Being hustled....?

[MassageDrew]

“Hello, welcome to the Bank of GetDaFuhOuttaHere!” I’m sorry sir but you can only take out cash if you had any saved in this bank. Otherwise, bye Felicia.

[+ harey]

Have you considered a drug and / or gambling problem?

 

~Boomer~

I think the OP has enough problems without turning to drugs.

[+ tassojunior]

I think the OP has enough problems without turning to drugs.

 

July's best comment.

[BabyBoomer]

I think the OP has enough problems without turning to drugs.

 

I assume you were making a joke. If you weren't go back and reread my post #5 and what I quoted.

 

~Boomer~

[marylander1940]

I’m being hustled and need to stop.....has it happened to you?

 

I met with a drop dead gorgeous escort not let no ago. Had an incredible few hours to the point that I have taken him on a few trips now too.

 

They were perfect BFES....and he was a witty gentleman, great in the sack, cuddling, great conversation....

 

Now for the problem....he always seems to have money problems. I’ve given him about 5k just to help him get through his recurrent money issues....there’s always a great story attached to it.

 

I know I’m being hustled for the money and he knows I can’t say no, so he keeps asking and I keep giving.

 

I’m lucky to have plenty of money, but I’m feeling like a total tool. Tonight was the last straw....

 

Time to say goodbye....

 

Obviously he's high maintenance and he's a mess handling his own money.

If you keep hiring him or giving him "help money" he'll never learn. Soon he'll ask you to marry him or adopt him...

I think you already made up your mind.

Do you want to be his sugar daddy or not? If you have so much money and he's so good keep on hiring him, after all he's your kept man or at least he thinks of himself that way.

[marylander1940]

Gentlemen:

 

That's a potential stalker if @Poincare ever says no to him, NOT the other scenario of the potential stalker.

 

Where are all the queens who yelled "block him" to the guy texting the client twice a week?

[Poincare]

From the OP

 

As always, the discussion from you all was very helpful, varied, amusing, and consoling. While I am a big fan of this gentlemen who treats me like his ATM due to his fame, kindness, beauty, and big heart, I’m gonna wise up and end it. I’m pretty sure he has a gambling problem (he tells me his dad is a gambling addict, but I think he is really talking about himself as people often do) and I know enabling him is simply wrong in the long run.

 

Plus since I have been such a pushover, I feel he has lost respect for me, and nothing makes you feel worse than disrespect.

 

Finally, he seems to be suffering from depression as he regrets the decisions hes made and his lack of pursuing an education or career in his 20’s. I coach him on some ways to start over, but asking for money from clients like me who can’t say no to that smile and charm is obviously easier the books or working on a construction site.

 

Thanks as always for letting me use this site to work through my issues was they arise regarding our mutual hobby.

[Kenny]

From the OP

 

As always, the discussion from you all was very helpful, varied, amusing, and consoling. While I am a big fan of this gentlemen who treats me like his ATM due to his fame, kindness, beauty, and big heart, I’m gonna wise up and end it. I’m pretty sure he has a gambling problem (he tells me his dad is a gambling addict, but I think he is really talking about himself as people often do) and I know enabling him is simply wrong in the long run.

 

Plus since I have been such a pushover, I feel he has lost respect for me, and nothing makes you feel worse than disrespect.

 

Finally, he seems to be suffering from depression as he regrets the decisions hes made and his lack of pursuing an education or career in his 20’s. I coach him on some ways to start over, but asking for money from clients like me who can’t say no to that smile and charm is obviously easier the books or working on a construction site.

 

Thanks as always for letting me use this site to work through my issues was they arise regarding our mutual hobby.

Good news!

 

Interesting that you suspect he has an addiction. Given your situation with him, draining the bank account and unable to quit, I wonder whether you do too. You might look into that. Good luck.

[marylander1940]

Good news!

 

Interesting that you suspect he has an addiction. Given your situation with him, draining the bank account and unable to quit, I wonder whether you do too. You might look into that. Good luck.

 

The addiction goes both ways on here.

[+ easygoingpal]

The addiction goes both ways on here.

I remember one time I was seeing this guy who often needed some help to get things he needed and in talking to a friend the word "co-dependency" was mentioned and made me consider how it applied to my situation... I had to look internally and check that if that was the situation, I needed to ease out of it for my own peace of mind...

[Rudynate]

It used to be considered impolite to talk about money. There's another very practical reason for not talking about money. If you don't talk about it, people don't know how much you have and are a lot less likely to hit you up for assistance.

[+ FrankR]

It used to be considered impolite to talk about money. There's another very practical reason for not talking about money. If you don't talk about it, people don't know how much you have and are a lot less likely to hit you up for assistance.

Poor is flashy.

Rich is loud.

Wealthy is quiet.

Edited August 13, 2018 by FrankR

[Frequentflier]

It used to be considered impolite to talk about money. There's another very practical reason for not talking about money. If you don't talk about it, people don't know how much you have and are a lot less likely to hit you up for assistance.

 

Well said. Plus, whenever I think I'm ok money wise I:

 

* remember that however much I've saved in retirement money I need $1 million more than that. At least that's what I've heard from any financial adviser I've spoken with. And that $1 million more applies even if you have $10 million already

* remind myself that, assuming no catastrophic illness or freight trains hitting me, even men are living longer so savings have to last longer too

* read some article about how much we'll need for post retirement health care costs, even with Medicare

* read some article about the cost of home health care or a nursing home where you actually get care

 

Feelings of "I'm going to be ok money wise" quickly dissipate and I find myself adjusting the thermostat and reading with a flashlight.

[+ Seaninsf]

Feelings of "I'm going to be ok money wise" quickly dissipate and I find myself adjusting the thermostat and reading with a flashlight.

 

LOL... Dad? Is that you?

[Rudynate]

Well said. Plus, whenever I think I'm ok money wise I:

 

* remember that however much I've saved in retirement money I need $1 million more than that. At least that's what I've heard from any financial adviser I've spoken with. And that $1 million more applies even if you have $10 million already

* remind myself that, assuming no catastrophic illness or freight trains hitting me, even men are living longer so savings have to last longer too

* read some article about how much we'll need for post retirement health care costs, even with Medicare

* read some article about the cost of home health care or a nursing home where you actually get care

 

Feelings of "I'm going to be ok money wise" quickly dissipate and I find myself adjusting the thermostat and reading with a flashlight.

 

Financial planners say you need to plan on living into your early 90s.

[Golem]

I used to believe that. Given the world today, I am increasingly skeptical.