Lust

[Milo Farnsworth]

This is may be a stupid question:

 

How do you feel about being wanted for your body?

[+ Topseed]

I’ve gotten used to it.

[+ VictorPowers]

@purplekow Please let me hear your thoughts

[Cali_Otter]

I am turned on when the person I am with is turned on. If they really want my body, which is an extension of myself, I feel wanted and I am very turned on by it. I like feeling "hot" for others.

[+ purplekow]

@purplekow Please let me hear your thoughts

Since you asked Victor Powers, I assume you are not really familiar with the concept, So, having lived that life, I feel exceedingly capable of explaining thjs to you. Thank you for recognizing that this may be an area in which I might have some expertise.

 

It is a blessing and curse. Having a fit and attractive body usually is associated with good health and a sense of well being mentally. As a result, many people are attracted to those aspects of your being. However, soon enough, if that is all there is to you, no depth, no gravitas, no humor, no humanity, you will find yourself alone or with people who just care about the superficial you. It is the difference between love and lust. It is the difference between fucking and making love. It is the difference between a cherished lover and a post coital sweaty piece of meat that people are anxiously trying to get out of their bed and to the street. .

So it is a big deal.

Most men are horny as fuck and there are times when all they want is to get their rocks off and so having a body that can pretty much guarantee a good hard sweaty fuck is a blessing and you are the one wanting to exit the sheets and the scene, smilingly fucked out.

The negative aspect, comes when trying to judge why someone you care for is with you. It is not knowing whether you are just wanted for your body. Similarly being exceedingly rich tends to put in your mind that perhaps it is the money and not you to whom you partner is attracted. Poor and ugly men do not have this particular problem set.

Also a negative, looks fade and so Victor, if you are in doubt about your attractiveness other than your mortal flesh, I suggest you work on your personality, your kindness and your humor. And, perhaps your sexual techniques and imagination.

Edited March 30, 2019 by purplekow

[+ purplekow]

When I was younger I felt like a criminal but my body was only wanted in one state The State of Undress.

[Chuckball]

As a client, I agree with @purplekow . The one night stands for looks or great bod were fun. The repeat business goes to the escorts with whom I had chemistry: a connection of interests, humor, and caring for one another.

[marylander1940]

As a client, I agree with @purplekow . The one night stands for looks or great bod were fun. The repeat business goes to the escorts with whom I had chemistry: a connection of interests, humor, and caring for one another.

 

Exactly!

 

I also need to feel not only a connection but knowing the escort is saving for his future and not just spending it in Balenciaga. I walked away from many escorts who I thought were doing drugs, I just felt guilty of contributing to their undoing.

[+ StLouisOct]

As a client, I agree with @purplekow . The one night stands for looks or great bod were fun. The repeat business goes to the escorts with whom I had chemistry: a connection of interests, humor, and caring for one another.

I agree! And that’s why I’ve been with Victor Powers more than once. ?

[Keenan]

Since you asked Victor Powers, I assume you are not really familiar with the concept, So, having lived that life, I feel exceedingly capable of explaining thjs to you. Thank you for recognizing that this may be an area in which I might have some expertise.

 

It is a blessing and curse. Having a fit and attractive body usually is associated with good health and a sense of well being mentally. As a result, many people are attracted to those aspects of your being. However, soon enough, if that is all there is to you, no depth, no gravitas, no humor, no humanity, you will find yourself alone or with people who just care about the superficial you. It is the difference between love and lust. It is the difference between fucking and making love. It is the difference between a cherished lover and a post coital sweaty piece of meat that people are anxiously trying to get out of their bed and to the street. .

So it is a big deal.

Most men are horny as fuck and there are times when all they want is to get their rocks off and so having a body that can pretty much guarantee a good hard sweaty fuck is a blessing and you are the one wanting to exit the sheets and the scene, smilingly fucked out.

The negative aspect, comes when trying to judge why someone you care for is with you. It is not knowing whether you are just wanted for your body. Similarly being exceedingly rich tends to put in your mind that perhaps it is the money and not you to whom you partner is attracted. Poor and ugly men do not have this particular problem set.

Also a negative, looks fade and so Victor, if you are in doubt about your attractiveness other than your mortal flesh, I suggest you work on your personality, your kindness and your humor. And, perhaps your sexual techniques and imagination.

 

I couldn't agree more with your post. Just to add to this while one may think with many guys lusting over your body you may be happy, it's actually the opposite. As an escort many guys don't even try to get to know me, they see my body, they see the end result and then they are off. The job can actually be quite lonely.

[+ Keith30309]

I remember as if it were yesterday the first time an escort made me feel genuinely desired.

Since that day I have met, literally, over 100 other escorts most of whom I’ve forgotten. He would probably be considered “average” in the face/body appearance relative to others, is well into his 30’s and unlikely to be considered lust-worthy on the face of it.

I rarely get the chance to meet him any more but would jump at the chance over any model-stud type.

Edited April 2, 2019 by Keith30309

[+ Pensant]

I couldn't agree more with your post. Just to add to this while one may think with many guys lusting over your body you may be happy, it's actually the opposite. As an escort many guys don't even try to get to know me, they see my body, they see the end result and then they are off. The job can actually be quite lonely.

