So Torn! Advice Requested

[SHUBEAR]

Hello Friends!

 

I booked some time with a provider today and he was as handsome as I was hoping he'd be. I mean, he was my kind of man to the letter!

 

This was my first time booking him, and I did my research on the forum. He had great reviews and positive experiences by some of the other users here. Upon arrival, I didn't feel much warmth and there wasn't really much of a connection. But, I didn't let this deter me.

 

He knew I was looking for a top and was receptive to my request for clothing and name calling (he was pretty good at that!). However, when it came time for the main event (you know, back there), he couldn't perform. I was so very disappointed.

 

Instead, it turned into a complete oral adventure and a sort of cuddle session.

 

I'm torn in that I don't know if I leave review or not. I don't know if he was having an off day, or we just didn't vibe. Either way, I'd love some advice!

 

Thanks!

[dbar123]

Unfortunately people aren’t robots. His needs may be financial but if the reaction isn’t chemical then just forget about it and don’t bother with a review.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

Wow , sorry that your much wanted experience was lacking.

 

Yes you give an honest review.

 

after all you did your research and relied on that .

 

I know I do read reviews on sometimes on RM I will message a reviewer for more clarity.

 

As gentlemen who hire, we owe our fellow gentlemen the respect of honest reviews. It is how we keep this industry honest

[Bargara Leatherboy]

Unfortunately people aren’t robots. His needs may be financial but if the reaction isn’t chemical then just forget about it and don’t bother with a review.

 

F**king is not chemical. - if he cannot manage that he should not be taking the $$

[Guest davebk]

Definitely leave a review - those details in particular as you wrote them aren't condemning but just an honest assessment. Then the rest of us can take it in as information and make our own determination.

 

It might be worth asking though: did he seem to react to the fact he couldn't perform? As in, did it seem like this was an anomaly for him, maybe an off night or just misconnection?

[CuriousByNature]

I don't mean to make light of the situation, but the title made me think you had met up with someone a bit too well-endowed ?

[Studsearcher]

I think that’s the kind of review we could use more of. I’ve had a few similar experiences - their appearance and personality are as expected, but they can’t perform as expected. I think that doesn’t matter to some clients, especially those hiring more for the company, but to others it does. It’s not a one star out of five experience, but maybe a 3 or 4 star. I’ll need to start leaving reviews like that myself when I get back to hiring.

[tenderloin]

This is a great example of where the provider could have created a win-win. Imagine if he had said something like

 

"I'm not a machine, and while we seem to have had a nice time together, unfortunately today I couldn't provide the main thing you told me you were looking for. So I am going to discount the amount I am charging for my time by 50%."

 

That gesture would come from someone thinking long-term and interested in building his brand. Unfortunately, there are not many out there like that.

Edited February 13, 2021 by tenderloin

[Epigonos]

I'm not into being fucked so this issue doesn't arise when I hire. HOWEVER, if I were and the escort couldn't or wouldn't perform I'd write a highly critical review stating just that.

[SHUBEAR]

It might be worth asking though: did he seem to react to the fact he couldn't perform? As in, did it seem like this was an anomaly for him, maybe an off night or just misconnection?

 

He did say something like, "My bad, I'm sorry ...". I took $50 off his asking price. He seemed to understand.

[SHUBEAR]

This is a great example of where the provider could have created a win-win. Imagine if he had said something like

 

"I'm not a machine, and while we seem to have had a nice time together, unfortunately today I couldn't provide the main thing you told me you were looking for. So I am going to discount the amount I am charging for my time by 50%."

 

That gesture would come from someone thinking long-term and interested in building his brand. Unfortunately, there are not many out there like that.

 

Agree with you, whole heartedly! I took $50 off his asking price and he didn't seem too upset/offended. I think he knew.

[SHUBEAR]

I don't mean to make light of the situation, but the title made me think you had met up with someone a bit too well-endowed ?

 

LOL .. He was nicely endowed! But, alas .. that was not an issue.

