marylander1940 Posted May 9, 2023 Share Posted May 9, 2023 I have young good looking friends who used to get laid on Grinder and now they keep on running into no shows, teasers, timewasters, folks who are eternally browsing, etc. Even while travelling and being new in town they have issues having sex with other men! One of them just told me last Thursday we made plans with 3 guys and 2 of them cancelled while the other one simply block him around the time they were supposed to meet? Many escorts also get clients who told them they spent the entire day on Grindr and were unable to get laid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ nycman Posted May 9, 2023 Share Posted May 9, 2023 It’s been like that from the beginning. 99% dirt…..1% gold. Unfortunately we all know, that’s good enough odds for a desperately horny man. pubic_assistance, MikeBiDude and + Pensant 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Pensant Posted May 9, 2023 Share Posted May 9, 2023 Another reason I never signed up for any of these apps. + azdr0710, SouthOfTheBorder, marylander1940 and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 9, 2023 Share Posted May 9, 2023 Grindr has always been FULL of people who seek validation more than they seek actual sex. SouthOfTheBorder 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjmuktop Posted May 9, 2023 Share Posted May 9, 2023 5 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said: Grindr has always been FULL of people who seek validation more than they seek actual sex. Agree. One of the reasons I ended up deleting that app from my phone is because most people on there are flakes who just want to 'sext' and have endless chat. pubic_assistance, socurious and marylander1940 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 9, 2023 Share Posted May 9, 2023 1 minute ago, sjmuktop said: most people on there are flakes who just want to 'sext' and have endless chat. I wouldn't even mind that as much as the constant requests to see photos of my erect penis ( and then asking "how big is it" ) after they've already SEEN it ! 😳 + nycman and sjmuktop 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 9, 2023 Author Share Posted May 9, 2023 7 hours ago, nycman said: It’s been like that from the beginning. 99% dirt…..1% gold. Unfortunately we all know, that’s good enough odds for a desperately horny man. Actually last year I wasn't getting that feedback. My younger friends were getting laid all the time specially while out of town. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 9, 2023 Author Share Posted May 9, 2023 1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said: Grindr has always been FULL of people who seek validation more than they seek actual sex. No better validation than actual sex! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 9, 2023 Share Posted May 9, 2023 41 minutes ago, marylander1940 said: No better validation than actual sex! Perhaps true. But most 20 somethings live in a fantasy world of social media pages. They seek constant validation and ACTUALLY meeting up with someone doesn't allow them to use the necessary glamor filters to achieve the full effect. marylander1940 and SoFlGuy 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 10, 2023 Author Share Posted May 10, 2023 7 hours ago, pubic_assistance said: Perhaps true. But most 20 somethings live in a fantasy world of social media pages. They seek constant validation and ACTUALLY meeting up with someone doesn't allow them to use the necessary glamor filters to achieve the full effect. Great analysis! pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted May 10, 2023 Share Posted May 10, 2023 That's why I started hiring. Regular hookup sites were pissing me off too much with all the game players. Or guys using old ass pics, never learned proper hygiene, reeking of cigarettes, missing teeth, not cleaning out good, etc. pubic_assistance, Jamie21, MichaelV and 2 others 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ ThroatCummer Posted May 11, 2023 Share Posted May 11, 2023 (edited) One of the hottest escorts on Rentmen that I have ever met hires for himself on occasion just because of this. Sometimes these escorts are genuine men, they aren’t all about monetizing every cum shot they have, and they want to hook up on their own terms and get their own needs met. It’s so bad on the “apps” that this guy pays the same $350-$500/hr we all do because it provides value to him. I would have never believed it, but he was telling me the exact truth. Edited May 11, 2023 by ThroatCummer marylander1940 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted May 11, 2023 Share Posted May 11, 2023 16 minutes ago, ThroatCummer said: One of the hottest escorts on Rentmen that I have ever met hires for himself on occasion just because of this. Sometimes these escorts are genuine men, they aren’t all about monetizing every cum shot they have, and they want to hook up on their own terms and get their own needs met. It’s so bad on the “apps” that this guy pays the same $350-$500/hr we all do because it provides value to him. I would have never believed it, but he was telling me the exact truth. Plus it's nice as a provider to once in awhile hire someone to cater to their sexual needs and wants instead of always catering to a clients. marylander1940 and pubic_assistance 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 11, 2023 Author Share Posted May 11, 2023 2 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said: Plus it's nice as a provider to once in awhile hire someone to cater to their sexual needs and wants instead of always catering to a clients. Yes, even hot escorts sometimes need to have fun with other hot or hotter men! pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 11, 2023 Share Posted May 11, 2023 (edited) I think its a common misconception that people always hire escorts because they can't get laid without paying. Sometimes you just want WHAT you want WHEN you want and HOW you want it. Edited May 11, 2023 by pubic_assistance grammar Jamie21, + azdr0710, + EVdude and 4 others 4 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MassageAdam Posted May 12, 2023 Share Posted May 12, 2023 On 5/9/2023 at 10:11 AM, pubic_assistance said: I wouldn't even mind that as much as the constant requests to see photos of my erect penis ( and then asking "how big is it" ) after they've already SEEN it ! 