Consistent problem with escorts

[+ Coolwave35]

I need a little advice. I'm married and enjoy escorts when I travel. I often pay for extended hours, but never do an overnight.

 

Recently I've been hitting it off and flying repeat hires out to meet me. I'm doing this for the sex, the experience etc, but NOT the companionship and friendship as I'm not available for that. I'm 33, and hire guys 25-35. We have great sex, but then there is this awkward friendship that forms that I'm not looking for, often perpetuated by the professional.

 

Last night, a 3 hour romp in NYC led to an all nighter where we just stayed up talking, and switched the dynamic. It made payment awkward as he insisted he "punched out" after the 3 hours, and the other 8 were off the clock because he liked the company and enjoyed the conversation.

 

Anyone have any advice on discouraging this type of relationship change? I'm hiring professionals so I don't have to have the mess of emotions, or friend with benefit situation.

 

I hope I'm explaining this well.

[crushme99]

You are explaining it just fine. Can't say that I have an answer for you, but your contrast with the usual relationship-friendship issues I read about on here makes for a really interesting reversal. Hope you get some insights.

[GTMike]

I need a little advice. I'm married and enjoy escorts when I travel. I often pay for extended hours, but never do an overnight.

 

Recently I've been hitting it off and flying repeat hires out to meet me. I'm doing this for the sex, the experience etc, but NOT the companionship and friendship as I'm not available for that. I'm 33, and hire guys 25-35. We have great sex, but then there is this awkward friendship that forms that I'm not looking for, often perpetuated by the professional.

 

Last night, a 3 hour romp in NYC led to an all nighter where we just stayed up talking, and switched the dynamic. It made payment awkward as he insisted he "punched out" after the 3 hours, and the other 8 were off the clock because he liked the company and enjoyed the conversation.

 

Anyone have any advice on discouraging this type of relationship change? I'm hiring professionals so I don't have to have the mess of emotions, or friend with benefit situation.

 

I hope I'm explaining this well.

Do you make it known you're just having fun on the side and that you're married and otherwise content in your life?

[irfy]

why don't you leave after the requisite number of hours are up or ask them to leave? You say you never do an overnight but didn't you to all intents & purposes do one last night? Conversation is two way process, if you don't engage am sure the escort will get the message,

[+ nycman]

Repeat after me.....

 

"Wow, that was hot. Thanks man."

 

Get out of bed. Get his money and hand it to him.

 

"This is for you. Thanks again."

 

If he hasn't already gotten out of bed and started getting dressed

to go...then you start getting dressed. Keep small talk to a minimum.

 

Walk him to the door and open it.

 

"Thanks again".

 

Close the door.

 

Seriously, it take two to tango. Just stop dancing.

[bendable2019]

Do you mind sharing the “gold nugget” that made them stay? Money?

[KeepItReal]

Anyone have any advice on discouraging this type of relationship change? I'm hiring professionals so I don't have to have the mess of emotions, or friend with benefit situation.

This has happened to me a couple of times. When the provider tells you that you are 1) fun to be with, 2) easy to talk to or 3) a cool guy they would like to see again, that is usually the warning sign that things are about to go in a direction I do not want it to go in. At least in my situation. So I am very clear with them on my expectations and the time period I have available. I usually make them aware that I have plans for later (dinner, drinks with friends, going to a movie, work etc). I have also used my phone as a crutch by setting an alarm so it will alert us both that time is up. Don't try to be subtle - it doesn't work. Be respectful but direct; that is the advice I would give.

 

By the way, I always avoid alcohol - it is one of those things that makes you slip...

 

[+ oldNbusted]

Don't try to be subtle - it doesn't work. Be respectful but direct; that is the advice I would give.

 

Funny thing, isn't this the same advice given to escorts dealing with clingy clients?

[KeepItReal]

Funny thing, isn't this the same advice given to escorts dealing with clingy clients?

I am sure it is - it's like a Leatherman multitool; useful in so many situations!!

[Quincy_7]

When posters here say they're married, does that mean they're married to women?

[+ FrankR]

When posters here say they're married, does that mean they're married to women?

Not since June 2015. ??

[sexymonk]

When posters here say they're married, does that mean they're married to women?

