Suggestions/Advice for Someone Who's New to Hiring an Escort

[firefly16]

What advice/suggestions do you have for someone who is new to hiring an escort? I haven't hired an escort yet, but have been planning to. I'd love any thoughts, advice, etc... that are helpful for a newbie.

[+ keroscenefire]

Definitely be very thoughtful and picky about who you are contacting. You want your first experience to be a positive one, so really make sure it's someone who you not only find physically attractive but you think would vibe with as well. One good thing about this forum is you can really get advice and help on finding an escort who will be a good fit. Part of that is to think of the things you want to do with the escort and communicate those specifically to whomever you'd like to hire to make sure they are into it as well. Communicate those to us as well so we can guide you to the escorts that do certain things well.

 

Another thought is to have your first session be maybe a bit longer...like 90 minutes or two hours. Obviously it'll be a bit more expensive, but the payoff is you get to better communicate with the escort and get some nice time to get to know them both before and after. My first one was a 90 minute session that started out with conversation than massage than slowly other fun stuff. He did a very good job of easing me into the experience.

Edited January 10, 2019 by keroscenefire

[+ José Soplanucas]

What advice/suggestions do you have for someone who is new to hiring an escort? I haven't hired an escort yet, but have been planning to. I'd love any thoughts, advice, etc... that are helpful for a newbie.

 

Click in the link to my blog and search for "the school series". You will have a lot to read with advice for newbies.

[Poincare]

My advice

Most Brazilians are disappointing despite their reputation. They act like they don’t want to be there

 

Always require a face pic. If u just see a torso, it’s often they’re a buttahface

 

There are a LoT of escorts who pics of someone else. If too good to be true, it’s a fake

 

Most Eastern Europeans have unpleasant personalities

 

Only hire escorts who have been reviewed here

 

Always wear condoms; watch for herpes

 

Learn Anal cleaning techniques

 

Treat escorts with total respect; they are providing a great service

 

You are paying good money and your expectations should be met

[GTMike]

What advice/suggestions do you have for someone who is new to hiring an escort? I haven't hired an escort yet, but have been planning to. I'd love any thoughts, advice, etc... that are helpful for a newbie.

What city are you in or plan to hire an escort?

[+ keroscenefire]

Click in the link to my blog and search for "the school series". You will have a lot to read with advice for newbies.

 

I agree..this post is a great primer. Here is a direct link: https://ilikepinga.com/2017/08/29/clients-escorts/

[+ Keith30309]

Identify a potential companion based on personality and experience first and looks second. Opt for someone you can have a good connection with become accustomed to the routine... then hire the scorching hot guy who really turns your crank.

 

I made the early mistake of hiring a somewhat-known Atlanta porn guy who is really hot and I felt like crap after the meet.

[+ Socalguy]

What advice/suggestions do you have for someone who is new to hiring an escort? I haven't hired an escort yet, but have been planning to. I'd love any thoughts, advice, etc... that are helpful for a newbie.

Also, something I am still trying to get better at, and alluded to above: Don't be afraid to tell them exactly what you like and what you would like them to do upfront. I'm pretty sure whatever you like, they've heard before. It will avoid a lot of awkwardness upfront and lead to a better time for both of you. Now all I have to do is take my own advice

[+ José Soplanucas]

I agree..this post is a great primer. Here is a direct link: https://ilikepinga.com/2017/08/29/clients-escorts/

 

Just be aware it is the first one of a series. For sure, you should at least read also the second lesson.

[Beancounter]

Here’s a link from Forum member @jawjateck

 

https://jawjateck.tumblr.com/tips

 

 

It contains some useful information.

[+ azdr0710]

and here are earlier forum threads with some good hints.....

 

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/advice-for-a-newbie-please.121765/

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/advice-for-first-hire.116542/

[Gymowner]

stick at first with the "well knowns" that have good to great reputations. let the escort know up front what you are expecting in the meeting. have a MINIMUM amount of activities that make your session well worth it..anything beyond that is a bonus. and the absolute...keep this very friendly and warm but ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS remember that this has to stay a business proposition in your mind. way too many clients want to fall in love or feel that they have just picked up their next new best friend. isnt gonna happen guys. i have learned from hiring for over 20 years now that my happiness and my fulfillment within the session and ultimately with an escort has to do almost exclusively with my outlook and my perception of what i am expecting. if you want a best new friend or to fall in love then you are barkin up the wrong tree honey! keep your money for shrink sessions instead.

[Poincare]

I just told him that circumstances had changed and I was no longer available for meeting. I wished him luck, and he was very understanding.

stick at first with the "well knowns" that have good to great reputations. let the escort know up front what you are expecting in the meeting. have a MINIMUM amount of activities that make your session well worth it..anything beyond that is a bonus. and the absolute...keep this very friendly and warm but ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS remember that this has to stay a business proposition in your mind. way too many clients want to fall in love or feel that they have just picked up their next new best friend. isnt gonna happen guys. i have learned from hiring for over 20 years now that my happiness and my fulfillment within the session and ultimately with an escort has to do almost exclusively with my outlook and my perception of what i am expecting. if you want a best new friend or to fall in love then you are barkin up the wrong tree honey! keep your money for shrink sessions instead.

 

I wish that I had read this brilliant advice years ago. Would have spared me a lot of heartache.....

[MscleLovr]

All very good advice @firefly16.

