Keeping in touch

[Hlparx]

Have you ever invited a client to maintain contact and, if so, what level and type of contact did you intend?

 

I'm very new and have met two guys, both while traveling abroad, who have suggested post-date contact, while knowing that I was visiting. The first was pretty clear. He asked me to let him know the next time I was in Europe. Sure enough, when I let him know I was planning another trip, we were able to arrange something.

 

The second asked whether I minded staying in touch on WhatsApp, and I said that I didn't. At the time, I thought he was inviting an occasional "how are you?" We exchanged a few messages for a day or two after our date, agreeing that we both enjoyed ourselves and discussing the possibility of another date during a future return visit. Since then, my messages have gone unread (one a follow-up on a conversation that we had about traveling and the second to let him know that I'd scheduled a return visit). I haven't been blocked, so I don't think its personal, but I'm curious if I misunderstood his suggestion. FWIW, English was his second or third language, so his word choice may have been a bit off.

[+ nycman]

Ahhh....the vagaries of men.

 

There are thousands of possible reasons....which means there is no reason.

 

Just move on.

[big-n-tall]

Since these guys are new hires, their asking or telling you about keeping in touch is probably purely business. They found that dealing with you was favorable. It benefits them (and you) to keep in some form of contact for future arrangements.

 

With that said I think the second guy seems to want to keep it more business. Don't take it personally that he doesn't respond. It doesn't mean he is not open to seeing you again. It does mean he is not initially open to a long distance conversational relationship. If you want to see him again, contact him when you're ready to or planning to.

 

In future, depending on the working guy, you may develop more of a platonic relationship with him. You may then be able to casually contact him and talk about whatever. A client/escort relationship has to develop before such things can happen. Be mindful though that some escorts want to keep it strictly business and will never want anything more than contact for business.

 

It's not common but it can happen that you and an escort hit it off so well the 1st meeting that early conversational contact happens early and often. Just don't assume that any escort telling you to keep in contact means they want casual contact over business contact.

[Rudynate]

As was said upthread, it's just client relations. Like any business, they want repeat business. A good way to get it is to maintain contact. I enjoy hearing from guys I've hired, but I've never thought it was anything but. I even occasionally reach out to one to say hello. But that's just me doing the same thing. Maintaining contact with a guy who is a candidate for future get-togethers. And what is wrong with that? It's generally the way to maintain and/or deepen any relationship.

[mike carey]

It is what it is, and means as much and as little as the provider and the client chose to allow it to mean. I have regular contact with providers, not all of whom I have met for a session, that ranges over many issues and happens frequently. I also have contact with others that is specific, either to future meetings or specific matters (like travel to Australia). Just let the contact happen, don't try to force it to meet your expectations, whatever they are.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Conversation should always be organic. If it feels forced, the other party will feel it every single time.

 

I find letting someone else take the lead on email exchanges to be the best course. It's not in my wheelhouse to come across as pushy on a next meet, so I almost always try to remain conversationally neutral until someone specifically mentions it.

[BluDay]

I have a couple of escorts who keep in touch outside of pure business. I'm a regular or repeat with all three of them. The amount varies, but I've established something of a rapport with all that goes beyond sessions. In my opinion, it's a great business move. Getting a text that doesn't revolve around business shows an interest and makes me want to see them more.

 

With these three, it's not pure business, we have some out of the bedroom connection, but I know it's centered in business. But getting the contact is always great for me, and that type of interaction can push a client over to more sessions.

[+ Gar1eth]

I had one guy whom I liked a lot. We usually communicated several times a month over the course of 2 or 3 years even if we weren't meeting. But he pretty much dropped me once I stopped hiring, and he knew there wasn't a chance of future meetings. ???

 

Gman

[myophile]

There’s a guy I see regularly who is really good about keeping in touch—checks in with me every week or so, sends me hot photos, etc. As a client, I appreciate that level of attention, and I respond by hiring him more often than I might otherwise. He’s a big ol’ sweetheart, and we both enjoy our sessions; but I have to say that I also enjoy being the focus of his savvy business model!