Same day appointments where client needs YOU to host

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I just wonder if anyone else grapples with this. I have it pretty plainly in my ads that I like advanced notice when hosting locally. Mainly because I’m not always in work mode when at home base.

 

But it seems it just doesn’t give, people still request appointments the day of, but they can’t HOST. They seem eager and rushed to meet, but have an expectation that we are readily available with open schedule for them to just walk in the door, with little to no advance planning.

 

Sometimes I just don’t understand the psyche behind it. If someone is truly trying to set up a meeting 1 on 1 with someone who they’ve never met, don’t know anything about beyond an ad and pictures, and have no idea where they may live or be hosting...why is it appropriate to assume that one can simply text, ask “are you available to host now”.

 

Whenever that happens, with the exception of me being already situated in a hotel...I just find it invasive and pushy. It just gives me this vibe that someone is trying to barge into my personal space, unannounced, AND when they try to give time limits (They are in a rush to meet by X time, but fail to properly plan it ahead), it makes me feel that they feel, I have nothing better to do with my time AND it sets the tone that their time is more important than mine. And I’ve not even known them for 5 minutes ??‍♂️

 

I had this yesterday, and told the client to walk. For one he initially contacted me Saturday asking me to host, and I told him I was on my way out of town (actually he seen I was on my way out of town, and decided to ask anyway). Come Tuesday, he texts me again asking to host at 7:30 pm, to meet before 10. Saying he has to work the next day...

 

I told him, it’s not all about you. Guess what? I have to work too...and I was in fact on my way to another client. The bravado of this dude was rather offensive. Not to mention he didn’t even try to schedule in advance for when I returned to town, when I was talking with him Saturday.

 

Solution: if a client needs someone to host, PLAN IT. ASK. Coordinate. Don’t just assume one can just up and pop over to an escort’s place on spur of moment. I’m currently trying to reschedule a client who last week, was being pushy about meeting, saying he could come over right after lunch. Ummmm, no you can’t. I am not a walk in clinic.

 

Even when I had my own place (which I don’t now, which makes hosting more challenging), I still didn’t like clients getting into the habit of being able to call last minute, and barge into my personal space without much notice. And I find if I allow it once, they expect it again and again.... so I don’t even like to allow myself to get into the trap.

 

There’s nothing wrong with last minute or same day appointments. But the issue comes when one is expecting another to do something they can’t. If they say, “I can host or travel”, then that opens more room for options. I wonder would they be okay with an escort calling them asking to come over out the blue? In my experience, 99.9% that’s a HELL NO. So then how is it fair to think that I can accommodate on such short notice?

[cany10011]

Sorry you are experiencing this. I know it is frustrating when people don‘t read the details. Sometimes clients are just plain horny and want to have immediate gratification. Sorry that they don‘t read carefully... but i suppose it comes with the territory of managing a business.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Sorry you are experiencing this. I know it is frustrating when people don‘t read the details. Sometimes clients are just plain horny and want to have immediate gratification. Sorry that they don‘t read carefully... but i suppose it comes with the territory of managing a business.

 

Very true. And I know the horny glasses clouds visibility. But they should know better. That’s basic common sense. It also prevents:

 

“Can you host now?”

“Yes”

“Where in town?”

“(Gets address info)

“Oh sorry that’s too far”.

 

Yeah because if they were any closer, I’d give them a nuggie and a wedgie for being irritating lol.

[+ nycman]

You don’t seem to understand how penises work.

 

It’s an important concept to master in this line of work.

[cany10011]

I just wonder if anyone else grapples with this. I have it pretty plainly in my ads that I like advanced notice when hosting locally. Mainly because I’m not always in work mode when at home base.

 

But it seems it just doesn’t give, people still request appointments the day of, but they can’t HOST. They seem eager and rushed to meet, but have an expectation that we are readily available with open schedule for them to just walk in the door, with little to no advance planning.

 

Sometimes I just don’t understand the psyche behind it. If someone is truly trying to set up a meeting 1 on 1 with someone who they’ve never met, don’t know anything about beyond an ad and pictures, and have no idea where they may live or be hosting...why is it appropriate to assume that one can simply text, ask “are you available to host now”.

 

Whenever that happens, with the exception of me being already situated in a hotel...I just find it invasive and pushy. It just gives me this vibe that someone is trying to barge into my personal space, unannounced, AND when they try to give time limits (They are in a rush to meet by X time, but fail to properly plan it ahead), it makes me feel that they feel, I have nothing better to do with my time AND it sets the tone that their time is more important than mine. And I’ve not even known them for 5 minutes ??‍♂️

 

I had this yesterday, and told the client to walk. For one he initially contacted me Saturday asking me to host, and I told him I was on my way out of town (actually he seen I was on my way out of town, and decided to ask anyway). Come Tuesday, he texts me again asking to host at 7:30 pm, to meet before 10. Saying he has to work the next day...

