Helping with client's self image: yes way or no way?

[Rudynate]

While I really, really don't care I think that he probably has had some work done. Probably very little. I think that it has been a good thing for him that he has taken the train home every night to have time with his kids. I am sure it was a good way to get work done and then to just relax and think about things.

 

 

I think its pretty apparent that he has. At the very least he's had hair transplantation. I don't think he's had a full face lift but maybe a mini-face lift and some additional work around his eyes. The work shows when he smiles.

[Smurof]

I'll admit this thread was getting a bit too lengthy, so I apologize if my advice was already given, but to be blunt, you fucked up.

 

Among your posts in replies was that "he didn't want to fix it", meaning his bad teeth. I have vitiligo, and deal with the rare occasions when people approach me, point at my skin blotches and say" "You can do something about that, you know.". I'm not trying to be a hand model, and it's neither contagious nor deadly, so I'm good. He was fine with his teeth the way they are, not the way you believe they would look better. I might have a different view on this if you made an offer to pay for the renovation of his mouth completely on your own dime.

 

If you could do it all over again, you would have never brought it up. Trust me, I think about my past actions all of the time and wish I could have a do-over with a great many things I've said that were inappropriate and permanently friendship damning. Live and learn. Or not.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I'll admit this thread was getting a bit too lengthy, so I apologize if my advice was already given, but to be blunt, you fucked up.

 

Among your posts in replies was that "he didn't want to fix it", meaning his bad teeth. I have vitiligo, and deal with the rare occasions when people approach me, point at my skin blotches and say" "You can do something about that, you know.". I'm not trying to be a hand model, and it's neither contagious nor deadly, so I'm good. He was fine with his teeth the way they are, not the way you believe they would look better. I might have a different view on this if you made an offer to pay for the renovation of his mouth completely on your own dime.

 

If you could do it all over again, you would have never brought it up. Trust me, I think about my past actions all of the time and wish I could have a do-over with a great many things I've said that were inappropriate and permanently friendship damning. Live and learn. Or not.

 

Well thankyou for bringing up your story. If you want to know the truth, I actually have something similar to vitiligo on my hands as well. I hate it, but I manage it and am aware of it. Eventually I do want to see if I can have a dermatologist (which I recall seeing years ago in my school days, but only gave me some cream was nothing more than glorified dry skin ointment).

 

As for dude’s dental situation...I don’t have to offer to pay for anything because he has dental insurance/coverage. I had just said previously that a recent dental visit he had revealed an issue that needed to be fixed (which he gladly offered to tell me about).

 

I wouldn’t take anything back TBH. I said it, and glad I said it. The truth will set you free. I wanted to know for myself, whether he understood that his teeth could use work, and it was a bother outside of the bedroom (and I say outside because generally, sex wise he’s good at that and has a decent looking body, cock, and ass). But, leading up to that, and afterwards...I like to know inside that I’m comfortable with a person’s whole being.

 

That said, we are still friends and things are a good terms now. It still bothers me, but now he knows. I’m not going to be one of those fake escorts who will play the part long as their is money involved. I’m going to be a real ass person to mention things if it bothers me. Obviously certain things can’t be cured and fixed. But many things can.

 

I know for me, my barber kept harping on how I was going bald at the top of my head. I would get offended, but recently began a propecia and rogaine regime...because I have a good overall hair left, but if I didn’t take care of the bald spot, it’s just going to keep getting worse. So I chose to do something about it in the interim. I know some guys look sexy bald, but I’ve got a cranium slightly shaped like a peanut, so that’s not the route I wish to take lol