Payment in advance

[Milo Farnsworth]

As a rule I will not pay in advance. Ive been burned more than once. What are others thoughts on this practice?

[+ HornyRetiree]

Never do.....

[+ JEC]

I have twice (deposit) once got burned the other was for an exceptional provider. So, it's a pretty strong no for me, with very exceptional exceptions

Edited October 1, 2019 by JEC

[dcguy20]

Once a deposit back in February for Parker Payne, and never again. Not only did he cancel his trip, but he still hasn't made it to DC. On top of that, he hit me up for more shortly thereafter!! Nope.

[Guest]

Use the search function the powers that be here provide!

 

From Noah Driver to as recently as JamesATL, there are some swindlers out there...

Edited August 11, 2019 by Oaktown

[Gymowner]

its a recipe for disaster. i never have and only within the last two weeks did i ever have an escort ask me. it was with an escort that i have seen quite a few times. he text me out of the blue requesting a session claiming he would "do much more" within the session and that he was at a bar and needed a $50 advance before the session since he was "stupid". huh? he said to send it over a cash app. i said nope, no can do. he then requested again and i said for him to not contact me anymore. he then replied "um...ok".

 

wtf!

[+ nycman]

Never have.

 

Never will.

[+ azdr0710]

Milo...This has been much-discussed here in the forum for years. You should already know it's a no-go. There may be a few tiptop providers who are reliable and will come through, but, wait, even a few of those have no-showed, too, after receiving a deposit!!

 

I can understand frustrated providers trying the deposit remedy after six client cancellations in a row, but it's part of the business and savvy clients should resist advance deposits

Edited August 10, 2019 by azdr0710

[+ jessmapex]

There are some good guys who need a way to reassure themselves because for outcalls sometimes clients give fake addresses and they have to drive tens of miles to a no show. And then there are swindlers like JamesATL .

 

I think someone needs to start an escrow service so that both parties feel reassured.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Deposits and paying in advance are usually fine for known, reviewed guys.

 

If you're doing longterm, vacation-type meets, this is more normal, especially if you don't want to carry around $8-10k when you meet.

 

As with any unregulated industry, you're always taking a risk. No guts, no glory

[marylander1940]

As a rule I will not pay in advance. Ive been burned more than once. What are others thoughts on this practice?

 

When it comes to overnights and trips booking fees and flights upfront apply.

[Guest leftbench23]

If it is someone top notch, like Victor Powers, I will pay in advance to get a spot on his calendar.

[down_to_business]

Don't do it. You shouldn't even consider a deposit for an hourly hire period. It even makes less sense when you have already established a good relationship and history with the escort.

 

Even more importantly, It does not matter how highly rated or reviewed the escort is. A lost deposit to a really popular escort just means you have ZERO chance of anyone else believing you when you complain about getting burned.

 

As @marylander1940 said above, as an exception, when extended hires with travel is involved, you need to do something to guarantee the escort doesn't get burned (i.e. prepaid airfare or a deposit that covers the escorts travel costs) -- especially if no prior relationship exists.

[Spursy]

I've done it a couple of times for my regular after I'd seen him ten times or so. I wasn't worried about him ghosting me given our history. And I wasn't disappointed.

 

Otherwise, no - I wouldn't even consider it without a significant history with and confidence in the guy.

[+ keroscenefire]

I did do a small deposit for a well-reviewed escort in London on a recent trip. I wanted to do an overnight and completely understood from his perspective that committing that much time to some random American messaging you is also a bit of an off proposition. His rate overall was quite good and I really had no problem paying a small deposit. And in the end it worked out quite well..got to have a great night in his nice apartment with a balcony overlooking the Thames, a sauna and pool in the building and company.

 

Sure it was a risk, but if it for some reason didn't work, I would've only been out I think something like $75. But mostly I will not likely make deposits unless it's a situation like that where I'm asking for a lot of time for a particularly well-reviewed escort that I feel would follow-through on his end.

Edited August 10, 2019 by keroscenefire

[robberbaron4u]

The rule of dining out applies, one does not pay until the fare has been sampled and found to be satisfactory. . .

[sbguy]

I never pay in advance, not even a deposit. The only times I’ve paid in advance or deposit in advance, have always been a disaster and I’ve been ripped off with half-ass service or half the time.

[nsguy45]

Did it once, when I first began playing the escort game and he insisted, but never again. It turned out to be a very disappointing session with a terrible escort, Tyler Dickson.

[Jomo]

i've only done it with one scort tomas decastro has not been a problem, with him i wouldnt do it, unless with a highly rated scort

[Hadakanbo]

Doing this makes no sense at all.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I have paid in full on arrival a few times. But never before I saw the escort in person.

When I paid on arrival, i always received the minimum service agreed, no passion or anything, a very passive guy who lay there waiting for it to happen and I left early because there was no connection.

[rogerG]

In the spa business we had the infamous term "gift certificate." Some totaled a $1000. Most were $300-$500. They were extremely popular at holiday time. Could easily gross $50,000+. Owners loved them. Instant money in the bank. A certain percentage would always go unredeemed. They had an expiration date. Free money.

 

Basically, the gift certificate was a pre-pay for services yet to be rendered. Some were written out to include specific workers, but if they were not redeemed, the workers did not receive that money.

 

If the business failed to perform the service paid for in advance, that would be seriously detrimental to the business. If the customer using the gift certificate was not happy with the service, they got a full refund.

 

Since there's no BBB to report a shady escort, a pre-pay transaction must always be about trust. What other service person in your life would you pre-pay for?

[DaveOrDavid]

On repeat visits with a Guy I had already met, I sent a deposit in advance of a confirmed appointment a few times just to help him out, but would not do this for just any guy.

[+ Billsboy4]

No way....I won't even pay upfront when the guy is there in person

[Guest SilverDollar]

Almost always portends a bad experience.