Quality of Escort Service

[Trick]

I’ve noticed a frustrating change in escort services as time has gone by.  When I was just starting with this hobby about a decade ago, most of the guys I’ve met initiated action.  The first half of the session was spent in making out.  These days, within the first five minutes of play, most would push me down to give them oral or proceed to penetration.

Is anybody else seeing this happening?

[Luv2play]

No. Here in Canada, at least Montreal and Toronto, the escorts I hire offer very good interaction. Of course, I vet them thoroughly before hiring and only have had the odd dud in the last several years.

[+ keroscenefire]

I think communication is important. First of all, you should right off the bat look for guys who say they are interested in kissing. And when you communicate with them, be upfront. "I enjoy kissing, lots of body contact, cuddling, etc." 

I think there are some escorts that really like to be "dominant" and get to business, but there are still plenty who like to be passionate. Just got to find the ones that are the latter.

[Trick]

58 minutes ago, keroscenefire said:

I think communication is important. First of all, you should right off the bat look for guys who say they are interested in kissing. And when you communicate with them, be upfront. "I enjoy kissing, lots of body contact, cuddling, etc." 

I think there are some escorts that really like to be "dominant" and get to business, but there are still plenty who like to be passionate. Just got to find the ones that are the latter.

I’m upfront with what I’m into.  But some guys just don’t deliver on what they’ve promised to do during the meet.

My city is a wasteland so it’s not easy to find the passionate, interactive guys.

[jtwalker]

8 hours ago, Trick said:

I’m upfront with what I’m into.  But some guys just don’t deliver on what they’ve promised to do during the meet.

My city is a wasteland so it’s not easy to find the passionate, interactive guys.

I agree and I have noticed the same.  Many seem in a hurry To get it over with.

There are still some that provide great service.

[Phlmuscle]

From what I have observed it's been all mechanical. No emotion at all. Just get it over with and get the money.

[Rudynate]

My best experiences have been with guys who were real sexual athletes.  They might have been a little weak at touchy-feely, but I left them thinking "What just happened?"

[Trick]

Jason Sparks has gotten a lot of flak for his business practices but one thing I can say, his boys were mostly passionate and interactive, Cade Maddox included.  I’ve met about 20 of them.  Not at one time of course lol.

[Trick]

Well what do you know?  I met a duo tonight that completely negated my original post. It’s been a while since I’ve been sandwiched by two hot guys kissing me wherever they could get their lips to land on my body. For an hour it felt like I was desirable.

Edited October 9, 2022 by Trick

[spider]

I try to be careful and only hire guys who have well reviewed over a length of time. The time I slipped was a visiting dude who essentially flipped me over, fucked for maybe 5 minutes, and got off me and headed toward the bathroom saying "we're done". The shower running was a clear indication that we were indeed done.

[Trick]

I got a lucky streak this past weekend.  I met a very interactive and passionate duo as I have mentioned in an earlier post.  On Sunday I met a very passionate, well endowed guy - https://rent.men/Marcos_fonseca

My faith in the escort business has been restored.

[arnie]

Making out and particularly kissing involves emotional energy and being vulnerable  Oral and anal are not as emotionally involved so in some aspects easier for the escort.   Many talk about communication but that only goes so far.   I try to be specific about some things but I find that they might add a specific activity but the escorts do their thing.   You can't dictate we will make out for 15 minutes.  These are fluid situations.  Due to their experience in these situations they project a confidence in handling the encounter so the escort can easily take control and can be hard to interrupt the action.   It is not what there is or is not there but the proportions and often more you did not realize what wend down until it is over.  Also I think that many think that what is wanted is an epic duration fuck.   It is not that these guys flaked or did not give it a good try but this is a particularly difficult page for both to be on at the same time.  

[Trick]

This is close to impossible but I wish providers would be upfront about what they offer so the clients could make an informed decision whether to book or not. I hate the part of this hobby where much of it is a guessing game until the actual meeting.