 

I told him, it’s not all about you. Guess what? I have to work too...and I was in fact on my way to another client. The bravado of this dude was rather offensive. Not to mention he didn’t even try to schedule in advance for when I returned to town, when I was talking with him Saturday.

 

Solution: if a client needs someone to host, PLAN IT. ASK. Coordinate. Don’t just assume one can just up and pop over to an escort’s place on spur of moment. I’m currently trying to reschedule a client who last week, was being pushy about meeting, saying he could come over right after lunch. Ummmm, no you can’t. I am not a walk in clinic.

 

Even when I had my own place (which I don’t now, which makes hosting more challenging), I still didn’t like clients getting into the habit of being able to call last minute, and barge into my personal space without much notice. And I find if I allow it once, they expect it again and again.... so I don’t even like to allow myself to get into the trap.

 

There’s nothing wrong with last minute or same day appointments. But the issue comes when one is expecting another to do something they can’t. If they say, “I can host or travel”, then that opens more room for options. I wonder would they be okay with an escort calling them asking to come over out the blue? In my experience, 99.9% that’s a HELL NO. So then how is it fair to think that I can accommodate on such short notice?

 

 

I don‘t have the looks or aptitude to do what you are doing. However, If I were managing a business, I‘d want as many interested parties. I wouldn’t care if it wasn‘t convenient for me, i’d paste on my smile and greet them and hope to find a way in satisfying them so they‘d throw some cash my way.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I don‘t have the looks or aptitude to do what you are doing. However, If I were managing a business, I‘d want as many interested parties. I wouldn’t care if it wasn‘t convenient for me, i’d paste on my smile and greet them and hope to find a way in satisfying them so they‘d throw some cash my way.

 

That’s the thing. I do exactly that. However, when people disregard directions and make it difficult to connect, that is essentially counterproductive to what I’m trying to do.

 

Its not just that it isn’t convenient for me, it’s not possible. I can’t accommodate impossible requests. That’s not a matter of inconvenience, it’s a matter of coordinating things that work for both parties, not just for one. It’s like any other business that has their hours of operation, or clinics where you have to make appointments.

 

Even in regular hookup scenarios, there’s still a process of arranging a fuck session. Sure the “come over now” stuff happens left and right, but most of my hookups off clock usually involve some degree of planning. If someone disregards the set order in which I ask to do things, it’s going to be a repeated failure in connection.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

You don’t seem to understand how penises work.

 

It’s an important concept to master in this line of work.

 

And that’s exactly why I don’t deal with dicks and dickheads lol.

[down_to_business]

AND it sets the tone that their time is more important than mine.

 

Let's be honest. Reading your posts you definitely project that your time is more important than potential clients. I think many people do feel this way (that their time is more important than someone else's, I suppose its even normal to feel this way). Nevertheless, you definitely have a right to your feelings on the issue and to manage your business as you feel fit.

 

You could post something about absolutely no last minute appointments or 24 hours notice required to host or even something along the lines of non-refundable $X deposit required to host immediately payable now (or any other such options). Of course I am sure many people either won't read it or will ignore it.

 

I would also recommend that you type up a FAQ, that you can send to any inquiry with ease that covers some of the issues you hate dealing with. It could include something like this:

 

Do you host?:

Only with 24 hours notice or immediate payment of $X deposit

 

Where are you hosting/located?:

12345 (just list your zipcode or a major intersection or landmark nearby).

 

Send this premade FAQ to anyone as the sole reply to any question it covers. No fuss, minimal effort, minimal frustration. One size fits all solution.

[harlow]

Let's be honest. Reading your posts you definitely project that your time is more important than potential clients. I think many people do feel this way (that their time is more important than someone else's, I suppose its even normal to feel this way). Nevertheless, you definitely have a right to your feelings on the issue and to manage your business as you feel fit.

 

You could post something about absolutely no last minute appointments or 24 hours notice required to host or even something along the lines of non-refundable $X deposit required to host immediately payable now (or any other such options). Of course I am sure many people either won't read it or will ignore it.

 

I would also recommend that you type up a FAQ, that you can send to any inquiry with ease that covers some of the issues you hate dealing with. It could include something like this:

 

Do you host?:

Only with 24 hours notice or immediate payment of $X deposit

 

Where are you hosting/located?:

12345 (just list your zipcode or a major intersection or landmark nearby).

 

Send this premade FAQ to anyone as the sole reply to any question it covers. No fuss, minimal effort, minimal frustration. One size fits all solution.

