Providers using RM reviews to check up on new clients

[+ DynamicUno]

I recently reached out to a travelling provider on RM.  The next day another provider I had reviewed a couple years ago pinged me and let me know that he'd been contacted by the provider asking about me and our meeting.  We've chatted from time to time with him checking if I was going back to his city, so we've been on friendly terms and he gave me a good reference.

How common is it for providers here to use a client's reviews to check them out with other providers?  If you do it, has it helped you avoid potentially bad clients?

Edited June 24, 2021 by DynamicUno
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[+ keroscenefire]

I don't know from a provider's perspective, but I do know that the fact that I've done a lot of positive RM reviews generally has I think given me a bit of credibility as a "good client" with some new providers. I was just in Portland and met up with an escort and he told me specifically that because I had a lot of reviews he could tell I was a generally good client and I think he was more willing to provide information and flexibility than he might've otherwise with me.

So I think it's worth doing positive RM reviews. I only do positive ones as well. If I don't like a particular escort, I just don't review them at all or hire them again. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

4 hours ago, DynamicUno said:

I recently reached out to a travelling provider on RM.  The next day another provider I had reviewed a couple years ago pinged me and let me know that he'd been contacted by the provider asking about me and our meeting.  We've chatted from time to time with him checking if I was going back to his city, so we've been on friendly terms and he gave me a good reference.

How common is it for providers here to use a client's reviews to check them out with other providers?  If you do it, has it helped you avoid potentially bad clients?

I have come across it from time to time. However between doing deposits for new clients and doing my own screening process, it’s rare that I’ll need to use the reviews to verify a client.

Not to mention, I can’t guarantee every escort would take kindly to another provider reaching out about a current or former client…and some providers may not want to take a client again if they’re out looking. I know it sounds crazy but…

I know there was a client I seen who had reviewed another provider I knew. All was well. But then he flaked a couple of times on me. I then learned he hired another friend of mine. At this point I’m not willing to see him as a client anymore because he isn’t consistent with and evidently contacting other providers also.

 

[WolfCompanion]

I have never contacted another provider regarding a client who messaged me or wants to meet me. However, it does help me so much to know what he likes and the type of guy he is attracted to seeing/reading his reviews. But I would never contact a provider to ask such questions. Every single meeting/relationship should be considered particular and I really respect discretion.

[+ DynamicUno]

2 hours ago, WolfCompanion said:

I have never contacted another provider regarding a client who messaged me or wants to meet me. However, it does help me so much to know what he likes and the type of guy he is attracted to seeing/reading his reviews. But I would never contact a provider to ask such questions. Every single meeting/relationship should be considered particular and I really respect discretion.

I appreciate your take on it.  As far as I know, all he asked the other provider remembered me and if we got along ok, nothing about what we did or what I might be into.   That's good in this case because the two guys are totally different kinds of hires for me.  The review I posted on RM is public, so discretion is kind of moot in this case.  I would probably feel different if he asked for more details about my meeting with the first provider, however.

It does have me thinking about the potential downsides of posting reviews on RM, though.  

[+ DynamicUno]

16 hours ago, keroscenefire said:

I don't know from a provider's perspective, but I do know that the fact that I've done a lot of positive RM reviews generally has I think given me a bit of credibility as a "good client" with some new providers. I was just in Portland and met up with an escort and he told me specifically that because I had a lot of reviews he could tell I was a generally good client and I think he was more willing to provide information and flexibility than he might've otherwise with me.

So I think it's worth doing positive RM reviews. I only do positive ones as well. If I don't like a particular escort, I just don't review them at all or hire them again. 

I have only posted postive reviews so far.  I would only think about posting a negative review if an encounter went sideways badly (the usual things like theft, shakedowns, threatening behavior, etc), but I've been reasonably lucky in avoiding those sorts of problems.  If we just didn't have that good of a session I'd just chalk it up to bad chemistry and move along.

[+ DynamicUno]

15 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I have come across it from time to time. However between doing deposits for new clients and doing my own screening process, it’s rare that I’ll need to use the reviews to verify a client.

Not to mention, I can’t guarantee every escort would take kindly to another provider reaching out about a current or former client…and some providers may not want to take a client again if they’re out looking. I know it sounds crazy but…

I know there was a client I seen who had reviewed another provider I knew. All was well. But then he flaked a couple of times on me. I then learned he hired another friend of mine. At this point I’m not willing to see him as a client anymore because he isn’t consistent with and evidently contacting other providers also.

