Watching Porn

[Ryan]

Hey guys, I've noticed something in the last few connections I've had. It seems as though its important for the escort to have porno playing on the TV during our session. At first, it was kind of fun and novel, but I've noticed that it has become the focus more and more of the session. During my last connection, the guy showed up in my hotel room with a portable DVD player, DVDs and a connection cord for the TV. Its hard to make eye contact or feel as though the two of us are actually engaged in a mutual exchange. I don't think I turned into an ogre in the past 6 months, but the thought occured to me. I mentioned it during the last session I had, and the guy very willingly turned it off and we were fine. My questions: How important is porn for an interaction to work for you guys? Is it a question that I should ask an escort before our connection? Would you be put off if a client turned off the TV?

[Boston Guy]

I cannot imagine someone bringing porn with him. Well, actually, I can. I can also imagine my reaction. :-)

 

Jeez, what a loser. That's about as big an insult from an escort as I can imagine.

 

I couldn't tell for sure if you were describing one guy or multiple guys. If it's one guy who is doing this over and over, if it were me, I'd quit hiring him. If it's multiple guys, I'd begin to wonder if I've somehow tapped into a series of straight guys.

 

Either way, you're hiring them, not the other way round. They're supposed to be the entertainment but they somehow seem to have forgotten that. And, honestly, you seem to have forgotten that, too. Why in the world would you be worried that they might be "put off" if you ask them to turn off the TV?

 

Hell, unless it was something I wanted, I wouldn't have allowed the TV on in the first place. You sound a very nice guy. You just need to remember who's hiring whom and show a little backbone. Stop letting guys walk all over you.

 

BG

[HotdadENYC]

This is a good question Ryan.

 

I happen to like watching porn, a lot, and I have a pretty extensive collection. I also like watching internet porn and belong to a few sites.

 

I have had a couple of escorts ask me if I had any movies to watch, and my usual response is that my movies are currently unavailable. I don't want to lie about it but I don't want to watch movies with escorts either.

 

I'm pretty sure that it has to do with the moment and what my expectations are. I would have the same reaction if an escort asked me to turn on the TV so that he could catch the game or catch up on a favorite TV show. (This presumes a short connection, by the way; not an overnight.)

 

I suppose if you and the escort are both comfortable watching porn, in preparation for the main event, and you have both discussed it, then it shouldn't be a problem. Stimulation is stimulation.

 

In my case, though, some of my best encounters have been without any additional visuals and I much prefer to keep it that way.

 

BUT, admittedly, I AM guilty of a double-standard. I have no problem using porn to entice straight or bi boys to come to my house and watch. Never know what's going to happen. Worked especially well for me with the pizza delivery boy, 2 of the liquor store delivery boys, the kebab house delivery boy and the diner on the corner delivery boys. In conjunction with a really good tip, they got the message pretty quickly. They also tend to talk amongst themselves and at least my deliveries, in this neighborhood, are NEVER delayed.

 

As far as discussing it beforehand with an escort, well that's a personal choice. I don't ask. If an escort asks me on the phone if I have porn to watch, I get turned off pretty quickly and have already declined to go further with those who brought it up.

 

If an escort showed up at my house or hotel room with a portable DVD player and a collection of porn, without prior discussion, I would feign an electrical problem and cancel the session. That is just TOO forward and presumptious.

 

Finally, I enjoy watch porn in its own right and I do it to get off. I don't think I've ever engaged a porn flick expecting to find a mesmerizing plot line or the next generation of Golden Globe actors. But that's my choice. If I want to pay $.95 a minute to watch porn and get off, thats one choice. If I want to pay $200 an hour to experience live companionship, that's another choice. Somehow the two don't work well together for me.

 

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[AaronScottDC]

I am just guessing here, but I wouldn't be surprised if your hiring preferences include "str8" acting guys or Bi-guys, eh? Or, at the very least, the self absorbed kinda escorts who really aren't into meeting "real" people in the first place?

 

While I certainly enjoy my fair share of porn, and definitely enjoy working up a good load while perusing some fun porn sites on-line, I would never suggest to a client that we watch porn during our meeting. Nor would I ever actually bring porn to the engagement. I much rather prefer to get to know the guy I am with and enjoy the company that he has to offer. Personal contact is what it is all about in my book.

 

Now, if someone states to me upfront that they enjoy watching porn and asked me if I would like to view it with them, either before or during our meeting, I wouldn't turn them down. But, I would never initiate the idea, nor do I at all require it to have a good time. In fact, many times, I think it can detract from the engagement at hand.

