Eye contact

[jeezifonly]

There was a discussion here a while back about preferences about eye contact during an encounter

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/77803-eye-contact/

Nothing in 5 years about this, my search told me, but I was specifically inspired to raise this when a friend mentioned the other day that between Zoom and masks, her sense of eye contact was all screwy. No eye contact really for zoom/online convos, alternating with relying on it more in casual masked convo to understand what she couldn’t hear or register with a full facial expression/lip reading.

I feel the same about having to shift the gears of engagement so often. I have not been working since Mar2020 lockdown began, Zooms mostly social, and my unmasked contact from then until June 21 was at home with one other person. I was completely mask compliant when out. 
 

I’ve always been quick to make random eye contact - though never in Manhattan - and good at reading when the conversation or whatever welcomed more attention, and it was instinctual more or less. I loved how it was always essential for in-person cruising (Lordy remember that?) Eye contact is a very important component in what makes a successful sexual encounter for me. Fave positions are almost all face to face in some form. 

Anybody finding the experience of eye contact is a more self conscious act or otherwise different than it was in the BeforeTimes? We may have some additional mask wearing ahead over this summer into fall, and though I go without it in a smaller group of people who are known to me, it’s bound to continue messing with my head when out.

Anybody else here these days who enjoys eye contact with a provider? Hates it? Won’t repeat without it? Have a provider who is great at it?
Or after the last year, finding your way back to where it simply feels organic? 

 

[Luv2play]

Great topic. I am with you on having eye contact with a provider when he is topping me so prefer those positions which facilitate that. It's always been a thing that will lead me to hire again, along of course with the other features of a great encounter.

The pandemic has resulted in most of us wearing masks when out in the public so eye contact is even more important as other visual cues like smiles of frowns are less evident. I guess a furrowed eyebrow is telling of emotions. Of course we still have voice, even if not as distinct, to gauge reactions.

They say eyes are the window to the soul. I find it especially so during sex.

Edited July 27, 2021 by Luv2play

[Rod Hagen]

Eyes wide open, absolutely.  

[Gadfly22]

Eye contact is everything! And yet sometimes people with whom you share the most intimate moments seem creeped by it. I've had more than one provider laugh or smile uncomfortably when I make prolonged eye contact or ask 'why are you looking at me?'. And the funny thing is most of these have not been one and done scam artists, but guys I like (and dare I say who like me) and have seen many times. Guys please do not be spooked by eye contact! Consider it a compliment that I want to look at you!

BTW my biggest crush in porn these days is Dustin Cooper. What amazing eyes he has! Watch some of his videos - there's always one part where he looks up at his lover with those big, soulful green eyes before a passionate kiss. Makes me melt inside! Anyone know if he escorts? has escorted? or plans to?

 

[Cure69]

8 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

There was a discussion here a while back about preferences about eye contact during an encounter

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/77803-eye-contact/

Nothing in 5 years about this, my search told me, but I was specifically inspired to raise this when a friend mentioned the other day that between Zoom and masks, her sense of eye contact was all screwy. No eye contact really for zoom/online convos, alternating with relying on it more in casual masked convo to understand what she couldn’t hear or register with a full facial expression/lip reading.

I feel the same about having to shift the gears of engagement so often. I have not been working since Mar2020 lockdown began, Zooms mostly social, and my unmasked contact from then until June 21 was at home with one other person. I was completely mask compliant when out. 
 

I’ve always been quick to make random eye contact - though never in Manhattan - and good at reading when the conversation or whatever welcomed more attention, and it was instinctual more or less. I loved how it was always essential for in-person cruising (Lordy remember that?) Eye contact is a very important component in what makes a successful sexual encounter for me. Fave positions are almost all face to face in some form. 

Anybody finding the experience of eye contact is a more self conscious act or otherwise different than it was in the BeforeTimes? We may have some additional mask wearing ahead over this summer into fall, and though I go without it in a smaller group of people who are known to me, it’s bound to continue messing with my head when out.

Anybody else here these days who enjoys eye contact with a provider? Hates it? Won’t repeat without it? Have a provider who is great at it?
Or after the last year, finding your way back to where it simply feels organic? 

 

I'm still new to all of this and I've only hired once (but I'm definitely looking forward to the next time!!!) But I can say that I wouldn't have it any other way: me on my back, legs up in the air, making razor sharp eye contact! Bliss!!!!!!

[Cure69]

8 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

There was a discussion here a while back about preferences about eye contact during an encounter

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/77803-eye-contact/

Nothing in 5 years about this, my search told me, but I was specifically inspired to raise this when a friend mentioned the other day that between Zoom and masks, her sense of eye contact was all screwy. No eye contact really for zoom/online convos, alternating with relying on it more in casual masked convo to understand what she couldn’t hear or register with a full facial expression/lip reading.

I feel the same about having to shift the gears of engagement so often. I have not been working since Mar2020 lockdown began, Zooms mostly social, and my unmasked contact from then until June 21 was at home with one other person. I was completely mask compliant when out. 
 

I’ve always been quick to make random eye contact - though never in Manhattan - and good at reading when the conversation or whatever welcomed more attention, and it was instinctual more or less. I loved how it was always essential for in-person cruising (Lordy remember that?) Eye contact is a very important component in what makes a successful sexual encounter for me. Fave positions are almost all face to face in some form. 

Anybody finding the experience of eye contact is a more self conscious act or otherwise different than it was in the BeforeTimes? We may have some additional mask wearing ahead over this summer into fall, and though I go without it in a smaller group of people who are known to me, it’s bound to continue messing with my head when out.

Anybody else here these days who enjoys eye contact with a provider? Hates it? Won’t repeat without it? Have a provider who is great at it?
Or after the last year, finding your way back to where it simply feels organic? 

 

I live in the New York City area, and work in Chelsea Manhattan, and I can say unequivocally that even with unlimited opportunities I've forgotten how to make eye contact! 😔

[rvwnsd]

I buy contacts specifically so I can see my partner. Glasses just get in the way.

[+ MysticMenace]

Eye contact...love...especially when you can see in their eyes how much they are enjoying the session as well. Eye contact + natural moans...woof, I Iive!

[jeezifonly]

19 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

I buy contacts specifically so I can see my partner. Glasses just get in the way.

There is something fun about removing a partner’s glasses when coming in for the kiss. (That old hot librarian trope?) It’s lifting a veil of sorts - BB eye contact… after flirting through lenses, like petting over clothes.

[+ WilliamM]

The last person I made long eye contact: 24 year old Black man who was leaving Starbucks that night to work at a bank in two days.

The people working at Starbucks said "get a room."

 

I still miss him 

[rvwnsd]

7 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

There is something fun about removing a partner’s glasses when coming in for the kiss. (That old hot librarian trope?) It’s lifting a veil of sorts - BB eye contact… after flirting through lenses, like petting over clothes.

True, but when you are extremely nearsighted removing your glasses means the world is shrouded in impenetrable fog.

[jeezifonly]

20 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

True, but when you are extremely nearsighted removing your glasses means the world is shrouded in impenetrable fog.

Once we get to petting without clothes, I find the fog to be quite flattering to my visage. 
Yet nothing for my new Magoo to fear! There’ll be no need to move, and absolutely no mistaking what’s directly in front of you. 😈