Yes! That is why they are keeping it low!

[Quincy_7]

Yes! That is why they are keeping it low!

 

I wonder what it's like to come home to your wife after being used by a hung dom top.

[sexymonk]

I wonder what it's like to come home to your wife after being used by a hung dom top.

True true! After coming home you feel that why did you married and live dual standard life! On one hand you think about wife and on other you think about that dom top. Crushed with this two feelings!

[northend_stv]

You don’t pay an escort for sex, you pay them to go away afterwards...

[Gymowner]

You are not right. You are getting off on the premise that you can in some way shape or form get these guys for the "non hire" time. In other words you are saying you are hot enough to get some of their time for free.

 

My advice... you claim you are married. Stay within your vows that you said in front of God and stay monogamous. Coming home with a good case of gonorrhea will make all eyes open wide.

 

And yes I am being judgemental. This world is going bat crazy over doing whatever one wants and making the rest of society pay for it. Get on grindr or scruff. 75% of the guys on there are in a relationship or married. Wtf!! If you want to play the field stay single!!! Why do gay men think they have the right to have their cake and eat it at everyone else expenses? Geez... grow up!

Edited May 20, 2019 by Gymowner

[Dmitri]

I need a little advice. I'm married and enjoy escorts when I travel. I often pay for extended hours, but never do an overnight.

 

Recently I've been hitting it off and flying repeat hires out to meet me. I'm doing this for the sex, the experience etc, but NOT the companionship and friendship as I'm not available for that. I'm 33, and hire guys 25-35. We have great sex, but then there is this awkward friendship that forms that I'm not looking for, often perpetuated by the professional.

 

Last night, a 3 hour romp in NYC led to an all nighter where we just stayed up talking, and switched the dynamic. It made payment awkward as he insisted he "punched out" after the 3 hours, and the other 8 were off the clock because he liked the company and enjoyed the conversation.

 

Anyone have any advice on discouraging this type of relationship change? I'm hiring professionals so I don't have to have the mess of emotions, or friend with benefit situation.

 

I hope I'm explaining this well.

 

 

There are MANY clients who would would love to be in your situation. Hire an escort for 3 hours.....he stays for 11 hours and only charges you for 3 hours.....since he likes being with you. Sounds like a problem many of us would like to have. With that being said....you say you only want them to stay for the allotted time that you hired them for. The obvious and simple solution is to tell them what you told us in this forum. Be direct and after you had your fun for the 3 hours, let them know you need to finish up. If they hang on, tell them what you told us. That you are married and only hire for the allotted time, and am not interested in spending more time together. Simple. Easy. Solution. As the saying goes "The first time it is their fault. The second time it is yours."

[marylander1940]

I need a little advice. I'm married and enjoy escorts when I travel. I often pay for extended hours, but never do an overnight.

 

Recently I've been hitting it off and flying repeat hires out to meet me. I'm doing this for the sex, the experience etc, but NOT the companionship and friendship as I'm not available for that. I'm 33, and hire guys 25-35. We have great sex, but then there is this awkward friendship that forms that I'm not looking for, often perpetuated by the professional.

 

Last night, a 3 hour romp in NYC led to an all nighter where we just stayed up talking, and switched the dynamic. It made payment awkward as he insisted he "punched out" after the 3 hours, and the other 8 were off the clock because he liked the company and enjoyed the conversation.

 

Anyone have any advice on discouraging this type of relationship change? I'm hiring professionals so I don't have to have the mess of emotions, or friend with benefit situation.

 

I hope I'm explaining this well.

 

I think you're overreacting.

 

It's normal in a 3 hour appointment to talk.

 

I don't know what makes you think chatting with an escort before, during or after sex creates a friendship. If you feel uncomfortable talking just give him the money and send him back home.

 

You are not right. You are getting off on the premise that you can in some way shape or form get these guy for the "non hire" time. In other words you are saying you are hot enough to get them for free.

 

My advice... you claim you are married. Stay within your viows that you said in front if God and stay celibate. Coming home with a good case of gonorrhea will make all eyes open wide.

 

I love how direct you're!

