Eye Contact

[WolfRamNHard]

I recently had a hiring experience that was less than optimal because of very little eye contact.

 

I have always considered eye-contact to be fundamental to all human interactions, but especially with sexual intimacy. This has never been an issue with my non-escort dates, so I never even considered having to explicitly ask for this when hiring. But maybe that's a big assumption on my part.

 

Rather than dwelling on the details on my experience, I was hoping to try to make sense of it by hearing from you all.

 

Is eye contact important to you when you are intimate with someone?

 

If yes, have you had interactions where eye contact was not forthcoming (other person not looking at you, avoiding eye contact, averting gaze etc.)? If so, how did you cope with it? Did you confront the other person about it, or try to mitigate in some other way, or just let it roll?

 

Would you be less likely to rehire someone who didn't make eye contact? Or would that not make much difference to you?

 

What are some potential reasons why a sexual partner may be avoiding eye contact?

[+ Truereview]

Being an introvert (yeah, i know I don't come across that way here), I don't make eye contact upfront unless we already know each other. I would say eye contact is not essential for intimacy, it is intimacy for me. As an introvert, when I give myself to someone, all of my being beams out towards that person, including my eye contact. You know the line about hookers will blow you, but not kiss you? Same thing for me as far as eye contact. As natural and simple a thing as eye contact is, for some of us, it is not something we give up so easily.

 

Now,there may be a host of reasons why folks don't make eye contact, I've given you mine. Lack of chemistry, shame, cultural norms, drugs, etc can all lead to lack of eye contact, but the key is not to find fault in yourself about it but to explore what that barrier may be for that person across the bed/table/couch from you. You may not ever know what the barrier was, but the exploration is essential. See, despite the fact that I don't make eye contact easily, there are things that can help me warm up to it: good conversation (not interrogation), laughter (no comedy routine, please), and emanating warmth. I hooked up with a guy a couple years back. He was a gorgeous gentleman - I don't use that word causally. After a few minutes of chit-chat and some laughter, he said: you have beautiful eyes, what color are they? Green? We didn't lose eye contact for the rest of that evening.

 

By the way, there will be a camp that subscribes to the notion that if you are paying $300+, you better get eye contact. I'm in the camp that money doesn't buy you emotions and connection, it buys you dick and ass. Nothing wrong with the latter, but if you want emotion & connection (intimacy) in hiring situations, we (client and escort) have to put some sweat equity into it.

[TruHart1]

It's funny. I have always found connecting by eye contact is the very first thing that happens when I open my door to an escort or he opens his door to me. We may kiss, shake hands or just say, Hi!" right away, but no matter how meh the session turns out to be, even those few that have been major disappointments where he and I just didn't seem to have a real connection, eye contact has always been a given with everyone I've hired! Maybe I've been the lucky one but I use eye contact with everyone, ladies or gents, I have social interaction with, even if it is our very first meeting and we're just conversing one on one! I can truly not recall anyone who refused to make eye contact with me, though I think it might make me a bit uncomfortable if it ever happened. That's just my experience though and I realize everyone is different.

 

TruHart1

[+ Truereview]

Antonio has a great video on eye contact In his YouTube channel. Great points about our US cultural perspective on eye contact. Also, read thru the comments, some good insights there too. I chuckled at the comment that serial killers and psychopaths can also be real good at eye contact.

 

[Reluctant Daddy]

My first hire was a stunning young man in his 20's. He had beautiful eyes that you could get lost in. When the eye contact was returned it made me uncomfortable because I couldn't get a read on why he was doing it. I'm pretty certain it wasn't for the same reasons.

[LADoug1]

I'm into the BF experience when with an escort. For me eye contact only enhances the feelings of intimacy. Maybe it's an act but I always want to believe the escort is into the experience as much as I am. Eye contact = connection, interest, and enjoyment.

[+ Keith30309]

I love eye contact because it greatly helps create a close connection during intimacy. I've found some people simply don't like it, including escorts. I understand everyone is different (neat video, BTW); that's OK but it's not quite as intense an experience.

[jjkrkwood]

I'm into the BF experience when with an escort. For me eye contact only enhances the feelings of intimacy. Maybe it's an act but I always want to believe the escort is into the experience as much as I am. Eye contact = connection, interest, and enjoyment.