[+ purplekow]

Well I am a client and I have hired with the expectation that I was going to be topping only to find, despite chemistry, horniness and willingness, I was just not able to get home. Mostly it was not getting hard enough to penetrate a really tight hole and sometimes it was not getting the escort to relax enough and for those situations, I would not consider writing a bad review. But if the escort had agreed to bottom and then "backed out". I would definitely write a negative review. So if he tried but there was not success, I would write a review and mention that although you had hoped to be topped, that did not happen but the rest of the meeting went as planned. If you think he really did not give it the old college try, then make that point.

Hey, at least you get head out of the deal.

[kingsley88]

But I thought you're paying for his time? Honestly though do you think it's because he had another client before you that day? Also, do you think he needs to use Viagra?

[marylander1940]

Hello Friends!

 

I booked some time with a provider today and he was as handsome as I was hoping he'd be. I mean, he was my kind of man to the letter!

 

This was my first time booking him, and I did my research on the forum. He had great reviews and positive experiences by some of the other users here. Upon arrival, I didn't feel much warmth and there wasn't really much of a connection. But, I didn't let this deter me.

 

He knew I was looking for a top and was receptive to my request for clothing and name calling (he was pretty good at that!). However, when it came time for the main event (you know, back there), he couldn't perform. I was so very disappointed.

 

Instead, it turned into a complete oral adventure and a sort of cuddle session.

 

I'm torn in that I don't know if I leave review or not. I don't know if he was having an off day, or we just didn't vibe. Either way, I'd love some advice!

 

Thanks!

 

Sorry to hear that. Was he able to get it hard and later lost it?

 

Did you describe yourself to him accurately to make sure you guys were a match?

 

He did say something like, "My bad, I'm sorry ...". I took $50 off his asking price. He seemed to understand.

 

How long into the hour the main even was supposed to happen?

 

 

Well I am a client and I have hired with the expectation that I was going to be topping only to find, despite chemistry, horniness and willingness, I was just not able to get home. Mostly it was not getting hard enough to penetrate a really tight hole and sometimes it was not getting the escort to relax enough and for those situations, I would not consider writing a bad review. But if the escort had agreed to bottom and then "backed out". I would definitely write a negative review. So if he tried but there was not success, I would write a review and mention that although you had hoped to be topped, that did not happen but the rest of the meeting went as planned. If you think he really did not give it the old college try, then make that point.

Hey, at least you get head out of the deal.

 

do you take Viagra?

 

Your opinion on reviews seems reasonable.

 

we had a former frequent poster who had several guys backing down because "they didn't prepare" and he never dared to suggest the guys to go get an enema from a Rite Aid, CVS, Wallgreens, etc.

Edited February 14, 2021 by marylander1940

[marylander1940]

But I thought you're paying for his time? Honestly though do you think it's because he had another client before you that day? Also, do you think he needs to use Viagra?

 

Good point but even if that was the case he could have taken another 1/4 pill, a big glass of water and perform.

 

I know escorts who "evaluate the situation" after the meet the client, take the pill or not after. Chewing Viagra (instead of swallowing it) on an empty stomach as told by our resident Dr. @Unicorn is also a good way for it to make fast effect.

 

It takes 2 to tango and not all positions (legs up, sitting on it) are not possible with all body types of clients. Before PrEP I would always put the condom at the very last moment and after fingering with lub to get him ready. I always hated when guys would star searching for poppers right after I put on the condom and other diversions.

