A First For Me - What Would You Do?

[jgoo]

I've been hiring for many many years and this is a first for me.....I am traveling to a city on vacation and have checked out the options for hiring. One guy in particular caught my attention so I contacted him to see about setting something up. He's been very good at responding to the messages and everything has gone well. When I inquired as to his rate (I used the term "donation"), here is what his reply was: "Any amount you will give is okay to me"

 

I'm a bit flummoxed as this is something I've never encountered before. Thoughts that run through my mind are he is so easy going that it doesn't really matter (hey, it could happen), he isn't serious about meeting (but every indication is that he is quite professional up to this point), that it is a sting (unlikely from what I have been able to determine) or there is going to be some issue at the time of meeting.

 

I'm not cheap and would certainly give him a fair amount if we do actually meet. My question to everyone here is have you ever encountered such a reply and what did or would you do? Should I take him at his word, move on or insist on setting an amount in advance by providing an offer? Basically how would you deal with such a situation.

 

Btw, he has no reviews on Rentmen or on Daddy's or any mention of him on the message board. Been a member of Rentmen since 2017.

Edited November 11, 2019 by jgoo

[Gymowner]

I love it when that happens! Be fair to current rates yet give an amount for the service rendered and let that go by his choices. That way he doesnt feel obligated to just do anything. Next time if he does more since he may be in the mood that time.... give him more. He will quickly get that the "donation" is contingent on his performance. No pressure on his side as to his performance and you can get a true non forced session from him. Those are the best!

 

I'm jealous! Lol

[former lurker]

I've been hiring for many many years and this is a first for me.....I am traveling to a city on vacation and have checked out the options for hiring. One guy in particular caught my attention so I contacted him to see about setting something up. He's been very good at responding to the messages and everything has gone well. When I inquired as to his rate (I used the term "donation"), here is what his reply was: "Any amount you will give is okay to me"

 

I'm a bit flummoxed as this is something I've never encountered before. Thoughts that run through my mind are he is so easy going that it doesn't really matter (hey, it could happen), he isn't serious about meeting (but every indication is that he is quite professional up to this point), that it is a sting (unlikely from what I have been able to determine) or there is going to be some issue at the time of meeting.

 

I'm not cheap and would certainly give him a fair amount if we do actually meet. My question to everyone here is have you ever encountered such a reply and what did or would you do? Should I take him at his word, move on or insist on setting an amount in advance by providing an offer? Basically how would you deal with such a situation.

 

Btw, he has no reviews on Rentmen or on Daddy's or any mention of him on the message board. Been a member of Rentmen since 2017.

 

Make an offer, and see if it's to his liking. Also, agree to meet in public. I'd be leery of a guy who doesn't have at least a minimum price.

[instudiocity]

Not from a gentleman provider but the shoeshine stand at the Denver airport has a “pay what you’d like” policy. The first time I encountered it, i was a bit flummoxed as you surely are. Having generally paid $7-$10 plus tip in other airports, I paid the guy $12. But thinking about it on my way to my gate, what’s their average per shine? Does someone not pay at all? I‘m sure there are a few. Do wealthy and generous folks hand them a $100? I‘m certain they do. So I have never paid less than $20 in Denver because they do great work, they have fantastic attitudes and I believe they deserve a premium.

 

As in the case of the no set price provider? I think id be prepared to pay an hour-ranging between $200 for a disappointing experience up to $400 for my new boyfriend. ;-0!

[tenderloin]

Sounds a little too accommodating. I would do two things -

1. Get some verification of his photos (use the old two-finger selfie approach, or skype, or something like that) so you can be sure he is who he says he is.

2. Tell him that you need him to quote you a specific amount that he would expect

[+ Charlie]

The problem may be your use of the term "donation," which he might be interpreting as a tip rather than his fee. I would definitely ask him specifically about his fee, or things could get awkward when you meet.

[+ overeasy]

Tell him you need to know an amount so that you can have the funds on hand.....

[+ Keith30309]

The problem may be your use of the term "donation," which he might be interpreting as a tip rather than his fee. I would definitely ask him specifically about his fee, or things could get awkward when you meet.

Good call...I’d agree.

 

He‘s on RM and paying the monthly ad fee so he is clearly in business.

I‘ve never run into anyone on RM who didn’t have a number in mind though I have with A4A pros (and of course SA).

[jgoo]

Thanks everyone. I think I will contact him again to clarify that I am asking about his rates in case he is thinking tip and say that I want to make sure I have proper funds on hand. I wonder if he thinks maybe I am law enforcement and that is why he is being so evasive? Just never encountered that before.

[+ keroscenefire]

I don't think you should clarify the fee actually, just be prepared for current rates ($200-$300 depending on city). I suspect he is simply a new or returning escort seeing what he should set his rates based on client reaction. The older ad might indicate he is returning to escorting and doesn't know what the rates are like now so he is testing the waters.

[jgoo]

I did go back and asked the following: "I just want to make sure I have enough on hand. When I asked about donation I was referring to your rate (just in case you thought I meant tip). Are you saying that any amount I want to give is okay with you? I certainly will be fair but just feel I want to be sure up front."

 

His reply: "I’ll accept any amount you’ll give with no complaints"

 

Too good to be true or a one in a million find?

[+ tassojunior]

He may be concerned about naming a price for law enforcement purposes, especially if he's new.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

@JEC needs to see this, prolly the same guy.