How do I know a guy at the club is not really into me?

[+ nycman]

Maybe try not slapping them in the face?

Just a thought. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

43 minutes ago, nycboi said:

Wow. Let me tell you...

Before hiring this hottie we saw each other at the gym a few times. But all I got was mixed signals from him. Weird enough I was also following the man on IG (I don't think he was aware). The opportunity to engage never showed up. One time on the streets, however, he passed me by, stared and then smiled at me. You can say I could just feel "it". I got soooo excited that I decided to act like a creep and follow him thinking we would hookup or something (I swear that I NEVER do this but I was sooo very into this muscle stud and on top horny!). Sadly after 4 blocks, the dude kept walking and never turned his head back. You can say I was totally ignored and misinterpreted his kindness. Then later on I discovered he was married to another dude that escorts too. But guess what? One time the husband tapped on Grindr and wanted the three of us to fuck. I freaked out and ended up ghosting him because I simply never had group sex before (I was scared). Besides, my ass also found out they were recruiting other random guys on that app for the orgies. I thought it was sad. Other dudes getting these hotties for free got me soo angry grrrrrrr... Btw., I hired the muscle stud before this (I mean before I interacted with his husband on Grindr). The man pretended we never saw each other before, lmao. He was a good escort but unfortunately I didn't fully enjoy the experience for the money (I couldn't bottom for him and neither top). He was hottt though. Interesting enough, he seemed very into me (dude cum right away without us having actual sex but just kissing and oral. This was in the evening.

I recently saw him in the club  and ignored him. It was too obvious that he knew who I was/remembers me (I hired him back in 2020). It almost actually seemed as if we dated before or something, like when you see an ex, lol. His face gave this away. He looked intimidated in a uncomfortable way. At the end I don't know what to make out of that.

Based on this information, the correct title for this topic should have been "How do I approach a guy socially who I have already hired as an escort and whose husband has already asked me to join in a three-way with them?"

My answer: Go up and talk to him.    Say "Good to see you".  That's general enough that if he doesn't remember you, he won't be put on the spot.  Offer to buy him a drink. Just don't say out loud that you've hired him, because other people may hear and you need to respect his privacy.

He's an escort, so he's going to be discreet and respect your privacy by not approaching you first.  He probably had dozens of other former clients in the same bar that night, and he's going to respect their privacy and not going to approach any of them either.

Edited November 22, 2022 by Vegas_nw1982

[Marc in Calif]

On 11/14/2022 at 9:54 PM, nycboi said:

I love this forum because you guys don't seem to sugarcoat stuff out of diplomacy. It's always interesting to read your posts even if I get attacked.

4 hours ago, nycboi said:

VERY uncool from you to make fun of such a sad traumatic situation. SHAME ON YOU!

 

[socurious]

3 hours ago, nycman said:

Maybe try not slapping them in the face?

Just a thought. 

You wrote the same thing on another thread. Stop following me around, weirdo. 

[socurious]

26 minutes ago, Marc in Calif said:

 

Kiss my ass you too.

[+ cougar]

I have an old friend who once had a T-shirt that said..."You Had Me at...Get Lost"

I loved that shirt and that has been about 20 years ago!

[+ Coolwave35]

3 hours ago, nycman said:

Maybe try not slapping them in the face?

Just a thought. 

You are brutal. Can I take you to dinner this weekend? 

[RadioRob]

Ok.  This is has gone on far enough. 

As a hint, if you ask a question… be prepared to get answers you don’t like.