I’ve had that conversation with several providers. They feel that they aren’t able to meet friends their own age. The lavish vacations, gifts and money sometimes lead to depression.

[Kyle Clinton]

Agree with much of the above. If the personal connection doesn't manifest itself, no amount of physical beauty can make up for the lack of mental and emotional substance. I only return again and again when there is a human connection that is genuine and fun to be with. It's about being "with" more than being "next to" or "around" that is the best part of the human experience sexually and otherwise.

[hypothetically]

This is may be a stupid question:

 

How do you feel about being wanted for your body?

 

Being desired based solely on aesthetic is not flattering and I never understood the logic of those who feed so heavily into “tool mantra.” Some of the most pristine bodies are tied to the most underwhelming men. While I realize escorting requires us to prioritize visually marketing ourselves, I always remember it’s no one’s responsibility but my own to ensure that’s not the only thing I remembered for.

[caramelsub]

Call me shallow, but I’m not into the whole romantic thing when hiring an escort. It’s all about their body for me. No matter how nice and friendly they are if they are not attractive to me it will not work. I’m very visual. On the opposite side, fortunately I haven’t had a bad experience worth noting with a hot escort, being rude. I tend to go for the bad boys anyway.

[marylander1940]

Being desired based solely on aesthetic is not flattering and I never understood the logic of those who feed so heavily into “tool mantra.” Some of the most pristine bodies are tied to the most underwhelming men. While I realize escorting requires us to prioritize visually marketing ourselves, I always remember it’s no one’s responsibility but my own to ensure that’s not the only thing I remembered for.

 

Exactly attitude is for example is one of my biggest turn off!

[MassageAdam]

I couldn't agree more with your post. Just to add to this while one may think with many guys lusting over your body you may be happy, it's actually the opposite. As an escort many guys don't even try to get to know me, they see my body, they see the end result and then they are off. The job can actually be quite lonely.

I wouldn't think most escorts would want clients to get to know them. I've tried to be friendly and ask questions of the ones I have hired and they seem to be turned off that I'm asking... and I was just being friendly. To be honest, in general, I have found attractive people to not be the friendliest people (in San Diego and on gay cruises), unless you look like a model yourself. I'm not ugly by any means, but I'm not a model.. just a nice looking fellow.

[hypothetically]

Exactly attitude is for example is one of my biggest turn off!

 

Grammar and punctuation take sentences to new heights if used properly.

[LivingnLA]

To be honest, in general, I have found attractive people to not be the friendliest people (in San Diego and on gay cruises), unless you look like a model yourself. I'm not ugly by any means, but I'm not a model.. just a nice looking fellow.

 

Lookism in gay male culture seems frequently brutal. We see countless examples of it here on the forum. I've seen it in Southern California for many years. I've had many chats over the years with lonely gay men who struggle with how harsh and exclusionary gay male culture frequently is in LA and SD. Sadly, this isn't exclusive to gay men. There's plenty of lookism and objectification in straight culture too.

[marylander1940]

Grammar and punctuation take sentences to new heights if used properly.

 

Condescending or sarcasm? Hard to tell the difference on your posts.

[Keenan]

I wouldn't think most escorts would want clients to get to know them. I've tried to be friendly and ask questions of the ones I have hired and they seem to be turned off that I'm asking... and I was just being friendly. To be honest, in general, I have found attractive people to not be the friendliest people (in San Diego and on gay cruises), unless you look like a model yourself. I'm not ugly by any means, but I'm not a model.. just a nice looking fellow.

 

Not true of all escorts. I've been a sexworker/escort since my senior year in high school starting as a nude male stripper at a club and eventually moving into escorting. I have found that creating a connection with the client/customer and allowing them to get to know me somewhat and me getting to know them helps with repeat business. It really should be the job of the sexworker to make the connection as many times the client/customer can be nervous around us.

 

Keenan

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

If you're fortunate in this business, you're desirable for how you look AND for what you say.

 

I highly suggest to cultivate and keep all things in-shape

[caramelsub]

Not true of all escorts. I've been a sexworker/escort since my senior year in high school starting as a nude male stripper at a club and eventually moving into escorting. I have found that creating a connection with the client/customer and allowing them to get to know me somewhat and me getting to know them helps with repeat business. It really should be the job of the sexworker to make the connection as many times the client/customer can be nervous around us.

 

Keenan

 

As a client I’d rather have an escort stick to business, rather than conversational talking back and forth, to avoid the risk of exposing too much personal information about myself. I’m sure many escorts feel the same way about their personal lives as well. But everyone is different.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

But everyone is different.

 

I'd agree.

 

... And this is why communicating expectations before a meet and picking up on in-person social cues is important

[+ WilliamM]

As a client I’d rather have an escort stick to business, rather than conversational talking back and forth, to avoid the risk of exposing too much personal information about myself. I’m sure many escorts feel the same way about their personal lives as well. But everyone is different.

 

 

I enjoy talking a little about personal lives. Long ago, I hired a guy from Texas for an overnight. We exchanged personal phone number. When I realize he was in trouble a few years later, I called him and we discussed the issues.