This is spot on

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Let's be honest. Reading your posts you definitely project that your time is more important than potential clients. I think many people do feel this way (that their time is more important than someone else's, I suppose its even normal to feel this way). Nevertheless, you definitely have a right to your feelings on the issue and to manage your business as you feel fit.

 

You could post something about absolutely no last minute appointments or 24 hours notice required to host or even something along the lines of non-refundable $X deposit required to host immediately payable now (or any other such options). Of course I am sure many people either won't read it or will ignore it.

 

I would also recommend that you type up a FAQ, that you can send to any inquiry with ease that covers some of the issues you hate dealing with. It could include something like this:

 

Do you host?:

Only with 24 hours notice or immediate payment of $X deposit

 

Where are you hosting/located?:

12345 (just list your zipcode or a major intersection or landmark nearby).

 

Send this premade FAQ to anyone as the sole reply to any question it covers. No fuss, minimal effort, minimal frustration. One size fits all solution.

 

That’s a good point. However, I make that clear already in my ad and over initial texts. I say it atleast 2 or 3 times: 1 in my ad, 2 over text during the initial request, and 3 usually again as a reminder. I also mention that because when I’m in my home base, I generally only host after 2 and before 11 am. However, more often than not...they either:

 

A) can’t plan in advance

B) can’t meet during the times I have available

Just today I had 2 clients who requested in calls (one included the message above). One of them, I reached out to yesterday early afternoon around 1:30 to let me know what we can arrange...didn’t get a response until 8:30 in the morning today. So I had to coordinate last minute with him. Eventually we did meet, but almost didn’t. If I hadn’t already been in the vicinity from a trip over the weekend, I would have probably either been rushing like crazy or had to postpone, for the 3rd time.

 

The other guy, he tells me:

 

Monday: Man, wish I could now. So horny. Wednesday or Thursday work, after 12pm?

 

Yesterday: Ok. Not sure which day yet. Closer to noon the better

 

Today: Will have to be midtown if today. Maybe another day.

 

Notice how once again, he doesn’t even bothered to try and plan in advance. Just says, “another day”. So it’s like: 1. not only does he want me to host, 2. not only is it last minute with not much planning (Wednesday or Thursday after 12 could be any time, but then says closer to noon the better). But 3. most times, I’m also expected to be in an area close to them.

 

Like how in the world is there so many stipulations lol. If I’m hosting, why should it matter where I am. He CAN’T host, so therefore if I’m going out of my way to pay for hotel, have said hotel hold $50-$100 on my account, then he should be more than willing to work with what’s convenient for me, because he can’t host. I’m already making it convenient by hosting, and hosting last minute. The least he could do is be willing to come to the location where I am and not fuss about the time.

 

I had a freebie hookup the other day, who had a similar dilemma: he couldn’t host, nor could he come to the main part of the town I’m in. It would have involved me going 60 miles to him, and getting a hotel. A hotel I ALREADY had. When I visit my regular client to visit there, I don’t mind. But he cancelled. So why the hell am I going to go way out there, and get a room because he can’t host?

 

It’s just really annoying and turns me off. They want to engage in an activity, but are so limited and don’t respect the fact that we are not superhuman beings that are always going to be convenient to them in every way. They need to stop thinking with their dick, and think with their head. If they can’t do it, then we won’t meet.

 

Sometimes I feel, if it’s that important for me to host near them...they can just go ahead and get the room themselves. That way it won’t come off being selfish, cheap and inconsiderate. Because it comes off to me like they feel I’m so desperate to make money, I’ll be willing to drop anything to be convenient for them.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I also realize this issue is especially prone in smaller markets and cities. In places like DC and San Fran, I have had trips where all my calls the whole trip were outcalls. But in middle American cities, like Kansas City: Hardly any client can host. It’s almost like they are terrified of having another type of man seen knocking on the door or something. Who knows. Idk

[Rudynate]

That’s a good point. However, I make that clear already in my ad and over initial texts. I say it atleast 2 or 3 times: 1 in my ad, 2 over text during the initial request, and 3 usually again as a reminder. I also mention that because when I’m in my home base, I generally only host after 2 and before 11 am. However, more often than not...they either:

 

A) can’t plan in advance

B) can’t meet during the times I have available

Just today I had 2 clients who requested in calls (one included the message above). One of them, I reached out to yesterday early afternoon around 1:30 to let me know what we can arrange...didn’t get a response until 8:30 in the morning today. So I had to coordinate last minute with him. Eventually we did meet, but almost didn’t. If I hadn’t already been in the vicinity from a trip over the weekend, I would have probably either been rushing like crazy or had to postpone, for the 3rd time.

 

The other guy, he tells me:

 

Monday: Man, wish I could now. So horny. Wednesday or Thursday work, after 12pm?

