Emailing vs. Texting

[xavier1234]

I have noticed a trend of escorts asking to be texted via phone as opposed to the email service rentmen provides. I find myself bothered by that. As much as escorts want to keep a certain amount of privacy, so do I. For me that comes in terms of emails versus texting. I'm not a big fan of giving out my phone number in order to start the conversation for booking time with an escort. I at least like to feel that there is a mutual agreement to meet before I feel comfortable texting. The thing that I find odd is that it takes so little effort to open one's email on rentmen. I don't understand why it is apparently so much more inconvenient to then to do that versus texting. I understand they can't get an alert when I email, but I rarely try to set up anything that last minute to where I feel like I am being unreasonable. Am I being silly or reasonably prudent to prefer emailing at first with the understanding that I'm not expecting an answer within 5 minutes.

 

Thanks.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I have noticed a trend of escorts asking to be texted via phone as opposed to the email service rentmen provides. I find myself bothered by that. As much as escorts want to keep a certain amount of privacy, so do I. For me that comes in terms of emails versus texting. I'm not a big fan of giving out my phone number in order to start the conversation for booking time with an escort. I at least like to feel that there is a mutual agreement to meet before I feel comfortable texting. The thing that I find odd is that it takes so little effort to open one's email on rentmen. I don't understand why it is apparently so much more inconvenient to then to do that versus texting. I understand they can't get an alert when I email, but I rarely try to set up anything that last minute to where I feel like I am being unreasonable. Am I being silly or reasonably prudent to prefer emailing at first with the understanding that I'm not expecting an answer within 5 minutes.

 

Thanks.

Don’t use your primary phone number, you are right not to give that one out willy-nilly, instead, get a google voice number, install the google voice app, and text from there. Or you can also text from a desktop/laptop on the web: www.google.com/voice

 

Then you can set your phone to give you notifications or not on that google voice app, according to your preferences.

[xavier1234]

Yeah that's a good idea and I appreciate it but it still leaves me a bit baffled why just checking ones email is such an inconvenience to them. -X

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Yeah that's a good idea and I appreciate it but it still leaves me a bit baffled why just checking ones email is such an inconvenience to them. -X

Oops, I didn’t realise this was the “ask an escort” forum. I should have left them (escorts) answer!

[MikeBiDude]

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Keeps things private....RE: escort’s prefs seems like today most just prefer texting.

[David1024]

I have noticed a trend of escorts asking to be texted via phone as opposed to the email service rentmen provides. I find myself bothered by that. As much as escorts want to keep a certain amount of privacy, so do I. For me that comes in terms of emails versus texting. I'm not a big fan of giving out my phone number in order to start the conversation for booking time with an escort. I at least like to feel that there is a mutual agreement to meet before I feel comfortable texting. The thing that I find odd is that it takes so little effort to open one's email on rentmen. I don't understand why it is apparently so much more inconvenient to then to do that versus texting. I understand they can't get an alert when I email, but I rarely try to set up anything that last minute to where I feel like I am being unreasonable. Am I being silly or reasonably prudent to prefer emailing at first with the understanding that I'm not expecting an answer within 5 minutes.

 

Thanks.

A couple of things to consider - email is no longer the primary means of communication for people under say 35, and as most escorts are younger, they are conditioned to use text, Instagram, Snapchat, Whatsapp and anything else that provides quick snappy small exchanges of information. Secondly, the Rentmen email program can be quite unreliable. I've sent emails through RM in the past that have never been delivered, and I think others have had that happen to. Definitely the way to go is to get another number that can't be traced back to you.

[LookingAround]

I’m 60 and I text over email. Get with it guys. Get with the program! Why email when a quick text will do.

[Rod Hagen]

i don't text with clients. phone or email only. Texts aren't conducive to serious discussions or coordinating meetings any farther out than an hour or so.

[+ peterhung85]

Interesting...

I don't text with clients for the most part but it depends on the particular person too. Obviously someone I know for 10 years gets a different approach, but I don't even post my phone number in my ad. I actually prefer email interaction, since you can express yourself better and many times clients prefer to explain at lengths of what a great session would entail for them which I highly welcome because it makes my job easier and makes our encounter a lot more enjoyable in the end. Furthermore, I can attend to emails whenever I have time and don't feel pressure by unanswered texts and to top it all off, I also prefer privacy when it comes to giving out phone numbers, so it is definitely a two-way street.

[+ VictorPowers]

I have found that strictly keeping all contact via telegram has been effective. Truly an underrated form of communication.

[Mocha]

Don’t use your primary phone number, you are right not to give that one out willy-nilly, instead, get a google voice number, install the google voice app, and text from there. Or you can also text from a desktop/laptop on the web: www.google.com/voice

 

Then you can set your phone to give you notifications or not on that google voice app, according to your preferences.

 

Understand also that, an escort also has the right to refuse a client if their number cannot be screened to verify. Something I may be doing myself in the near future. Unless it’s a verified client, for now on I will not be taking anymore google voice/non-verified phone number so out of town unless a deposit is made upfront.

 

I had a sheisty MOFO fraud me out of a Paypal transaction the other month. He used a google voice number to contact me, but used his real number for the transaction. And it was two weeks after the actual transaction, which caused my account to get messed up because I don’t usually keep money lying around in PayPal. I ain’t mad though. What I wanted to do to him, could never measure to what’s waiting for him. And the coward couldn’t even have a conversation with me, and then got nasty and threatened me...calling me a “sex worker” and saying he’s hired an attorney. Despite him being 1,000 miles away and me having all evidence that he committed charge back fraud. Like Toni Braxton says on her latest CD, “Fuck outta here”.

