guy overdosed on some sort of drug related to bodybuilding. Tragic, yes, but not surprising.

It’s hard to have personal relationships that are truly healthy that develop from professional ones, sometimes. 

A too-common story. If this guy wasn't a jerk,  I might feel sorry for him.

[Archangel]

@DrownedBoy, might…

It was terrible before the explosive end…