 

Although the thought crossed my mind briefly, it would be a bit immature if the other provider took offence to me reaching out someone else.  He lives in a resort city pretty far from me so I can only get out there occasionally.  The usual attractions haven't recovered yet there, so even if I could travel there it'd be kind of a bore for me since the things that are open don't interest me that much.  Even if he lived in my city, I'm entitled to see other providers; variety of experiences is one of the 'perks' of this sort of thing.

In general, if there isn't some actual ongoing arrangement, does any provider have a right to be upset about a client contacting someone else?  If they're jealous, it's crossing a line into relationship territory.  Yes, we're human and emotions and sex are naturally involved, but we always advise guys here to keep it business first and avoid emotional entanglements.  If it's just because the client is spending his money or time on other guys, then he has an unreasonable expection that those resources belong to him.  

But if a client flakes on you, that's definitely a valid reason to consider not engaging him.

[dbar123]

I feel a sense of comfort when an escort I’ve contacted looks at my profile and shows up on the “who saw me” list….it shows at least an above average degree of engagement

[Strafe13]

I had an escort in LA tell me during the afterglow of our 1st session (which went really well) that he was surprised I'd booked him because he didn't think he was my type.  This wasn't based on my RM profile (which is pretty detailed, and reads almost like a personal ad), but on the kinds of escorts I'd previously reviewed.  As far as I know, he didn't contact any of my former hires, nor did he say what he thought of the reviews I'd left (I do not always give 5-star reviews).  He just thought he was very different from those guys.  I wasn't at all offended, but it just goes to show that even if you do your due diligence, that doesn't mean that the conclusions you've drawn from whatever you've found are accurate.

[jeezifonly]

7 hours ago, Strafe13 said:

I had an escort in LA tell me during the afterglow of our 1st session (which went really well) that he was surprised I'd booked him because he didn't think he was my type.  This wasn't based on my RM profile (which is pretty detailed, and reads almost like a personal ad), but on the kinds of escorts I'd previously reviewed.  As far as I know, he didn't contact any of my former hires, nor did he say what he thought of the reviews I'd left (I do not always give 5-star reviews).  He just thought he was very different from those guys.  I wasn't at all offended, but it just goes to show that even if you do your due diligence, that doesn't mean that the conclusions you've drawn from whatever you've found are accurate.

Loving grilled salmon with steamed veggies doesn’t mean I’m never going to order the pork rinds and a beer…

[+ 7829V]

On 6/23/2021 at 7:41 PM, DynamicUno said:

I recently reached out to a travelling provider on RM.  The next day another provider I had reviewed a couple years ago pinged me and let me know that he'd been contacted by the provider asking about me and our meeting.  We've chatted from time to time with him checking if I was going back to his city, so we've been on friendly terms and he gave me a good reference.

How common is it for providers here to use a client's reviews to check them out with other providers?  If you do it, has it helped you avoid potentially bad clients?

I do it all the time. I ask all the reviewers for more details. Most don’t reply. But a few do. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 6/24/2021 at 5:37 PM, DynamicUno said:

Although the thought crossed my mind briefly, it would be a bit immature if the other provider took offence to me reaching out someone else.  He lives in a resort city pretty far from me so I can only get out there occasionally.  The usual attractions haven't recovered yet there, so even if I could travel there it'd be kind of a bore for me since the things that are open don't interest me that much.  Even if he lived in my city, I'm entitled to see other providers; variety of experiences is one of the 'perks' of this sort of thing.

In general, if there isn't some actual ongoing arrangement, does any provider have a right to be upset about a client contacting someone else?  If they're jealous, it's crossing a line into relationship territory.  Yes, we're human and emotions and sex are naturally involved, but we always advise guys here to keep it business first and avoid emotional entanglements.  If it's just because the client is spending his money or time on other guys, then he has an unreasonable expection that those resources belong to him.  

But if a client flakes on you, that's definitely a valid reason to consider not engaging him.

Right, and I was more referring to your last sentence: I know for a fact it’s happened atleast a couple of times, in one case the client flaked, hired another escort, and then later on seen he reviewed him. 
 

In your case, it sounds expected that the interaction doesn’t sound like any harm or foul done. 
 

Technically a provider shouldn’t be upset or jealous about a client contacting someone else. But as I’ve said before to others, it’s all about tact. Me personally though: I don’t really get too caught up in who reviewed who. I’m the same way with “products” and even hotels. Even though reviews may be true, I need to be able to get the experience for myself and tell. Likewise, I’m not necessarily eager to read a client’s review of another escort either. Though I do admit that I’ve on occasion gotten tempted enough to read some bad reviews and responses…and some of those BAD reviews of escorts by clients, have actually proven that it was the client who was misbehaving, not the provider ☝

Edited July 7, 2021 by Jarrod_Uncut