😳 I want to see it. I mean I don't even know what you look like, but I always like the confidence you ooze in your messages and find it sexy. MikeBiDude and pubic_assistance 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeBiDude Posted May 12, 2023 Share Posted May 12, 2023 I was in Honolulu last week and had one great RentMen experience and one *amazing* Grindr meet with a young man. Sometimes you need to get through the chaff to get to the wheat…but can be worth it. pubic_assistance and + azdr0710 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 12, 2023 Author Share Posted May 12, 2023 On 5/11/2023 at 10:20 AM, pubic_assistance said: I think its a common misconception that people always hire escorts because they can't get laid without paying. Sometimes you just want WHAT you want WHEN you want and HOW you want it. In most cases guys can't get for free someone they hire on RM. Yes, it's true we want someone right now and hiring is easier but some guys consider themselves losers if they have to pay for sex. 17 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said: I was in Honolulu last week and had one great RentMen experience and one *amazing* Grindr meet with a young man. Sometimes you need to get through the chaff to get to the wheat…but can be worth it. Do you also go on tinder? Do you find women easier than men? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 13, 2023 Share Posted May 13, 2023 (edited) 5 hours ago, marylander1940 said: In most cases guys can't get for free someone they hire on RM. That's a broad statment that I don't know is true. Is it "most" ? The few times I've hired escorts ..yes. I go for the deluxe model that I am too old to land on my own, anymore. But I've seen guys on rent.men who aren't even as good looking as me. So I think its all about what you're aiming for. I don't think everyone necessarily hires people who wouldn't look twice at them outside of a professional realm. But for those who were not fortunate to have been born with good looks...escorting is a blessing to be able to feel beautiful to someone for an hour or two even if they're being paid to do so Edited May 13, 2023 by pubic_assistance MikeBiDude 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 13, 2023 Author Share Posted May 13, 2023 1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said: That's a broad statment that I don't know is true. Is it "most" ? The few times I've hired escorts ..yes. I go for the deluxe model that I am too old to land on my own, anymore. But I've seen guys on rent.men who aren't even as good looking as me. So I thinks its all about what you're aiming for. I don't think everyone necessarily hires people who wouldn't look twice at them outside of a professional realm. But for those who were not fortunate to have been born with good looks...escorting is a blessing to be able to feel beautiful to someone for an hour or two even if they're being paid to do so My point! I've seen guys on RM that I don't know how can others hire them. At the same time I know 58 y/o escort who claims to be 38 and I know for a fact he occasionally gets hired by guys who are young and hot and go for the daddy look. Those young guys could get someone like him for free yet for privacy they prefer to hire him. pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 13, 2023 Share Posted May 13, 2023 1 hour ago, marylander1940 said: Those young guys could get someone like him for free yet for privacy they prefer to hire him. Exactly. Navigating a hook up site like Grindr can be intimidating to guys who aren't necessarily well familiar with how the gay hook-up scene works. Easiest to just pick from the Rent.men menu and pull out your credit card. marylander1940 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted May 13, 2023 Share Posted May 13, 2023 Grindr was 99% time wasters, I don’t use it anymore. I think I had it for about two years until they banned me from it! Which although it was annoying at the time I’m now glad of it because I waste my time in other ways (hello Instagram and Twitter) these days… I got endless requests for pics of my cock, questions about how big it is and whether I could accom. After a while on there you get to see a pattern of behaviour. And if course if you’re in the same location you see the same headless torsos on your ‘grid’. The times it was useful was if you were in a new town. Then you’d get hit on as ‘fresh meat’ by everyone looking for novelty. I had some good hookups when travelling. Many of the Grindr ‘conversations’ ended up with questions about hiring me for massage and that’s where it became a problem because of course Grindr prohibits solicitation. I didn’t initiate those questions but as soon as you respond with a link to your professional website or RentMasseur profile then the risk is someone complains. So I got banned. Which, was a blessing because any clients I did get from Grindr weren’t very reliable. marylander1940 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted May 13, 2023 Share Posted May 13, 2023 On 5/9/2023 at 1:08 PM, sjmuktop said: Agree. One of the reasons I ended up deleting that app from my phone is because most people on there are flakes who just want to 'sext' and have endless chat. Yeap. And many will actually ask for nudes to block you once they get them. This happened to me a few times. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SouthOfTheBorder Posted May 13, 2023 Share Posted May 13, 2023 Grindr is for people that have time to waste - on both sides of the potential hookup. and the “flakiness” is usually either something better came along or they just realized that you aren’t “partying” the apps are a cesspool. it’s that simple Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 13, 2023 Share Posted May 13, 2023 (edited) 10 hours ago, Jamie21 said: The times it was useful was if you were in a new town. Then you’d get hit on as ‘fresh meat’ by everyone looking for novelty. I had some good hookups when travelling. I have the same experience. When I travel is when I'm most interested in company. At home, I don't live alone and have a few fuckbuddies so Grindr doesn't serve any purpose unless I come across a particularly exceptional profile. ( Usually on recommendation through someone here.) I second your opinion about being "fresh meat" in town. This makes you a valuable commodity..especially if you're traveling to an area with a smaller gay/bi community. Being in a large city with many gay/bi men contributes to the problem of constant browsing where people feel there are so many choices there is no sense if urgency to meet up now. Edited May 13, 2023 by pubic_assistance spelling MikeBiDude 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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