How often do you hire?

[mattr]

I rarely hire but would like to hire more and have the financial ability to do so.  The issue for me is that most of the time I am disappointed with the encounter.  I am not particularly picky and I don't believe I am a difficult person.  I am 65, retired, and maybe 10 lbs overweight and I would assume that my appearance is acceptable.  My hygiene is impeccable. 

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, mattr said:

I rarely hire but would like to hire more and have the financial ability to do so.  The issue for me is that most of the time I am disappointed with the encounter.  I am not particularly picky and I don't believe I am a difficult person.  I am 65, retired, and maybe 10 lbs overweight and I would assume that my appearance is acceptable.  My hygiene is impeccable. 

What is it you think about your encounters that leaves you feeling disappointed?

[BaronArtz]

Good question.  I have 3 regulars whom I hire for a massage/playtime combo.  I try to see each of them at least once a month but one guy travels a lot and the other guy has boyfriend issues that cause him to not be available as often as I would like.

It is rare for me to try someone new.  I am happy with the regulars and by giving them substantial repeat business there is a certain comfort level and a camaraderie that has developed.

Having said all that, I hire about 2-3 times a month.

There used to be a guy that I was crazy about.  I would see him 4-5 times per week.   It lasted about 9 months.  It ended badly.  Looking back at it, it was an insane situation.  I am glad it is over and I will never allow myself to get into that kind of situation again.

 

 

 

 

Edited November 9, 2024 by BaronArtz

[mattr]

1 hour ago, mattr said:

I rarely hire but would like to hire more and have the financial ability to do so.  The issue for me is that most of the time I am disappointed with the encounter.  I am not particularly picky and I don't believe I am a difficult person.  I am 65, retired, and maybe 10 lbs overweight and I would assume that my appearance is acceptable.  My hygiene is impeccable. 

 

14 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

What is it you think about your encounters that leaves you feeling disappointed?

 

10 minutes ago, BaronArtz said:

Good question.  I have 3 regulars whom I hire for a massage/playtime combo.  I try to see each of them at least once a month but one guy travels a lot and the other guy has boyfriend issues that cause him to not be available as often as I would like.

It is rare for me to try someone new.  I am happy with the regulars and by giving them substantial repeat business there is a certain comfort level and a camaraderie that has developed.

Having said all that, I hire about 2-3 times a month.

There used to be a guy that I was crazy about.  I would see him 4-5 times per week.   It lasted about 9 months.  It ended badly.  Looking back at it, it was an insane situation.  I am glad it is over and I will never allow myself to get into that kind of situation again.

 

 

 

 

It often feels a bit too transactional (I know, its a transaction).  I am usually quite nervous and that probably doesn't help.  I never do less than 2 hours so my hope is that we will get to know each other a bit but except for a couple of experiences (none of which are local, its been wham bam thank you sir.   Maybe my expectations are too high.

[+ ApexNomad]

39 minutes ago, mattr said:

 

 

It often feels a bit too transactional (I know, its a transaction).  I am usually quite nervous and that probably doesn't help.  I never do less than 2 hours so my hope is that we will get to know each other a bit but except for a couple of experiences (none of which are local, its been wham bam thank you sir.   Maybe my expectations are too high.

I completely understand how you feel. I also never book less than two hours, and I want it to feel like more than just a transaction. It’s totally natural to hope for an experience that feels a bit more genuine and connected.

Not sure what city you’re in or if you’re into tops, bottoms, or vers, but I’d be happy to recommend someone if that helps. The best providers won’t make it feel like a transaction and the best ones will listen - really listen - if you’re nervous. (And they will know too.)

And don’t worry too much about the nerves—that’s normal and often gets easier with the right person. (I still get nervous with my first encounters, too.)

[Oakman]

I see a regular once a month. If a traveling provider catches my eye, I’ll do that too. Altogether about 15 - 18 times per year and $5,250 - $6,300 spent.

[Whippoorwill]

Mattr, it does depend in part on what you feel you can afford, but I recommend hiring more rather than less. The fewer the hires, the bigger deal each session becomes, the more pressure we put on the encounter to be fabulous, the more nervous we become, and the less likely it is to be the be all and end all. As you hire more, it takes the pressure off every encounter to be a life-changing event, the more relaxed you can be, and the more likely you will enjoy the session for what it is. At least that is something I have learned in my life for lots of things...for going to a concert, for a gourmet meal out, for a vacation, and for a roll in the hay. It's something to consider. 

Edited December 31, 2024 by Whippoorwill