I FELT LIKE I WAS THE PROVIDER

[KevinHere]

Last night annoying AF. Provider (who I met one time before) was VERY eager and was a little too into me (not to sound vain). It was hot until he (bottom) climaxed all over me then we had to take a break for 20mins until he was ready again. Then I was finally "finished" and he hung out for an extra 20 mins and would not leave. I think he enjoyed it more than me he was just toooo much. What should I have done? He was VERY selfish.

[+ OliverSaks]

You didn’t have any problems with the first session, right?

 

1) we aren’t machines

2) consider yourself lucky that he enjoyed himself with you (and remember how this made you feel versus some lukewarm future hire where the guy feels like he is going through the motions)

3) ask him to leave / stand your ground

 

this post is wild lol -

 

Maybe he was hypomanic/manic...? ?

[cany10011]

It’s nice to have that chemistry with a provider

[MidwestCoastal]

I think we need @Benjamin_Nicholas to weigh in here....

 

Let me turn the tables on this question.... As a bottom who only hires providers who are tops, if they cum in the first 10 minutes and can't get it up again, should I only pay for 10%?

 

I don't think its fair to be upset with anyone who 'cums too fast' especially if it is a second time you are getting together with them. Cum happens.... be happy about that, not annoyed.

 

I will say, this is where this forum is SO helpful. If this was habitual behavior....cum quick and be done as a way to avoid further performance....then I think you could make a case that someone is trying to avoid providing services as promised.

 

If you cumming first is important or a bottom who can keep taking it if they cum first is what you want, talk about it before your session.... I LOVE asking tops if they can cum more than once in a session. Almost every time, they have been honest about it and I was never disappointed.

 

If you're that upset, discuss getting more time out of the next session or see if they will give you a discount....otherwise, let it go!

[+ poolboy48220]

Sounds like the original poster did get a lot more time.

[MikeBiDude]

Double postings usually unnecessary , lengthy discussion here:

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/ever-feel-like-you-should-pay-him.155052/

[hypothetically]

Last night annoying AF. Provider (who I met one time before) was VERY eager and was a little too into me (not to sound vain). It was hot until he (bottom) climaxed all over me then we had to take a break for 20mins until he was ready again. Then I was finally "finished" and he hung out for an extra 20 mins and would not leave. I think he enjoyed it more than me he was just toooo much. What should I have done? He was VERY selfish.

 

You realize you are voicing a “complaint” that the majority of the forum would LOVE to encounter, right?

[Quincy_7]

The thread turned out very differently from what I envisioned when I read the title. There have been two occasions where I felt like the escort and was doing everything I could to please the guy (I am a top). It's very rare for a man to take such a hold over me.

[KevinHere]

Double postings usually unnecessary , lengthy discussion here:

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/ever-feel-like-you-should-pay-him.155052/

I don't need to be told what is necessary and what is not. Dont read both and move on.

[MikeBiDude]

I don't need to be told what is necessary and what is not. Dont read both and move on.

Wow, that reply is “annoying AF” ??‍♂️

[curiousbynature12]

Last night annoying AF. Provider (who I met one time before) was VERY eager and was a little too into me (not to sound vain). It was hot until he (bottom) climaxed all over me then we had to take a break for 20mins until he was ready again. Then I was finally "finished" and he hung out for an extra 20 mins and would not leave. I think he enjoyed it more than me he was just toooo much. What should I have done? He was VERY selfish.

 

As an introvert who gets drained I can relate to enjoying a hot encounter, but still needing your space to recharge. I get having an encounter that was not what you expected and having that be a turn off. To that I would recommend as others have to make your boundaries clear beforehand and in the moment, tell him you have an time sensitive engagement and kindly/politely get him situated and out the door. You always have the option of stopping or ending an encounter if you aren't comfortable with it.

 

On the other hand...This is an very ideal encounter for many, one people have trouble finding even in non-paid hookups. How was he "tooo much"? Did he want to have to have too continue to have too much great sex with you? Did he seem to genuinely like you too much. Or were you simply thrown off by how things turned out and you weren't into the provider as much as he was in you?

 

Try and focus on the positives of the encounter. If you don't want to see that provider again, then don't - let him know politely if they ask. Take the experience as a learning moment and move on. If you want to see him again, do it, but be more clear about your boundaries.

[+ poolboy48220]

Take the experience as a learning moment and move on.

I've got to show some sympathy for @KevinChgo at this. These are expensive learning moments.

[curiousbynature12]

I've got to show some sympathy for @KevinChgo at this. These are expensive learning moments.

