I took you sucker.

[+ Steve yabsley]

I can count on one finger how many time “advances” have worked out for me....

 

@MikeBiDude - you’re ahead of me by 1.......

[+ glutes]

An escort I have hired a few times texted me and asked to barrow $500. I sent it to him no questions asked. I have been in tight spots $ in my younger days and no place to turn. He thanked me when he received it and said I may have to take it out in trade. I was setting up our next appointment I asked if this one was prepaid. ( the usual fee for our two hours is $500) The only response I received was lol. It was like him saying "I took you sucker."

 

With all the fake adds, scams, attitudes and talk of chemistry, I say to myself "why bother?".

 

 

Why do you think escorts are called Hookers?

 

http://ministry127.com/sites/default/files/Hook%2C%20Line%2C%20and%20Sinker%20%28title%29.jpg

[+ Keith30309]

I dunno... I don't see this too differently than I do my uncle, who once asked me for money. Some people just don't have certain life skills. One of the guys who never paid me back took life pretty casually and was headed to Florida for vacation when he texted me asking for a loan.

 

On the other hand, when you're young the expenses of daily living can be overwhelming. My best SA buddy is going to school full time for accounting (mostly online), working one part-time job, driving an Uber and lives with 2 roommates. He's trying really, really hard to do this without getting any student loans and I can do the math on his budget... it's really difficult. He's never asked me for money but if he did I'd give it to him in a heartbeat.

 

My deadbeat uncle, on the other hand....

[Golem]

Keith makes a really good point. Earlier someone pointed out that clients typically have "twice the life experience" of providers. Well, that also means -- right now -- that clients typically began their adult lives under an economic climate that was dramatically more favorable for people beginning their careers.

 

(Let me be clear, this is a generalization. Individual experiences obviously vary. But the numbers are what the numbers are.)

[+ Reisr30]

I have ignored most cash requests, but for 3 individuals, I did "loan" money. I never saw the money or any of them again. That's why I view generosity as a "gift" rather than a "loan"; it helps me avoid bitter feelings when the return on my kindness investment is zero.

I have a similar perspective when loaning money to family; If I lend the money I never expect to be paid back...

[marylander1940]

The fact that an escort needs money... when they usually don't pay taxes and get paid in cash most of the times it's beyond suspicious.

 

Unf0rtunately I've met so many of them who are just a mess when it comes to saving money for the future or having a "rainy day fund". I know a lot of escorts who retired with nothing but the stories about their golden past.

 

Sad but true!

[sexymonk]

Give with an open hand.

 

Expect nothing in return.

 

It helps to ease the pain of the inevitable burn.

But respect your own hard work and the money earned by it! For most of these boys it is easy money and it will pain you to see how they waste the money which normally hard working people even if earning million dollar will never do! So give loan or gift to the deserving ones and not to the one who looks good! Control your emotions and the organ beneath the waist!

[sexymonk]

The fact that an escort needs money... when they usually don't pay taxes and get paid in cash most of the times it's beyond suspicious.

 

Unf0rtunately I've met so many of them who are just a mess when it comes to saving money for the future or having a "rainy day fund". I know a lot of escorts who retired with nothing but the stories about their golden past.

 

Sad but true!

Marylander, those escorts never valued the money. They never knew what real hard work is and so never hesitated to squander the money. When you have to slog your azz in real life to earn the penny then you understand its value!

[Gymowner]

sexymonk sums it up perfectly. i wonder how many of the men lending out their hard earned $$ do it for reasons of insecurity and the need to feel liked. talk among yourselves.

[marylander1940]

But respect your own hard work and the money earned by it! For most of these boys it is easy money and it will pain you to see how they waste the money which normally hard working people even if earning million dollar will never do! So give loan or gift to the deserving ones and not to the one who looks good! Control your emotions and the organ beneath the waist!

 

Good point! It's certainly easy money... if they have the stomach to do it and don't spend it, they'll be set for life in 10 years or less, yet not everybody is cut off to be an escort and show us the BFE. Sean Zevran for example won't kiss or do anything other than standing in four legs for you to fuck him. I'm sure some only want that and he's gorgeous but he won't interact with clients. Many escorts have limits on the kind of clients they'll see: age, size, even ethnicity, etc.

 

Flakiness goes both ways unfortunately.