Edited February 14, 2021 by marylander1940

[+ purplekow]

Viagra is no guarantee

That one will be hard as one needs to be

If the hole is real tight

Not all of one's might

Can assure a flawless entry

 

You say what about poppers

To prevent those cock entry stoppers

Sphincters can be

Quite ornery

For even the finest of toppers

 

But there is no need to despair

If you want to, but cannot get there

There are other means

Some hot, sexy scenes

That guarantee a spew in the air

 

So listen those I have friended

If you plan not your cock is upended

Just use your mind

And you will find

That a mouth can be gaily rear ended

[marylander1940]

Viagra is no guarantee

That one will be hard as one needs to be

If the hole is real tight

Not all of one's might

Can assure a flawless entry

 

You say what about poppers

To prevent those cock entry stoppers

Sphincters can be

Quite ornery

For even the finest of toppers

 

But there is no need to despair

If you want to, but cannot get there

There are other means

Some hot, sexy scenes

That guarantee a spew in the air

 

So listen those I have friended

If you plan not your cock is upended

Just use your mind

And you will find

That a mouth can be gaily rear ended

 

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[rvwnsd]

I think you should write a review. However, you should avoid criticizing the escort and instead report the facts: you did not feel warmth and connection when he arrived; he tried to top but was unable to perform; and you had an all-oral session. You don't know why he was unable to perform (could have been due to a lack of connection) and it really isn't relevant. The important part is he was not able to top you despite trying to do so.

[Michael PhD]

You should be factual in your review. I think you can convey an honest review without being unnecessarily critical or disrespectful. These reviews are the most important ones... seems like many, including myself, want to give praise when it’s a great experience but don’t balance that with honest reviews when things didn’t go as hoped for or planned. I think many would appreciate your review.

[orville]

He had great reviews and positive experiences ... I didn't feel much warmth and there wasn't really much of a connection.

He knew I was looking for a top ... he couldn't perform. I was so very disappointed.

I don't know if he was having an off day, or we just didn't vibe.

I hear you sister. A Provider should take a gig only if he has the skills and tools for the job.

F**king is not chemical.

I respectfully disagree! There is a chemical ingredient called Sildenafil very useful for F*cking!

do you think he needs to use Viagra?

do you take Viagra?

LOL! Right?!

For some "Tops" viagra is not enough.

Age also plays a factor.

A dose increase to make your cock hard,

could also make your heart stop.

Oh, the dilemma.

I think you should write a review ... report the facts.

You should be factual in your ... honest review without being unnecessarily critical or disrespectful.

I agree with these 2 statements. Write an objective review.

Treat it like the review of a contractor who didn't finish the job you paid for.

The discounted rate shouldn't affect your review. He shouldn't take jobs if he's not in prime conditions.

This is not a cheap service or hobby, and in some way, your time and money were wasted and not fully respected.

I avoid giving negative reviews if the session wasn't incredible but the escort was "functional" and did everything that was promised.

But in this case, you made clear what you wanted.

After the review, some might read a little abuse in both parties but at least he'll have a chance to improve his service.

So I am going to discount the amount I am charging for my time by 50%." That gesture would come from someone thinking long-term and interested in building his brand. Unfortunately, there are not many out there like that.

I will piggyback on @tenderloin advice and say that a less than stellar review is also an opportunity for a win-win situation.

If he's smart and values his reputation, he'll make it up to you with a follow-up session, if not discounted, with some other benefit.

Good luck and if he doesn't respond well don't get discouraged. The ocean is plenty and there's a myriad of good providers out there.

Edited February 14, 2021 by orville

[marylander1940]

 

 

For some "Tops" viagra is not enough.

Age also plays a factor.

A dose increase to make your cock hard,

could also make your heart stop.

Oh, the dilemma.

 

yes Viagra as pointed by @purplekow sometimes doesn't work for older tops hiring bottom escorts.

 

@SHUBEAR can you share with us your stats? How old was the escort? Did you share with him your stats before agreeing to meet?

 

Considering now we have PrEP and BB sex is no longer an act of madness, did you require him to wear a condom?

 

Did he deliver the BFE experience previous to his time to top?

 

I think you should write a review. However, you should avoid criticizing the escort and instead report the facts: you did not feel warmth and connection when he arrived; he tried to top but was unable to perform; and you had an all-oral session. You don't know why he was unable to perform (could have been due to a lack of connection) and it really isn't relevant. The important part is he was not able to top you despite trying to do so.

 

The escort agreed to a 50 reduction of his fee. Ain’t that enough?