 

"Let's Get it On"

 

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[Rudynate]

I'm someone who has to remind themselves to maintain eye contact. I used to be a very shy person. I'm no longer a very shy person, but old habits die hard.

[jjkrkwood]

the Look of "Lust"

 

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[gallahadesquire]

I had a patient once with osteogenesis imperfecta. The sclera (the whites of his eyes) where vivid blue—for you scifi nerds, think of the Fremen on Arrakis in Dune.

 

I couldn't help myself, and tended to stare at his eyes.

 

I have a [bad] habit of catching lecturer's eyes in lecture. This led to my Quantum Mechanics course (5.61) to be taght at my speed. I found that, if I looked confused, he'd slow down; and if I looked satisfied, he'd speed up. I tried moving to another seat; he would move so he could see me. It was very strange; perhaps he just found me to be terribly funny looking.

[jjkrkwood]

[gallahadesquire]

I found one escort that was always looking at me. I finally gave up and stared back it made life so much more enjoyable

[jjkrkwood]

MADE for Each Other

 

 

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[bigvalboy]

The only time I need eye contact is when I'm on my knees. I like to look up, ya know, just to make sure he is enjoying himself...

[jjkrkwood]

The only time I need eye contact is when I'm on my knees. I like to look up, ya know, just to make sure he is enjoying himself...

 

 

Cant you tell that by the ERECT cock in your mouth ? Girlfriend, you need some Coaching.

[AdamSmith]

Cant you tell that by the ERECT cock in your mouth ? Girlfriend, you need some Coaching.

 

[BasketBaller]

While I like the physical sensations� too, eye contact is a major reason my favorite positions to take it from a guy are on my back or riding.

[LivingnLA]

Antonio has a great video on eye contact In his YouTube channel. Great points about our US cultural perspective on eye contact. Also, read thru the comments, some good insights there too. I chuckled at the comment that serial killers and psychopaths can also be real good at eye contact.

 

 

Great video! Eye contact is critical to me because it establishes a connection and since it's another man, it becomes a dominant aspect, especially when I look up from my knees and why my fantasy is absolutely about being on my back for the big moment.

 

Making sure it doesn't cross the line into a stare is one of those fun human things. Thank you for sharing the video. I'll definitely be sharing it to others in the future.

[+ glennnn]

While I was restrained, my escort stared into my eyes, ordered me to stare into his eyes and to not blink or look away. He then lightly touched my face, including my eyelids and eyelashes, telling me to trust him and give myself to him. His other hand was caressing my cock. I did what he said, looking deeply into his beautiful eyes and allowing him to touch my eyes without restraint. It was one of the most intense and erotic experiences of my life. I have never felt so much in a sexual moment.

 

So, yes! Eye contact is very important and sexy. Allowing a guy to control and touch your most private and sensitive organs is deeply moving

[+ Truereview]

While I was restrained, my escort stared into my eyes, ordered me to stare into his eyes and to not blink or look away. He then lightly touched my face, including my eyelids and eyelashes, telling me to trust him and give myself to him. His other hand was caressing my cock. I did what he said, looking deeply into his beautiful eyes and allowing him to touch my eyes without restraint. It was one of the most intense and erotic experiences of my life. I have never felt so much in a sexual moment.

[LivingnLA]

While I was restrained, my escort stared into my eyes, ordered me to stare into his eyes and to not blink or look away. He then lightly touched my face, including my eyelids and eyelashes, telling me to trust him and give myself to him. His other hand was caressing my cock. I did what he said, looking deeply into his beautiful eyes and allowing him to touch my eyes without restraint. It was one of the most intense and erotic experiences of my life. I have never felt so much in a sexual moment.

 

So, yes! Eye contact is very important and sexy. Allowing a guy to control and touch your most private and sensitive organs is deeply moving

 

Very hot Dom/sub interaction you had there.

[mattr]

Eye contact is very important to me. A big part of the reason I hire is to feel desirable and if an escort is avoiding eye contact then I immediately believe that he doesn't find me attractive and is just going through the motions. To me that is less than satisfactory hire. I realize that in many cases the escort is putting on act but if he can make me believe that he finds me attractive and is enjoying our time together then I would likely see him again.

[jjkrkwood]

I can Never see their eyes when they are sitting on my Face. I can just imagine them.

[+ Truereview]

I can Never see their eyes when they are sitting on my Face. I can just imagine them.

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