Listed from Bi to Straight and...

[+ Axiom2001]

Gentlemen,

From 2016 until today, I've been seeing a man whose company I've tremendously enjoyed, but when he changed his sexual preference on RentMen from "Bi" to "Straight"-- his performance has NOT been the same.  

I've seen him twice after the heyday of the horrendous Covid19 pandemic, and both times he has NOT been his previous self.  I am trying to decide as to whether or not I see him in the future.

The last time we were together (a few weeks before Christmas 2022), he had to look at straight porn on his cell phone in order to obtain an erection, and his overall performance was NOT as it was previously, for during his "Bi" days, he'd sexily and deeply kissed, yearned to have his ass rimmed (the only man to whom I'd render that pleasure), eagerly and encouragingly received my fingers up his tight, willing ass for some prostrate pleasure.  And men does he know how to fuck?

Yes, Yes, Yes!  Felix would enthusiastically fuck me into oblivion each time.  One time he drilled me so, so, so, so deeply that I had to ask him kindly to stop in fear that I'd have a heart attack. [Although I don't suffer from heart problems.]  

He didn't want to stop but did anyway without showing any ill feelings. 

After that I've seen him on two occasions, but it has not been the same prior to Covid.

A few days ago, I was on Rentmen and had received note that he had viewed my profile.

I guess my question is: Should I engage his services in the future?  But prior to my doing this, should I discuss my desires as well as his change in Status on RM?  

I don't wish to fork out $300+ dollars only to receive mediocre pleasure.  

I want men who are interactive, sensually deep kissers, hung (preferably uncut but being cut is all right when the size is right: 8+).  

Or should I move on and try to connect with newer and fluid participants?

In closing, in spite of his change-- he and I have continued to remain respectful and positive toward each other.   https://rent.men/flexxxpapi 

Edited January 30, 2023 by Axiom2001

[Scott Virginian]

If I'm reading it right, you noticed the change after that one incident?  If so, I think you gotta address it.

It's possible that he was turned off or disappointed.  I'm not saying he's right or wrong to feel that, but that may have happened.  You should clear the air on that before another rendezvous-vous to avoid disappointment.

Also possible, if you really mentioned heart attack or other injury, that he was scared that he'd actually hurt you (or was putting you at risk) and was holding back.  Also worth clearing the air.

And if his ardor or interest just waned, well, then you just gotta move on.

Hope that helps.  Let us know.

[pubic_assistance]

When I was in college I used to hook up with a guy from the U Pitt wrestling team. He was very aggressive in bed and would cum mulitiple times with me. Over time, and after several meet ups, he started to want more passion and making out until one night he sort of freaked out, stood up and told me he "wasn't gay". Never saw him again after that. I think some guys have a very hard time accepting their homosexual tendencies ever after they've clearly enjoyed a connection with other men.

[dbar123]

People have an amazing capacity to change and evolve. Since your relationship is merely transactional I suspect it’s just time to move on.

[wayout]

It may not be an easy conversation and one he may not want to engage in but I would raise it up to him in a way to hopefully not burn any bridges.  However, be prepared to move on.

I had somewhat of a similar situation with someone I hired where the initial encounters were fantastic (energetic, enthusiastic, passionate, etc) but like a light switch at one point it changed to less than that.  I continued to meet him because I enjoyed his company, it was convenient to meet and the sex was still decent (just not fantastic).  We still meet from time to time even though he isn't on RM any longer and as far as I know isn't active as an escort.  As we developed some trust and a kind of "friendship" I learned that during the initial meetings he was using ecstasy (molly) when he met clients and for one reason or another stopped after a time.  So that pretty much explained the change. 

 

[+ Axiom2001]

22 hours ago, Scott Virginian said:

If I'm reading it right, you noticed the change after that one incident?  If so, I think you gotta address it.

It's possible that he was turned off or disappointed.  I'm not saying he's right or wrong to feel that, but that may have happened.  You should clear the air on that before another rendezvous-vous to avoid disappointment.

Also possible, if you really mentioned heart attack or other injury, that he was scared that he'd actually hurt you (or was putting you at risk) and was holding back.  Also worth clearing the air.

And if his ardor or interest just waned, well, then you just gotta move on.

Hope that helps.  Let us know.

Thanks for posting, but I think you misread my initial post.  His overall performance changed after he'd changed his sexual status in his ad from "Bi to Straight" although all of his "I AM INTO's" remained.

My alluding to the "heart attack" and requesting that he stop did not faze him, for  he was having a very, very fun time in his "plowing that thick wood" oh so deeply and passionately.

 

[Scott Virginian]

7 hours ago, Axiom2001 said:

Thanks for posting, but I think you misread my initial post.  His overall performance changed after he'd changed his sexual status in his ad from "Bi to Straight" although all of his "I AM INTO's" remained.

My alluding to the "heart attack" and requesting that he stop did not faze him, for  he was having a very, very fun time in his "plowing that thick wood" oh so deeply and passionately.

 

Ok, well, then maybe his ardor waned or he has been rethinking what he likes.

I think you could solve this easily with an email to him.  "Hi (name), I just wanted to look in on you.  We've always had a great time together, but the last two times it felt like something was off.  Are you ok?  Did I do something that upset you? Just hoping to understand.  Thanks."

[+ KensingtonHomo]

7 hours ago, Scott Virginian said:

Ok, well, then maybe his ardor waned or he has been rethinking what he likes.

I think you could solve this easily with an email to him.  "Hi (name), I just wanted to look in on you.  We've always had a great time together, but the last two times it felt like something was off.  Are you ok?  Did I do something that upset you? Just hoping to understand.  Thanks."

I agree with this. His response will tell you what you need to know. 

Maybe keep in mind that COVID has been enormously disruptive and traumatizing to most people. His change in demeanor may have nothing do to with his status change but merely a coincidence. And be prepared to move on if his response makes you uncomfortable. 

[pubic_assistance]

7 hours ago, Scott Virginian said:

I just wanted to look in on you.  We've always had a great time together, but the last two times it felt like something was off.  Are you ok?  Did I do something that upset you? Just hoping to understand.  Thanks."

In my experience ( and I have a LOT of experience with "questioning" types ), calling out their questioning like this doesn't go well. They already suffer self doubt for being gay, so telling them "something is off" can make their insecurity even more intense and that usually results in expressions of anger.

[maninsoma]

You don't really have much information on which to base a conclusion at this point, so if you want to see him again I suggest you simply have an open conversation with him.  You should state your perceptions (e.g., our last meeting wasn't as passionate) rather than attempting to draw conclusions (e.g., it's because you're straight, isn't it?).  Who knows whether it's sexual orientation, covid, you said something that bothered him, or something else.  But if you like the guy, just politely communicate your feelings and see what he has to say. 

[+ pitman]

He has a twin brother who identifies as Bi.

https://rentmen.eu/KingDigDeep

[+ Axiom2001]

6 hours ago, maninsoma said:

You don't really have much information on which to base a conclusion at this point, so if you want to see him again I suggest you simply have an open conversation with him.  You should state your perceptions (e.g., our last meeting wasn't as passionate) rather than attempting to draw conclusions (e.g., it's because you're straight, isn't it?).  Who knows whether it's sexual orientation, covid, you said something that bothered him, or something else.  But if you like the guy, just politely communicate your feelings and see what he has to say. 

Thanks for your salient suggestion, one that I do think that I can do.  In the end, if I follow through with being cordially candid-- I'll post again regarding said subject.

THANKS TO ALL who responded; your take on the subject is/was immensely appreciated.