 

I’d assumethat the man you choose will be physically attractive, but remember he is not telepathic nor is he a mind-reader. Please state directly what you are looking to enjoy in your time together. And if a specific activity (eg deep kissing with tongue, being sucked to completion without a condom, or kissing and cuddling afterwards) is really important to you, mention it to him and ensure that he is ready and willing to perform according to your wishes.

 

There is no point in being shy. I don’t want you to end up being disappointed and paying for a bad time.

[Trick]

All very good advice @firefly16.

 

I’d assumethat the man you choose will be physically attractive, but remember he is not telepathic nor is he a mind-reader. Please state directly what you are looking to enjoy in your time together. And if a specific activity (eg deep kissing with tongue, being sucked to completion without a condom, or kissing and cuddling afterwards) is really important to you, mention it to him and ensure that he is ready and willing to perform according to your wishes.

 

There is no point in being shy. I don’t want you to end up being disappointed and paying for a bad time.

 

How do you deal with escorts who don’t want to discuss “details” on the phone or text?

[+ keroscenefire]

How do you deal with escorts who don’t want to discuss “details” on the phone or text?

 

If they don't want to discuss "details" than you should probably move on to an escort who does. All you are talking about is the things that you like to do with other men and the things that they like to do with other men. It's not a promise of anything.

[+ azdr0710]

If they don't want to discuss "details" than you should probably move on to an escort who does. All you are talking about is the things that you like to do with other men and the things that they like to do with other men. It's not a promise of anything.

 

admittedly, some well-intentioned providers may be skittish discussing "details" because of a fear of a sting......other not-so-well-intentioned providers may not discuss details because it'll be an "out" for them if they don't want to do certain things with a client......they may use vague phrases like "let's go with the flow"........

 

I usually wait to discuss time rates and specific things I like in a second or third reply, reserving the first contact for a friendly hello/like your ad/will be in your area/are you available this Thursday evening?-style greeting......to be a bit discreet, one can phrase the specific requests as, "I often like to do.....and.......", rather than, "will you do.....and.....?"........ then I'll say something like, "what is your rate for your time only for a plan like I suggested above?".......

 

as always, be polite, respectful, to-the-point, discreet, and professional......don't gush with daily "hey"-like contact......

[MscleLovr]

How do you deal with escorts who don’t want to discuss “details” on the phone or text?

 

I would send an initial text, stating (using myself as an example) that I like to meet guys like him, handsome with a muscled body, and I value full service but I'm only a top - are we compatible? If we are, is there a time I can call you briefly to finalise arrangements?

 

If I didn't get a positive response, I'd move on. If the man responded well, I'd call and say that prior to fixing the date, I just need to know that he's happy with what I like to do - deep kissing with tongue, me getting sucked without condom, me topping him with condom and me unloading in his mouth. I emphasise that it's a menu, not a check-list.

 

Most times, guys said they appreciated me being clear and direct. I can recall only 2guys who would not discuss and I'd add that my concern was about compatibility - if they would still not discuss, I'd move on.

[studchaser]

stick at first with the "well knowns" that have good to great reputations. let the escort know up front what you are expecting in the meeting. have a MINIMUM amount of activities that make your session well worth it..anything beyond that is a bonus. and the absolute...keep this very friendly and warm but ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS remember that this has to stay a business proposition in your mind. way too many clients want to fall in love or feel that they have just picked up their next new best friend. isnt gonna happen guys. i have learned from hiring for over 20 years now that my happiness and my fulfillment within the session and ultimately with an escort has to do almost exclusively with my outlook and my perception of what i am expecting. if you want a best new friend or to fall in love then you are barkin up the wrong tree honey! keep your money for shrink sessions instead.

 

Students should repeat this in hiring 101.

[+ Reisr30]

stick at first with the "well knowns" that have good to great reputations. let the escort know up front what you are expecting in the meeting. have a MINIMUM amount of activities that make your session well worth it..anything beyond that is a bonus. and the absolute...keep this very friendly and warm but ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS remember that this has to stay a business proposition in your mind. way too many clients want to fall in love or feel that they have just picked up their next new best friend. isnt gonna happen guys. i have learned from hiring for over 20 years now that my happiness and my fulfillment within the session and ultimately with an escort has to do almost exclusively with my outlook and my perception of what i am expecting. if you want a best new friend or to fall in love then you are barkin up the wrong tree honey! keep your money for shrink sessions instead.

Great advice! I have always found that if I am polite and respectful to companions they are appreciative and I usually have a great experience when I meet with them.

[+ azdr0710]

Great advice! I have always found that if I am polite and respectful to companions they are appreciative and I usually have a great experience when I meet with them.

 

quite a radical concept, eh??!!............so easy!!

[nsguy45]

If they insist on being paid upfront . . . move on.

[Becket]

Fine to be optimistic, but don't get your expectations too high. Also, as in any relationship, treat the escort with respect, as you would want to be treated. Easy stuff.

[firefly16]

What city are you in or plan to hire an escort?

 

Around Rochester, Binghamton, or Elmira, NY

[marylander1940]

My advice

Most Brazilians are disappointing despite their reputation. They act like they don’t want to be there

 

Always require a face pic. If u just see a torso, it’s often they’re a buttahface

 

There are a LoT of escorts who pics of someone else. If too good to be true, it’s a fake

 

Most Eastern Europeans have unpleasant personalities

 

Only hire escorts who have been reviewed here

 

Always wear condoms; watch for herpes

 

Learn Anal cleaning techniques

 

Treat escorts with total respect; they are providing a great service

 

You are paying good money and your expectations should be met

 

I'm still surprised this comment didn't cause an uproar...