 

My advice is if you find someone good looking, nice, reliable, with his shit together... just stick to him. Unfortunately some of yinz (not directed at the Op or who I'm quoting) seem desperate to get the best deal with as many guys as possible, always wondering for more...

[marylander1940]

Marylander, those escorts never valued the money. They never knew what real hard work is and so never hesitated to squander the money. When you have to slog your azz in real life to earn the penny then you understand its value!

 

Agreed, good point again but some escorts had regular jobs before escorting or have friends who do.

 

I know a local escort who retired 2 years ago and now he's back... he got paid 4K for a weekend in NYC with a regular several times. Unfortunately he blew all his money and now he's overwhelmed about how competitive it is. He's afraid of leaving his regular job in a supermarket.

 

A few months ago I ran into a guy I recognized from RM, he was a waiter in a restaurant recommended by "Check, Please!" and he even appeared on that show. The guy had his ad online for a few months and let it expired. I guess escorting wasn't good for him or the other way around.

[+ oldNbusted]

I would have suggested to the escort that we simply book a two-hour appointment. No need to loan or borrow.

 

This was exactly what I said once and after his initial 'why didn't I think of that' reaction, he agreed and everybody got their happy ending.

[+ HornyRetiree]

I dunno... I don't see this too differently than I do my uncle, who once asked me for money. Some people just don't have certain life skills. One of the guys who never paid me back took life pretty casually and was headed to Florida for vacation when he texted me asking for a loan.

 

On the other hand, when you're young the expenses of daily living can be overwhelming. My best SA buddy is going to school full time for accounting (mostly online), working one part-time job, driving an Uber and lives with 2 roommates. He's trying really, really hard to do this without getting any student loans and I can do the math on his budget... it's really difficult. He's never asked me for money but if he did I'd give it to him in a heartbeat.

 

My deadbeat uncle, on the other hand....

seems like you could just do something to help out/gift anyway.. you know what his needs and expenses are -- pay his rent share ahead a little and keep identity private? food delivered?? you know most about the situation.

[jojo]

Try asking an escort for a "loan"...."Look I want to see you so bad. I am so horny!! But I am short on cash this week. I promise I will send you the cash at the end of next week. PROMISE----PLEASE!!"

[+ Keith30309]

seems like you could just do something to help out/gift anyway.. you know what his needs and expenses are -- pay his rent share ahead a little and keep identity private? food delivered?? you know most about the situation.

Yes... I’ve slipped him extra when I know things have gotten difficult for him. I’m seeing him tomorrow and am going to give him a $80 VISA gift card I got as a promotion for something beyond the usual money. It’s hard to do anything without him knowing about it. He has a younger sibling he partially cares for and is very close to and I’ve gotten things for them he can regift.

(I’m foolishly ignoring my own rules about healthy emotional boundaries with him but screw it - I’m old and it makes me happy.)

[+ Axiom2001]

This sucks. Not very clever of him.

 

...or HONEST! The prick!

[+ Axiom2001]

A few years back, I engaged the services of a well-known escort here and one who's been around for a while. When we met one evening for 2 hours, I gave him his fee at the end. He handed it back and told me "Happy Birthday." He also stated that since he felt that he had NOT given me what I'd sought from him previously (He seemed to have rushed.)

 

I was moved by this gesture on his part and will always remember.

 

I shall NOT reveal his name, [openly or via a private] too, for he is one of the damndest, sweetest, sensitive and genuine individual!

 

[His gesture is what was remarkable, for I was NOT expecting it!]

[rvwnsd]

This was exactly what I said once and after his initial 'why didn't I think of that' reaction, he agreed and everybody got their happy ending.

Sometimes the most obvious answer is the most evasive.

[+ freecahill1965]

Yes... I’ve slipped him extra when I know things have gotten difficult for him. I’m seeing him tomorrow and am going to give him a $80 VISA gift card I got as a promotion for something beyond the usual money. It’s hard to do anything without him knowing about it. He has a younger sibling he partially cares for and is very close to and I’ve gotten things for them he can regift.

(I’m foolishly ignoring my own rules about healthy emotional boundaries with him but screw it - I’m old and it makes me happy.)

We are about the same age. You are not old. You are just kind and generous.

[thonglovertx]

Did you follow up to find out what he may have meant by lol without reading into it too much. You never can know for sure what he meant unless you ask.