Blackmailed on Grindr or Scruff?

[Guest]

8 hours ago, PiSquared said:

This is causing me ptsd. Had a RM provider get pissed at me for cancelling our session. He had my cell number and was able to find my full name and FB profile. He posted my FB info on some site he claimed was providers who rated clients and ranted about how awful I was. He threatened to call my wife. Of course in the end it all came down to a demand for money.  

How about notifying the police? Extortion's a crime. If it were me, I'd sue for punitive damages in civil court, even if the police weren't intersted.

Edited March 1, 2023 by Unicorn

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

All of these stories are horrible and I'm really sorry for any of you who went through them.

It happens on both ends, unfortunately.  I know many escorts who were stalked and threatened by clients or just internet randos.  Some of it got pretty ugly.  Some of those stalkers came from this very board.

That said, I've always maintained that this is not the hobby for someone if they've got a lot to lose.  It's entirely too easy now for someone to doxx you with the breadcrumb trail that's inevitably left behind just being on the internet.

[+ cougar]

On 3/1/2023 at 12:08 AM, hrlmguy said:

Get a google voice number. It protects you from all of the crazies out there!

Yes, that is what you do. I also have Google Voice (free) and that is what I use to chat and text. Once I have met them, I might give my actual cell number. 

[Blade9]

Your name isn’t associated or connected to Google Voice?

[jtwalker]

This is why I use a burner and fake name, but I’ve still been threatened.  I just act like I don’t care and block them.  Nobody has ever followed thru; though, in my case, they probably don’t have anything tangible anyway.

[+ cougar]

On 3/5/2023 at 9:18 AM, Blade9 said:

Your name isn’t associated or connected to Google Voice?

Well, now that I think about it, Google Voice does send me an email with the text from whoever I am texting. I do not think there is a way they could follow that to get my email address. Good question though!

[Scott Dixon]

I am currently in the midst (or at the end, I pray) of a Sniffies harassment/blackmail attempt.  It's been going on for three or four days now, beginning out of nowhere when a random number with a New Jersey area code sent me a string of texts in quick succession containing the aforementioned threats, interspersed with photos (some clearly of me, and some--including penises--not of me), and a screenshot of a faux Sniffies chat mentioning my first name and my phone number.  How do I know it was faux?  Because I never created a profile on that site.  I entered it three times, hitting "cruise the map" when a gay friend said, "Hey, look at this!  Several of your neighbors are on here!"  I looked at it first on his phone, then on mine, for less than two minutes.  The second time, I was on a walk through the neighborhood and turned it on again when I was very close to the home of one of these Sniffy guys, just to verify it was him (and it was).  The third time was to show another gay neighbor.  These three times I was on that site, I did nothing except "cruise the map".  So I don't know if I was on there long enough for the thing to capture some of my data, or perhaps someone who knows me created a fake profile.  It doesn't really matter now because I'm in the throes of this ordeal, which I have reported to law enforcement and have a case number which I check periodically to see the progress.  The cybercriminal first demanded $5,000.00 by the end of that first day (contacting me at 2:00 p.m.).  I know now that I shouldn't have replied to him at all, but I told him that was not possible because I was on my way to work (for my part-time evening job), so he gave me until noon the following day.  He actually called me and again, I know I shouldn't have answered but his threats were really convincing.  He was obviously using a voice-distortion device and was very hard to hear and understand in his either authentic or made-up accent.  He told me, "Don't play games with me.  Take a photo of the cash and I'll tell you where to send it."  I recorded the call and sent it to the authorities to go along with my file, which by then included the whole string of texts, photos, screenshots.  Then I blocked his number.  After a few hours of solace, he contacted me from a Utah-based number.  That was yesterday, and this morning he has called twice from that number, which I blocked after I sent it to the cops.  I've also spoken with the Cyber Crimes Unit of Harris County (Houston), Texas; with my attorney; and with the FBI.  My house is under surveillance (plus I have cameras all over the place) until I tell them I feel safe again.  This whole thing is seriously disturbing, taxing, exhausting, and mysterious.  

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Just now, Scott Dixon said:

...with a New Jersey area code...

There's your first mistake.

I have all of Jersey blocked.  Made life a lot better.

[+ nycman]

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

There's your first mistake.

I have all of Jersey blocked.  Made life a lot better.

Ok, first I peed a little……

then I opened Grindr to see if I could block Jersey…lol