[coriolis888]

On 10/8/2022 at 7:51 AM, spider said:

I try to be careful and only hire guys who have well reviewed over a length of time. The time I slipped was a visiting dude who essentially flipped me over, fucked for maybe 5 minutes, and got off me and headed toward the bathroom saying "we're done". The shower running was a clear indication that we were indeed done.

And, of course, he was one that wanted to be paid in advance or before activities began.

 

[coriolis888]

1 hour ago, Axiom2001 said:

Two or three years prior to Covid, I engaged the services of a very hot man on many an occasion.  Each time that we were together, the experience was hotter than the previous one, so in April of last year I hired him again.  

When he came to my hotel, looking hot and ready as ever, I met him in the lobby and followed him to the hotel's exit.  But before we actually left the hotel, I relayed to him that I was unable to play, for I was NOT comfortable being intimate with a man during Covid.  (The numbers were high all over during that time.).

I grabbed his right hand and gave him his fee of $375 for 1.5.  He showed some disappointment but encouraged me to join him to smoke a joint.  I complied and enjoyed the conversation, but prior to our parting company, he encouraged me to ring him whenever-- even if it were just to talk.

Well, since then, I've been with him twice in 2022.  He currently identifies as being "Straight" after having previously identifying as "Bi." [ Previously, he loved being rimmed (the only person to whom I've done this) as well as wanting me to give his prostate some hot "finger service."  He would kiss and fuck oh so divinely.]

To date I have not been completely satisfied with what he has given me. The last time that we were together was bizarre to say the least.  In fact, I did not like what happened prior to and after our session.  I sent him a message in RM's chat and asked him if that evening was to be the last time that we'd be together based on what had transpired.  His response back was more positive than not, but I still question it to this day.

I desire to see him again, but I want a man who's interactive.  I want him to give me what he'd done five or more times previously.  I'd like to write him and cite what I want from him as well as what I'd like to do to him (one being to give him the hottest of rimming and his "really dicking me down "as he'd previously done.  I'll continue to debate with myself as to where I'd go with this in the future and see what happens.

Sometimes, when we meet a provider that we find great and repeat with many times (as you wrote happened with you) something happens that we cannot explain, even to ourselves, which is, "the fire goes out" on the relationship for the client or with the provider.  You said you knew the provider about five years.  People can change markedly in that amount of time.

It is nice to think back how great things were while the relationship occurred but when that passionless day comes, passion fades away.   As the old saying goes, "When the horse is dead, it is time to get off."

The best is to cut the relationship.  

[spider]

I’ve had three cases of where things just weren’t the same. All had been sizzling hot through multiple sessions. 
 

One seemed distracted by other things and I learned that he had a new job and was transitioning out of the business and that he was only seeing me for old time. Fine, he was honest. 
 

Another, we had a connection mixup that I thought was solved - he called to ask “are we still on” at a moment when I couldn’t take the call.  I called back within 10 minutes and got voicemail. I left a message to confirm and gave exact coordinates. Despite repeated attempts, He never contacted me back and that’s the last I ever heard from him. Still a mystery. 
 
The third one was a case of here I think he was high. Previously he was on point, funny and a great lover. The last time he showed up distracted, immediately initiated the session and left with no real communication. He also smelled a little. Previously he always left a thank you text afterwords. That time nothing, and I just move on. 

Edited October 18, 2022 by spider

[+ purplekow]

On 10/7/2022 at 10:42 AM, Rudynate said:

My best experiences have been with guys who were real sexual athletes.  They might have been a little weak at touchy-feely, but I left them thinking "What just happened?"

Your syntax is a bit confusing.  You left them thinking "what just happened".  So is it you who are doing the thinking or them?  

I prefer it when my guys stammer a bit at the end  or, even better, when they stagger a bit,  on the way out and say something such as. "I wasn't expecting that.".   Because of my age and physical appearance, it is not surprising to me that they are coming in with low expectations. They have looked at the cover and thought "Meh"  but then they are surprised by the book.  I long ago stopped surprising myself with consistency but that does happen as well.  