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/hot-cilent-here-looking-for-an-a-list-escort-any-suggestions.147430/

Edited May 20, 2019 by marylander1940

[marylander1940]

Its funny bc Im so used to hearing from so many people on here that they hate escorts who rush or those escorts that immediately get dressed and are out the door as soon as the 1 hour hits that they never hire those escorts again

 

But OP he stayed for 3 paid hours, and then you and him spent 8 hours off the clock time together and you didnt say a thing:eek:

seems you liked the company and conversation a little bit more than ur letting on, haha but seriously you should have said something way sooner if it was bothering you, it takes 2 to tango

 

Exactly, besides I wouldn't use the word friendship so easily. Does the OP even know the real name, age, etc. of the escort?

 

Even the name of the thread and calling this a "consistent problem..." makes me wonder how real this is or if it's only in the eyes of the beholder (OP)

[+ Travis69]

Maybe the escort didn't want to go home to his wife!!!!!

[bendable2019]

Maybe the escort didn't want to go home to his wife!!!!!

 

He must have experienced sheer bliss with client and regretted being married lol... did the client thoroughly fucked him inside out ? ?

[ScottyTX100]

You are not right. You are getting off on the premise that you can in some way shape or form get these guys for the "non hire" time. In other words you are saying you are hot enough to get some of their time for free.

 

My advice... you claim you are married. Stay within your vows that you said in front of God and stay monogamous. Coming home with a good case of gonorrhea will make all eyes open wide.

 

And yes I am being judgemental. This world is going bat crazy over doing whatever one wants and making the rest of society pay for it. Get on grindr or scruff. 75% of the guys on there are in a relationship or married. Wtf!! If you want to play the field stay single!!! Why do gay men think they have the right to have their cake and eat it at everyone else expenses? Geez... grow up!

 

 

AMEN. ?????

[josh282282]

you claim you are married. Stay within your vows that you said in front of God and stay monogamous. Coming home with a good case of gonorrhea will make all eyes open wide.

 

And yes I am being judgemental. This world is going bat crazy over doing whatever one wants and making the rest of society pay for it. Get on grindr or scruff. 75% of the guys on there are in a relationship or married. Wtf!! If you want to play the field stay single!!! Why do gay men think they have the right to have their cake and eat it at everyone else expenses? Geez... grow

 

OMG, who are YOU to be judging anyone?

You have NO idea what his vows were. Maybe he & his partner have never agreed to monogamy!

And what about this "...in front of God..." comment? How do you know he even BELIEVES in a God.

 

And, how in the world are the rest of us (from your statement, "This world is going bat crazy over doing whatever one wants and making the rest of society pay for it" paying for his life choices?? STIs are not from escorts, but rather FROM places like Grindr, where the STIs are coming from. Yet that's where you suggest he should be going. If you want him to reduce his risk of STIs, urging him to go to Grindr is the last place he should go. WTH?

 

And just HOW are YOU paying for HIS choices? ("Why do gay men think they have the right to have their cake and eat it at everyone else expenses"?). Could you elaborate on this peculiar train of thought?

 

I reject your judgmental and ironically inaccurate opinion here.

Who are you to be so judgmental, really?

[Gymowner]

Excuse me... he asked for an opinion and I gave it to him. If I'm being judgemental on his view of life I believe you are doing the same with my view of life.

 

And what if he doesnt have an open relationship? Does his said partner deserve the possible burden of getting an STD when that person is living a monogamous faithful life? That is what I am referring to about "eating ones cake" and having society pay for it. It's called selfishness. I can see where your position stands. Its refreshing to see the applauses and thumbs up I have received for my posts and my views.

Edited May 20, 2019 by Gymowner

[MscleLovr]

@Coolwave35 (the OP) said “ Recently I've been hitting it off...flying repeat hires out”.

 

Let me explain: it’s natural to form bonds when the companionship is pleasurable; repetition reinforces those bonds; and ‘small talk’ at the beginning and end of an encounter is both civilized and fine. But you are the client: it’s up to you to initiate action and to terminate the date.

 

As with any date that goes on too long, just smile and say “I have some other plans this evening so we must finish, but I’m going to look forward to seeing you again”.

 

Just keep it professional; when the allotted time is up, just smile and hand over an envelope with the cash.