 

But, if you enjoy it, then by all means, keep it up!

 

Aaron Scott DC

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[Rick Munroe]

I absolutely despise (and you know I don't usually use such strong words of dislike) having porn on when I'm with a guy. I want us to be focused on each other, not on other people's good time. I don't even usually watch porn when I want to get off alone...why would I want to watch it when I'm enjoying another man's body? I've actually asked guys if they could turn it off...

 

OK, I've had a long day...off to bed.

[HotdadENYC]

Aaron, at the risk of sounding a bit base. . .

 

that was a fucking great response

 

You obviously have a lot to share with either escorts or clients.

 

When the AaronScott School opens up, I want to apply as a teacher.

 

Or as an experiment during one of your classes.

 

 

Regards, kid

 

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[seaboy4hire]

That doesn't seem to be very proff. of the escort to be playing porn. For myself I don't like the tv being on at all whether it be porn or otherwise. It is just too disctracting for me and I find that I can't give my 110% attention to the client. Why a client would tolerate this if it wasn't already agreed on is beyond me. I know that if I were a client paying 150-200+ an hour I want all attention focused on me and my needs being met. I don't know just call me selfish but if that wasn't happening then I would seek out someone who was able to deliver without the porn.

 

Hugs,

Greg

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[noviceny]

For me, it was just a few straight guys that played porn so they could get hard...mind you I did not ask nor was I concerned with them getting hard, but it was a nice gesture :-)

 

 

Another semi-famous escort watched about 10 minutes of the football game (and it was by far not a very important game and nowhere near ending), and was not really concerned with me. He started about 15 - 20 minutes in to the hour.

[HotdadENYC]

Hey Greg Kid, notwithstanding my desire to teach in the Aaron Scott school of escorting and majoring in Escort Etiquette #1,

 

I can't imagine any client wanting to watch porn while YOU were in the room. Nice to know that you have professional ethics.

 

But ultimately, does it really matter? Greg from Seattle melts VCR's and DVD players. And I haven't even met him yet.

 

But I recognize a fire when I see it.

 

Warmest Regards, Greg

 

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[Guest RandyRon]

On a couple of first-time incalls at the escort's place, they have had porn on when I arrived. It seemed to be used as an ice breaker for me rather than as a stimulant for them. The escort never seemed to be watching even though the guys on the screen were certainly more exciting to look at than I am. So I'd have to say this hasn't been a problem of the porn distracting the escort's attention from me.

 

The only times the escort and I actually watch the porn are when I see my regular escort. Quite often we begin or end the session with him leaning back against me so I can easily reach aroung and work his nipples (which we both enjoy) while we watch the porn. In this case it's almost like background music.

 

I'm not really into straight8 guys (but won't turn down a nice looking freebie if offered) so if I think this is the case I would ask the escort to turn off the porn and hope he can perform. Would definitely not hire again if he has to use this crutch with me.

[JT Brooklyn]

In NYC..it has been my experience, to NEVER run across an "Escort", who has ever even "hinted" about watching Porno. My Porno Collection is Definitely in a very prominent place in my Bedroom, BUT question has never come up.. I am sure alot of the guys, who have Sex on a very regular basis, have no great interest in watching Porno. Also IF you are paying $200 or more an hour,I think the "Concentration" should be on each other.. OR... you can JUST watch Porno for $39 a DVD! :+ :+ :+

[bigguyinpasadena]

It has been my experience that having some straight porn(but with dicks prominantly on display)has been a regular thing when dealing with "trade"and I am fine with that-as long as they are able to play the games I want to play and not spend lots of time looking for a hot scene.

With gay boys my experience has been mixed-some like porn on and others are able to play without-both have been hot or not depending on the guy.

[+ Charlie]

One thing I have never mentioned in my reviews of escorts at Premier is the fact that their rooms all have dvd/video players, and the escorts almost always start a session by putting on a porn film. I can never figure out whether the point is that the escort needs it to get excited (I try not to think too hard about that), or they expect that I need it to get excited (I might, if the escort doesn't turn me on, but then I might as well save the money and jerk off to porn at home). I find it hard to concentrate on more than one thing at a time, and the last thing I want to do is be distracted from what I am paying for.