As to the original question, I think it is very important for me to be guiding what goes on with an escort.  I frequently do not know exactly what I want until I want it.  So sometimes an escort will walk in and I can't help but push him against the wall and start right in with deep hard kissing, lots of body pressure and a rapid removal of clothing.  Other times, I like a drink, a bit of conversation, a gentle kiss and to take his hand and guide him to the bedroom. Slow deep kissing and a tantalizing removal of his clothing. Slow start with added intensity as the session goes on.  

The point being, if I don't know what I want, how can the escort know?  I have got to show him.  

Usually on first contact, I tell the escort, I do not know what is going to happen when you get here so we will figure it out together. " Is there anywhere we can't go?"  Usually I will mostly respect those boundaries, but I must admit to finding it a challenge to have the escort expand his limits, just as much as I enjoy having him expand mine.  

Edited October 19, 2022 by purplekow

[Rudynate]

55 minutes ago, purplekow said:

Your syntax is a bit confusing.  You left them thinking "what just happened".  So is it you who are doing the thinking or them?  

I prefer it when my guys stammer a bit at the end  or, even better, when they stagger a bit,  on the way out and say something such as. "I wasn't expecting that.".   Because of my age and physical appearance, it is not surprising to me that they are coming in with low expectations. They have looked at the cover and thought "Meh"  but then they are surprised by the book.  I long ago stopped surprising myself with consistency but that does happen as well.  

As to the original question, I think it is very important for me to be guiding what goes on with an escort.  I frequently do not know exactly what I want until I want it.  So sometimes an escort will walk in and I can't help but push him against the wall and start right in with deep hard kissing, lots of body pressure and a rapid removal of clothing.  Other times, I like a drink, a bit of conversation, a gentle kiss and to take his hand and guide him to the bedroom. Slow deep kissing and a tantalizing removal of his clothing. Slow start with added intensity as the session goes on.  

The point being, if I don't know what I want, how can the escort know?  I have got to show him.  

Usually on first contact, I tell the escort, I do not know what is going to happen when you get here so we will figure it out together. " Is there anywhere we can't go?"  Usually I will mostly respect those boundaries, but I must admit to finding it a challenge to have the escort expand his limits, just as much as I enjoy having him expand mine.  

That would be a bit of a conceit - thinking that the escort was wondering what had just happened.

[+ purplekow]

4 hours ago, Rudynate said:

That would be a bit of a conceit - thinking that the escort was wondering what had just happened.

Perhaps and perhaps not.   My guess is that escorts get their world's rocked now and again during some sessions   Of course it is hard to ascertain that by asking, as a professional escort will give you a knowing smile without commitment and a less experienced escort might overplay the answer.  So one can only go by what one observes.  I tend to look on it with a positive light, because why the hell not.  Part of the illusion for me is that the escort ihas had a good time and so in order to play my role as the contented patron, I choose to think that he has. After all sometimes illusion and reality coincide.  So unless I am told otherwise, to my way of thinking, they had a great time. I have the receipt to prove it.  

Edited October 19, 2022 by purplekow

[Rudynate]

2 hours ago, purplekow said:

Perhaps and perhaps not.   My guess is that escorts get their world's rocked now and again during some sessions   Of course it is hard to ascertain that by asking, as a professional escort will give you a knowing smile without commitment and a less experienced escort might overplay the answer.  So one can only go by what one observes.  I tend to look on it with a positive light, because why the hell not.  Part of the illusion for me is that the escort ihas had a good time and so in order to play my role as the contented patron, I choose to think that he has. After all sometimes illusion and reality coincide.  So unless I am told otherwise, to my way of thinking, they had a great time. I have the receipt to prove it.  

There is one who says he loves seeing me.  He treated me to lunch once and comped me once, so I believe him. We were walking along Union Square once and a homeless guy told me I looked like I drove a Lambo and my guy said, "You kind of do."

Edited October 19, 2022 by Rudynate