 

Yes, in terms of money and time. Not trying to be glib, just something I try tell myself after a bad encounter. For me It beats being upset and ruining your day/night/weekend that I have other things planned.

[+ oldNbusted]

I don't need to be told what is necessary and what is not. Dont read both and move on.

 

Do you often dish out orders you don't follow yourself? It is an open from, so you shouldn't be surprised when people, idk, react...

[+ Tarte Gogo]

You realize you are voicing a “complaint” that the majority of the forum would LOVE to encounter, right?

This is completely true, this poster is the only One I know who doesn’t just love when an escort is truly enjoying himself.

@KevinChgo, you two are not a match, just find someone else for next time. But maybe tell us the guy’s RM, because many clients love a guy who comes quickly, and then wants to cuddle afterwards.

[+ BritSD]

there must be some details missing because I dont see the “very selfish part” in this, but maybe the 20 min break was too long I guess.

he was into you

[hypothetically]

Like god forbid someone actually enjoys you in 2020. ...count your blessings.

[+ RJD]

This is completely true, this poster is the only One I know who doesn’t just love when an escort is truly enjoying himself.

@KevinChgo, you two are not a match, just find someone else for next time. But maybe tell us the guy’s RM, because many clients love a guy who comes quickly, and then wants to cuddle afterwards.

 

Careful guys. Don’t criticize him too much. He posted the same thread the other day in The Deli and when everyone criticized him for not wanting to pay the provider because he seemed to enjoy it too much and calling him selfish because he got off first, he got his panties in a twist and had the admin completely remove the thread.

 

My final post there was basically that the provider delivered the services promised and that he was the selfish one. When no one agrees with your position, maybe you need to rethink it, realize your displeasure and frustration with the provider is misplaced, and come back and admit it. It’s called being an adult. Instead, he repeatedly tried to justify his position, everyone called him out, and he went running to the admins.

 

If you don’t want the provider enjoying himself, stay home and invest in a Fleshlight.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Careful guys. Don’t criticize him too much. He posted the same thread the other day in The Deli and when everyone criticized him for not wanting to pay the provider because he seemed to enjoy it too much and calling him selfish because he got off first, he got his panties in a twist and had the admin completely remove the thread.

 

My final post there was basically that the provider delivered the services promised and that he was the selfish one. When no one agrees with your position, maybe you need to rethink it, realize your displeasure and frustration with the provider is misplaced, and come back and admit it. It’s called being an adult. Instead, he repeatedly tried to justify his position, everyone called him out, and he went running to the admins.

 

If you don’t want the provider enjoying himself, stay home and invest in a Fleshlight.

But the fleshlight won’t even leave by itself! So needy.

[KevinHere]

What pissed me off was those telling me how to feel with a negative unconstructive (like the above post) undertone. I hope those of you whom were so negative felt empowered via this platform. And it was removed bc getting it was too negative thus not helpful much like the reply above. Possibly not being in a position that the provider actually enjoyed their time with some people they cannot relate thus were so apathic as a result. I expected more from the forum - lesson learned.

Edited January 16, 2020 by KevinChgo

[+ RJD]

Possibly not being in a position that the provider actually enjoyed their time with some people they cannot relate thus were so apathetic as a result.

 

Petulant and insulting. #winner

[+ Tarte Gogo]

What pissed me off was those telling me how to feel with a negative unconstructive (like the above post) undertone. I hope those of you whom were so negative felt empowered via this platform. And it was removed bc getting it was too negative thus not helpful much like the reply above. Possibly not being in a position that the provider actually enjoyed their time with some people they cannot relate thus were so apathic as a result. I expected more from the forum - lesson learned.

I am not sure what you expect from the forum. We can tell you who gives a good deep throat, but we can’t tell you how 2 people that we have never met should try to get on well with each other.

 

Enjoying to be naked with someone else is not a factual thing that you can be advised on.

Either you are enjoying it, or not.

If not, just say “Ok, thanks, I think it is time to go now”.

[MikeBiDude]

it was removed bc getting it was too negative

Or....because of your unnecessary double postings in two sub-forum

[+ E.T.Bass]

Happened to me once, where I felt like I was showing him a good time. But I could have stopped and handed the reins back to him. That's on me.

 

Someone hanging out afterwards is easily dealt with too. Complaining about that now baffles me.

[+ Gar1eth]

Happened to me once, where I felt like I was showing him a good time. But I could have stopped and handed the reins back to him. That's on me.

 

Someone hanging out afterwards is easily dealt with too. Complaining about that now baffles me.

 

In general if the session went well, I think just about the only time I'd complain is if the escort tried to charge for those extra minutes than for the original agreed upon fee/time.

 

Gman