[Ryan]

Ah-ha! Premier Escorts exactly! I have had occasion in the past three months to visit them twice, and both times, the porn was put on and the energy seemed to be focused there. And then, of course, the most recent incident in my hotel room. The first time, I thought it was just to provide sexy atmosphere, and I paid it very little attention once we started with bumping uglies. But recently, about the last six months, it has been more prevalent, hence my posting. And indeed, I won't tolerate it again. I solely was interested if perhaps there was some new phenomena of which I was newly aware and wondered what others' experience might be. And indeed, I have a backbone. The last guy tried to pound it through the top of my head!!

[Boston Guy]

>And indeed, I have a backbone. The last guy tried to pound it

>through the top of my head!!

 

:-)

 

BG

 

ps: Sorry... I should have been nicer to a new member.

[Traveller]

I had a friend ask we once why I hired so many escorts. I looked at this guy, who owned hundreds of porn videos, and replied, "Renting porn is for poor people." Just a thought.

 

Later.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Money Is The Root

 

> "Renting porn is for poor people."

 

I do not need and prefer that porn not play when I see a client(s). However, a video camera and several large, flat screen plasma tvs have come in handy on occassion....

 

 

 

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[JT Brooklyn]

RE: Money Is The Root

 

Franco is my kind of Guy..I have gotten quite expert at using a HI-8 Cam with a Lrg SCREEN Digital TV Playback! With of course, some very Hot Looking, unshy NYC Escorts. Who of course KNOW this goes no further, than between us. :+ :+ :+

[+ Oliver]

Thank You!

 

>I do not need and prefer that porn not play when I see a

>client...

 

So happy to hear that!! }(

[Ryan]

RE: Thank You!

 

Franco! What a spectacular idea. It absolutely feeds my narcissism fantasies, seeing myself all engaged, sweating, pumping, grimacing, opening, plunging, slurping, wet and wild with another hydraulic dude doing the Primal Pound.

[HooBoy]

I love watching porn and I love watching it with another guy or with a group of like-minded guys. Whether it is a good friend, a "lover" or an escort, I find it to be a big turn on. Just my own private fetish, I guess. I wish I could find an escort who liked it, frankly.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I agree with HB.

 

Porn can be used as a tool to spice things up, but NEVER on a first-time meeting. That would be unprofessional IMO. I've only used porn when someone i'm seeing asks for it or if i'm up for watching some together. It can be hot, but as Rick said above, it's ultimately about focusing on the guy you're with and NOT the vid.

 

Porn can be a nice warm-up, but i'd be apt for ignoring it or turning it off entirely when we get to the big dance

 

HB: You're a lucky-duck, as you've got one helluva porn collection. If i were you, i'd have my hand on my dick all day with those BelAmi flicks. Mr. Happy would be VERY happy.

 

 

Warmest,

 

 

 

BN

[Rick Munroe]

>Porn can be used as a tool to spice things up, but NEVER on a

>first-time meeting.

 

Kind of like how I would never want to watch TV if I'm invited to someone's place for dinner (or vice versa) but if it's just Derek and me (or a very close friend), I'll pop in a "Cheers" DVD.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Never Love Anything You Cannot Love Back!

 

>Franco! What a spectacular idea. It absolutely feeds my

>narcissism fantasies

 

Well, the one client I have done this with like to engage several escorts, generally a wide variety of types and nothing is actually recorded. I had a hard time convincing a 27 year old native of San Diego, who had just signed a contract with Falcon, that nothing was being preserved, since he worried it would ruin what he hoped would be a potentially lucrative career.

 

>sweating,

>pumping,

>opening, plunging, slurping,

>wet and wild

 

It definitely appeals to my client because he is a classic narcissist, whereas I am more of an introverted extrovert. I like to be watched, but I prefer the room dark, low, mood lighting, which is hard to do with this kind of set up. It definitely gets sweaty, the noise is something when you pipe in through a really good B&O "entire home" system and to be honest, one day I would not mind actually recording one of the sessions, to have something to look back on one day. But I doubt we ever will. At least, not with me in the the viewfinder.

 

 

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[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Those Who Can, Do

 

>I love watching porn and I love watching it with another guy

>or with a group of like-minded guys.

 

I have watched adult videos with friends, including heterosexual videos when I was in college and was Social Chairman of my fraternity and responsible for providing the 'entertainment' for my boys. I also enjoy adult films and have a good sized collection, although most of these dates from the late 80s through the mid 90s and most recent material holds little interest for me.

 

I also do have a few clients who enjoy it and want it on, but I find myself more interested in the client than with the television screen. I also have a few partners who want to have it playing and I find once we get "hot and heavy," it might as well be one of those yule logs.

 

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