 

I’ve also had clients no show, or do other weird, suspect things...and then turns out they’re calling and playing games from a google voice phone.

 

If we don’t want google voice to crackdown, people need to use it properly. Google voice wasn’t made so people can fraud/harass others and avoid detection. Not saying you’re doing that, but some are. “They tried it”.

Edited July 31, 2018 by Mocha

[Mocha]

i don't text with clients. phone or email only. Texts aren't conducive to serious discussions or coordinating meetings any farther out than an hour or so.

 

So how do you direct the conversation when they text, if you don’t mind?

 

Yeah that's a good idea and I appreciate it but it still leaves me a bit baffled why just checking ones email is such an inconvenience to them. -X

 

For awhile I disabled email from rentmen all together. We have the option to accept email, only from registered users, or not at all. I only accept emails from registered users because I’ve had BS MOFOS contact me by email, and it’s usually when I allow non-registered users to email me, which I’ll never do again.

 

However, I understand it’s all about compromise. I’ve gone ahead and opened up email, and I even don’t mind texting. Especially now that rates aren’t up anywhere now. But so I don’t waste time, I already have my first 2-3 emails/text automatically answered to both weed out idiots, and help encourage serious clients to save precious time. Works it well.

Edited July 31, 2018 by Mocha

[LookingAround]

Interesting...

I don't text with clients for the most part but it depends on the particular person too. I actually prefer email interaction, since you can express yourself better

 

How can one express himself better in an email than a text?!

[LookingAround]

I have found that strictly keeping all contact via telegram has been effective. Truly an underrated form of communication.

And you can express yourself so much better in telegram.

[HotWhiteThirties]

Interesting...

I don't text with clients for the most part but it depends on the particular person too. Obviously someone I know for 10 years gets a different approach, but I don't even post my phone number in my ad. I actually prefer email interaction, since you can express yourself better and many times clients prefer to explain at lengths of what a great session would entail for them which I highly welcome because it makes my job easier and makes our encounter a lot more enjoyable in the end. Furthermore, I can attend to emails whenever I have time and don't feel pressure by unanswered texts and to top it all off, I also prefer privacy when it comes to giving out phone numbers, so it is definitely a two-way street.

 

As a client, this approach has yielded the best results overall of maintaining privacy as well as developing understanding when interacting with a provider. I can’t always text and am not in an environment where my phone is completely in my own hands. I understand the advice for google voice and I agree with it, but I appreciate providers who understand this like @peterhung85, and, at least for me, providers who understand and are comfortable interacting in that way tend to be good matches for me. @peterhung85, I guess that means I need to find my way to Las Vegas.

[HotWhiteThirties]

And there is more than RM email to be used for email communication. I usually offer a separate email account to the provider to use instead of RM after intial contact is made. I understand the issues of the RM system and why it is frustrating to both provider and client.

[+ FrankR]

I have found that strictly keeping all contact via telegram has been effective. Truly an underrated form of communication.

Dude! Seriously! Time for you to upgrade...to the fax machine!!!

[Rudynate]

I've heard complaints that RMs email is unreliable.

[tenderloin]

For me, the operative word here is "client." Good client service would include, IMHO, a willingness to adapt to the means of communication preferred by the client, within reason. Yes, telegram and fax and quill & parchment are out, but both email and text seem reasonable to me. Escorts who won't ever email simply close off a portion of the market for themselves.

[Shawn Monroe]

I think what it comes down to is this: the provider is trying to communicate with you in the best way they can get the information across, based on past experience.

 

I know everyone here has shared their experience; I’m better at email communication and have hated talking on the phone since I was a teenager. In my experience, talking on the phone hasn’t been great with clients. It feels like people think out loud on the phone, they’re trying to get a gauge of your personality (and I come off better in person and in text) or they’re jacking off and want dirty talk. I do concede often, but if someone prefers to talk on the phone, I like to be prepared with a text or email first.

 

It can also be overwhelming trying to keep up with communication systems. We are asked to communicate on phone, text, email, WhatsApp, Skype, Kik, instagram, and the advertising platforms themselves. A provider may just be trying to simplify communication.

 

Plus the email on RentMen / rentmasseur is buggy and doesn’t always work. And it may just be easier to switch to another medium.

[+ peterhung85]

maintaining

How can one express himself better in an email than a text?!

Simple, text has a certain amount of character limitation and emails don't. Hope this answers your question.

[+ peterhung85]

As a client, this approach has yielded the best results overall of maintaining privacy as well as developing understanding when interacting with a provider. I can’t always text and am not in an environment where my phone is completely in my own hands. I understand the advice for google voice and I agree with it, but I appreciate providers who understand this like @peterhung85, and, at least for me, providers who understand and are comfortable interacting in that way tend to be good matches for me. @peterhung85, I guess that means I need to find my way to Las Vegas.

Yes Sir, I believe that you have just described the best call to "action" here!

[+ peterhung85]

I have found that strictly keeping all contact via telegram has been effective. Truly an underrated form of communication.

I don't understand why ya'll need to use technology.... This is about "LOVE" and the best method of contact when it comes to that.... Has NOBODY ever heard of pigeon post?????? It's a lot more romantic IMO!

[HotWhiteThirties]

Yes Sir, I believe that you have just described the best call to "action" here!

 

Look forward to a future opportunity to connect. Thank you for your thoughtful contributions. I appreciate reading them. Cheers!

[mike carey]

Yes Sir, I believe that you have just described the best call to "action" here!

Lol, I suspect that he is not the only person to have added a trip to Las Vegas to their to-do list because certain gentlemen are there!