Too Many 'Money Up Front' Horror Stories Lately.......A Remedy??

[Guest davebk]

I guess I haven't really run into this issue because it is either a very trusted provider (based on reviews, here, or reputation) OR I've developed enough of a rapport with him that I have a better sense of him.  By the time you get to either of those points, it is most likely he knows I'm serious and I know he is serious.  I'd say with at least 80% of the men I've hired, I probably trust them enough that I'd pay up front, and they trust me enough that they wouldn't need to ask.

[DMICS]

On 10/20/2021 at 11:56 AM, DMICS said:

- Mention BEFORE booking that they'll be given their fee AFTER the session

- Don't think with your little head

- Only do upfront with a person that you've booked a handful of times and is a regular

 

I always follow those 3 steps and haven't had an issue. Only 1 time a provider said he only takes upfront because he's been scammed a lot. Eventually we agreed on half upfront. Considering the time he was spending to travel and meet me, plus his reviews, I felt comfortable doing so. 

 

 

 

Had 2 separate sessions booked for today.

The 1st guy, we touched on the donation yesterday. Said he only takes donations upfront. I offered to meet a middle ground (half to start, rest at the end). This morning he messages me to confirm a time and I wanted to clarify the donation subject. He said no and ghosted. 

The 2nd guy said he takes donations upfront to get things out the way. I mentioned I typically forward the donation after the session. I respectfully tell him thanks for everything, I appreciate him replying to my inquiries and I'm sorry for everything. I go on RM and see that he blocked me lol. 

It's like walking on glass a lot of times...

 

 

[HoseMaster]

On 10/18/2021 at 8:36 PM, coriolis888 said:

"If he doesn't like that, nicely ask him to leave if it's an "out" call."

You allow a stranger in your house and if that stranger has the balls to ask for money up front you are going to refuse the advance payment demand and "nicely ask him to leave" - 

What happens if he "nicely punches you in the mouth or threatens over the situation of coming to your place only to be told to leave without money?  

Either way, it is a difficult situation. 

Providers complain about being scammed while clients also complain (rightfully) to be scammed. 

How does a happy medium solve the issue?

I certainly do not know the answer.  

This issue comes up fairly often in the forum but never a meaningful solution comes from discussions.  

I’ve had this happen before.  I paid a nice round-trip plane ticket for a client to come out from the East Coast to see me for two nights on the agreed price of $2,000. As soon as he got to my house, he asked for the entire money up front.  I told him I’m NOT comfortable with that, and that you did not bring this up ahead of time.  I told since I flew him out on Day 1, and would fly him out on Day 3 as we originally discussed, he was going to be with me the entire time, and I wouldn’t be going anywhere.  I agreed upon half his rate now, and half when the session was over.  He agreed.  However the next day, he wanted the rest of the money.  It immediately got me out of the mood to be with him, and I politely said “No, that’s not happening.  In fact, I want you to leave now, and I’ll buy you a hotel room, and taxi ride to that hotel.”  He reluctantly agreed, and got the fuck out of my house….with only half his rate, and only one night, and left to fend for another night in a hotel room I nicely bought him.

There was another guy I bought a round trip coast-to-coast plane ticket for after we agreed upon a price.  As soon as I bought the ticket, he asked for a deposit.  Since he never told me about a deposit, I asked him his reasoning.  He told me it was to assure I wouldn’t leave him there at the airport and not show up to meet him there.  I informed him that my purchasing his ticket was his ticket, as I’m not just going to buy a plane ticket for someone I don’t know and not be there.  He insisted on the deposit, so I quickly canceled the plane ticket.

There are plenty of great escorts—and I mean PLENTY—who will fly for the price of a ticket and not demand a deposit or upfront payment.

Edited November 22, 2021 by HoseMaster

[DMICS]

Tried a 3rd booking today and the same thing. This time with the guy who I hired once before and is the one I started the partial upfront and the rest at the end. 

Providers definitely dealt with a lot of flakes and scammers during the pandemic I'm guessing, more than ever. It's just one of those days I guess lol.