 

Yesterday: Ok. Not sure which day yet. Closer to noon the better

 

Today: Will have to be midtown if today. Maybe another day.

 

Notice how once again, he doesn’t even bothered to try and plan in advance. Just says, “another day”. So it’s like: 1. not only does he want me to host, 2. not only is it last minute with not much planning (Wednesday or Thursday after 12 could be any time, but then says closer to noon the better). But 3. most times, I’m also expected to be in an area close to them.

 

Like how in the world is there so many stipulations lol. If I’m hosting, why should it matter where I am. He CAN’T host, so therefore if I’m going out of my way to pay for hotel, have said hotel hold $50-$100 on my account, then he should be more than willing to work with what’s convenient for me, because he can’t host. I’m already making it convenient by hosting, and hosting last minute. The least he could do is be willing to come to the location where I am and not fuss about the time.

 

I had a freebie hookup the other day, who had a similar dilemma: he couldn’t host, nor could he come to the main part of the town I’m in. It would have involved me going 60 miles to him, and getting a hotel. A hotel I ALREADY had. When I visit my regular client to visit there, I don’t mind. But he cancelled. So why the hell am I going to go way out there, and get a room because he can’t host?

 

It’s just really annoying and turns me off. They want to engage in an activity, but are so limited and don’t respect the fact that we are not superhuman beings that are always going to be convenient to them in every way. They need to stop thinking with their dick, and think with their head. If they can’t do it, then we won’t meet.

 

Sometimes I feel, if it’s that important for me to host near them...they can just go ahead and get the room themselves. That way it won’t come off being selfish, cheap and inconsiderate. Because it comes off to me like they feel I’m so desperate to make money, I’ll be willing to drop anything to be convenient for them.

 

 

A lot of people don't read profiles, at least not carefully. I'm not an escort, but I have profiles on a couple of hookup sites. More often than not guys contact me who would have already realized that we werent a match if they had read my profile. It's just part of this world.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

A lot of people don't read profiles, at least not carefully. I'm not an escort, but I have profiles on a couple of hookup sites. More often than not guys contact me who would have already realized that we werent a match if they had read my profile. It's just part of this world.

 

Yeah, but that was a good idea about the person suggesting to write up a template. I was actually doing that for a short period, with a picture of the template I would send to clients. That may work since people seem to skip over things.

 

But actually, I’ve also sent clients pictures of my ad, highlighting the part of my ad that answers the very thing they’ve asked. Some seem to make it feel as if I’m suggesting they are dumb, but if they’re dumb enough to not read it, I have no qualms making them feel dumb lol.

 

At the end of the day, sometimes I think these guys know what they’re doing. They’re not dumb, they’re just intentionally trying to make something not work out in some cases. They aren’t 5 year olds. They just think they are more important, and that we don’t deserve to be treated as something to be scheduled. If they can plan with other people and things they have to do, they can do it with us.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I’ll also mention, when people don’t plan...it never fails that irony has it, 2 clients will want to try and book at exactly the same time...and one has to get dropped. Happens far too often. Had it happen today. I tried to schedule the other for 30 min to an hour after the first, but he couldn’t make it. Since then, I’ve had no incalls all day. And likely won’t because everytime I host in certain cities, it’s always only 1 client show up that day. I tried to host on set days of the week, that didn’t work because it don’t work with other’s schedules.

 

And clients sometimes say, “well don’t get a hotel just for me”. For one, it’s not just for them. I stay there too. And if I have other appointments come in, I’ll take then. But if I don’t have an appointment booked...I’m never going to just be hosting just to host. I had to explain this very clearly to a client earlier today in person:

 

I am not going to just leave my house and go get a hotel, just to stare at the 4 walls, with no appointments planned. Because that’s exactly what will happen if nothing is scheduled nowadays. He says, “I can come to you, if you’re already in a hotel”. No. It doesn’t work that way. They have to plan, it can’t just be when they “feel the urge” and “catch me by chance”.

 

Either I won’t host at all, or I’m going to host in the way that’s going to make the most sense. Even when I’m out of town, staying in hotels...I have to clock these jokers like non other. Had one the other day claim he arrived to my hotel. Then he left claiming he didn’t see me (he didn’t want to provide a phone number, so I didn’t provide a room number until he arrived...which he never did).

 

Smart me, I requested a late checkout and wasn’t going to pay for another night until I seen his money in my hand. And then I would go ahead and extend the reservation, because he already went from meeting at 11 am to 15 minutes after noon to “show up”. One of my boy toys had an apartment and invited me to stay over, so there was no reason to waste extra money on a hotel...and sure enough, nobody else requested a session that day.

 

I know this biz like the back of my hand lol.

Edited May 21, 2020 by Jarrod_Uncut